Just Friends!!

Can the opposite sex just be friends? If there is an attraction?

Sure...but it's like living by a volcano. You never know when or if it will erupt

Both correct.

Posted by ARIES7733

Posted by happykitsune
Sure...but it's like living by a volcano. You never know when or if it will erupt

Perfect Description. Yes it is VERY HARD TOO!

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It comes from personal experience...
I had the difficult task of trying to be friends with my ex because we are so close, but at the time I still wanted him so it was so hard to keep control of my emotions so not even I could tell when I would "erupt" or give way to those emotions. Thankfully I am over him so we can be friends without "eruptions" haha

I'm friends w/ women who I find attractive & would not smash any of them for various reasons. Not to say I wouldn't mind, but I won't because it's simply not like that.

Haha guess ppl can figure out my thought pattern....my run in with the virgo prompt this thread.🙂

I'm sorry to tell you this mamita, pero (but) this guy sounds like he is using you just to reassure his own feelings; before he take the big leap of faith.....marriage. You may also, be doing the same thing with him, in a subconscious level, and may not even notice it. Not to be rude, but did you really believe he left his work in his apt, before he met you at the cafe.......I don't think he did that accidentally, Virgos would never forgive themselves, if they missed a detail that is financially related.

Spartaculous I love your honesty hon...If Mr Virgo thinks he is a player,he entered the wrong arena.
Libra was wating for over 2yrs and still didnt tap dat.🙂
I think I was just taken back....I was like what you couldnt seriously want to take another grl back to where you and ur missus lives.
The ony man stepping in my residential home is my aries....I guess scorpios roll differently.

Posted by Nemesis
usually there is always some subtle underlying "feeling" lingering between male and female.

of course if they are rational (circumstances are given) they will not give into these feelings, but if they could, many would.

True.🙂

Haha...true again. Give in and risk losing everything and be chastise by society OR just ignore that feeling and be a good christain.

Yes, you can. I'm married, but it doesn't mean I don't have male friends who are sexually attractive. And male friends whom I've already dated and know are rockin' in bed. Nothing's going to happen with them, though, because I wouldn't go there.

Posted by THEKingofLibra
Most people go in a plotting mode. I see the pointlessness of it all and look beyond the horizon. Then shit gets pretty abstract and I just close my eyes and feel.

Iron will power.🙂

Posted by Claire

Posted by FemmeScorpion
Can the opposite sex just be friends? If there is an attraction?

Of course they can, there are plenty of people who have control over themselves.

If there's a reason for them to not want to cross a boundary then it probably counts on how much they care about that reason. Otherwise why hold back?

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Well said Claire.

Thank god...i dont find any of my partner mates attractive.
I do have guys as mates but there was never a mutual attraction @ the beginning. So i guess the party who was attracted learned to accept the hand of friendship or nothing. 🙂

Posted by everevolvingepithet
To be honest I wouldn't want to shag my girlfriends friends, as for physical attraction men could sit and point out that all day, so just a g/f's friends is actually limiting if you think about it, and cause for an argument anyways.
But as Whimsy or Yourself pointed out, being round his friends and you want to shag them ?
Wow.
🙂

Whimsy?!!

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Yes whimsy.

Mmmmm fanciful or unreal. Well thank you cowboy

self-absorbed

Posted by FemmeScorpion
Can the opposite sex just be friends? If there is an attraction?

It is possible? Absolutely. But is a strictly platonic friendship often the result of opposite sex friendships? Most likely NOT.

It all depends on HOW each person picks their "friends." If you're picking your so called "Friends" like you would someone you'd consider a mate/companion, there's a HIGHER liklihood that the friendship won't be platonic the whole time. Yeah maybe in the beginning, but eventually someone will start liking the other person or perhaps even grow feelings.

Plus, if you're doing/saying things to/with your "strictly friends" that you'd normally only do with your companion, there's a higher liklihood that the friendship won't be platonic for long.

1 of my friend always wonders why she can't ever maintain platonic friendships with males. What she doesn't realize is that she picks her male friends in the same way she would persay she was looking for a boyfriend. For instance, why should it matter if he's hot/sexy if he's "just a friend?" Why should it matter if he's got a girlfriend already if your intention is to strictly befriend them? Technically, she shouldn't have to worry about that or be intimidated by that if she plans on just being his platonic "friend."

Friend zone is rape zone to men. Come on we all know this...

Posted by Whimsy
Yes, you can. I'm married, but it doesn't mean I don't have male friends who are sexually attractive. And male friends whom I've already dated and know are rockin' in bed. Nothing's going to happen with them, though, because I wouldn't go there.

Okay, I'm reposting this in case anyone thinks I want to bang my friends. You can notice people are attractive without wanting to do anything about it.

sexually attracted? Nah... I mean the only way this could work out is if you really don't physically see each other like that like that - then it's cool. Because if you see the person a LOT and have alone time with them, eventually your bodies may start to work around what you're mentally trying to suppress and find a way to have physical contact with that other person and if that starts happening... it's just a matter of time.

I can be a good long distance buddy though lol

Posted by aPiscesPrincess
Well I guess I should say it's not my definition of 'just friends'.. since everyone has their own definition of what 'just friends' are. Like for myself, I won't have sex with anyone unless I'm in a serious relationship with them, so I wouldn't be able to have sex with just a friend. To me love and sex goes hand in hand.

*Co-signing *

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Posted by DazedScorp
Don't get me wrong, I'd much rather have that emotional connection. It makes sex so much more pleasurable. But say you and your friend, who you've known for ages and share a mutal sexual attraction with, need to relieve some tension. No go for you? I mean, the love is there, just in a friendly love kind of way.

No, unless we want our friendship to be an exclusive relationship instead. I'm too possessive to be able to have sex with a guy and share him lol. I would only have sex with him if he's mine and mine only 😉 But that goes for me too.. I would only be his, I wouldn't 'share' my body with other guys either.

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Wow, that's exactly how I am......Call me prudish, with the rest of the guys, or what.....ain't no one gonna have fun with my PUNPUN but my man

*poompoom

@Nov5Male: "from blood of a slave, heart of a king"....hmm, is it spartacus, gladiator, 300, or moses...

I can be just friends...the rest is up to them *shrugs*

From experience, they're the ones that get weird

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Posted by brianafay
From experience, they're the ones that get weird

I've found it to be a case of who says this first sometimes.

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Lol shut it

With the Leo... (you know which one I'm talking about) when he started dating someone else I just kept treating him the same as I always have...just not expecting much of anything from him (not that I ever really did.)
I mean, I don't drunk text him anymore for obvious reasons (although he never even told me he was seeing someone so it's not like I should be aware of any boundaries to respect,) and don't initiate much contact with him anymore, besides when I see him in class. Any time we text it's because he initiates it now.

I'm very attracted to him, obviously, but I don't think it's a reason to start ignoring him...
He's a nice guy and he makes me laugh.

I won't not be his friend just because he has a dick and I wouldn't mind...but can't anymore because he's taken...Lol

LADIES that's absurd.

But you know he's the one who has been weird with me...he's not even as funny anymore.
He doesn't really flirt like he used to either. Good boy I guess?

*shrugs*

Posted by THEKingofLibra

Posted by Spartaculous
@Nov5Male: "from blood of a slave, heart of a king"....hmm, is it spartacus, gladiator, 300, or moses...

Neither. Its one of those stupid things rappers rap about that doesn't make sense. If Kings owned slaves, then you having a heart of a King is paramount to not having a human heart, and being pro-slavery, which is of course why you have the blood of a slave, because your mother is a whore.

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duh

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Posted by Spartaculous
@Nov5Male: "from blood of a slave, heart of a king"....hmm, is it spartacus, gladiator, 300, or moses...

Neither. Its one of those stupid things rappers rap about that doesn't make sense. If Kings owned slaves, then you having a heart of a King is paramount to not having a human heart, and being pro-slavery, which is of course why you have the blood of a slave, because your mother is a whore.

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LOL wtf

Lol

nappy headed hoezz

Lol yup

KOL I'll be the albino Nicki Minaj in the background sucking on a lollipop all inappropriately k?

Posted by brianafay
But you know he's the one who has been weird with me...he's not even as funny anymore.
He doesn't really flirt like he used to either. Good boy I guess?

*shrugs*

bu bu but he's taken...

Yeah whatever. 🙂

& back to my original statement...he's the one who can't handle being friends with the opposite sex apparently!
Haha

Posted by brianafay
Yeah whatever. 🙂

& back to my original statement...he's the one who can't handle being friends with the opposite sex apparently!
Haha

ahh there it is. The ever so convienient "whatever". Works for you in this situation huh? lol he can't handle it? maybe he's just trying to avoid ass thats calling him saying "come and get me, i'm ready" so he can be that good boy. 🙂

Maybe...Uuh, Maybe not with a Scorpio! LOL!

Posted by nov5male

Posted by brianafay
Yeah whatever. 🙂

& back to my original statement...he's the one who can't handle being friends with the opposite sex apparently!
Haha

ahh there it is. The ever so convienient "whatever". Works for you in this situation huh? lol he can't handle it? maybe he's just trying to avoid ass thats calling him saying "come and get me, i'm ready" so he can be that good boy. 🙂

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Whatever is my favorite word and yes I do say it like Whatevaaaaaaa

& please do not refer to me as "ass" that is SO rude...lol...

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Posted by brianafay
Yeah whatever. 🙂

& back to my original statement...he's the one who can't handle being friends with the opposite sex apparently!
Haha

ahh there it is. The ever so convienient "whatever". Works for you in this situation huh? lol he can't handle it? maybe he's just trying to avoid ass thats calling him saying "come and get me, i'm ready" so he can be that good boy. 🙂

Whatever is my favorite word and yes I do say it like Whatevaaaaaaa

& please do not refer to me as "ass" that is SO rude...lol...

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Hot piece of ? or behind? haaa Nah i'm joking - you know I didn't mean it in a bad way - don't be a big baby.

Yes, I usually take those whatevers as acknowledgement that I WON.

Posted by LeoGal4Real
Maybe...Uuh, Maybe not with a Scorpio! LOL!

Myth! We get a bad rap

Yes, it's still a myth to ME - the "maybe" says it all. I just haven't found out. Or not sure if I want to or not.

Posted by LeoGal4Real
Yes, it's still a myth to ME - the "maybe" says it all. I just haven't found out. Or not sure if I want to or not.

Don't be scared, dive in - dont' run from us. Get to know us/test the waters

I kinda stumbled on him or maybe him on me. Just haven't made up in my mind if I want to pursue him. I gotta clear my line up if I do because it appears as if you're relationship types. Nothing wrong with that, just not sure if I want that or not.

Would love to be "JUST FRIENDS" LOL!

I mean he probably can handle the just friends thing, it depends though. What I do know is that whether it's just friends thing or relationship he will want to be the one driving the car. You're good w that right?

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Posted by brianafay
Yeah whatever. 🙂

& back to my original statement...he's the one who can't handle being friends with the opposite sex apparently!
Haha

ahh there it is. The ever so convienient "whatever". Works for you in this situation huh? lol he can't handle it? maybe he's just trying to avoid ass thats calling him saying "come and get me, i'm ready" so he can be that good boy. 🙂

Whatever is my favorite word and yes I do say it like Whatevaaaaaaa

& please do not refer to me as "ass" that is SO rude...lol...

Hot piece of ? or behind? haaa Nah i'm joking - you know I didn't mean it in a bad way - don't be a big baby.

Yes, I usually take those whatevers as acknowledgement that I WON.

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Fineeeeeeeeeeee 🙂

Posted by THEKingofLibra
I understand Scorpios. They aren't that scary or stalkish. The word is 'devoted' and sometimes its very comforting to have someone who loves you for every fault and every wrinkle on your body and smiles in your face and opens their heart to you.

AWWWWWW, i knew you had it in you all this time.....

and furthermote Leogal4real and women claiming they cool w the just friends thing

I laugh because a lot of women say out of their mouths they cool with this until dude lays down the hammer all crazy then... magicially something changes - instantly. At least this is what I hear from my boys. One of my boys goes far enough to have a theory, he says if you dont want to mess up a homie/friend situation then don't bring you "A" game to the bedroom. lol Not sure it's that even possible but that's what he says... all the time.