My best friend just gave up on me

Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

Why would she want you to choose between her and your long distance boyfriend?

Are you sure that is the reason? Maybe it’s the arguments.

As you can see with Sag, (from all your experience) petty arguments that happen frequently, get us upset enough to leave the situation alone. It’s tiring to keep arguing with the same person.

It’s like getting rained on every time we go outside. We want to avoid it and just stay inside, instead.

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

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You do realize this this was 2 yrs ago and I've been with my boyfriend from even before that (Touchwood). You do realize we've been through all the ups and downs? How are relationships without ups and downs even possible? I said something bad about his character, told him he was using me for sex, but I failed to realize how it must've hurt him. When he lashed out at me I got really hurt. I apologized to him, he took me back and that's when my friend asked me to choose. She had no idea what I'd said to him. But did she have a right to do so, do you get someone to choose between you and the person they really love?

This was 2 yrs ago, how does it look like 'clearly not working' to you? Do you yourself take an exit as soon as something goes wrong?

I'm sorry. 😢

Maybe one day the two of you will reconnect and resume the friendship.

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

You do realize this this was 2 yrs ago and I've been with my boyfriend from even before that (Touchwood). You do realize we've been through all the ups and downs? How are relationships without ups and downs even possible? I said something bad about his character, told him he was using me for sex, but I failed to realize how it must've hurt him. When he lashed out at me I got really hurt. I apologized to him, he took me back and that's when my friend asked me to choose. She had no idea what I'd said to him. But did she have a right to do so, do you get someone to choose between you and the person they really love?

This was 2 yrs ago, how does it look like 'clearly not working' to you? Do you yourself take an exit as soon as something goes wrong?

You've actually been posting about issues with him since you came on this website. Its not about taking an exit when something goes wrong. It's actually assessing whether it's worth the fight or not. Sure, relationships aren't easy. But, it doesn't have to be SO hard. Maybe she's not really making you choose. You're friend is just tired of talking about it. So for her, either you listen or you just move on without her. I personally get to that point with a friend who just won't listen. Would complain about the bf every single time. I give advise on what to do. Never listens but then calls me again to complain about the same thing. It's just not worth it. People have their limits you know. And at the end of the day, if your bf leaves because it's not working out, you will eventually reach out to your friend again and things will be OK. But I don't think she wants to be around while you're in that state because it's so unhealthy.

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No it's not unhealthy. You keep forgetting that we've been together for a while. Stuff happens. And this isn't about my relationship with my boyfriend anyway. It's about my friend thinking she had the right to make me choose. She could've left if she wanted but again she crossed a line. Also 1. My boyfriend won't leave 🤞, 2. I'll never go back to her.

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I'm sorry. 😢

Maybe one day the two of you will reconnect and resume the friendship.

If she realizes she crossed a line. But I doubt that'll ever happen.

Sometimes we have to walk different roads away from each other. Fights that can’t be resolved takes a toll, and one needs to take a step back. For example:

I had a best friend for about the same amount of time, and we fought horribly for 2 years.. than she disappeared.. she was hurt, I was hurt.. 2 years later she came & asked for forgiveness and understood now. It is a far healthy relationship now.. still some of the old there but not in constant contact anymore. It just needed to evolve & we needed separation to do that.

I cut my old best friend off similarly (we’re both Sags)

We were best friends for years ...closest friend I’ve had actually...and we were both the types not to get close to many people to begin with. We hardly ever fought because we agreed on most things. And if we did disagree it was over quick with a “ok whatever bitch, love you anyway”

We were very protective and supportive of each other.

She dated the same guy for most of our friendship but when they broke up she went like out of her mind and started hanging out with questionable people and doing very questionable shit.

I tried to be patient and understanding, but after she put me in two different dangerous situations -one of which included having a literal gun held to my head -I just decided I was done. I went off on her, said everything I needed to say, and never talked to her again.

She reached out a couple times after to try to mend things but I wasn’t interested

We’re Insanely forgiving people, but when we’re done, we’re done

I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

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I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

did her life spiral or is she now good?

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She seems fine without me too lol

She met someone and got married and had a couple kids 2 years or so later

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

You do realize this this was 2 yrs ago and I've been with my boyfriend from even before that (Touchwood). You do realize we've been through all the ups and downs? How are relationships without ups and downs even possible? I said something bad about his character, told him he was using me for sex, but I failed to realize how it must've hurt him. When he lashed out at me I got really hurt. I apologized to him, he took me back and that's when my friend asked me to choose. She had no idea what I'd said to him. But did she have a right to do so, do you get someone to choose between you and the person they really love?

This was 2 yrs ago, how does it look like 'clearly not working' to you? Do you yourself take an exit as soon as something goes wrong?

You've actually been posting about issues with him since you came on this website. Its not about taking an exit when something goes wrong. It's actually assessing whether it's worth the fight or not. Sure, relationships aren't easy. But, it doesn't have to be SO hard. Maybe she's not really making you choose. You're friend is just tired of talking about it. So for her, either you listen or you just move on without her. I personally get to that point with a friend who just won't listen. Would complain about the bf every single time. I give advise on what to do. Never listens but then calls me again to complain about the same thing. It's just not worth it. People have their limits you know. And at the end of the day, if your bf leaves because it's not working out, you will eventually reach out to your friend again and things will be OK. But I don't think she wants to be around while you're in that state because it's so unhealthy.

No it's not unhealthy. You keep forgetting that we've been together for a while. Stuff happens. And this isn't about my relationship with my boyfriend anyway. It's about my friend thinking she had the right to make me choose. She could've left if she wanted but again she crossed a line. Also 1. My boyfriend won't leave 🤞, 2. I'll never go back to her.

The length of time together doesn't matter. What matters if both of you are equally happy in it. People think they can dump friends because of boyfriends. But as it happens, when things fall apart, we always run back to our friends. Especially the long time friends.

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Yeah we're happy

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

you're not made for friendship

We all do friendship differently. I'm not a cancer. I won't go all feels on someone. I prefer action. If you know what friendship is like, why do you spend most of your days in dxp complaining? If you have so many friends, you wouldn't be here all the time-- whining. Just saying. Since you claim I'm not made for friendship.

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You realize not all friends of ppl believe in astrology? So many things you don't realize.

Posted by brianafay

I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

You gave up after a gun was held to your head. My best friend made things more difficult for me when she should've just stood by me. Sometimes all you need is support from a friend even if they think you're wrong.

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Posted by brianafay

I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

You gave up after a gun was held to your head. My best friend made things more difficult for me when she should've just stood by me. Sometimes all you need is support from a friend even if they think you're wrong.

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Right but if you’re the type who keeps doing the same dumb shit over and over again, ignore her advice, and she’s still always there to pickup the pieces ...maybe she’s just tired of it

I feel there’s more details to this story

But it’s hard to say if she’s done or just taking a break from the bullshit

You should reach out to her if you miss her

Posted by brianafay

I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

Is that more your Mars, do you think?

Why are the Sags revolting?

I love my Archer gals, it's good to always have one in your corner

I learned to keep things lite and fill them in when the crisis is over

A sincere apology can go a long way

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

You do realize this this was 2 yrs ago and I've been with my boyfriend from even before that (Touchwood). You do realize we've been through all the ups and downs? How are relationships without ups and downs even possible? I said something bad about his character, told him he was using me for sex, but I failed to realize how it must've hurt him. When he lashed out at me I got really hurt. I apologized to him, he took me back and that's when my friend asked me to choose. She had no idea what I'd said to him. But did she have a right to do so, do you get someone to choose between you and the person they really love?

This was 2 yrs ago, how does it look like 'clearly not working' to you? Do you yourself take an exit as soon as something goes wrong?

You've actually been posting about issues with him since you came on this website. Its not about taking an exit when something goes wrong. It's actually assessing whether it's worth the fight or not. Sure, relationships aren't easy. But, it doesn't have to be SO hard. Maybe she's not really making you choose. You're friend is just tired of talking about it. So for her, either you listen or you just move on without her. I personally get to that point with a friend who just won't listen. Would complain about the bf every single time. I give advise on what to do. Never listens but then calls me again to complain about the same thing. It's just not worth it. People have their limits you know. And at the end of the day, if your bf leaves because it's not working out, you will eventually reach out to your friend again and things will be OK. But I don't think she wants to be around while you're in that state because it's so unhealthy.

No it's not unhealthy. You keep forgetting that we've been together for a while. Stuff happens. And this isn't about my relationship with my boyfriend anyway. It's about my friend thinking she had the right to make me choose. She could've left if she wanted but again she crossed a line. Also 1. My boyfriend won't leave 🤞, 2. I'll never go back to her.

The length of time together doesn't matter. What matters if both of you are equally happy in it. People think they can dump friends because of boyfriends. But as it happens, when things fall apart, we always run back to our friends. Especially the long time friends.

Yeah we're happy

Also, "happy" don't translate to consistent negative posts about your rs. If you both are happy as you say, there shouldn't be any further issues that you should be posting about on here. Many people already pointed out many things to you before. Learn to listen especially if many people have been telling you the same thing. Otherwise, no one will bother to listen to you anymore or give you advise.

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What the fuck are you getting up my ass for? I don't give one fuck about what anyone says. I come here for advice to decode his behavior, not for some obnoxious snooty person to tell me we're happy or not or whether this relationship is worth it or not. I know it is. I don't care if no one feels that way.

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I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

You gave up after a gun was held to your head. My best friend made things more difficult for me when she should've just stood by me. Sometimes all you need is support from a friend even if they think you're wrong.

Right but if you’re the type who keeps doing the same dumb shit over and over again, ignore her advice, and she’s still always there to pickup the pieces ...maybe she’s just tired of it

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Her advice was fucking shit.

Posted by brianafay

I feel there’s more details to this story

But it’s hard to say if she’s done or just taking a break from the bullshit

You should reach out to her if you miss her

She's done, I'm done. All of this was 2 yrs ago. I don't miss her, ik she wasn't good for me anymore. I'm just tired of the dreams.

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

You do realize this this was 2 yrs ago and I've been with my boyfriend from even before that (Touchwood). You do realize we've been through all the ups and downs? How are relationships without ups and downs even possible? I said something bad about his character, told him he was using me for sex, but I failed to realize how it must've hurt him. When he lashed out at me I got really hurt. I apologized to him, he took me back and that's when my friend asked me to choose. She had no idea what I'd said to him. But did she have a right to do so, do you get someone to choose between you and the person they really love?

This was 2 yrs ago, how does it look like 'clearly not working' to you? Do you yourself take an exit as soon as something goes wrong?

You've actually been posting about issues with him since you came on this website. Its not about taking an exit when something goes wrong. It's actually assessing whether it's worth the fight or not. Sure, relationships aren't easy. But, it doesn't have to be SO hard. Maybe she's not really making you choose. You're friend is just tired of talking about it. So for her, either you listen or you just move on without her. I personally get to that point with a friend who just won't listen. Would complain about the bf every single time. I give advise on what to do. Never listens but then calls me again to complain about the same thing. It's just not worth it. People have their limits you know. And at the end of the day, if your bf leaves because it's not working out, you will eventually reach out to your friend again and things will be OK. But I don't think she wants to be around while you're in that state because it's so unhealthy.

No it's not unhealthy. You keep forgetting that we've been together for a while. Stuff happens. And this isn't about my relationship with my boyfriend anyway. It's about my friend thinking she had the right to make me choose. She could've left if she wanted but again she crossed a line. Also 1. My boyfriend won't leave 🤞, 2. I'll never go back to her.

The length of time together doesn't matter. What matters if both of you are equally happy in it. People think they can dump friends because of boyfriends. But as it happens, when things fall apart, we always run back to our friends. Especially the long time friends.

Yeah we're happy

Also, "happy" don't translate to consistent negative posts about your rs. If you both are happy as you say, there shouldn't be any further issues that you should be posting about on here. Many people already pointed out many things to you before. Learn to listen especially if many people have been telling you the same thing. Otherwise, no one will bother to listen to you anymore or give you advise.

What the fuck are you getting up my ass for? I don't give one fuck about what anyone says. I come here for advice to decode his behavior, not for some obnoxious snooty person to tell me we're happy or not or whether this relationship is worth it or not. I know it is. I don't care if no one feels that way.

"I don't give a fuck about what anyone says"

OK. Sure. If you don't want to listen to people, don't ask for advise. I was giving you an honest opinion. Clearly, you don't get it. Or you actually don't want to hear it because it's not in agreement to how you perceive it. Not much anyone can do about it really.

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You don't understand love 🙂

Posted by 7thHouse

Next time just post:

"Please just agree with me because I don't accept any other opinions or advise otherwise."

I accept opinions, I accept advice, I don't accept anyone telling me this isn't a good thing.

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Posted by brianafay

I still wish her well, just felt our lives were headed in different directions

But I say this because she and others probably thought I’d get over it and it would be like nothing happened but it’s been like 12 years since I last spoke to her. I literally never looked back

Sometimes it be like that 💁🏼‍♀️

Is that more your Mars, do you think?

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Possibly

But shouldn’t I feel like vengeful or something? cause I never did. Just literally was like k I’m done

I don't know why most girls/women/celebrities that are born on November 22nd identify themselves as Scorpio? Yet by their behavior, you could clearly tell that they are Sag.

I've cut off old friends. For me, I like to see growth and progression and have a person who genuinely wants to evolve and who I can learn from and vise-versa; characteristics both friends that I had to cut out of my life lacked.

First was a long-time friend, a Capricorn who is completely rigid in her thinking and approach to life. At first I liked that, I would cheer her on and encourage her but recently, I realised that we both had nothing to offer each other. She does not want to learn anything new and I, in turn cannot learn from her. She would call me names and my younger self accepted this as her banter for yearrrs but one day she called me a bitch and I challenged her and told her not to call me one. She went quiet but never apologised and suddenly a switch flicked and i just realised the friendship had come to a natural end. She's tried to reach out, once by berating me (I think it was aimed at me anyway) on Facebook with a cryptic post 'look at what we've done for you, you should be ashamed of yourself' type message and recently under a post I shared (both of which I didn't reply to).

The second cut off was with a Gemini. We were friends for years but she disrespected me and I ghosted. A year or so later she came back and subtly asked back for friendship. She was annoyed I did not reach out to her and it was probably curiosity more than anything. Anyway, she came back then ghosted me and haven't heard from her since. What was good about this break in between is she sorted loads in her personal life, things we had hashed out many times together, and I commented on the progress she had made in our absence. That was positive and liberating for me so I don't think it was a bad decision to make at the time, as I wanted her to win, but she still was upset I didn't speak to her for that year. Anyway. My point is that sometimes a break is needed and it's not always a negative thing.

I think that Sagittarius has such a laid back vibe that people become relaxed and reassured that anything goes with us. We're always around, always there in need. We laugh and joke and cry with you. But we do have limits and eventually we look for some growth as the years go by. We're a progressive bunch and this includes friendships.

I will tell you this/ as sag, when I have enough of someone/something



I just stop it, and change

I stay with people, and give them many chances, but sometimes I just leave



And it’s always because they did something...really bad.

Or say something that hurt my feelings really bad.

Sometimes people think that we Sagittarius people does not have feelings because we don’t talk about it, but hey...we’re sensitive 😢

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I will tell you this/ as sag, when I have enough of someone/something



I just stop it, and change

I stay with people, and give them many chances, but sometimes I just leave



And it’s always because they did something...really bad.

Or say something that hurt my feelings really bad.

Sometimes people think that we Sagittarius people does not have feelings because we don’t talk about it, but hey...we’re sensitive 😢

how can some people be blunt to others and be sensitive at the same time?

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I will tell you this/ as sag, when I have enough of someone/something



I just stop it, and change

I stay with people, and give them many chances, but sometimes I just leave



And it’s always because they did something...really bad.

Or say something that hurt my feelings really bad.

Sometimes people think that we Sagittarius people does not have feelings because we don’t talk about it, but hey...we’re sensitive 😢

how can some people be blunt to others and be sensitive at the same time?

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If we end our relationship with someone, because they hurt us repeatedly, then we’re blunt?

I never know about that

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

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Agreed and a Sagg ain’t gonna keep doing this shit with you after awhile lol

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

Agreed and a Sagg ain’t gonna keep doing this shit with you after awhile lol

Exactly. There's more to life than just listening to someone whine all the time.

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I told my friends and my mom that I don’t want to hear about their ain’t shit men anymore if they’re gonna just stay and keep doing the same thing. So no one talks to me about that shit and we’re all happily coexisting lol. Sometimes you have to set boundaries. Your friends are supposed to respect that. I’ve almost cuz my bff off cuz I was tired of hearing abusive stories. Like if you’re not going to leave then leave me out of it.

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

Agreed and a Sagg ain’t gonna keep doing this shit with you after awhile lol

Exactly. There's more to life than just listening to someone whine all the time.

I told my friends and my mom that I don’t want to hear about their ain’t shit men anymore if they’re gonna just stay and keep doing the same thing. So no one talks to me about that shit and we’re all happily coexisting lol. Sometimes you have to set boundaries. Your friends are supposed to respect that. I’ve almost cuz my bff off cuz I was tired of hearing abusive stories. Like if you’re not going to leave then leave me out of it.

Exactly. And it's not about not being a good friend. It's about not being around someone who is toxic. In all honesty, other people's negativity is contagious. If all they do is talk about their problems then it also drains the life out of the friend who listens to them. I cut off people like that, myself. Maybe listening once or twice is OK. Maybe three times is still fine. But not every single time.

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We are on the same exact page! I agree 100% . Are you a sag?

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Nov 22 sagittarius girl who stood with me through everything for 12 yrs since we were kids gave up on our friendship unexpectedly. The fights we were having towards the end of it all definitely were not resolvable because neither one of us wanted to accept our fault. She wanted me to make a choice between my boyfriend and her, I told her I wanted both and that she doesn't have a right to ask me to chose. She took it for me choosing my boyfriend even when I clearly said I want both. We didn't speak for 1.5 months after that after which I called her up. Started talking again but she'd just changed. She just wasn't the same person anymore. Had a fight on idr what again and then never spoke to each other ever again.

I really started noticing a change in her behavior after she got into a relationship with her first boyfriend ever who BTW asked her to not care about me that much.

This was all two years ago around this time in 2018. I still dream about more frequently than I'd like to and really a lot lately and in those dreams we're always best friends living life like we used to with each other, as if nothing ever happened. I don't even think about her when I'm awake ofcourse except when I've just had a dream about her and it really bothers me. I wonder what in her chart made her do this

Here's all I know about her chart -

Sun - Sagittarius

Moon - Taurus

Venus - Libra

Mars - Capricorn

Mercury - Scorpio

I can't blame her though. You've actually been pretty stubborn about your relationship which clearly, isn't working out. (just being honest here) if I have a friend like you (which frankly, I do have at the moment), it just gets tiring at some point. At some point, I don't want to associate with that friend anymore because as much as I care, it is also annoying to listen to that person ask, worry and complain without putting any solid action to make a change. This is just based on the threads you've created about the guy you're with.

Agreed and a Sagg ain’t gonna keep doing this shit with you after awhile lol

Exactly. There's more to life than just listening to someone whine all the time.

I told my friends and my mom that I don’t want to hear about their ain’t shit men anymore if they’re gonna just stay and keep doing the same thing. So no one talks to me about that shit and we’re all happily coexisting lol. Sometimes you have to set boundaries. Your friends are supposed to respect that. I’ve almost cuz my bff off cuz I was tired of hearing abusive stories. Like if you’re not going to leave then leave me out of it.

Exactly. And it's not about not being a good friend. It's about not being around someone who is toxic. In all honesty, other people's negativity is contagious. If all they do is talk about their problems then it also drains the life out of the friend who listens to them. I cut off people like that, myself. Maybe listening once or twice is OK. Maybe three times is still fine. But not every single time.

We are on the same exact page! I agree 100% . Are you a sag?

Sag rising, moon in 9th house ❤️ but I'm an aqua sun, virgo moon.

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Okay so you have all that “I’m not about that whiney shit after awhile” energy lmaooo. I like your style lmao. Cuz me neither lol.