Why does the Right person, turn up at the Wrong time?

Anybody else experience this?

This has happened to me twice in my life. The first time when I was 20.

Why is it that while searching for that person ho you long to meet, they turns up unexpectedly at the wrong time in your life?

Then..

On the flip side, its Wrong person, Right time.



My theory is that the people we long for, the very people we believe are Right for us, are in fact Wrong for us.

Therefore, if you believe in Fate, or even if you don't, I think its Life's way of Showing/Telling us, "I know you love this person, but they are not right for you. And here's why.."

So in time you start to discover why they turned up at the wrong time..

Tell me what you think..

I meant to also say that the person who you think is Wrong, is actually Right for us.

Life will show you that too.

That's my theory anyway.

Posted by Gobby

Whatever that means.

Posted by xy_sigh

I thought about it and part of me agrees with you but my optimistic ass believes they are missed opportunities.

I think missed opportunities happens even more if one is still in the same space, same mindset and always nostalgic.

Your outlook on love has to evolve with time and I think if it doesn't, you'll get stuck with the ships that have sailed.

I think you are right there.

In fact I was scared someone would say Exactly what you did just now.

It's why I posted this.

I also think - in my heart - its missed opportunities. But..I prefer to tell myself that maybe these men weren't right for me.

It makes it less painful to deal with, seeing as its now happened to me Twice! 😥

Both with the type of man I long for...

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Posted by pooface222

Posted by xy_sigh

I thought about it and part of me agrees with you but my optimistic ass believes they are missed opportunities.

I think missed opportunities happens even more if one is still in the same space, same mindset and always nostalgic.

Your outlook on love has to evolve with time and I think if it doesn't, you'll get stuck with the ships that have sailed.

I think you are right there.

In fact I was scared someone would say Exactly what you did just now.

It's why I posted this.

I also think - in my heart - its missed opportunities. But..I prefer to tell myself that maybe these men weren't right for me.

It makes it less painful to deal with, seeing as its now happened to me Twice! 😥

Both with the type of man I long for...

I think the amount of time to get over a person depends what domain you value most and your top three. If I connected with the person spiritually, emotionally and mentally, it would be difficult for me to move on whereas another person who I just connected to on an emotional and physical level.

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I connected, or should I say We connected on an Emotional, Mental, Spiritual, and Sexual level.

So right now...I'm in hell trying to let go.

He's still in my life but its been back & forth, together, not together, on & off, for about 6yrs.

I don't even know where we are with each other anymore..

Murphy’s Law

What's the wrong/right time?

I could say I've met Mr Right when we were both 19 years old students. We had a 6 years long study head of us, no experience with the opposite sex, and no desire to be "taken". He was quite frank about it, and said: "I feel you are the one, but how could I be sure, if I never dated anyone else? Besides, I have no intention to get married until I am 29". I often described our relationship as "on-off", but now I think the appropriate term was "open". For those 6 years, we kept seeing each other often, and not just as colleagues, and he was the only one I loved.

So.....let's say I met him at the wrong time. What would have been the right time to meet him, then? When I was married? When he got married (at 29, lol)? After I moved to the UK? Three years ago? Now? The answer is...nope, none of these. We met at the right time in our lives. He never committed to me. I left him, eventually. I still think we were RIGHT for eachother...at that time, that's it!

No regrets=no wrong time 🙂

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Posted by pooface222

Anybody else experience this?

This has happened to me twice in my life. The first time when I was 20.

Why is it that while searching for that person ho you long to meet, they turns up unexpectedly at the wrong time in your life?

Then..

On the flip side, its Wrong person, Right time.



My theory is that the people we long for, the very people we believe are Right for us, are in fact Wrong for us.

Therefore, if you believe in Fate, or even if you don't, I think its Life's way of Showing/Telling us, "I know you love this person, but they are not right for you. And here's why.."

So in time you start to discover why they turned up at the wrong time..

Tell me what you think..

There is no right or wrong time

Its only "you"

U rejected the good guy when u were 20 cuz u had options and wanted fun

Now that u old u want the good guy back

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Err NO. You got that completely wrong!

I had a 3yr relationship with the guy i met at 20. And i didn't go for options. I wanted the guy i met. We wanted each other.

Sadly it didnt work out.

Posted by Neno2

Posted by pooface222

Anybody else experience this?

This has happened to me twice in my life. The first time when I was 20.

Why is it that while searching for that person ho you long to meet, they turns up unexpectedly at the wrong time in your life?

Then..

On the flip side, its Wrong person, Right time.



My theory is that the people we long for, the very people we believe are Right for us, are in fact Wrong for us.

Therefore, if you believe in Fate, or even if you don't, I think its Life's way of Showing/Telling us, "I know you love this person, but they are not right for you. And here's why.."

So in time you start to discover why they turned up at the wrong time..

Tell me what you think..

There is no right or wrong time

Its only "you"

U rejected the good guy when u were 20 cuz u had options and wanted fun

Now that u old u want the good guy back

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OLD! You're so rude!

And judgemental

I have no idea why people feel the need to be so rude on forums.

Posted by Scheherazade

Are they really the right person if they showed up at the wrong time?

That's what I am asking.

Read my post again..to the end of it 😊

Posted by Neno2

Posted by pooface222

Posted by Neno2

Posted by pooface222

Anybody else experience this?

This has happened to me twice in my life. The first time when I was 20.

Why is it that while searching for that person ho you long to meet, they turns up unexpectedly at the wrong time in your life?

Then..

On the flip side, its Wrong person, Right time.



My theory is that the people we long for, the very people we believe are Right for us, are in fact Wrong for us.

Therefore, if you believe in Fate, or even if you don't, I think its Life's way of Showing/Telling us, "I know you love this person, but they are not right for you. And here's why.."

So in time you start to discover why they turned up at the wrong time..

Tell me what you think..

There is no right or wrong time

Its only "you"

U rejected the good guy when u were 20 cuz u had options and wanted fun

Now that u old u want the good guy back

OLD! You're so rude!

And judgemental

I have no idea why people feel the need to be so rude on forums.

I am not rude just direct and honest😃

Whats your sign and mbti?

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Well Old is definitely rude!

What is mbti?

I saw an ornament in a shop window recently and it said..

"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. Its about learning to dance in the rain."

Says it all really.

So..

I now believe there is No wrong time.

There is doing what you need to di to make things happen.

You wait for the storm to pass, then that thing will pass with it!

Lesson learned!

a few times i was too shy, focused on other things, or just couldn't see it happening.

i had to learn the hard way if you want someone in your life, you'll find a way a way to fit them in. and to trust my instincts.

not fucking up next time. 🙂

Maybe it’s not really meant to be then idk.



I had a person I thought was wrong, but years later I realized he would’ve been right. But things never align up correctly for us. After the second time I thought maybe it’s just always the wrong time, but now I think he’s destined to be a friend and nothing more. If more was in the cards, we would’ve made it work.

if you keep dating one specific sign, maybe you should stop

it's not working out for good reason

There is never a wrong time. I don’t understand people who have other stuff to do first and try and put people on hold.

2 heads are always better then 1 and no on holds anyone back from accomplishing their own personal goals, if they are truly after your best interest.

Posted by virgoOPPP

if you keep dating one specific sign, maybe you should stop

it's not working out for good reason

I agree! 💯

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Posted by virgoOPPP

if you keep dating one specific sign, maybe you should stop

it's not working out for good reason

I agree! 💯

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you have a sign you're constantly dating?

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoOPPP

if you keep dating one specific sign, maybe you should stop

it's not working out for good reason

I agree! 💯

you have a sign you're constantly dating?

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I don’t even have that much dating experience. I’ve just dated the 2 Virgos back to back. And I’m still attracted to the sign 🙄

I’m currently wasting my time with a Leo, since we haven’t seen each other. (Not my choice) Stuff is barely starting to re open here. Lines are ridiculous getting into places.

I don’t have patience for this type of crap.

I think I will see how things go past the retrograde that’s about to happen and then hop on a dating site and tell him to stop calling me.

Posted by virgoOPPP

if you keep dating one specific sign, maybe you should stop

it's not working out for good reason

I don't date the same sign on purpose!

They seem to find me. And i happen to like them when they arrive.

Ohhh you weren't referring to me.

Oops! 🤦‍♀️🤣