Aries lady needs help with Scorpio fiance (Page 2)

We see here ^^^^ bitterness from getting burned in a relationship and projecting onto this woman, this pain, making as assessment based on own personal feelings in reflection of own personal injury and not taking into account of what has actually been said.

This woman is in need of healing .. and you would counsel her NOT to change ... when in reality, to change away from (heal past) a prior injury that is burdening her life IS what she needs to be emotionally healthy.


::: shakes head at ignorance :::



I truly don't understand this in people ... they can only see themselves, and would actually counsel based on self, rather than circumstances, impersonally.

Yeah i'm with you PA!!! Wow...

Considering the circumstances and everything that this lady has said, I actually get the impression that this guy loves her very deeply and he's trying to help her and clear the way, so that they can have a happy future together. Scorps have that wonderful side to them as well - they're not always dark, dramatic and manipulative.

"they're not always dark, dramatic and manipulative."

duh. everyone has many sides to them and changes over time, if not daily. and if you can name one perfect relationship without highs and lows, i'd like to meet those people.

PA- do you suggest i make an assesment based on someone else's perceptions rather than my own? perhaps yours? since you're so omniscient?

"the impression that this guy loves her very deeply and he's trying to help her and clear the way, so that they can have a happy future together."


Me also. At first, I thought she was being subserviant to him for lack of conviction, but, now that she has revealed her emotional injuries, and has conveyed to us that his expression to her on this topic has been done with compassion .... I would have to make the assessement that he has risen, and is no longer having to suffer on the ground stinging himself.


The Scorpio has to be one of the most amazing creatures once risen ... probably the most evolved, for they have the uncanny ability to completely shed theirselves, and begin anew .... whereas the rest of us usually spend a lifetime just coming to grips that change is necessary.

And then we find The Healer, at the end of the metamorphasis ... who was completely different when living as a manipulative beast, trying to kill people.

She's got a keeper .... now if she would only allow herself to trust him.

I can relate to lebelier and how reluctant she is to trust and I definitely understand the over giving, giving too much, many many many women fall into the over giving too accomodating box and just so you all know it doesn't make a man love you more, he begins to feel controlled, he begins to resent a woman and take her for granted, I feel you have a good man lebelier or he wouldn't have address the issue at all with you, I feel your reaction was more of how you interpreted what he said, you heard your not good enough although that wasn't what he was indicating at all.

You are a strong fearless woman, anyone that can insitefully say I'm in therapy due to past hurts and pains and these hurts and pains continue to effect my relationships and I want to get over the hump of letting these issues control my life is a wonderful beautiful human being and this is why men love you but it's really important to love yourself no matter how defeated you may feel, tell him your not up for giving him the excitement/tension he needs because you need to take care of you FIRST, tell him to take up a hobby to get his adrenaline pumping and allow you the space to be who you are and be who you need to be during your healing process

"can anyone out there help a true scorpio women snag a cancer man that i want badly. never had a cancer male. am currently with male scorpio, what a nut case, sooooo
pocessive and insecure, unreal. i know we get real tired of alot of drama i get bored will a cancer man keep me bored? need help have not even been out with him yet but cant wait till i do. ive noticed the moodiness in the texting already. should i keep persuing him with hes sexy etc. or back off— need advise"

Ugggghhh, I will take a scorp man with all his drama any day over a cancer man. Too whiney, clingy and moody. Girl, grass might look greener. But I am sure you and your scorp have some qualities together that you haven't found elsewhere.