Why the FUCK does love hurt?

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Hey my fellow Sagtastics. I hope you've had a fabulous long Easter weekend.

I've had some revelations and I now 'know' that I am insanely in love with my Scorp who has been so hot and cold with me for months on end. I have been filling the voids by entertaining meaningless crap with men just to forget my Scorp. I KNOW that he is the ONE.

I have never felt this ache in my heart for anyone 😭

Why the FUCK does love hurt so much?

I feel like an emotional wreck like NEVER before.

I can't eat. I don't feel like eating. I can't sleep. I don't want to get out of bed. I just want to be with him. Be next to him.

When will this pain end. When will my tears stop. I am beside myself while I write this. My eyes are puffy 😢

I am sad but also feel positive about life in general. I actually feel happier than I've EVER felt. What is happening to me?

The story about the Scorp is on 'his' board so PLEASE read it and tell me what YOU would do in such a situation.

I feel lost 😢

I've told him how I feel over email cause I can only express myself with words.

We had a stupid argument yesterday (obviously started by me) His wanting to say 'something' but not actually saying 'it' drove me round the fucking twist. I just unleashed all my anger and went BITCH mode on his ass dishing out every sarcastic/hurtful thing I could think of. The truth is I don't really regret it (OK maybe a little) lol!

I told him that I had a good mind to delete his sorry ass off my phone for the 3rd and FINAL time and REALLY forget about him this time for real.

Do you know what his response was? (lol) He said 'Go and then be done with it and delete me'. I only really regret saying all that crap now BUT only because I'm embarrassed to face him after dissing him so bad *laughs*

I have been too nice to him for too long and he needed to know that I am not simply gonna take his shit any longer.

The only reason I'm panicking now is because I'm scared he might go and hide for a couple of months and leave me with this gaping great hole in my heart. LOL!

AAAARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This has really helped me. I have stopped crying now and actually now laughing thinking about his stupid (cute) one liners which caused me to attack so bad waiting for no response on his part. I just kept going and going. I haven't even read ALL the messages back to myself caused there is just too much shit. It may aswell have been
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lmfao. OK so just ONE more thing...

WHY the FUCK do ALL Scorps (that I KNOW & 'some' on here) try to tell YOU how YOU are 'feeling' at any given moment. I think THEY think THEY are the ONLY sign of the zodiac that truly 'feel' 'true' emotions? Give me FUCKING break!

My Scorp has ALWAYS tried to tell me how I feel about him. He's NOT a fucking mind reader. Oh poor him, he doesn't want to feel vulnerable and open to hurt and manipulation when REALLY he has been manipulating ME. ALL Scorps I know are Cheif Manipulators. They should take it up as a professional occupation or a sport (and NO I'm not exaggerating this time) I really 'feel' that it will suit their disposition (honestly I do)

I actually want to push my Scorp off the top of a cliff cause I hate him so much then gallop down to save him cause I love him. What a beautiful relationship this could be#GOOD TIMES!
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awwwwww running to SagChick for a hug.

I hate it too that love hurts. Emotionally, one goes havoc... even when things are going well. I remember feeling running away, and when I do run away, I tell myself that I have an handle on things and that I can do just fine without him if I wanted to. But then the next you know, I'm missing him like crazy. So I guess, love should feel good, but it doesn't. I think what causes all this is the unknown to a relationship that you feel is right, but the fear of losing control over yourself and the person you so want, is the cause for all this.
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Hey you girls, thanks so much for your comments and hugs *hugs back*

I have had a really chilled day and although I am constantly thinking of that little fucker I feel sane and happy which is a good sign 🙂

My phone is off and there is NO way of him contacting me. I'm not playing games with him, I just need to totally sort my head out, cause if he contacts me I'll probably open another can of whooop ass on him and go psycho bitch, which really isn't a good look. I want to maintain some of my decorum, HA HA!

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Why, what's with Scorp mooners? I really don't know the 'traits' or 'ways'. Are they evil? HA!

I don't even want to switch my phone on tomorrow cause he will probably say something for me to retaliate and it would really be almost impossible not to retaliate. Ughh but I don't have a choice as I've missed far too many important phone calls due to his one liners. LOL!
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Awww SagChick (((hugs))). I feel you girlie. I don't know. For me, it's the capacity for someone to get under my skin and make me feel all types of ways lol. It's torturous, but on the flip side, nice to know that you're alive! I'm 37. I've never in my life loved a man until this Scorp. And I kick myself in the ass for it at least once a week lol. I'm so straightforward, direct, and impatient. He moves slow as a turtle, will sit and wait in the cut, and rarely busts out and says exactly what he's feeling. It is quite irritating, but as DMV mentioned, is part of why I like his weird ass🙂.

One thing I found that I don't like, is that I honestly had to pull back and disconnect a little tj deal with him. I allowed him to make me crazy too much. I had to fall back some to not get nutty so often. I still break fool, but it is much less often. I think he notices that as well, and unfortunately pokes at me a little more often. But I've learned to not look for reassurance from him as that ain't happening. I've also learned to understand him a tad bit more. I used to be very jealous of a coworker because it seemed like he favored her and payed her too much attention. Now I'm like "pfft". If he really like her he would never show it so much lol. The more he cares, the more he holds back. Especially in front of others. See? I'm learning.

One thing I will say, just on a general note. I try not to throw out threats and not follow through. I personally hate being on the receiving end of it. And if the person doesn't follow through, I feel like "Little bitch" lol. I lose respect. Don't cry over spilt milk, but try not to say "I'm deleting your shit" then put it back or don't do it. He'll lose respect. Better to just sound off in a general manner. That way you're not backpedaling. I'd also try to disconnect a little try to think about how much he pisses you off, then it should temper the feelings you have some, and you can regain a little control. Also, some stuff he just has to handle. You can't change who you are but so much. I have a Venus in Cap. I was seriously about to break up with my Scorp. He said something to me about talking to a friend of his about moving out where he is and bringing me with him when he retires. I said nothing. He shook his head and said "See I said too much. You didn't like what I said.". I told him, "Tou know I really care and I love wen weather so knock it off.". He didn't say anymore after.
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But he just has to understand some stuff as a Venus in Cap just can't fall from my lips lol. I've never told him I love him. Just that I care for him very much. He has to work with my bullshit too cuz I sure as hell work with all of his. Ya dig? It has to go both ways. He's a fixed sign, but he has to give just a little too.

OkSagChick? So try to fall back for a while. Give him some space and see how it goes from there okay? 🙂
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Hey Mebs thanks for sharing your experience 🙂

I didn't say I would delete him but said I have a good mind to. I don't make idle threats. I really was going to do it but I had to talk to myself for a minute, telling myself to calm down.

I'm giving him ALL the space he needs cause quite frankly I am quite embarrassed of my behaviour but I don't know if I would go back and change it if I could. I gave him a piece (a big piece) of my mind.

I don't know if I'm brave enough to tell him that I love him to his face when I do eventually see him.

Thanks for your advice 🙂
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Hey my fellow Sagtastics. I hope you've had a fabulous long Easter weekend.

I've had some revelations and I now 'know' that I am insanely in love with my Scorp who has been so hot and cold with me for months on end. I have been filling the voids by entertaining meaningless crap with men just to forget my Scorp. I KNOW that he is the ONE.

I have never felt this ache in my heart for anyone 😭

Why the FUCK does love hurt so much?


I feel lost 😢







Sorry to hear that my Sag sis got such pain...😢

When you really fall in love with someone, your heart is totally open to the one...that's why your heart could be hurt easily...

How much you can love...then how much you may get hurt...😢 Sounds like the price of love we have to pay for...
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Lmao

I think it was more the tears of JOY 'realizing' I LOVE him but MAY have fucked it UP. Sorry I got it wrong. HA! I was a mess earlier and confused my tears with loving him when REALLY I was happy I 'realized' but just an emotional wreck cause he MAY be gone for good now. Eeeeeek!

I actually feel really happy and empowered. Just have to face the music when I switch my phone on IF he's tried to contact me. I have a strange feeling he HAS but we shall find out tomorrow.

I guess I should have just switched my phone on BUT I wouldn't be able to hold back IF he said something that 'offended' me cause of misinterpretation on MY part. HIM saying something and ME disecting EVERY word within an inch of it's life and going off in whole other direction, causing me to attack further. HA


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But he just has to understand some stuff as a Venus in Cap just can't fall from my lips lol. I've never told him I love him. Just that I care for him very much. He has to work with my bullshit too cuz I sure as hell work with all of his. Ya dig? It has to go both ways. He's a fixed sign, but he has to give just a little too.

OkSagChick? So try to fall back for a while. Give him some space and see how it goes from there okay? 🙂



you havent told this little shit that you love him yet—??
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Lmao

I think it was more the tears of JOY 'realizing' I LOVE him but MAY have fucked it UP. Sorry I got it wrong. HA! I was a mess earlier and confused my tears with loving him when REALLY I was happy I 'realized' but just an emotional wreck cause he MAY be gone for good now. Eeeeeek!

I actually feel really happy and empowered. Just have to face the music when I switch my phone on IF he's tried to contact me. I have a strange feeling he HAS but we shall find out tomorrow.

I guess I should have just switched my phone on BUT I wouldn't be able to hold back IF he said something that 'offended' me cause of misinterpretation on MY part. HIM saying something and ME disecting EVERY word within an inch of it's life and going off in whole other direction, causing me to attack further. HA




first thing, i felt the "ive fucked it up" feeling when i had the 3 some with my scorp's friend. then i come to find out that THAT was one of the best things that i could have ever done. even when i told him why i did it, it was still good for us. lol. as messed up as it had been, it brought us closer and we both finally blew up. i needed to know how he felt and vice versa. that episode allowed us both to get answers to that question "do you love me?"

everything happens for a reason. dont ever second guess yourself. let this episode trigger an outbreak of feelings. use it to your advantage. you both should. he will IF, he's mad as hell and/or he really loves you. either way, your at either side of the spectrum. if he does nothing, hes ambivalent about you. thats when i would worry.

second thing, as a scorp moon and mercury. i dont know what you moon is, but the others are right. you have to bring your A game to this gunfight or it will not go well for you. this man will think about your words millions of times and try to find holes in your story. shit, thats my favorite fast past time. no half steppin with this moon. either your in or your not. you have to be 100% in, before he even puts his pinky foot in the pool. find solace in knowing that he's thinking abotu you, either how to destroy you or how to get you to open up.

lastly, venus in sag rarely commits to one person.
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Lmao

Just have to face the music when I switch my phone on IF he's tried to contact me. I have a strange feeling he HAS but we shall find out tomorrow.




Sorry to hear that you were feeling down. I know how that can be...tough as fuck. ^^^Lmao, I just did the same thing recently & the whole night I was anxious & nervous about what his reaction would be to what I said to him. The next day I didn't even want to turn the phone on but the suspense was killing me & BOOM!!! He was blowing my phone up...smh.

I wasn't going to respond...BUT, I did. 😢 Love is such a bitch..I swear.
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Hey kids, wadduppp!!

Thanks for all your comments. also @ Tacky, thanks Chick. I'm glad some of my real personality does come out on here, I am a really nice girl who just wants her prince charming already!

I was meant to see the Scorp yesterday but that didn't end up happening. I have been as sick as a dog, sods law! Now he is kinda ignoring me. Well I say ignoring, it's kinda the same behaviour pattern as always. Ahh sods law that I get ill! It was either stay home and mess my chances up with him OR go and meet him, feel ill, look ill and possibly vomit all over him and others, which is not the look I wanna go for!

UGhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hopefully he hasn't retreated back to his shell with the wanting to 'talk' stuff!

SOS!
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But he just has to understand some stuff as a Venus in Cap just can't fall from my lips lol. I've never told him I love him. Just that I care for him very much. He has to work with my bullshit too cuz I sure as hell work with all of his. Ya dig? It has to go both ways. He's a fixed sign, but he has to give just a little too.

OkSagChick? So try to fall back for a while. Give him some space and see how it goes from there okay? 🙂



you havent told this little shit that you love him yet—??
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Ugh 😢 no. He's too damn hot cold and wishy washy. Im too afraid. With his antics, if I told him how I feel, and he pulls one of his patented mundfuck maneuvers, I'll break his windows and cut his tires. No bueno. He brings out my temper 😢. I know I'm a coward and I suck. I just don't feel safe 😢 I suck
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But he just has to understand some stuff as a Venus in Cap just can't fall from my lips lol. I've never told him I love him. Just that I care for him very much. He has to work with my bullshit too cuz I sure as hell work with all of his. Ya dig? It has to go both ways. He's a fixed sign, but he has to give just a little too.

OkSagChick? So try to fall back for a while. Give him some space and see how it goes from there okay? 🙂



you havent told this little shit that you love him yet—??



if I told him how I feel, and he pulls one of his patented mundfuck maneuvers, I'll break his windows and cut his tires.
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LMFAO!!!!!!!
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Like now. He surprised me with a nice gift, we had a fun day, nice dinner and awesome sex. Monday I see Jim and he's all quiet and whatnot acting distant. I asked him what's wrong he says things are on his mind and we'll talk later. Later still hasn't come. Twatburger. If I said I love you I'd have to slap him. See? It's really all for the best! Lmao!



girl ur driving him crazy! has he said it to you? he's trying to figure out what he's doing wrong lol.
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Like now. He surprised me with a nice gift, we had a fun day, nice dinner and awesome sex. Monday I see Jim and he's all quiet and whatnot acting distant. I asked him what's wrong he says things are on his mind and we'll talk later. Later still hasn't come. Twatburger. If I said I love you I'd have to slap him. See? It's really all for the best! Lmao!



girl ur driving him crazy! has he said it to you? he's trying to figure out what he's doing wrong lol.
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Ugh. Yes he said it. But it was after I overwhelmed him on his b-day. I feel like it was just impulsive because he was overwhelmed ya know? He said no one has ever done that for him so he got caught up. Then after that he was back to his normal wishy washy self. I should've said it then. I really wanted to. Now I'm just scared. Dang Venus in Cap! Whyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!
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Like now. He surprised me with a nice gift, we had a fun day, nice dinner and awesome sex. Monday I see Jim and he's all quiet and whatnot acting distant. I asked him what's wrong he says things are on his mind and we'll talk later. Later still hasn't come. Twatburger. If I said I love you I'd have to slap him. See? It's really all for the best! Lmao!



girl ur driving him crazy! has he said it to you? he's trying to figure out what he's doing wrong lol.



Ugh. Yes he said it. But it was after I overwhelmed him on his b-day. I feel like it was just impulsive because he was overwhelmed ya know? He said no one has ever done that for him so he got caught up. Then after that he was back to his normal wishy washy self. I should've said it then. I really wanted to. Now I'm just scared. Dang Venus in Cap! Whyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!
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ahh, i remeber you saying this now.

he said that because he was backpeddling and he doesnt want to come off as a dumbass because you didnt say it back. remember, smoke and mirrors.

i know right!venus in cap is putting the brakes on something. somthing is giving you pause or else you woulda been fast and furious with him. a venus in cap's interview process is NOT this long. your in limbo and you know exactly why. so until you deal with whats causing you pause, your going to have this "non-reaction" to everything.

for example, i know exactly why i dont full balls to the wall with my scorp. so i have been working to get over the mental blockage and release my emotions. kick saturn to the curb and let venus shine.
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@DMV no I worded that wrong. He didn't say it was because he was overwhelmed. That is what I tell myself as far as his reasons. He never took it back. When he said it I kissed him and hugged him then got in my car. There been no mention of it since.

I still can't get used to the poker face. I feel like this dude doesn't give two shits about me. He masks everything so much. I'm not used to that with men. And the men that were expressive I didn't love. Ain't that a bitch?
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@DMV no I worded that wrong. He didn't say it was because he was overwhelmed. That is what I tell myself as far as his reasons. He never took it back. When he said it I kissed him and hugged him then got in my car. There been no mention of it since.

I still can't get used to the poker face. I feel like this dude doesn't give two shits about me. He masks everything so much. I'm not used to that with men. And the men that were expressive I didn't love. Ain't that a bitch?



ah ha! you have to be clever to get him to reveal. for example, i have to trick this dude into spilling valuable information.

in the "he doesnt listen" thread, i wrote about how i felt he was full of shit when he walked into the room. long story short, then i told him "were done." i was cold and direct. didnt even look at him in the eye. he replies, (im paraphrashing) "NO WERE NOT." tries to get me to lighten up and i bat him away. then he retreated and sat in the corner staring at me. poor thing looked close to tears.

DMV, knows where he stands. there is a way around the poker face.

tell you what. HE feels like you dont give two shits about him since your johnny come lately with how you feel.
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RIGHT.........

So I have been ignoring him as he started to play 'games' again. I haven't physically or verbally spoken to him since the last time I slept with him which was a few weeks now.

So...

He calls me today talking a whole bunch of bullshit. Scorp; 'I just wanted to know that I'm still here, I haven't gone anywhere' Well how fucking sweet of you asshole!

He asks what I'm doing, tell him I busy right now (as I was) He asks to watch a movie with him even specifying the time. So I'm like OK cool. He tells me he's gonna call back in 10 and says 'You will answer won't you?'. Ughh

Does he call? NO! (the first time I actually believed his waffle in a long time). So he messages me 'You still there babe, Imma call you in a second. Nope NOTHING again. (this time I didn't hold my breath). He continues to send out 'generic' messages and update his status a ridiculous amount of times. Puuurleaaasssseee!! GIVE me FUCKING break for petes sake!

He has been playing with me all along. I feel like CRAP. I cannot believe I once again fell for his shit. He is actually beneath me and I REALLY do not care how that may come across to anyone. He doesn't deserve a good girl like me. I should have listened to Ringer, Stinger and Pothead when they sensed game playing. He is FUCKING fool and I am DONE with his shit!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


I'm not looking for any sympathy, this is ALL my own doing for being such an idiot. I have posted on Scorp thread, the original thread too. HIS people never come here to see what's occurring hence the same post for them.

THE END.
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I first felt anger, then sadness, now I'm angry again, resent him a little. I feel happy but also a bit down. I'm excited to see what is in store for me for the future cause now I can stop building my dreams around this freak of nature.

Some things are just not meant to be, that's all and THAT Scorp and me is one of those things.

Sorry to have gone on about this bullhockey for all these months. This is now where 'WE'RE' at.

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