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It all depends on the individuals involved.
Yeah
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Posted by twinklebluetoes
Relationships fail for many other reasons than sex. If you want to have only one long term relationship, go for it but not everyone needs to follow your example PinkFerrari.
I'm not suggesting that everyone should follow my example.
Only the ones who keep making threads like "Why did he leave me after we had sex??"
They could use my advice. 🙂
Posted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
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You don't have to be a smart ass, I was seriously asking. Yup, I would go bungee jumping without a rope.
Posted by BikerCh1ckPosted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
what would you have done if on the wedding night he was crap in bed?
Use a dildo for the rest of your life?click to expand
Hahahaha...How the fuck do you buy a car without giving it a test drive first?
Posted by BikerCh1ckPosted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
what would you have done if on the wedding night he was crap in bed?
Use a dildo for the rest of your life?click to expand
He can always practice and get better. Nobody is born with amazing love making skills.
They learn as they gain experience.
I'm turned off by men who have too much experience anyway so whatever.
Posted by RealTalkPosted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
You don't have to be a smart ass, I was seriously asking. Yup, I would go bungee jumping without a rope.click to expand
...I wasn't being a smartass. Marriage is like a safety net.
The rope you use for bungee jumping is a safety net.
You need it in order to decrease your chances of not getting hurt.
*decrease your chances of getting hurt
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalkPosted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
You don't have to be a smart ass, I was seriously asking. Yup, I would go bungee jumping without a rope.
...I wasn't being a smartass. Marriage is like a safety net.
The rope you use for bungee jumping is a safety net.
You need it in order to decrease your chances of not getting hurt.
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People still have crap marriages. It doesn't guarantee anything.
Neither does having sex with someone on the first date or the 25th, it doesn't matter. If a man doesn't want you, HE DOESN'T WANT YOU. Point. Blank. Period. Like I said, it depends on the individuals involved.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixx
That's funny because unlike many women here, I am not constantly in and out of "relationships".
I've only been with one man sexually. 🙂
This 'splains a lot.
Wait, so you got married at 22??
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by xxPinkFerrarixx
That's funny because unlike many women here, I am not constantly in and out of "relationships".
I've only been with one man sexually. 🙂
This 'splains a lot.click to expand
What does it explain?
Aren't you the one who goes around chronically complaining about your unlucky love life
and all of your jerk exes? What happened to that Libra?
You know. the one that flaked out on you recently and you were like "FUCK him and his bullshit!" ? lol
You think you have something to teach me? lol Go ahead. I'm listening. 🙂
But do you really think your exes were entirely at fault each and every time your relationship failed?
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wait, so you got married at 22??
I began officially dating him at 22 and got married at 24. So?
So let me see if I understand.
Basically you're not reprimanding women who sleep with men too soon, you're just pointing out the fact that based on their decision to sleep with the man before she actually really knows who he is, & then complaining about him leaving & or being a jack ass? No?
Basically you're not reprimanding women who sleep with men too soon, you're just pointing out the fact that based on their decision to sleep with the man before she actually really knows who he is, & then complaining about him leaving & or being a jack ass? No?
Posted by RealTalk
So let me see if I understand.
Basically you're not reprimanding women who sleep with men too soon, you're just pointing out the fact that based on their decision to sleep with the man before she actually really knows who he is, & then complaining about him leaving & or being a jack ass? No?
Well, sort of.
But I will still say that ultimately men will place more value on the woman
who made him work for her affection instead of the one who dropped her panties
willingly on the 2nd date. You know it, I know it, the men know it.
And if some woman still wants to disagree and say that it didn't affect their relationship in a bad way....Well....Like I said....
"How do you know those men weren't just biding their time with you until something better came along?
How do you know they weren't just being perfect gentlemens to keep the sex ongoing?
Where are those men now? "
🙂 🙂
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by rockyroadicecream
Wait, so you got married at 22??
I began officially dating him at 22 and got married at 24. So?click to expand
lol
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by celticlionessPosted by xxPinkFerrarixx
And for those of you who have supposedly
had NOOOO problems whatsoever with your fucking-on-the-3rd-date-tactics, why are you here?
This wasn't directed at you. No need to get so defensive lol
Why do you say "supposedly" and NOOOO problems with that touch of cynicism? Do you think those of us who have suffered no disrespect are lying? Or deluding ourselves? I dunno, maybe we just attract men who respect us 🙂
How do you know those men weren't just biding their time with you until something better came along?
How do you know they weren't just being perfect gentlemens to keep the sex ongoing?
Where are those men now?
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Well if you really want to know
The first one I was with for 5 years until I broke up with him
The second one I was with for 20 years, including a marriage and 2 children, until I left him
The third one I was with for 1 year and would be still if it was up to him
The fourth one I am with now and he and I both plan on it being for good and work towards that, if the relationship breaks down (unlikely) it will not be because we slept together on the 2nd date.
Why do you think your experiences are the experiences of other women? obviously you have been through this and caught the disrespect.
Posted by celticlioness
Well if you really want to know
The first one I was with for 5 years until I broke up with him
The second one I was with for 20 years, including a marriage and 2 children, until I left him
The third one I was with for 1 year and would be still if it was up to him
The fourth one I am with now and he and I both plan on it being for good and work towards that, if the relationship breaks down (unlikely) it will not be because we slept together on the 2nd date.
Why do you think your experiences are the experiences of other women? obviously you have been through this and caught the disrespect.
You don't owe this silly bitch any answers. She's made it quite clear where she's coming from- out of her ass. I mean really, she thinks she has any legitimate insight when she was tied down for most of her dating prime?
Some of what she says is legit to an extent, but where she's coming from is pure ignorance. It's like getting sex advice from a virgin.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalkPosted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
Would you wait until marriage again to have sex?
Sure why not? Would you go bungee jumping without a rope? lol
You don't have to be a smart ass, I was seriously asking. Yup, I would go bungee jumping without a rope.
...I wasn't being a smartass. Marriage is like a safety net.
The rope you use for bungee jumping is a safety net.
You need it in order to decrease your chances of not getting hurt.
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Marriage is not a safety net, it is a relationship, it will not keep a man or woman, neither will having children and neither will sex. Your only "safety" net is communication, hard work and mutual respect, and given all that with both people wishing for the same outcome you have a good chance.
Posted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
See, right here, you're totally confirming that women are associating sex with emotions and potential marriage.
You cannot sit here and mention "sex for sport" and follow it up with "willing to marry you." Total contradictions. YOU would be one of these women she speaks of if you were to attempt "sex for sport."
You've admitted that you couldn't do fwb. Some women can and they are not looking for marriage out of it. So I don't even know why you have the audacity to compare the two. Remember, it's 2013. Not 1950. If you want to be old fashioned yourself, fine. Don't expect the rest of the women who want to stick with the modern times to be on board with such an archaic outlook.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by celticlioness
Well if you really want to know
The first one I was with for 5 years until I broke up with him
The second one I was with for 20 years, including a marriage and 2 children, until I left him
The third one I was with for 1 year and would be still if it was up to him
The fourth one I am with now and he and I both plan on it being for good and work towards that, if the relationship breaks down (unlikely) it will not be because we slept together on the 2nd date.
Why do you think your experiences are the experiences of other women? obviously you have been through this and caught the disrespect.
You don't owe this silly bitch any answers. She's made it quite clear where she's coming from- out of her ass. I mean really, she thinks she has any legitimate insight when she was tied down for most of her dating prime?
Some of what she says is legit to an extent, but where she's coming from is pure ignorance. It's like getting sex advice from a virgin.click to expand
Lol, you know how to say it 🙂
Posted by celticlioness
Lol, you know how to say it 🙂
...Well, technically it could be virginal status. Props to her for only being with one guy. To each their own. However, the fact that she thinks she's so experienced in this department is lol worthy.
How can you sit here and say that men are a certain way after sex when you've only been with ONE? For 11 years no less?
Let's not forget that she's been speaking of that marriage in the past tense. Please explain, why is the OP looking down her nose at the rest of women when it appears that her marriage failed?
Apparently dangling your vag as some coveted prize and playing games doesn't always make for a permanent relationship.
At least those of us who have been with a few didn't waste 11 years of our youths on one guy. Many of us may have been through a few, but we didn't marry the first guy we fucked.
OP, I get your point, but it's the looking down on and perpetuating a societal bullshit standard that I have an issue with. Instead of scorning women for something society perpetuates, how about being supportive by not continuing this double standard? If you truly were trying to look out for other females, you wouldn't be shoving this stupid double standard down their throats.
Posted by RealTalkPosted by xxPinkFerrarixx
And I was with him for 11 years.
Were you married?click to expand
How did that safety net work out for you?
Posted by cunninglinguist
My Scorpio was just as cautious about diving into sex as I was. We waited a few months, and even then, I was the one who initiated. But we were official first, before even ever thinking about sex. And now, we're completely uninhibited with each other and super happy. He's the most dedicated bf imaginable, and runs around showing me off to his family and friends. lol
The thing with making guys wait, isn't that it'll affect a guy's opinion of you - it'll simply measure it. A guy who truly respects you will not even WANT to try to convince you. He'll be happy to wait until you're good and ready and he's committed. If a guy even slightly insists on viewing you primarily sexually...bin him. If anything, a guy should be just as cautious (in a good way) as you.
But the real reason women shouldn't be having sex too soon is oxytocin . This is a hormone released from sex that makes the person feel biologically bonded to their sex partner. Women, because of estrogen, are much more sensitive to the hormone. Men release a tiny bit of the hormone too, but much less than women do, and testosterone actually mutes the effects of even that.
So it creates a one sided attachment if done prematurely.
Sucks to be female, but it is what it is.
Do you think he's the most dedicated bf because you both waited to have sex, would he not be dedicated if you had not waited? You are correct in saying if a guy views you primarily sexually then he should be binned, but having sex early on does not mean that the man views you in this way. Oxytocin is real and does release that bonding hormone in women, but it doesn't automatically create the attachment that you speak of in women who are not bedding a man in order to hold on to him. That attachment is created by those women by way of looks, hugs, touches or any tiny bit of attention she gets from her prey.
Actually in all honesty I don't have a problem with the women who come on here crying and whining about sleeping with a man and then blaming him for it not working out, I do have a problem with the women who respond to her and tell her he's a bastard and doesn't deserve her and its all his fault all men are the same blah blah blah, instead of telling her to cop on to herself and take responsibility for her own actions, thoughts and projections, there is where the real problem lies.
Well guess what here's the deal.
You women can sit there and bitch at me till the cows come home
but that won't change the reality that classy women get more respect in society.
And classy women *never* put out on the 3rd date or even within just weeks of knowing the man.
She will be more cautious and discerning than that because she values herself and sees herself as a
prize to be won. Not some freebie to give away.
And for those of you who say that I am talking down to you,
you are also talking down to me for being inexperienced
with men so don't even try to play the victim here.
If the majority of men in this world had the option to choose between a woman who willingly put out
on the 3rd date and the woman who made him earn her affection and did NOT give herself too freely to
him, and these women BOTH had the same gorgeous looks, same intellect, and showered him with the same
amount of love, support, and affection, and they both had great chemistry with him, who do you think he's going to pick??
9 out of 10 men are going to pick the classier one because whether you like it or not, he will think
there is much less of a chance that she will cheat on him. He will think he lucked out by
getting her because he had to put in some effort to win her. At this point, the easy woman will lose
her appeal just like that. What's so special about her now?
I'm just saying to all you fuck-on-the-3rd-date women out there, when a classier woman comes
along, you won't stand a chance against her.
🙂
That's reality.
Bye- bye.
You women can sit there and bitch at me till the cows come home
but that won't change the reality that classy women get more respect in society.
And classy women *never* put out on the 3rd date or even within just weeks of knowing the man.
She will be more cautious and discerning than that because she values herself and sees herself as a
prize to be won. Not some freebie to give away.
And for those of you who say that I am talking down to you,
you are also talking down to me for being inexperienced
with men so don't even try to play the victim here.
If the majority of men in this world had the option to choose between a woman who willingly put out
on the 3rd date and the woman who made him earn her affection and did NOT give herself too freely to
him, and these women BOTH had the same gorgeous looks, same intellect, and showered him with the same
amount of love, support, and affection, and they both had great chemistry with him, who do you think he's going to pick??
9 out of 10 men are going to pick the classier one because whether you like it or not, he will think
there is much less of a chance that she will cheat on him. He will think he lucked out by
getting her because he had to put in some effort to win her. At this point, the easy woman will lose
her appeal just like that. What's so special about her now?
I'm just saying to all you fuck-on-the-3rd-date women out there, when a classier woman comes
along, you won't stand a chance against her.
🙂
That's reality.
Bye- bye.
Lol, note to self - work on becoming classy,
step 1 get some pink sunglasses
step 2 get a pink top
step 3 get pink earrings
step 4 manipulate a man by using sex or lack thereof to "get" him
step 5 manipulate said man further so that he will buy me a pink ferrari 🙂
Wish me luck, i'm soooo looking forward to my classy future it's all looking rosy pink right now
step 1 get some pink sunglasses
step 2 get a pink top
step 3 get pink earrings
step 4 manipulate a man by using sex or lack thereof to "get" him
step 5 manipulate said man further so that he will buy me a pink ferrari 🙂
Wish me luck, i'm soooo looking forward to my classy future it's all looking rosy pink right now
This thread is the best ever. lol
Many thanks to celticlioness for delivering the best lines.
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
See, right here, you're totally confirming that women are associating sex with emotions and potential marriage.
You cannot sit here and mention "sex for sport" and follow it up with "willing to marry you." Total contradictions. YOU would be one of these women she speaks of if you were to attempt "sex for sport."
You've admitted that you couldn't do fwb. Some women can and they are not looking for marriage out of it. So I don't even know why you have the audacity to compare the two. Remember, it's 2013. Not 1950. If you want to be old fashioned yourself, fine. Don't expect the rest of the women who want to stick with the modern times to be on board with such an archaic outlook.
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What I'm trying to say is if you use sex for sport, then don't be disappoint the guy doesn't want to marry you after you "accidentally" fall for him.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixx
Well guess what here's the deal.
You women can sit there and bitch at me till the cows come home
but that won't change the reality that classy women get more respect in society.
And classy women *never* put out on the 3rd date or even within just weeks of knowing the man.
She will be more cautious and discerning than that because she values herself and sees herself as a
prize to be won. Not some freebie to give away.
And for those of you who say that I am talking down to you,
you are also talking down to me for being inexperienced
with men so don't even try to play the victim here.
If the majority of men in this world had the option to choose between a woman who willingly put out
on the 3rd date and the woman who made him earn her affection and did NOT give herself too freely to
him, and these women BOTH had the same gorgeous looks, same intellect, and showered him with the same
amount of love, support, and affection, and they both had great chemistry with him, who do you think he's going to pick??
9 out of 10 men are going to pick the classier one because whether you like it or not, he will think
there is much less of a chance that she will cheat on him. He will think he lucked out by
getting her because he had to put in some effort to win her. At this point, the easy woman will lose
her appeal just like that. What's so special about her now?
I'm just saying to all you fuck-on-the-3rd-date women out there, when a classier woman comes
along, you won't stand a chance against her.
🙂
That's reality.
Bye- bye.
Very valid point.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixx
...for the bad treatment they received afterwards.
This is all I'm seeing on Dxp. Grown ass women bitching and moaning because
they didn't get the happy ending they thought they deserved.
Please tell me this is a joke LOL
Give me one good reason why a man should respect you after you oh so willingly slept with him
before you even became his official woman.
Congratulations, he now thinks you do this with every other man you meet! LOL
In other words, you are no longer special in his eyes.
You (as a woman) could have said NO to his advances. But you chose not to. So any consequences that
may follow will be your own responsibility. You are no longer a victim now.
And if a man even TRIES to get you into bed with him before he's even asked you to be his official
woman, he is NOT someone you should be wasting your time with! Let alone, planning a future with!
If a man truly cares about you, he will NOT rush you or pressure you in any kind of way.
Men are going to be horny no matter what. We can't change that.
So it is up to us women to decide the rules. We have to command respect by acting in ways
that will get us that respect. You cannot expect respect to be handed to you for free.
You need to become a woman who is deserving of that respect.
There's just too many women here who claim to be looking for true love
but their actions don't reflect that. One month (or hell, even 3 months) is NOT enough time
to know someone's true character.
I don't like what this implies because you're basically saying the man has total control in this situation. Your acting based off of his perceived reaction. NO? You could wait a year to have sex with a man and still end up with a dud.
Posted by BikerCh1ckPosted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
See, right here, you're totally confirming that women are associating sex with emotions and potential marriage.
You cannot sit here and mention "sex for sport" and follow it up with "willing to marry you." Total contradictions. YOU would be one of these women she speaks of if you were to attempt "sex for sport."
You've admitted that you couldn't do fwb. Some women can and they are not looking for marriage out of it. So I don't even know why you have the audacity to compare the two. Remember, it's 2013. Not 1950. If you want to be old fashioned yourself, fine. Don't expect the rest of the women who want to stick with the modern times to be on board with such an archaic outlook.
What I'm trying to say is if you use sex for sport, then don't be disappoint the guy doesn't want to marry you after you "accidentally" fall for him.
and you need SEX to accidentally fall for a guy————?
What makes you think that he might not be getting pussy from someone else and then marries you and he continues getting pussy from someone else after he marries you??click to expand
You're taking what I said out of context. Of course you can accidentally fall for a guy without sex and of course he could still be getting it from someone else. I see women want FWB from the get go then end up falling and he still looks at it as FWB and the woman gets her feelings hurt because she sometimes wants more and he doesn't. There are hundreds of threads on here about that.
Plus I said earlier it depends on what your goals are on how you proceed with a man. I'm not saying its not okay to have sex for sport. Its up to each. But, if your goal is a relationship or marriage, then its best to make them wait just a little bit. If you don't want a relationship or marriage then by all means go have fun and there's nothing wrong with it.
And when I say wait, I don't mean wait until the wedding night. Just wait for the amount of time that is appropriate for this particular relationship and get to know him a little bit better.
How many of yall had sex with a guy too fast, then get to really know him, then think "eewwww...I'm so embarrassed/grossed out/disgusted/whatever that I slept with HIM"? Just curious.
And when I say wait, I don't mean wait until the wedding night. Just wait for the amount of time that is appropriate for this particular relationship and get to know him a little bit better.
How many of yall had sex with a guy too fast, then get to really know him, then think "eewwww...I'm so embarrassed/grossed out/disgusted/whatever that I slept with HIM"? Just curious.
DeeGeeeeee!
I've missed you.
I've missed you.
I wonder what kind of feedback the men of dxp could offer to this thread?
Did any guys comment?
Did any guys comment?
Posted by DeeGeePosted by truecap
I suppose it's all about what you're after and what your goals are.
And DG, I'm not "saving myself". I'm in a long term relationship where the sex is AMAZING! So, nope, last time he checked, I wasn't all dried up!
😛
Yup, its about your goals etc etc....which is what was stated earlier by a few ladies on page one. How long have you been dating or living together?click to expand
Well over a year and we aren't living together. I suppose in the whole scheme of long term relationship, it's not really that long. 🙂
Longest relationship I had was an 18 year marriage.
Posted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
See, right here, you're totally confirming that women are associating sex with emotions and potential marriage.
You cannot sit here and mention "sex for sport" and follow it up with "willing to marry you." Total contradictions. YOU would be one of these women she speaks of if you were to attempt "sex for sport."
You've admitted that you couldn't do fwb. Some women can and they are not looking for marriage out of it. So I don't even know why you have the audacity to compare the two. Remember, it's 2013. Not 1950. If you want to be old fashioned yourself, fine. Don't expect the rest of the women who want to stick with the modern times to be on board with such an archaic outlook.
What I'm trying to say is if you use sex for sport, then don't be disappoint the guy doesn't want to marry you after you "accidentally" fall for him.click to expand
You're assuming that all women are like you and can get attached and fall for someone after sex.
Posted by DeeGeePosted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
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First of all, who the hell was talking about using sex for sport? You are the one that made that analogy/assumption.....accusing others that just because one doesn't want a committed relationship that now they are labeled as using sex for sport?
I enjoy intimacy with a man, I was married for many years, raised my kids etc etc...now I am doing things for myself and being in a committed relationship is something I'm not interested in anymore. If it happens then great but if I happen to have a hot passionate night with my present lover so what, now he's gotta marry me? or me him? or he has to stick around? to be quite honest, I'm usually the one to move on.
My oldest was two years old before I finally married her father. If I had it my way, I would have stayed single, I did it for her. I even kept my maiden name. Look up 5th house Moon, we are progressive thinkers. Ahead of our times.click to expand
I see nothing wrong with this. See, you are one of the ones, and several others on here, who have that positive attitude, lots confidence and dignity. You know what your goals are and what you want and don't want. There are several of yall that we don't see on here whining about men. Kuddos!
Missed you, girl!
Posted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecapPosted by rockyroadicecreamPosted by truecap
And all of you supporting the woman's right to sex for sport and are actually doing that, well, just take a good look at the situation. How's that working out for you? Are the men sticking around? Are they willing to marry you?
See, right here, you're totally confirming that women are associating sex with emotions and potential marriage.
You cannot sit here and mention "sex for sport" and follow it up with "willing to marry you." Total contradictions. YOU would be one of these women she speaks of if you were to attempt "sex for sport."
You've admitted that you couldn't do fwb. Some women can and they are not looking for marriage out of it. So I don't even know why you have the audacity to compare the two. Remember, it's 2013. Not 1950. If you want to be old fashioned yourself, fine. Don't expect the rest of the women who want to stick with the modern times to be on board with such an archaic outlook.
What I'm trying to say is if you use sex for sport, then don't be disappoint the guy doesn't want to marry you after you "accidentally" fall for him.
You're assuming that all women are like you and can get attached and fall for someone after sex.click to expand
Oh, I can separate it, but I don't like the emptiness of "just sex". I want it to mean something, it's so much better! But, that's just me.
But there are so many women that do develop attachments after sex, though. Gotta admit that.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixxPosted by RealTalk
So let me see if I understand.
Basically you're not reprimanding women who sleep with men too soon, you're just pointing out the fact that based on their decision to sleep with the man before she actually really knows who he is, & then complaining about him leaving & or being a jack ass? No?
Well, sort of.
But I will still say that ultimately men will place more value on the woman
who made him work for her affection instead of the one who dropped her panties
willingly on the 2nd date. You know it, I know it, the men know it.
And if some woman still wants to disagree and say that it didn't affect their relationship in a bad way....Well....Like I said....
"How do you know those men weren't just biding their time with you until something better came along?
How do you know they weren't just being perfect gentlemens to keep the sex ongoing?
Where are those men now? "
🙂 🙂
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I hear what you're saying, but I've done that with an ex Sag of mine. I've slept with him early on & I was with him for 5 years. Why did it end? Because it just didn't work out. Where is he now? Still doing what he's always done, working, socializing...oh & contacting me. To this very day he still wants to be with me, & even after we've been broken up for a while, he has asked me out on dates, some of them I agreed to & some I've declined...no sex involved.
A family member of mine had sex with a guy she was dating early on. They were together for 3 years in a relationship up until 2 weeks ago. He MARRIED her. There wedding was on Memorial Day. IJS, I do get your stance & where you're coming from, but every man is different & doesn't judge a woman if she wants to have sex on the 1st date or the 12th, because he can still leave your ass after you've waited. Been there, done that...so again, it depends on the PEOPLE involved.
Posted by xxPinkFerrarixx
Well guess what here's the deal.
You women can sit there and bitch at me till the cows come home
but that won't change the reality that classy women get more respect in society.
And classy women *never* put out on the 3rd date or even within just weeks of knowing the man.
She will be more cautious and discerning than that because she values herself and sees herself as a
prize to be won. Not some freebie to give away.
And for those of you who say that I am talking down to you,
you are also talking down to me for being inexperienced
with men so don't even try to play the victim here.
If the majority of men in this world had the option to choose between a woman who willingly put out
on the 3rd date and the woman who made him earn her affection and did NOT give herself too freely to
him, and these women BOTH had the same gorgeous looks, same intellect, and showered him with the same
amount of love, support, and affection, and they both had great chemistry with him, who do you think he's going to pick??
9 out of 10 men are going to pick the classier one because whether you like it or not, he will think
there is much less of a chance that she will cheat on him. He will think he lucked out by
getting her because he had to put in some effort to win her. At this point, the easy woman will lose
her appeal just like that. What's so special about her now?
I'm just saying to all you fuck-on-the-3rd-date women out there, when a classier woman comes
along, you won't stand a chance against her.
🙂
That's reality.
Bye- bye.
No, that's your deal. Class doesn't have shit to do with sleeping with a man in the early stages of dating. You pulled that one straight out of your ass. You obviously don't have enough experience to make such an assessment & turn your nose up to people who don't have the same views as you do.
You're a prude that has only been with 1 guy. ONE, & you're not even with him anymore so how's that going for you? Where is he now? Is that the safety net you speak of? Because if so it sure as hell is not holding you up now boo. I'm inclined to think that you secretly admire women who are liberal with their sexuality, & envy them because you wish you were. That's what I call class...women who are not AFRAID to explore their sexuality,who is comfortable
Who is comfortable & confident in who they are, & if they want to fuck a man on the 1st date, she knows who she is so that wouldn't make or break her. She can care less.
If he wants to act like a douche afterwards...toodaloo! She keeps it moving. NEXT...
If he wants to act like a douche afterwards...toodaloo! She keeps it moving. NEXT...
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Couldn't care less*
Being a smart ass? Lol, I meant it exactly how I typed it. Was that your lame attempt to correct me?
But if this hypothetical woman *could* care less, doesn't that imply she cares too much?
lol
Bling, you are silly. Play me some more good tunes, mon!
Bling, you are silly. Play me some more good tunes, mon!
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