ViewtifulGem
@ViewtifulGem
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When do you know it's time to let goโ
Lol @drunkghost that's funny. But I'm the the blame for this "L" it's been a week now. But he has really bad depression and ptsd. So I've been trying to be supportive. But he's still ignoring me.
Can't speak for a Libra, but IMO... reach out two times, and make it known how sorry you are. If he hasn't replied after the second time, give it a week and try one last time.
If he doesn't reply to the third message, I would think that's time to let go.
FWIW, I've lived by a 3-message rule since middle school, and it's saved me from a looooot of heartbreak and embarrassment.
If he doesn't reply to the third message, I would think that's time to let go.
FWIW, I've lived by a 3-message rule since middle school, and it's saved me from a looooot of heartbreak and embarrassment.
That's smart. But having anxiety, I've messaged him four times. And he has left me in the dark. I don't know what's going on with him. I would just like to know if he's ok since he deals with several mental issues. I don't want to be the reason why he may have harmed himself. And I've been expressing how sincerely sorry I am.
Posted by ViewtifulGemWhat was that horrible thing you had done that can make him to harm himself?
That's smart. But having anxiety, I've messaged him four times. And he has left me in the dark. I don't know what's going on with him. I would just like to know if he's ok since he deals with several mental issues. I don't want to be the reason why he may have harmed himself. And I've been expressing how sincerely sorry I am.
I was being anxious cause he told me he upset to see any that day. And I told him goodbye...hope you life gets better. And he lost it. He got really sad and hurt. And said ok thanks for wasting my time, good bye and how I hurt his feelings. And how everyone leaves him. Though he told me days before that he was going thru a difficult time. But I pushed a bit.
Posted by ViewtifulGemIf he has bad depression and ptsd he needs to focus on himself, not try to get into a relationship.
Lol @drunkghost that's funny. But I'm the the blame for this "L" it's been a week now. But he has really bad depression and ptsd. So I've been trying to be supportive. But he's still ignoring me.
He pursued me. And it wasn't something he shared with until we grew closer. And he is getting help. Just went thru a bad episode.
Posted by ViewtifulGemFor a minute there I thought you were mocking me.
Lol @drunkghost that's funny. But I'm the the blame for this "L" it's been a week now. But he has really bad depression and ptsd. So I've been trying to be supportive. But he's still ignoring me.
It sounds like my Libra or ex Libra.
Just save yourself......run. Run fast and run far. Trust it from someone who has been there.
Lol why do say run? Does it get bad? This is my first Libra mate.
That's smart. But having anxiety, I've messaged him four times. And he has left me in the dark. I don't know what's going on with him. I would just like to know if he's ok since he deals with several mental issues. I don't want to be the reason why he may have harmed himself. And I've been expressing how sincerely sorry I am.
I totally get how you feel (been there, done that), but I think you've made a huge effort... above and beyond what should be expected. I've never in my life had a girl send me 4 unanswered messages!
My advice would be to wait a few more days, maybe a week, and then send one last message. Let him know that you really care and miss him, you hope he's OK, but you feel like he doesn't want to talk to you anymore so you're not going to keep trying. But for him to please message when he wants to talk, you would love to hear from him.
Then stop. Leave the ball in his court, and if he doesn't reply then you'll know that you've done everything you could possibly do. It's silly to beg someone to talk to you, I don't care how depressed they are.
This is how I had to leave it a few years ago with a Scorpio girl that was in a similar position. You seem like a genuinely caring person, but you really can't be expected to keep on and on with a guy that may not care at all. For all you know, he could be doing just fine and ignoring you on purpose, while you're sitting at home worried about him all day.
Lol why do say run? Does it get bad? This is my first Libra mate.
Posted by ViewtifulGemIt's not Libra. I love Libras. But what struck a chord was the ptsd and depression. I had a Libra with the same issues. Almost 7 years now. I'm trying to let go now but he ripped my heart out and doesn't even realize it.
Lol why do say run? Does it get bad? This is my first Libra mate.
I agree I've gone beyond what I told myself I would. I mean I have my own depression too. I told myself that I was going to text him one last time and that has turned into four. I am a caring person...more caring than I should be. I'm not hurt when you've dealt with it sometimes you beocme more wise and all you can do is move forward.
And yeah maybe he is parading around and totally fine. I know he's a gamer as well. And he told me that's his escape from life cause hasn't been good to him. It was great until this happened.
I've been fine. Focusing on me and getting my stuff done. If he comes around that'll be great. If not lesson learned. But I can't stop thinking anout him and that's when it hurts a bit
And yeah maybe he is parading around and totally fine. I know he's a gamer as well. And he told me that's his escape from life cause hasn't been good to him. It was great until this happened.
I've been fine. Focusing on me and getting my stuff done. If he comes around that'll be great. If not lesson learned. But I can't stop thinking anout him and that's when it hurts a bit
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When I'm around him he asks calm. But I can see the hurt in his eyes. He has PTSD with night terror , Anxiety, and depression. Sometimes he goes days without sleeping. And at that time he was off his meds. And told me he didn't want to bothered with anyone. He's getting help but he put off getting his meds cause he was so occupied with hanging out with me. When he told he he ran out and couldn't get them til the next week. He started. Telling me how much pain he's been in and how he didn't want to leave his apartment.
When I'm around him he asks calm. But I can see the hurt in his eyes. He has PTSD with night terror , Anxiety, and depression. Sometimes he goes days without sleeping. And at that time he was off his meds. And told me he didn't want to bothered with anyone. He's getting help but he put off getting his meds cause he was so occupied with hanging out with me. When he told he he ran out and couldn't get them til the next week. He started. Telling me how much pain he's been in and how he didn't want to leave his apartment.
Posted by ViewtifulGem
Deedee86
When I'm around him he asks calm. But I can see the hurt in his eyes. He has PTSD with night terror , Anxiety, and depression. Sometimes he goes days without sleeping. And at that time he was off his meds. And told me he didn't want to bothered with anyone. He's getting help but he put off getting his meds cause he was so occupied with hanging out with me. When he told he he ran out and couldn't get them til the next week. He started. Telling me how much pain he's been in and how he didn't want to leave his apartment.
I understand completely. But what I learned over these years is that you need to take care of yourself too. Most times, things were absolutely perfect but when the illness kicks in, it becomes a nightmare. I stayed and made excuses and let some really bad behavior slide but there comes a time when a line needs to be drawn.
Be very careful if you decide to stay with this man. It won't be easy.
I'm weighing the pros and cons. But if he'd let me know. I'm sorry I don't want to be in a relationship at this time. Or say anything I'd be at ease. I don't know if that'll even happen. But that's for the advice. I dated a guy once with severe bipolar and it did mess me up.
But if an update I had time to meet up with my Libra guy tonight. I hope things will work out from here. If not then, I'm gone above and beyond of what I can at this point. I just showed up unexpectedly.
When i've tried everything and nothing seems to be working-exhausted all avenues. Then I know either a) its not meant to be or b) there is no effort from his side (as was the case with Vrgo/Libra)
Posted by Senorita_LLDepends what happened too!
I'm not sure if my insight would help you in any way, but imo, doesn't matter if they were Libra, Sag, Cancer or whichever sun sign. Once they refused to communicate, despite the fact that you did actually reach out and apologize, it is best to move on and stop analyzing the situation.
Don't use depression as a reason to justify their actions. I used to be like that. I've tried to see the good rather than the bad, but ended up being manipulate and cheated over and over again.
I understand you were feeling bad, because you thought you really did hurt him, but hey, you've already done your part.
However, it is your call. Good luck. ๐
Posted by ViewtifulGemHow many times did you try to reach for him cuz sometimes one message is not enough ,they want to feel you are serious with them
But if an update I had time to meet up with my Libra guy tonight. I hope things will work out from here. If not then, I'm gone above and beyond of what I can at this point. I just showed up unexpectedly.
When I went last night and he was home. He wasn't expecting me. And he told me he had a guest over it was his friend that lives in the building with him. A guy that he tends to hang out with. And he made the guy leave. And then once we were alone he sat down in Indian style , with his face down, and hands over his eyes, for like 10mins. I couldn't see his face he has really long hair. Then he said, you deserve so much better than me...I'm a wreck.
Then I asked him to look at me and he really couldn't. I'm sure I saw tears there. And he did and I told him that I really liked him and all that stuff. And he said he did too. Then he hugged me for a while...said he was sorry.
Then he got up and started cleaning for like 15mins. But he not looking at me. It was a bit awkward. And then he sat down again. And he started asking me about my life and stuff. Then proceed to avoid why he ignored me. So I did the same. We laughed and talked and then we cuddled watching funny YouTube videos. I fell asleep and he did.
There was a bit of making out, nothing more. And then when I told him I had to leave. He grabbed me and hugged really tightly from behind. He walked me out to my car where it took another 10 minutes before i left. Where he hugged and kissed me the entire time. And asked if I was free tomorrow.
So I don't know maybe it'll go in the right direct. I'm hoping it will. But that was my final try. I really don't want to do anymore than what I did. Which took a lot of courage.
Then I asked him to look at me and he really couldn't. I'm sure I saw tears there. And he did and I told him that I really liked him and all that stuff. And he said he did too. Then he hugged me for a while...said he was sorry.
Then he got up and started cleaning for like 15mins. But he not looking at me. It was a bit awkward. And then he sat down again. And he started asking me about my life and stuff. Then proceed to avoid why he ignored me. So I did the same. We laughed and talked and then we cuddled watching funny YouTube videos. I fell asleep and he did.
There was a bit of making out, nothing more. And then when I told him I had to leave. He grabbed me and hugged really tightly from behind. He walked me out to my car where it took another 10 minutes before i left. Where he hugged and kissed me the entire time. And asked if I was free tomorrow.
So I don't know maybe it'll go in the right direct. I'm hoping it will. But that was my final try. I really don't want to do anymore than what I did. Which took a lot of courage.
He never told me why he didn't reply to my text. And I didn't push it. I know that he usually a neat freak. But his place was a wreck. Like empty buckets of ice cream. Then he also said "I don't know I am a bit self-centered...I don't think that's the word." He told me he really missed me and I told him I did too.
Oh I'm not trying to fix his problems. Just I think we have a connection. At less had...no sure where we stand now. This day...today will say it all cause I'm not putting out anymore. I went so far as too showing up at his place. The rest his up to him now. To keep his promises.
Well. We were supposed to meet and he texts me an hour ago to tell me he has a really bad headache and that he didn't want to see anyone today. I'm done trying at this point. And honestly
It's early on to take this on anyway.
It's early on to take this on anyway.
Obviously he doesn't care how this effects me. If he wasn't ready to deal with relationship. He shouldn't have helped me fall for him
Posted by Senorita_LLI can list some but it won't lead to a cheating,worst case i move on with no explanationPosted by LoveSeekerLike what?Posted by Senorita_LLDepends what happened too!
I'm not sure if my insight would help you in any way, but imo, doesn't matter if they were Libra, Sag, Cancer or whichever sun sign. Once they refused to communicate, despite the fact that you did actually reach out and apologize, it is best to move on and stop analyzing the situation.
Don't use depression as a reason to justify their actions. I used to be like that. I've tried to see the good rather than the bad, but ended up being manipulate and cheated over and over again.
I understand you were feeling bad, because you thought you really did hurt him, but hey, you've already done your part.
However, it is your call. Good luck. ๐
List me, some examples.
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Posted by Senorita_LLFyzaGem Let's dance or explain to me plz cuz i still don't understandPosted by LoveSeekerThis is why, dating a Pisces, requires xanax. Now, do you understand?Posted by Senorita_LLI can list some but it won't lead to a cheating,worst case i move on with no explanationPosted by LoveSeekerLike what?Posted by Senorita_LLDepends what happened too!
I'm not sure if my insight would help you in any way, but imo, doesn't matter if they were Libra, Sag, Cancer or whichever sun sign. Once they refused to communicate, despite the fact that you did actually reach out and apologize, it is best to move on and stop analyzing the situation.
Don't use depression as a reason to justify their actions. I used to be like that. I've tried to see the good rather than the bad, but ended up being manipulate and cheated over and over again.
I understand you were feeling bad, because you thought you really did hurt him, but hey, you've already done your part.
However, it is your call. Good luck. ๐
List me, some examples.
click to expand
You let go, when you have decided the situation no longer serves you.
Regardless of the other, what is most important is what you want.
If the man is no longer the one you want, then you move on.
There are no ifs or buts, it may seem over simplified but it is the truth.
Once your emotions, and your ego, is done taking your rational mind for a ride.
Then you will wake up with a new resolve, the important part, is to act upon it.
Do not wait, time does not wait for anyone, neither does life.
Regardless of the other, what is most important is what you want.
If the man is no longer the one you want, then you move on.
There are no ifs or buts, it may seem over simplified but it is the truth.
Once your emotions, and your ego, is done taking your rational mind for a ride.
Then you will wake up with a new resolve, the important part, is to act upon it.
Do not wait, time does not wait for anyone, neither does life.
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