WateryVirgo
@WateryVirgo
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"Thank You"
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Posted by xXxAliciaXxXRIght lol
No.
Unless eating me out afterwards counts as a "thank you".
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.
Posted by starwarsYah, I guess if I were a guy, I'd probably wink with my chest puffed out. lol
any time
Am I being too sensitive and overanalyzing with this?! :-/
Posted by CopperDoveBut if it was mutually beneficial and we share a connection, why would it even be necessary, ya know?
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.
My mars in virgo would feel honored.
I used to tell my ol sag thank you all the time. The release he would give me was beyond gratitude.
I used to tell my ol sag thank you all the time. The release he would give me was beyond gratitude.
Posted by starwarsYou could be right. But I figured that with my Pisces moon and his Scorpio moon, both intuitive, it wouldn't need to be said.Posted by WateryVirgoi think youre overthinking it fellow virgo 🙂Posted by starwarsYah, I guess if I were a guy, I'd probably wink with my chest puffed out. lol
any time
Am I being too sensitive and overanalyzing with this?! :-/click to expand
idk. Maybe I need to just chill out. lol
Hahaah I remember reading awkward things people said after sex and this one stood me by..
It never happened to me but I can just feel the awkwardness already 😛
It never happened to me but I can just feel the awkwardness already 😛
Posted by tizianiWell, we need to keep our minds occupied with something! lol Like "what did I miss", "what could I do better", "what did he mean?", etc
Why do Virgos love abuse?
Posted by ElleDuMondeRight! Like "Thank you for your services. You can go now. The money's on the tables on your way out" lol
Yes and I was offended.
Not many things offend me in the bedroom but that does.
Yes.
And a firm handshake.
And a firm handshake.
Posted by ElleDuMondeExactly
It felt degrading.....like I wasn't really in the room....I was irrelevant.
Posted by QuantumThat's terrible! lol
Yes.
And a firm handshake.
Posted by WateryVirgoIt's gracious and can show nothing is being taken for granted. I imagine some people might not mean it that way, but that's what it was like for me. It's a way of showing appreciation.Posted by CopperDoveBut if it was mutually beneficial and we share a connection, why would it even be necessary, ya know?
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.click to expand
Posted by ElleDuMonde+1
It also felt like I was being used for the experience.
Posted by WateryVirgoIt's an earth rising connection thing you wouldn't understand 😛Posted by QuantumThat's terrible! lol
Yes.
And a firm handshake.click to expand
Posted by CopperDovePosted by WateryVirgoPosted by CopperDoveBut if it was mutually beneficial and we share a connection, why would it even be necessary, ya know?
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.click to expand
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It think it's gracious and can show nothing is being taken for granted. I can't speak for everyone who might say it, but that's what it was like for me. It's a way of showing appreciation. And I go all out during such experiences - I don't just lie there, lol, so it's appreciation for the effort I put into everything, including what I wear.
Posted by whatthecrab+1Posted by ElleDuMondeThis.
Yes and I was offended.
Not many things offend me in the bedroom but that does.
I'd feel like an object or someone who did them a service.click to expand
What is the mood like?
Because I see nothing but sexy opportunity or opportunity for sexiness.
Because I see nothing but sexy opportunity or opportunity for sexiness.
Posted by CopperDoveNoted.Posted by WateryVirgoIt's gracious and can show nothing is being taken for granted. I imagine some people might not mean it that way, but that's what it was like for me. It's a way of showing appreciation.Posted by CopperDoveBut if it was mutually beneficial and we share a connection, why would it even be necessary, ya know?
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.
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Posted by tizianilol, yes, that might be a little weird depending on the context, but there are certain contexts that it works well in, as part of the fun and appreciation - another way of saying, "that feels good" in the moment, for example. I have a lot of 7th house stuff going on, and Mars in Libra, so I can find that kind of thing particularly appealing.Posted by CopperDoveLOL @ during
Yes, after, not during. And I would say the same back, or initiate it. Just one person I was involved with who did that, but it was really nice, very gracious, said with genuine appreciation.
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Posted by Katana100% agree. 🙂
Yeah during and after.
I've said it as well, half joking, half serious. It was said because it was felt and it was genuine. There's nothing else to it. I don't see how that could offend anyone when taken in the literal sense without overthinking it. I think it actually adds to the intimacy of the moment and it makes it that more special, especially when it's done during. It's a big turn on actually.
Posted by ImTheRamThat's exactly it, context and timing is everything. But that hasn't been clarified yet.
So you are a woman...
You planed all of these something/wathever for a special ocasion...
That took you time..effort and consideration to please your man...
If he saw all of that..and at the end he says "thank you" and stays with you...you are being used?!
Seriously..help me figure these one out.
I can't imagine myself being offended if my BF were to say that to me. He would either say it with a smirk and mischievous sparkle in his eyes, or say it with warmth and emotion...I would either be delighted and feign indignance so that I could smother him with a pillow, or I would be delighted and feel weak.
Posted by LillyPetalThe time that stood out to me was afterwards and I was getting ready to leave. It wasn't the sexist mood at that point (not from my perspective), more like I've got to go, I will talk to you later and he said it on my way out.
What is the mood like?
Because I see nothing but sexy opportunity or opportunity for sexiness.
Posted by ImTheRamI didn't do anything special for the occasion. It's feeling used in a sense that it's not a personable statement; it's more like you did this to relieve me and now I'm satisfied; I was an object t there to quench your thirst or something. Seems selfish.
So you are a woman...
You planed all of these something/wathever for a special ocasion...
That took you time..effort and consideration to please your man...
If he saw all of that..and at the end he says "thank you" and stays with you...you are being used?!
Seriously..help me figure these one out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
Posted by PiscoNoted lol
I just say "right back atcha!" Then slap em on the ass. You won't get a "thank you" after that 😛
Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
Posted by tizianiGive it a run. 🙂 Usually when I've done it there's a playful context - I'm aware it isn't the norm to say such things during, and I'll laugh a little after, and so will my partner, and then on we go.
This "during" this raises the stakes.
I have no idea how anyone would pull that off but it almost seems like a new challenge.
Posted by KatanaI'm generally intuitive and he seemed to be too. So, I'm thinking along the lines of there are things that really don't have to be said. But I guess it's a matter of perspective.
Yeah during and after.
I've said it as well, half joking, half serious. It was said because it was felt and it was genuine. There's nothing else to it. I don't see how that could offend anyone when taken in the literal sense without overthinking it. I think it actually adds to the intimacy of the moment and it makes it that more special, especially when it's done during. It's a big turn on actually.
Posted by WateryVirgoMy partner said it to me and I thought it was hot, but maybe I'm just easy to please....... 😕
Has your partner ever told you Thank You during or after sex? If so, how did you take it? How did it make you feel?
Thinking back, I remember times when he said "Thank You" or "Thank you for that" :-/. I took it as him meaning "Thank you for your services", as if the intimacy wasn't a mutually beneficial act between two people who have a special connection to each other. Like he wasn't as emotionally connected to me as I was to him?
idk...
Posted by WateryVirgoI mean ..unless we were agreeing on some fantasy of me being a prostitute and he'd say "Thank you" followed up by giving me money...then I don't get why the objectifying part is the first thing your mind runs to.Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".click to expand
What did you feel in the moment? Forget about what you thought...was it warm and fuzzy? Did you feel appreciation in his comment?
If so
stop overthinking
else
inquire/plague your mind with questions
You said "like he wasn't as emotionally connected with me as I was with him". Thing is..if you were emotionally connected you wouldn't need to ask what he meant.
Tbh to me it sounds like Virgo insecurity and projection of said insecurity.
Posted by WateryVirgoAh, that does seem icky.Posted by LillyPetalThe time that stood out to me was afterwards and I was getting ready to leave. It wasn't the sexist mood at that point (not from my perspective), more like I've got to go, I will talk to you later and he said it on my way out.
What is the mood like?
Because I see nothing but sexy opportunity or opportunity for sexiness.click to expand
You know how one guy can do something and come off obnoxious, making you want to drop kick him in the face, and another guy can do the exact same thing and come off as charming?
I think this comes down to the dynamic between the man and the woman and the already established relationship and trust between them.
Was this man someone you were in a relationship with? Beneath everything, how did you truly feel about him at the time?
Posted by Damnata*throws a wad of cash at you*Posted by WateryVirgoI mean ..unless we were agreeing on some fantasy of me being a prostitute and he'd say "Thank you" followed up by giving me money...then I don't get why the objectifying part is the first thing your mind runs to.Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
What did you feel in the moment? Forget about what you thought...was it warm and fuzzy? Did you feel appreciation in his comment?
If so
stop overthinking
else
inquire/plague your mind with questions
You said "like he wasn't as emotionally connected with me as I was with him". Thing is..if you were emotionally connected you wouldn't need to ask what he meant.
Tbh to me it sounds like Virgo insecurity and projection of said insecurity.click to expand
Posted by DamnataIn that moment, I felt shocked, then used and objectified because I felt that it was something that we shared...not something that was exclusively beneficial to him.Posted by WateryVirgoI mean ..unless we were agreeing on some fantasy of me being a prostitute and he'd say "Thank you" followed up by giving me money...then I don't get why the objectifying part is the first thing your mind runs to.Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
What did you feel in the moment? Forget about what you thought...was it warm and fuzzy? Did you feel appreciation in his comment?
If so
stop overthinking
else
inquire/plague your mind with questions
You said "like he wasn't as emotionally connected with me as I was with him". Thing is..if you were emotionally connected you wouldn't need to ask what he meant.
Tbh to me it sounds like Virgo insecurity and projection of said insecurity.click to expand
I'm intuitive and he is too. There had been some occasions where we shared intimate (non-sexual) moments and we looked into each other's eyes and we basked in the moment and nothing needed to be said. I must admit that I was a little insecure in the relationship, so it could have been projection too.
Posted by Vixen2Right, I'm Canadian, therefore polite like all Canadians 😉 so that must be why it's fine with me. 😄
I'm not sure how I would take that...
It's kind of odd...it could be a cultural deal
But sex is like a reciprocal deal...no need to verbalize it, just show me....😄
OP, if you're getting a bad feeling based on how it came across to you, then that is important and should be looked into, because if the guy in fact doesn't feel connected to you and isn't using it like I have used it, that isn't positive like it would be in the cases I cited about myself.
Posted by QuantumThank you!Posted by Damnata*throws a wad of cash at you*Posted by WateryVirgoI mean ..unless we were agreeing on some fantasy of me being a prostitute and he'd say "Thank you" followed up by giving me money...then I don't get why the objectifying part is the first thing your mind runs to.Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
What did you feel in the moment? Forget about what you thought...was it warm and fuzzy? Did you feel appreciation in his comment?
If so
stop overthinking
else
inquire/plague your mind with questions
You said "like he wasn't as emotionally connected with me as I was with him". Thing is..if you were emotionally connected you wouldn't need to ask what he meant.
Tbh to me it sounds like Virgo insecurity and projection of said insecurity.click to expand
(pls untie me)
Posted by LillyPetalWe were in a relationship. At the time, I had just gotten over some insecurities and felt good that we were progressing as a couple and he was opening up more.Posted by WateryVirgoAh, that does seem icky.Posted by LillyPetalThe time that stood out to me was afterwards and I was getting ready to leave. It wasn't the sexist mood at that point (not from my perspective), more like I've got to go, I will talk to you later and he said it on my way out.
What is the mood like?
Because I see nothing but sexy opportunity or opportunity for sexiness.
You know how one guy can do something and come off obnoxious, making you want to drop kick him in the face, and another guy can do the exact same thing and come off as charming?
I think this comes down to the dynamic between the man and the woman and the already established relationship and trust between them.
Was this man someone you were in a relationship with? Beneath everything, how did you truly feel about him at the time?click to expand
And then...."THANK YOU" lmao
Posted by DamnataPosted by QuantumThank you!Posted by Damnata*throws a wad of cash at you*Posted by WateryVirgoI mean ..unless we were agreeing on some fantasy of me being a prostitute and he'd say "Thank you" followed up by giving me money...then I don't get why the objectifying part is the first thing your mind runs to.Posted by DamnataHmmm, never thought of it that way. He did say it on my way out.
If he said it during sex that means he's capable of coherent speech which is the last thing I'd want to see/hear so...huge slight.
Joking aside...I really try not to read into things.
I did hear it afterwards but it was more in a pensive way...like "thank you for being in my life".
What did you feel in the moment? Forget about what you thought...was it warm and fuzzy? Did you feel appreciation in his comment?
If so
stop overthinking
else
inquire/plague your mind with questions
You said "like he wasn't as emotionally connected with me as I was with him". Thing is..if you were emotionally connected you wouldn't need to ask what he meant.
Tbh to me it sounds like Virgo insecurity and projection of said insecurity.
(pls untie me)click to expand
Posted by Ixion120He couldn't really explain why he said it.
Really OP this is one of those things where if it bothers you seriously does...and this **isn't** you just making conversation then the first stop for problem solving issues in the bedroom should be with your intimate partner. If you have had the conversation then what have they said?
Posted by Ixion120I said something along the lines of, in a joking manner, "Thank you?! What am I here to grant you services? I enjoyed it, you enjoyed it". And he was like, "I don't know. I just said it. Stop with all of that".Posted by WateryVirgoHrm...what were his words along the lines of?Posted by Ixion120He couldn't really explain why he said it.
Really OP this is one of those things where if it bothers you seriously does...and this **isn't** you just making conversation then the first stop for problem solving issues in the bedroom should be with your intimate partner. If you have had the conversation then what have they said?click to expand
Posted by KatanaTrue. But he really didn't explain what he meant.Posted by WateryVirgoI don't think it has anything to do with intuition and saying things that should already be known.Posted by KatanaI'm generally intuitive and he seemed to be too. So, I'm thinking along the lines of there are things that really don't have to be said. But I guess it's a matter of perspective.
Yeah during and after.
I've said it as well, half joking, half serious. It was said because it was felt and it was genuine. There's nothing else to it. I don't see how that could offend anyone when taken in the literal sense without overthinking it. I think it actually adds to the intimacy of the moment and it makes it that more special, especially when it's done during. It's a big turn on actually.
I think it's just about verbally expressing your gratitude to that person whether they know you feel it or not. Just because you're having sex with someone you like/love doesn't mean you enjoyed it every time, so that extra verbal acknowledgement or confirmation can be nice. Just like when you love someone, you show them but, some people also really need you to say it instead of just showing them in practical or physical ways. I think over thinking it really ruins it and is more often than not just a projection of one's own insecurities or preconceived notions as "thank you" really is as straightforward as it gets.
If you've thought about why you don't like it and it still makes sense to you not to like it then that's just your personal preference and that's it. You shouldn't assume it means what you think it means without asking him first though, especially if it bothered you.
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Posted by Ixion120His initial reason being "I don't know"?Posted by WateryVirgoWell you asked and he gave a reason...do you not believe his reason—Posted by KatanaTrue. But he really didn't explain what he meant.Posted by WateryVirgoI don't think it has anything to do with intuition and saying things that should already be known.Posted by KatanaI'm generally intuitive and he seemed to be too. So, I'm thinking along the lines of there are things that really don't have to be said. But I guess it's a matter of perspective.
Yeah during and after.
I've said it as well, half joking, half serious. It was said because it was felt and it was genuine. There's nothing else to it. I don't see how that could offend anyone when taken in the literal sense without overthinking it. I think it actually adds to the intimacy of the moment and it makes it that more special, especially when it's done during. It's a big turn on actually.
I think it's just about verbally expressing your gratitude to that person whether they know you feel it or not. Just because you're having sex with someone you like/love doesn't mean you enjoyed it every time, so that extra verbal acknowledgement or confirmation can be nice. Just like when you love someone, you show them but, some people also really need you to say it instead of just showing them in practical or physical ways. I think over thinking it really ruins it and is more often than not just a projection of one's own insecurities or preconceived notions as "thank you" really is as straightforward as it gets.
If you've thought about why you don't like it and it still makes sense to you not to like it then that's just your personal preference and that's it. You shouldn't assume it means what you think it means without asking him first though, especially if it bothered you.
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Maybe I should have asked again later to get his explanation after he processed things.
I've learned a lot from this thread.
Things are just a matter of perspective. When confusion occurs, discussion is needed though.
Thanks everyone!
Hmm.. Maybe he was just verbalizing his feeling? 🙂
Not everyone is alike =D
Just hug him and say why are you thanking me.
End of story 😄 or even better, if he's your lover give him a small slap across his face "why thanks 😡 " ...tehehehe 😄
I agree with starwars on page 1. Nothing to feel bad or anything about 🙂 IMO.
Not everyone is alike =D
Just hug him and say why are you thanking me.
End of story 😄 or even better, if he's your lover give him a small slap across his face "why thanks 😡 " ...tehehehe 😄
I agree with starwars on page 1. Nothing to feel bad or anything about 🙂 IMO.
Interestingly enough my Scorp said that to me. It was after, and I was still coming out of it, so I was like.."Huh? For what?" He said for being wonderful.
Posted by Geminiamlol!
No, just no. If my guy said "thank you" after sex he would get the look of death...because he would have my hands around his throat.
Posted by WateryVirgoSure, why not. Always is good to be thanked, especially when it comes to satisfying your man.
Has your partner ever told you Thank You during or after sex? If so, how did you take it? How did it make you feel?
This past weekend we perfected shower sex (its harder than you think to fuck standing up when your almost the same height) and we both gave each other this look and then high fived right after. GO TEAM!!
Posted by WateryVirgoAh, I'm late to the party, but I'll chime in anyway. I don't see it as an offensive thing. Of course depends on the tone.
Has your partner ever told you Thank You during or after sex? If so, how did you take it? How did it make you feel?
Thinking back, I remember times when he said "Thank You" or "Thank you for that" :-/. I took it as him meaning "Thank you for your services", as if the intimacy wasn't a mutually beneficial act between two people who have a special connection to each other. Like he wasn't as emotionally connected to me as I was to him?
idk...
The intimacy probably was of mutual benefit. You're not in the other person's head. In that moment you could just be helping someone bust a nut after a stressful day or you could have made them feel so connected to another person. It will never be the same as what you needed or felt. In know there have been times when my partner wants to "connect" and I just want to f*ck to relieve stress. In that moment I want to thank him (although I don't), because yes he's helping me. Helping me in a way that only he could be entrusted to do and I truly appreciate it. In essence I am saying thank you for being exactly what I need and desire. That's not belittling. Not imo.
Posted by ElleDuMondeYou're right, she shouldn't. However by virtue of making this thread she is questioning her own feelings on the matter.
To me, it sounds like she doesn't like it and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that.
I have done some very questionable things in the bedroom that would make some people blush and also have been preferred to be called some pretty filthy names....but *that* particular sentiment rubs me the wrong way.
I don't think she should be made to feel that she should question herself simply because she didn't like it.
I feel it's okay to not like some things and that is okay.
If you don't feel the need to question how you feel you typically don't ask others to see how they feel in comparison.
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