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Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.click to expand
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
Posted by SjessPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
HE. DOESNT. LIKE. YOU.click to expand
BYE
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
all i am ultimately trying to say is... dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you. it is rarely ever worth it. there are plenty of other people out there who will respect the way you do things & don’t mind the long game.
this is too much drama for not knowing each other that long & it shouldn’t be like that. courting is supposed to be fun & exciting, not emotionally punishing.
but you are a scorpio moon so LOL
😂
Sometimes I wish I didn't have those intense scorpio emotions. I would rather just not feel anything.
I wish I was just as aloof inside as I come across on the outside lol. I'm pretty sure that guy thinks I don't care at all still. Little does he know.
my moon is in the 8th house so, i get it.
5th house is the house of leo... just fyi. so, maybe that’s what i picked up on.
& honestly, you do read as one of “those virgos”. this entire thread has been about you wondering why he isnt making more effort to impress you - why he isnt working harder in pursuing you.
just dont waste your time on faulty connections that start off rough. ime, they rarely ever smooth out.click to expand
it's weird becsuse initially I thought more rationally like this. And was like will this work out. Forward a couple months n I dunno what's taken over lol
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?click to expand
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
Posted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
HE. DOESNT. LIKE. YOU.
BYEclick to expand
SO SORRY I’m not coddling your narcissistic tendencies. You have a control issue and he doesn’t care. You are losing your mind cause you can’t control him or the situation. You are trying to manipulate your way into his life and as a cop he prolly SEES THROUGH ALL THAT NOISE
Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.click to expand
no one asking for your opinion though. So as i said BYE
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?click to expand
I read not all of them but I read the ones where she is trying to control how he talks to you, what he calls her, when he calls her, how he texts her etc etc. That was enough for me. If it quacks like a duck...
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?click to expand
theres no point addressing SOMEONE like her so I wouldn't bother.
Posted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
no one asking for your opinion though. So as i said BYEclick to expand
No one posts in a public forum and says shit like “no one is asking for your opinions”
Ffs 🤦🏼♀️
Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
honestly, i get that. inconsistencies happen. but she is continuously inconsistent with her story & it makes me think there is something underlying.
but i agree... it feels like talking to brick wall & i am p exhausted at this point.click to expand
I'm sorry if it came across inconsistent but maybe I made some mistakes as I .cant remember every detail
Posted by SjessPosted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
no one asking for your opinion though. So as i said BYE
No one posts in a public forum and says shit like “no one is asking for your opinions”
Ffs 🤦🏼♀️click to expand
Well you said what yòu had to say and u think it's a pointless thread. Which begs the question. Why are u still here ?
Posted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
no one asking for your opinion though. So as i said BYE
No one posts in a public forum and says shit like “no one is asking for your opinions”
Ffs 🤦🏼♀️
Well you said what yòu had to say and u think it's a pointless thread. Which begs the question. Why are u still here ?click to expand
Cause helllooooo I’m furiously shovelling pizza and brownies down my pie hole, and reading all of the Internet.
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
jfc lady. s m h
we’ve harped on you for over 24 hours to communicate & you respond w/ “yeh”—?
🤦🏻♀️ i cant do this anymore.click to expand
Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
jfc lady. s m h
we’ve harped on you for over 24 hours to communicate & you respond w/ “yeh”—?
🤦🏻♀️ i cant do this anymore.click to expand
Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?
theres no point addressing SOMEONE like her so I wouldn't bother.
People talk like that all the time on here, even to newer users, so I'd suggest you get used to it if you want to stay.click to expand
it's not ok though. It's pointless someone coming in and criticising the whole thread. No? And issued as hell not advice or help so dont condone such behaviour
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
honestly, i get that. inconsistencies happen. but she is continuously inconsistent with her story & it makes me think there is something underlying.
but i agree... it feels like talking to brick wall & i am p exhausted at this point.
I'm sorry if it came across inconsistent but maybe I made some mistakes as I .cant remember every detail
ya but @sjess corrected her inconsistency whereas you keep making them. your inconsistencies are beginning to sound like lies/covering up something to put you in a good light.
i just cant deal with people who cannot communicate. on the phone, text, or on a forum.click to expand
She can communicate alright. When everything goes according to her plan and schedule, and when and how she says and wants it too.
Anywho. I’m probably too tired and now I feel bloated. I ate all the brownies.
Posted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to himclick to expand
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
jfc lady. s m h
we’ve harped on you for over 24 hours to communicate & you respond w/ “yeh”—?
🤦🏻♀️ i cant do this anymore.
Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go
which is what we’ve been saying since the beginning 🙄
i know it sucks to hear, especially when people are being very direct with you. but honestly girl, your communication skills are like at -500 points.click to expand
im actually good at communicating with every one other than the one person I want to communicate with the most. 😭. That includes my guy friends and girls and literally evry one other than the one I like
Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situationclick to expand
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
honestly, i get that. inconsistencies happen. but she is continuously inconsistent with her story & it makes me think there is something underlying.
but i agree... it feels like talking to brick wall & i am p exhausted at this point.
I'm sorry if it came across inconsistent but maybe I made some mistakes as I .cant remember every detail
ya but @sjess corrected her inconsistency whereas you keep making them. your inconsistencies are beginning to sound like lies/covering up something to put you in a good light.
i just cant deal with people who cannot communicate. on the phone, text, or on a forum.
She can communicate alright. When everything goes according to her plan and schedule, and when and how she says and wants it too.
Anywho. I’m probably too tired and now I feel bloated. I ate all the brownies.
i feel like stress eating bc of this thread.
i wish i had brownies 😭
tbh, ive found it difficult communicating w/ OP. her stories are jumbled & she just repeats the same thing over & over.
only happy when someone tells her what she wants to hear.click to expand
Well this is her only topic and she is brand new....
“AHEM” troll? Fake? Etc etc
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
jfc lady. s m h
we’ve harped on you for over 24 hours to communicate & you respond w/ “yeh”—?
🤦🏻♀️ i cant do this anymore.
Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go
which is what we’ve been saying since the beginning 🙄
i know it sucks to hear, especially when people are being very direct with you. but honestly girl, your communication skills are like at -500 points.
im actually good at communicating with every one other than the one person I want to communicate with the most. 😭. That includes my guy friends and girls and literally evry one other than the one I like
and me. i find you very difficult to communicate with.click to expand
Why? What do u need clarification on. I swear I did give you a lot
Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
honestly, i get that. inconsistencies happen. but she is continuously inconsistent with her story & it makes me think there is something underlying.
but i agree... it feels like talking to brick wall & i am p exhausted at this point.
I'm sorry if it came across inconsistent but maybe I made some mistakes as I .cant remember every detail
ya but @sjess corrected her inconsistency whereas you keep making them. your inconsistencies are beginning to sound like lies/covering up something to put you in a good light.
i just cant deal with people who cannot communicate. on the phone, text, or on a forum.
She can communicate alright. When everything goes according to her plan and schedule, and when and how she says and wants it too.
Anywho. I’m probably too tired and now I feel bloated. I ate all the brownies.
i feel like stress eating bc of this thread.
i wish i had brownies 😭
tbh, ive found it difficult communicating w/ OP. her stories are jumbled & she just repeats the same thing over & over.
only happy when someone tells her what she wants to hear.
Well this is her only topic and she is brand new....
“AHEM” troll? Fake? Etc etcclick to expand
Ok seriously now youre just taking the piss. Move along to another thread if you hate this so much. You sure you're not the narcissist
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?
theres no point addressing SOMEONE like her so I wouldn't bother.
People talk like that all the time on here, even to newer users, so I'd suggest you get used to it if you want to stay.
it's not ok though. It's pointless someone coming in and criticising the whole thread. No? And issued as hell not advice or help so dont condone such behaviour
I never said it was okay, but that's what happens when someone posts in a public online forum. It's inevitable. Just because it's inevitable doesn't mean that it's not wrong.click to expand
I don’t think I did anything wrong. I got to the whole point. I also called it as I saw it. I mean I basically summarized what the end is. I never posted anything like this is any other thread. This just all too ridiculous imo.
Posted by Lacey90Posted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
honestly, i get that. inconsistencies happen. but she is continuously inconsistent with her story & it makes me think there is something underlying.
but i agree... it feels like talking to brick wall & i am p exhausted at this point.
I'm sorry if it came across inconsistent but maybe I made some mistakes as I .cant remember every detail
ya but @sjess corrected her inconsistency whereas you keep making them. your inconsistencies are beginning to sound like lies/covering up something to put you in a good light.
i just cant deal with people who cannot communicate. on the phone, text, or on a forum.
She can communicate alright. When everything goes according to her plan and schedule, and when and how she says and wants it too.
Anywho. I’m probably too tired and now I feel bloated. I ate all the brownies.
i feel like stress eating bc of this thread.
i wish i had brownies 😭
tbh, ive found it difficult communicating w/ OP. her stories are jumbled & she just repeats the same thing over & over.
only happy when someone tells her what she wants to hear.
Well this is her only topic and she is brand new....
“AHEM” troll? Fake? Etc etc
Ok seriously now youre just taking the piss. Move along to another thread if you hate this so much. You sure you're not the narcissistclick to expand
Taking. The. Piss?
Lmao
WHAT—
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
we are confused only bc of the mismatched info you are giving us, which makes it seem like you are hiding something &/or playing games.
if you gave us straight details, none of us would have come at you this hard. instead, you keep deflecting whatever anyone says & loop back into “he should be impressing me, putting in effort, & i’ll block him if he dares talk to another woman”.
so did you, or did you not call him, after the 9 days went by? bc i see, earlier, you said you did but, once again, missed his call. then i see you told @heartofice that you will call him.
this is the confusing stuff i am talking about. it makes it seem like you are being dishonest, or just not interested.
oh. Well I don't mean to come across like that. Especially not to him. I missed it because I was out and my hands were full. N then he messaged asking if things were alright since clearly I never call so he's probably like what's wrong lol
why didnt you call him back—? did you respond to his text asking if you were ok?
wth i dont get you. why didnt you call him after you were back from shopping?
I would have but as soon as i got home family started talking away so I just couldn't get s spare moment to myself. I did reply to his text I said "yeh" which in hindsight was a bit cold maybe
jfc lady. s m h
we’ve harped on you for over 24 hours to communicate & you respond w/ “yeh”—?
🤦🏻♀️ i cant do this anymore.
Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go
which is what we’ve been saying since the beginning 🙄
i know it sucks to hear, especially when people are being very direct with you. but honestly girl, your communication skills are like at -500 points.
im actually good at communicating with every one other than the one person I want to communicate with the most. 😭. That includes my guy friends and girls and literally evry one other than the one I like
and me. i find you very difficult to communicate with.
Why? What do u need clarification on. I swear I did give you a lot
communication is not just clarifying. it’s also taking into account what like 15 different, unbiased, people, on an open forum, have told you.
it’s taken 16 pages for you to finally say you should just let him go.
as i mentioned, communicating with you is like talking to a brick wall. you just arent getting it.
he was interested at first but you blew it bc you cant communicate. now you are here, scorpin’ out bc he’s not obsessed with you & not giving you the attention you feel entitled to, for whatever reason.click to expand
Cool. Say no more. 🤷♀️
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.click to expand
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?
theres no point addressing SOMEONE like her so I wouldn't bother.
People talk like that all the time on here, even to newer users, so I'd suggest you get used to it if you want to stay.
it's not ok though. It's pointless someone coming in and criticising the whole thread. No? And issued as hell not advice or help so dont condone such behaviour
I never said it was okay, but that's what happens when someone posts in a public online forum. It's inevitable. Just because it's inevitable doesn't mean that it's not wrong.
I don’t think I did anything wrong. I got to the whole point. I also called it as I saw it. I mean I basically summarized what the end is. I never posted anything like this is any other thread. This just all too ridiculous imo.
Yeah I just realized what I said and I take it back lol. I need to go to bed. Had a long day and I'm beat.click to expand
oh of course side with the actual troll loll
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by SjessPosted by dilettantePosted by Sjess
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
unfortunately, my fixed placements wont let me let go until i get all the facts straightened out lmao
and a sliver of hope that OP sees she is playing games & to cut her losses.
One time I put in my post that Aquarius was gone for three months but he was only gone for two. He was originally supposed to be gone for three but came back early. Also it felt more like he was gone forever so I realized after, and came back and said I made a mistake and that he was only gone for two months. Then I was all worried people would jump all over me for getting my story all confused.
No one cared.
But yeah you either callled someone or you didn’t.
I mean but who cares.
He doesn’t like her. The fact she’s acting like they been dating for a year and she’s losing her marbles is more concerning. It’s concerning enough, that this whole post should have had like 13 replies instead of over a hundred lol. It’s pretty simple to me.
I feel.
Nah, I actually think he's the one who's interested in her and she's over here making less than minimal efforts to show him that she's interested as well. Did you read all of her posts?
theres no point addressing SOMEONE like her so I wouldn't bother.
People talk like that all the time on here, even to newer users, so I'd suggest you get used to it if you want to stay.
it's not ok though. It's pointless someone coming in and criticising the whole thread. No? And issued as hell not advice or help so dont condone such behaviour
I never said it was okay, but that's what happens when someone posts in a public online forum. It's inevitable. Just because it's inevitable doesn't mean that it's not wrong.
I don’t think I did anything wrong. I got to the whole point. I also called it as I saw it. I mean I basically summarized what the end is. I never posted anything like this is any other thread. This just all too ridiculous imo.
Yeah I just realized what I said and I take it back lol. I need to go to bed. Had a long day and I'm beat.click to expand
I get it. I’m in a sugar coma rn cause I haven’t had sugar in almost a month and just ate a bag of brownies. I’m prolly gonna wake up tomorrow and not remember anything
😂
I am not going to quote your previous 3 responses to me, simply because I can address them all independently. And also because you gave additional details in the following 3 pages or more of posting.
Empathy does nothing but allow enabling of behaviors that continue resulting in the same outcome time and time again, just with someone new. Right or wrong, that is my opinion on empathy, I don't really care. And I especially don't care if your feelings are hurt, or if I upset you in anyway, shape, or form. Simply put, I lack empathy 95% of the time in general. The only thing you can count on is that I will be brutally honest in my opinion, with the information at hand, And that I am expressing it, simply because I am observing behaviors that would be considered a "red flag" and are more than likely factors of why there has been a lack of success in maintaining a long term relationship or commitment in general. They are behaviors that could be corrected and addressed, so that your results evolve into success, instead of failures.
I don't care what happened in the past with men that you use as an excuse for behaving the way you do. You are easily offended. You are obsessive. You do overvalue yourself. You do prioritize yourself. You are entitled. You are dramatic. You are difficult. And from the looks of it, you also tend to marginalize your bad tendencies as well. Does that make you a shit ass person, unworthy of love? No. But you have major red flag behaviors that any sane man would likely walk away from.
Based off your own responses, I can calculate at minimum, 28-30 days in the last 128 days, that there has been absolutely no communication. That 22% of the time, you just decided that watching the paint dry was more important then putting effort into a man that you say you "like" or blocking him for an asinine reason. So that leaves at maximum, 100 days that you guys could have been chatting back and forth. But even then, by the sound of it, there was barely any effort put during those 100 days to have communication that was either consistent, or more than exchanging a few texts per day.
I literally can calculate your effort with this guy. It was a grand total of 1.5% effort with him. This is exactly why you are getting the negative feedback you are. You did essentially what amounts to nothing, but somehow THINK you can express anger over him talking to other women. On top of all of that, it seems that you haven't even talked over the phone AT ALL.
You literally have done absolutely nothing to warrant his loyalty towards you, or to express any demands on what he should and shouldn't be able to do. It is so insane sounding that you have even expressed being hurt or angry even thinking of him talking to any other girl. This shit sounds crazy.
Hell I don't even know how you can even say you like him, when you don't even know jack shit about him, because you were busy shopping, sleeping, picking a booger, or whatever asinine thing you were doing that needed to be prioritized over answering a phone call.
At this point, you will continue to waste your time, and anyone else's time trying to build anything worth a damn. You are unwilling to do so because you haven't addressed the underlying issues that cause them. And that is your past relationships that left scars and open wounds you need to patch up first. You need to find out your triggers, what makes them react. Then you can fix them, or find a solution on how to communicate to deal with them in a fashion that isn't toxic to a relationship. Until that happens, all you just end up in the same self fulfilling prophecy you encounter now. Alone, neurotic, and slightly delusional.
Empathy does nothing but allow enabling of behaviors that continue resulting in the same outcome time and time again, just with someone new. Right or wrong, that is my opinion on empathy, I don't really care. And I especially don't care if your feelings are hurt, or if I upset you in anyway, shape, or form. Simply put, I lack empathy 95% of the time in general. The only thing you can count on is that I will be brutally honest in my opinion, with the information at hand, And that I am expressing it, simply because I am observing behaviors that would be considered a "red flag" and are more than likely factors of why there has been a lack of success in maintaining a long term relationship or commitment in general. They are behaviors that could be corrected and addressed, so that your results evolve into success, instead of failures.
I don't care what happened in the past with men that you use as an excuse for behaving the way you do. You are easily offended. You are obsessive. You do overvalue yourself. You do prioritize yourself. You are entitled. You are dramatic. You are difficult. And from the looks of it, you also tend to marginalize your bad tendencies as well. Does that make you a shit ass person, unworthy of love? No. But you have major red flag behaviors that any sane man would likely walk away from.
Based off your own responses, I can calculate at minimum, 28-30 days in the last 128 days, that there has been absolutely no communication. That 22% of the time, you just decided that watching the paint dry was more important then putting effort into a man that you say you "like" or blocking him for an asinine reason. So that leaves at maximum, 100 days that you guys could have been chatting back and forth. But even then, by the sound of it, there was barely any effort put during those 100 days to have communication that was either consistent, or more than exchanging a few texts per day.
I literally can calculate your effort with this guy. It was a grand total of 1.5% effort with him. This is exactly why you are getting the negative feedback you are. You did essentially what amounts to nothing, but somehow THINK you can express anger over him talking to other women. On top of all of that, it seems that you haven't even talked over the phone AT ALL.
You literally have done absolutely nothing to warrant his loyalty towards you, or to express any demands on what he should and shouldn't be able to do. It is so insane sounding that you have even expressed being hurt or angry even thinking of him talking to any other girl. This shit sounds crazy.
Hell I don't even know how you can even say you like him, when you don't even know jack shit about him, because you were busy shopping, sleeping, picking a booger, or whatever asinine thing you were doing that needed to be prioritized over answering a phone call.
At this point, you will continue to waste your time, and anyone else's time trying to build anything worth a damn. You are unwilling to do so because you haven't addressed the underlying issues that cause them. And that is your past relationships that left scars and open wounds you need to patch up first. You need to find out your triggers, what makes them react. Then you can fix them, or find a solution on how to communicate to deal with them in a fashion that isn't toxic to a relationship. Until that happens, all you just end up in the same self fulfilling prophecy you encounter now. Alone, neurotic, and slightly delusional.
Posted by nikkistar
I am not going to quote your previous 3 responses to me, simply because I can address them all independently. And also because you gave additional details in the following 3 pages or more of posting.
Empathy does nothing but allow enabling of behaviors that continue resulting in the same outcome time and time again, just with someone new. Right or wrong, that is my opinion on empathy, I don't really care. And I especially don't care if your feelings are hurt, or if I upset you in anyway, shape, or form. Simply put, I lack empathy 95% of the time in general. The only thing you can count on is that I will be brutally honest in my opinion, with the information at hand, And that I am expressing it, simply because I am observing behaviors that would be considered a "red flag" and are more than likely factors of why there has been a lack of success in maintaining a long term relationship or commitment in general. They are behaviors that could be corrected and addressed, so that your results evolve into success, instead of failures.
I don't care what happened in the past with men that you use as an excuse for behaving the way you do. You are easily offended. You are obsessive. You do overvalue yourself. You do prioritize yourself. You are entitled. You are dramatic. You are difficult. And from the looks of it, you also tend to marginalize your bad tendencies as well. Does that make you a shit ass person, unworthy of love? No. But you have major red flag behaviors that any sane man would likely walk away from.
Based off your own responses, I can calculate at minimum, 28-30 days in the last 128 days, that there has been absolutely no communication. That 22% of the time, you just decided that watching the paint dry was more important then putting effort into a man that you say you "like" or blocking him for an asinine reason. So that leaves at maximum, 100 days that you guys could have been chatting back and forth. But even then, by the sound of it, there was barely any effort put during those 100 days to have communication that was either consistent, or more than exchanging a few texts per day.
I literally can calculate your effort with this guy. It was a grand total of 1.5% effort with him. This is exactly why you are getting the negative feedback you are. You did essentially what amounts to nothing, but somehow THINK you can express anger over him talking to other women. On top of all of that, it seems that you haven't even talked over the phone AT ALL.
You literally have done absolutely nothing to warrant his loyalty towards you, or to express any demands on what he should and shouldn't be able to do. It is so insane sounding that you have even expressed being hurt or angry even thinking of him talking to any other girl. This shit sounds crazy.
Hell I don't even know how you can even say you like him, when you don't even know jack shit about him, because you were busy shopping, sleeping, picking a booger, or whatever asinine thing you were doing that needed to be prioritized over answering a phone call.
At this point, you will continue to waste your time, and anyone else's time trying to build anything worth a damn. You are unwilling to do so because you haven't addressed the underlying issues that cause them. And that is your past relationships that left scars and open wounds you need to patch up first. You need to find out your triggers, what makes them react. Then you can fix them, or find a solution on how to communicate to deal with them in a fashion that isn't toxic to a relationship. Until that happens, all you just end up in the same self fulfilling prophecy you encounter now. Alone, neurotic, and slightly delusional.
the truths have been spoken
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
She mentioned their ages somewhere the thread. Around 25-27.
ok that was gonna be my guess, mid 20s.
this screams emotional immaturity.
I really hope I get over this emotional maturity phase by next year lol 😬 This thread has shown me how ridiculous I've been in my love life lately 😂click to expand
didn't u say you went crazy over a guy u met online? And didn't meet in person but he had to remind you guys hadn't met in person yet? As in u screamed and shouted at him. Well believe it or not I havnt screamed or shouted at anyone in ma life as in a guy. Not even this guy. Because I know there would be no reasonable argument there
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.click to expand
there was a time where i called him, but he didnt pick up, someone mentioned it here before it was like a game of phone tag. Then that's when we resorted to messaging again.
Posted by nikkistar
I am not going to quote your previous 3 responses to me, simply because I can address them all independently. And also because you gave additional details in the following 3 pages or more of posting.
Empathy does nothing but allow enabling of behaviors that continue resulting in the same outcome time and time again, just with someone new. Right or wrong, that is my opinion on empathy, I don't really care. And I especially don't care if your feelings are hurt, or if I upset you in anyway, shape, or form. Simply put, I lack empathy 95% of the time in general. The only thing you can count on is that I will be brutally honest in my opinion, with the information at hand, And that I am expressing it, simply because I am observing behaviors that would be considered a "red flag" and are more than likely factors of why there has been a lack of success in maintaining a long term relationship or commitment in general. They are behaviors that could be corrected and addressed, so that your results evolve into success, instead of failures.
I don't care what happened in the past with men that you use as an excuse for behaving the way you do. You are easily offended. You are obsessive. You do overvalue yourself. You do prioritize yourself. You are entitled. You are dramatic. You are difficult. And from the looks of it, you also tend to marginalize your bad tendencies as well. Does that make you a shit ass person, unworthy of love? No. But you have major red flag behaviors that any sane man would likely walk away from.
Based off your own responses, I can calculate at minimum, 28-30 days in the last 128 days, that there has been absolutely no communication. That 22% of the time, you just decided that watching the paint dry was more important then putting effort into a man that you say you "like" or blocking him for an asinine reason. So that leaves at maximum, 100 days that you guys could have been chatting back and forth. But even then, by the sound of it, there was barely any effort put during those 100 days to have communication that was either consistent, or more than exchanging a few texts per day.
I literally can calculate your effort with this guy. It was a grand total of 1.5% effort with him. This is exactly why you are getting the negative feedback you are. You did essentially what amounts to nothing, but somehow THINK you can express anger over him talking to other women. On top of all of that, it seems that you haven't even talked over the phone AT ALL.
You literally have done absolutely nothing to warrant his loyalty towards you, or to express any demands on what he should and shouldn't be able to do. It is so insane sounding that you have even expressed being hurt or angry even thinking of him talking to any other girl. This shit sounds crazy.
Hell I don't even know how you can even say you like him, when you don't even know jack shit about him, because you were busy shopping, sleeping, picking a booger, or whatever asinine thing you were doing that needed to be prioritized over answering a phone call.
At this point, you will continue to waste your time, and anyone else's time trying to build anything worth a damn. You are unwilling to do so because you haven't addressed the underlying issues that cause them. And that is your past relationships that left scars and open wounds you need to patch up first. You need to find out your triggers, what makes them react. Then you can fix them, or find a solution on how to communicate to deal with them in a fashion that isn't toxic to a relationship. Until that happens, all you just end up in the same self fulfilling prophecy you encounter now. Alone, neurotic, and slightly delusional.
I mean I guess this is fair enough. 😂. Cant really argue with that.
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.click to expand
To be honest you're right. Communication is cut and dry, he even said that. But it's ironic he did since when at the start I would open up such as for example the reason why I initially blocked him he kept hounding me for the answer. I gave him the answer for him to reply he hasnt got time for my pettiness etc. Whereas I didn't find it petty. So yeh that's what I got for opening up. Another time as a nice gesture I suggested he go to a festival. He replied with GREAT IDEA. NOT. And I was thinking to myself I was just being nice. Then he followed it up with phone call now? I was like don't think so. He justifies his rudeness by calling me petty and then later expects me to open up to him by saying he's down for open communication Loool the irony.
This was kind of in the beginning so I retreated a little bit.
Also I ask him questions about certain things for example his past relationships. To which he replies "I don't want to talk about it it's personal" to which I said I just asked how long it was. To which he replies "That is personal"
I understand this was all in messaging, but Then he's like dying to talk to me on the phone and I'm thinking really you bite my head off when I pretty much say or ask anything.
Anyway that was a bit of a rant but he's definitely no angel. I mean I'm all for opening up sometimes but I need the person to be receptive aswell.
There were times when he talked about certain people at work and how stupid they are. As if he is so amazing lol😂😂 but anyway he's not exactly the easiest character to be around either
Posted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
there was a time where i called him, but he didnt pick up, someone mentioned it here before it was like a game of phone tag. Then that's when we resorted to messaging again.click to expand
Its funny because you guys think I'm like that with every guy. But it's not necessarily the csse. Because I'll be honest I was talking to another guy not too long ago, and it was just so much easier to talk to him. I would literally talk about anything and everything under the sun. Only thing was I wasn't physically attracted to him. 😂 This cop guy I think it's maybe more a physical thing but I can't gel with him necessarily. It's never both I swear
Posted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
there was a time where i called him, but he didnt pick up, someone mentioned it here before it was like a game of phone tag. Then that's when we resorted to messaging again.click to expand
as in multiple times not once but he missed my calls .Then he called and I missed his
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
She mentioned their ages somewhere the thread. Around 25-27.
ok that was gonna be my guess, mid 20s.
this screams emotional immaturity.
I really hope I get over this emotional maturity phase by next year lol 😬 This thread has shown me how ridiculous I've been in my love life lately 😂
didn't u say you went crazy over a guy u met online? And didn't meet in person but he had to remind you guys hadn't met in person yet? As in u screamed and shouted at him. Well believe it or not I havnt screamed or shouted at anyone in ma life as in a guy. Not even this guy. Because I know there would be no reasonable argument there
I never said that I screamed or shouted at the guy.click to expand
something along those lines
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
She mentioned their ages somewhere the thread. Around 25-27.
ok that was gonna be my guess, mid 20s.
this screams emotional immaturity.
I really hope I get over this emotional maturity phase by next year lol 😬 This thread has shown me how ridiculous I've been in my love life lately 😂
didn't u say you went crazy over a guy u met online? And didn't meet in person but he had to remind you guys hadn't met in person yet? As in u screamed and shouted at him. Well believe it or not I havnt screamed or shouted at anyone in ma life as in a guy. Not even this guy. Because I know there would be no reasonable argument there
I never said that I screamed or shouted at the guy.
something along those lines
See, this is why you don't communicate well. You aren't exact when you recall what people have done or said to the point where you're lying.
Again, I never said I screamed or shouted at the guy. Quote me where I said so.click to expand
I'm not lying you silly girl. I said something along those lines which implies it not those exact words.
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
She mentioned their ages somewhere the thread. Around 25-27.
ok that was gonna be my guess, mid 20s.
this screams emotional immaturity.
I really hope I get over this emotional maturity phase by next year lol 😬 This thread has shown me how ridiculous I've been in my love life lately 😂
didn't u say you went crazy over a guy u met online? And didn't meet in person but he had to remind you guys hadn't met in person yet? As in u screamed and shouted at him. Well believe it or not I havnt screamed or shouted at anyone in ma life as in a guy. Not even this guy. Because I know there would be no reasonable argument there
I never said that I screamed or shouted at the guy.
something along those lines
See, this is why you don't communicate well. You aren't exact when you recall what people have done or said to the point where you're lying.
Again, I never said I screamed or shouted at the guy. Quote me where I said so.click to expand
you know exactly what I'm trying to say though. You had an unreasonable reaction to him not contacting you. So don't come at me
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" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
She mentioned their ages somewhere the thread. Around 25-27.
ok that was gonna be my guess, mid 20s.
this screams emotional immaturity.
I really hope I get over this emotional maturity phase by next year lol 😬 This thread has shown me how ridiculous I've been in my love life lately 😂
didn't u say you went crazy over a guy u met online? And didn't meet in person but he had to remind you guys hadn't met in person yet? As in u screamed and shouted at him. Well believe it or not I havnt screamed or shouted at anyone in ma life as in a guy. Not even this guy. Because I know there would be no reasonable argument there
I never said that I screamed or shouted at the guy.
something along those lines
See, this is why you don't communicate well. You aren't exact when you recall what people have done or said to the point where you're lying.
Again, I never said I screamed or shouted at the guy. Quote me where I said so.
you know exactly what I'm trying to say though. You had an unreasonable reaction to him not contacting you. So don't come at me
That doesn't mean that you're not in the wrong for acting the way you are.
We've all done this before so I guess go after everyone else who's been blunt with you about the situation.click to expand
Ok I apologise about that but I'm just annoyed overall. Not at you or anyone here but at the situation
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
To be honest you're right. Communication is cut and dry, he even said that. But it's ironic he did since when at the start I would open up such as for example the reason why I initially blocked him he kept hounding me for the answer. I gave him the answer for him to reply he hasnt got time for my pettiness etc. Whereas I didn't find it petty. So yeh that's what I got for opening up. Another time as a nice gesture I suggested he go to a festival. He replied with GREAT IDEA. NOT. And I was thinking to myself I was just being nice. Then he followed it up with phone call now? I was like don't think so. He justifies his rudeness by calling me petty and then later expects me to open up to him by saying he's down for open communication Loool the irony.
This was kind of in the beginning so I retreated a little bit.
Also I ask him questions about certain things for example his past relationships. To which he replies "I don't want to talk about it it's personal" to which I said I just asked how long it was. To which he replies "That is personal"
I understand this was all in messaging, but Then he's like dying to talk to me on the phone and I'm thinking really you bite my head off when I pretty much say or ask anything.
Anyway that was a bit of a rant but he's definitely no angel. I mean I'm all for opening up sometimes but I need the person to be receptive aswell.
There were times when he talked about certain people at work and how stupid they are. As if he is so amazing lol😂😂 but anyway he's not exactly the easiest character to be around either
this here, was a pointless post.
no one cares if he has/has not been “an angel”. that is not the point.
if this guy makes you so uncomfortable, why do you care so much & why did you make this thread?
& honestly, he has every right to know why you blocked him. & the reason you blocked him WAS petty.
this guy sounds more & more like a sag to me.click to expand
Why am I petty for not liking the fact he made a big deal out of shortening my name by three letters lmao. ?
Why is he not petty for just not going along with it like pretty much everyone one else I know. No ones ever had an issue part from him
I do care but you lot are making it out like I'm such a horrible person and he is the victim I'm just saying he has contributed to me being the way I am with regards to communication. That's all
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
To be honest you're right. Communication is cut and dry, he even said that. But it's ironic he did since when at the start I would open up such as for example the reason why I initially blocked him he kept hounding me for the answer. I gave him the answer for him to reply he hasnt got time for my pettiness etc. Whereas I didn't find it petty. So yeh that's what I got for opening up. Another time as a nice gesture I suggested he go to a festival. He replied with GREAT IDEA. NOT. And I was thinking to myself I was just being nice. Then he followed it up with phone call now? I was like don't think so. He justifies his rudeness by calling me petty and then later expects me to open up to him by saying he's down for open communication Loool the irony.
This was kind of in the beginning so I retreated a little bit.
Also I ask him questions about certain things for example his past relationships. To which he replies "I don't want to talk about it it's personal" to which I said I just asked how long it was. To which he replies "That is personal"
I understand this was all in messaging, but Then he's like dying to talk to me on the phone and I'm thinking really you bite my head off when I pretty much say or ask anything.
Anyway that was a bit of a rant but he's definitely no angel. I mean I'm all for opening up sometimes but I need the person to be receptive aswell.
There were times when he talked about certain people at work and how stupid they are. As if he is so amazing lol😂😂 but anyway he's not exactly the easiest character to be around either
this here, was a pointless post.
no one cares if he has/has not been “an angel”. that is not the point.
if this guy makes you so uncomfortable, why do you care so much & why did you make this thread?
& honestly, he has every right to know why you blocked him. & the reason you blocked him WAS petty.
this guy sounds more & more like a sag to me.
Why am I petty for not liking the fact he made a big deal out of shortening my name by three letters lmao. ?
Why is he not petty for just not going along with it like pretty much everyone one else I know. No ones ever had an issue part from him
I do care but you lot are making it out like I'm such a horrible person and he is the victim I'm just saying he has contributed to me being the way I am with regards to communication. That's all
girl, whatever.
just fucking let this shit go already. the horse has been beat, just let it die now.click to expand
alright whatever
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
all i am ultimately trying to say is... dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you. it is rarely ever worth it. there are plenty of other people out there who will respect the way you do things & don’t mind the long game.
this is too much drama for not knowing each other that long & it shouldn’t be like that. courting is supposed to be fun & exciting, not emotionally punishing.
but you are a scorpio moon so LOL
😂click to expand
It’s an amazing advice and disposition and should be a hymn for daring!
dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you.
How accurate this!!! Precisely to the t!
IF rships seems difficult - get out!
As soon as it’ll feel like it’s flowing easily - worth trying. Otherwise it’s a torture!
Posted by GemitatiPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
all i am ultimately trying to say is... dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you. it is rarely ever worth it. there are plenty of other people out there who will respect the way you do things & don’t mind the long game.
this is too much drama for not knowing each other that long & it shouldn’t be like that. courting is supposed to be fun & exciting, not emotionally punishing.
but you are a scorpio moon so LOL
😂
It’s an amazing advice and disposition and should be a hymn for daring!
dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you.
How accurate this!!! Precisely to the t!
IF rships seems difficult - get out!
As soon as it’ll feel like it’s flowing easily - worth trying. Otherwise it’s a torture!click to expand
true. But I felt like maybe I didn't give him.the chance since interactions can b completely different over the phone as opposed to texting.nand we have hardly spoken.
Posted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
what you are saying is a bit ridiculous. it really should be simpler than this, you are playing games. you like the idea of him and his attention, it seems you dont really like him. there is nothing really more to discuss,maybe you dont like our opinions, but thats what many of us think of your situation
I'm honestly not playing games. I guess I just don't know how to open up to him but I really do want to talk to him
no you dont. or you would have made the effort to communicate.
not everything and every person in life is so cut and dry. I explained many times that I've had bad experiences with bad men whereby I did what I was supposed to and got totally f**** over. On top of that i am a private and reserved person so I do take my time when it comes to dating.
communicating is p cut & dry.
if you wanna talk to someone you are getting to know, talk to them.
it’s literally not that hard.
how old are you?
i have been through the ringer w/ men & i also take my time. like you, i dont like being pressured to open up but i communicate that.
but the difference between you & i is, i’ll match effort. you expect it & dont give any effort in return.
To be honest you're right. Communication is cut and dry, he even said that. But it's ironic he did since when at the start I would open up such as for example the reason why I initially blocked him he kept hounding me for the answer. I gave him the answer for him to reply he hasnt got time for my pettiness etc. Whereas I didn't find it petty. So yeh that's what I got for opening up. Another time as a nice gesture I suggested he go to a festival. He replied with GREAT IDEA. NOT. And I was thinking to myself I was just being nice. Then he followed it up with phone call now? I was like don't think so. He justifies his rudeness by calling me petty and then later expects me to open up to him by saying he's down for open communication Loool the irony.
This was kind of in the beginning so I retreated a little bit.
Also I ask him questions about certain things for example his past relationships. To which he replies "I don't want to talk about it it's personal" to which I said I just asked how long it was. To which he replies "That is personal"
I understand this was all in messaging, but Then he's like dying to talk to me on the phone and I'm thinking really you bite my head off when I pretty much say or ask anything.
Anyway that was a bit of a rant but he's definitely no angel. I mean I'm all for opening up sometimes but I need the person to be receptive aswell.
There were times when he talked about certain people at work and how stupid they are. As if he is so amazing lol😂😂 but anyway he's not exactly the easiest character to be around either
this here, was a pointless post.
no one cares if he has/has not been “an angel”. that is not the point.
if this guy makes you so uncomfortable, why do you care so much & why did you make this thread?
& honestly, he has every right to know why you blocked him. & the reason you blocked him WAS petty.
this guy sounds more & more like a sag to me.
Why am I petty for not liking the fact he made a big deal out of shortening my name by three letters lmao. ?
Why is he not petty for just not going along with it like pretty much everyone one else I know. No ones ever had an issue part from him
I do care but you lot are making it out like I'm such a horrible person and he is the victim I'm just saying he has contributed to me being the way I am with regards to communication. That's allclick to expand
So end it!
Posted by Foxy777
Well maybe send him a text and ask if it would be ok if you were to call him in a few days one evening.
lol Yeh set up an appoinment for a call 😂😂. Tht might be better
Posted by emeraldgem
@Lacey90 - "Looool. 😪😓 im hopeless at this. Maybe I should just let him go"
What is to *let go*?? YOU. HAVE. NOT. EVEN. MET. HIM.
Now - back to more important things. And to clear up who this is drinking wine, it is comedienne Amy Schumer. Shall we join her? I beg you all leave this thread while you still have a shred of sanity left.
i know
By let go I mean the pursuit of it and getting to know him. Don't take things so literally
Any news? Either of you called yet?? tell me your name and I'll call him for you, tell me what you want me to deliver 🙄
I'm dead serious 😂😂
I'm dead serious 😂😂
From reading this it sounds like you played it far too casual. You need to keep it consistent. Text him..don't wonder he obviously wants you too but the vibes you've given off are you aren't that interested tbh x
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