Women who love too much...

Does it seem like women are the ones who keep relationships afloat?

I don't like to generalize but I was in the grocery store this weekend and while I was waiting to be rung up I looked at the magazines on display. A lot of them was advising a woman to do x,y,& z to get/please/keep a man right on the covers. Why is there so much material geared toward women to 'do this, do that' for a man? When I read various men's magazines it is rare that I see such articles - only ones on how to hit her g-spot.

(This is so irritating to me)

Posted by LibrasRule36!
Does it seem like women are the ones who keep relationships afloat?

I don't like to generalize but I was in the grocery store this weekend and while I was waiting to be rung up I looked at the magazines on display. A lot of them was advising a woman to do x,y,& z to get/please/keep a man right on the covers. Why is there so much material geared toward women to 'do this, do that' for a man? When I read various men's magazines it is rare that I see such articles - only ones on how to hit her g-spot.

(This is so irritating to me)

This is so true! We (women) are prgrammed to think like this - men should be the center of our universe. It's all about pleasing the man and catering to the man. When all that does (in reality) is help to push him away and make the woman look like a desparate and needy fool.

Lol. Tiki is goign to love this topic!

I do love for my man to be a center of the universe, but if I don't feel the reciprocation - I'm out.

Yes, I noticed this too and I agree with Natural.




It's all a bunch of bull crap to me.

Posted by Jason2213
You're making me think now. Perhaps I'm already lost.

Best way to learn is from other people's mistakes, and you can see a lot of that here on DXP. So I would say keep reading on

Posted by Shaks
That sounds like something someone who joined dxp last month would say 😉

and who would that be? *looking around* 😄

Posted by BellaBulleautiful
I'll tell ya old Aunt Bell's secret to relational bliss (and pay no mind to the fact old aunt bells is doomed to die alone)........
If a man and a woman both choose to love and be together....then they should choose to concentrate completely on their lover's happiness (no not just sexually)and completely forget their own.but they must both choose to do this.in doing this,we both are very happy and always getting our needs met (relationally),because you are putting me first and I am putting you first.this is called selfless love,and many don't want to let go of their own selfishness in order to see that it works....but it does.I learned of this to late,but will practice it again one day when some sucker thinks I'm all that. 🙂

I think you are all that! 🙂

But in all honesty, not too many people these days believe in sacrifises. And even if some do, there is a tiny chance of them meeting a person who believes in the same. 😢 That's why I'm doomed to live alone with my 20 cats until the day I die. Actually, that might be a good think, at least they'll keep me warm and won't scream: "Honey where is my newspaper/socks/playboy/etc..."

It sells magazines, that's why!
Women are generally, by nature, nurturers and caregivers, and feel they must do it all.

And then, because the trite advice generally does not work...
It sells magazines the next month, and the next.
New advice, geared towards womens' insecurities, not toward what men TRULY care about.
Because she's still trying to "fix" something usually "unfixable" - and using the wrong tools anyway.

If the advice TRULY worked, they'd be out of business, or have to write about something else!

Posted by Shaks
Yep, poor Jason will end up believing everyone out there is as dysfunctional as most people posting on dxp 😛

no, this is a good lesson for him. don't take this experience away from him! he needs to know that ppl out there really ARE as dysfunctional as we are on here... we are those ppl out there too!

* Why is there so much material geared toward women to 'do this, do that' for a man?

This is the great question. It annoys the crap out of me to. I think it has to do with gender expectation and gender reality.

* Women are generally, by nature, nurturers and caregivers, and feel they must do it all.

Not by nature but by nurture. It is a gender role not a sex role. 🙂

But I agree. I think in this society there is still an underlying belief that if a single woman without husband and children, whether by choice or not, is to be pitied.

Actually, there are various sites such as the massively popular site, Askmen.com, that has several online articles featuring ways to please women both emotionally and physically. There are also articles written in magazines about how to please women and keep them interested. There is also popular magazines that feature a plethora of articles focused on giving relationship tips to guys. Articles like these can be found in well-known magazines like Men's Health. You can see just as many articles with dating tips and the like in Men's Health as you can in Cosmopolitan. I don't think there's a double standard anymore with the traditional thinking that females are the only ones who should work at keeping a relationship going and pleasing her man. It's 50/50.

Posted by little_sparrow
* Why is there so much material geared toward women to 'do this, do that' for a man?

This is the great question. It annoys the crap out of me to. I think it has to do with gender expectation and gender reality.

* Women are generally, by nature, nurturers and caregivers, and feel they must do it all.

Not by nature but by nurture. It is a gender role not a sex role. 🙂

But I agree. I think in this society there is still an underlying belief that if a single woman without husband and children, whether by choice or not, is to be pitied.

You are either a sociologist, taking classes in sociology, or had a very good (sociological) education! *tips glass* "Cheers" oh wait it's only 10am... LOL

Posted by Arm a Gettin
Actually, there are various sites such as the massively popular site, Askmen.com, that has several online articles featuring ways to please women both emotionally and physically. There are also articles written in magazines about how to please women and keep them interested. There is also popular magazines that feature a plethora of articles focused on giving relationship tips to guys. Articles like these can be found in well-known magazines like Men's Health. You can see just as many articles with dating tips and the like in Men's Health as you can in Cosmopolitan. I don't think there's a double standard anymore with the traditional thinking that females are the only ones who should work at keeping a relationship going and pleasing her man. It's 50/50.

Of course, if you're a man who reads 'Men's Health' and looks at those articles good for you... if you're partial to Playboy you're going to be lost on the giving in a relationship (and should be shot).

Good topic .........the reason I never buy those crap magazines like cosmo .....they remind women why there is something they are doing wrong in relationships. There are some women who will go through all their lives trying to please a man, and only find her identity in a man. I find them very sad people. I don't know if the issues is women who love to much .......they fail to love themselves is the issue.

I never even pick up those magazines while standing in the grocery line. I usually like to fumble throup "People" and find out what is happing with John and Kate Plus Eight ....lol 😛 J/K ....I never buy those trash magazines either ....they are more for pure amusement while standing in line.

I like magazines like Time, Newsweek......and other that you don't find on newstand .....Yoga, Organic Living, and Ode (Love this magazine).

PD

DXP is the best relationship education Jason, or anybody else could get ... that is, if they stop to actually pay attention to the absurdities that people believe and then attempt to apply it.




No, I don't think that women are the only ones who keep a relationship afloat, though, I thought this a couple years ago, before I took down the wall.

Emotionally, yes, women pretty much do all the relationship work .... however, that isn't the only aspect of a relationship, there is more, much more.

Posted by little_sparrow
HA HA! Way to call me out!

Yeah. I am finishing my honours degree with majors in Sociology and Anthropology and a small minor in Middle Egyptian hieroglyphs (although I am only kind of toying with that 'cause it is fun) so I can go on to do post-grad probably socio-economics in post-colonial Africa (country to be decided) with a focus on protection of indigenous populations and knowledge. I think heaven cried sweet tears of relief when I decided to return and finish. It is so obviously where I belong. 🙂

This message will self-destruct in a day or two.

🙂

As I've alwys said "Sociology is the key to all knowledge and knowledge is power" I'm ABD Soc, didn't want to teach, do research, so in my element!

I always recommend to people to take at least one sociology course as it will change their perspective on the world. My sis in law encouraged me to take my first class, one of the best things I ever did.

😄