Why do Scorpio's blow hot and cold??
Scorpio mixed signals
Because you do it first. We simply retaliate.
we're unsure of you or our own feelings, testing you, or just going through mood swings
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We can read thoughts honestly. Blowing hot and cold according to what you really think about us verses what you're trying to make us believe.
Posted by CherrylipsAgreed. I will mirror behaviour until I know where I stand. Once I'm sure about the individual I'll be bit more vulnerable or ice you out depending on my conclusion of your character.
Because you do it first. We simply retaliate.
I do sometimes get blindsided by the odd person and end up getting stung but I'll sting back harder (eventually)
Posted by VampScorpI'm at the process of "eventually" right this moment 🙂 Just waiting for an opportunity. My paybacks are notorious TBH, but I will never be unfair or unjust first. I will never strike first. Only retaliate. But by then, I've been hurt really bad...Posted by CherrylipsAgreed. I will mirror behaviour until I know where I stand. Once I'm sure about the individual I'll be bit more vulnerable or ice you out depending on my conclusion of your character.
Because you do it first. We simply retaliate.
I do sometimes get blindsided by the odd person and end up getting stung but I'll sting back harder (eventually)
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Posted by CherrylipsYes I'd never be unfair either, too much pride to sink to low levels. I wonder if the other person thinks it's fair? LolPosted by VampScorpI'm at the process of "eventually" right this moment 🙂 Just waiting for an opportunity. My paybacks are notorious TBH, but I will never be unfair or unjust first. I will never strike first. Only retaliate. But by then, I've been hurt really bad...Posted by CherrylipsAgreed. I will mirror behaviour until I know where I stand. Once I'm sure about the individual I'll be bit more vulnerable or ice you out depending on my conclusion of your character.
Because you do it first. We simply retaliate.
I do sometimes get blindsided by the odd person and end up getting stung but I'll sting back harder (eventually)
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Good luck with whatever it is you're dealing with. These type of conflicts affect me deeply, more than I let on to the outside world.
Posted by Zodiac1810
Why do Scorpio's blow hot and cold??
When we want to test you and find out how much you are into us. We aren't ready to give our all if the other person shows mixed signals. It's also a protecting mechanism to keep from you straying because some think that if they show too much interest they will lose you.
Why do Scorpio's blow hot and cold??
When we want to test you and find out how much you are into us. We aren't ready to give our all if the other person shows mixed signals. It's also a protecting mechanism to keep from you straying because some think that if they show too much interest they will lose you.
Why don't you stop trying to control the outcome and instead just accept things as they come?
The girl in seeing(she's a scorpio) she would go hot and cold on me a lot. Basically for a month she did this. I'd check in on her bc she said she was going through some things. She'd open up a little here and there. She'd say what's wrong with her, but not really talk about how it made her feel. Anyways she started warming up again after I assured her I was there for her, I made her a playlist full of happy really kick-ass songs that put people in better moods, I just kept telling her how awesome she is( she's always going hahahaha hush when I compliment her or tell her I like her) it's cute. We went on our first date last night and I was super nervous. She seemed nervous too . Ended up kissing which was awesome, I just went for it. Today she texted me and told me that she ended up liking me a lot more than she thought she would but that she already thought she was going to like me a lot. Said she had a lot of fun. So keep your head up and just keep being there for her, be secure and stable, be confident, and I'm sure she will warm up. Mine did. She's been super sweet all day. Which is very unlike her. Scorpios seem hard to read and get at first but if you just maintain a positive attitude and be there for them when they warm up to you they are super soft and so worth the wait and hot cold you get at first.
Posted by Zodiac1810
Why do Scorpio's blow hot and cold??
My scorp ex just blew bulls& $ t.
Nah, but I think its because alot of them are confused people. Thinking way to much, studying everything, convinced everyone is out to get them. They blow hot when they are turned on and blow cold when they think you are a threat to them
A threat can be anything from getting to close to them thinking you betrayed them somehow. You just never know with these individuals ?
Posted by MagicMona
1. mirroring my partner's actions.
2. the love is still strong, but i still need self time. i personally don't believe in having to "check in" all the time. esp. when our relationship is supposed to be built from trust and honesty. i will disappear, but i need you to know i will come back. i have a lot of "me" things to handle.
3. i know i am intense, but i don't want to lay it all on at once. so i pull back. due to experience, i know not all people respond well to my passionate nature. i am simply "too much" for some; if i really like you and things are fresh, i reign it in a bit because i don't want to scare you off.
4. testing. after i chase and shower you with love, i want to know if you are capable of doing the same. if i disappear, will you bother to chase? i want to know where i am on your list of priorities.
5. it was just a fling. i had fun but the excitement and mystery is over. it was nothing serious.
1. What if they're mirroring you? Will you both keep mirroring eachother?
2. When you disappear, do you make sure your love interest understands why?
3. I totally get that. However, when I start falling or caring for another, it's hard for me to hide it. And frankly, it's who I am, and I'm not going to pretend I'm something I'm not just to reel them in.
4. If you want a relationship based on honesty and trust, is testing them indicative of that. How would you feel if they started testing you?
5. Why don't you tell the person your not interested anymore?
My ex scorp only go cold with me in the start of our relationship because she hardly knew me and she aint sure of me yet but then when she saw how committed i am with her its all hot hot hot hot! ? and they take action depending on your action
One more time makes me think that Scorpios personality change with age.
And 40 y/old Scoepios have too much to do compare to 20y-old so they don't have time for this hot/cold crap.
And 40 y/old Scoepios have too much to do compare to 20y-old so they don't have time for this hot/cold crap.
Posted by GemitatiI dont know, age doesnt always equate to maturity. Some times it does and some times it doesn't. I know some pretty immature ppl in their 40's of all signs.
One more time makes me think that Scorpios personality change with age.
And 40 y/old Scoepios have too much to do compare to 20y-old so they don't have time for this hot/cold crap.
Posted by TheRealGemShadyWell gems are always young at heart. That's why we love y'all!Posted by TaurusinTexasThis all day. I'm a late bloomer...just now starting to act like a fucking grownup when it comes to matters of the heart (at 42). 🙂Posted by GemitatiI dont know, age doesnt always equate to maturity. Some times it does and some times it doesn't. I know some pretty immature ppl in their 40's of all signs.
One more time makes me think that Scorpios personality change with age.
And 40 y/old Scoepios have too much to do compare to 20y-old so they don't have time for this hot/cold crap.click to expand
Posted by TheRealGemShadyAgreed!Posted by AquariusBeautyHmm, but I don't chase...not unless I have no choice. 😆Posted by TheRealGemShadyGemini moonie here, so double the walking away. For me, air signs don't play these sort of tests. We might become distant because we're stuck in thought, not necessarily to test whether or not they chase. I think it would be the opposite effect on us. Same with Libras.Posted by AquariusBeautyAs a Gemini, same. I would fail that test whether I knew it was a test or not, on principle. Don't pull that shit on me. *shrugs*Posted by MagicMonaI suppose this is why Aqua + Scorp relationships don't work out. #4 I would take that as you not being interested in me and in a bid to protect my sensitive heart, I'd let you walk and assume you played me.
1. mirroring my partner's actions.
2. the love is still strong, but i still need self time. i personally don't believe in having to "check in" all the time. esp. when our relationship is supposed to be built from trust and honesty. i will disappear, but i need you to know i will come back. i have a lot of "me" things to handle.
3. i know i am intense, but i don't want to lay it all on at once. so i pull back. due to experience, i know not all people respond well to my passionate nature. i am simply "too much" for some; if i really like you and things are fresh, i reign it in a bit because i don't want to scare you off.
4. testing. after i chase and shower you with love, i want to know if you are capable of doing the same. if i disappear, will you bother to chase? i want to know where i am on your list of priorities.
5. it was just a fling. i had fun but the excitement and mystery is over. it was nothing serious.
We create distance = partner mimics => we chase
I think Taurus rising and/or Leo Mars may play a big part in this for me. It hurts me right in the ego. And I'm like "fuck you then. If you liked me, you wouldn't intentionally hurt me."
Edit: I mentioned Taurus rising, but it's probably Venus in Taurus more than the rising. And that Leo Mars.click to expand
Posted by MagicMonaBut you are playing games. You are playing with that person and expect care in return. Yes you showed them love before, but that doesn't excuse playing with their mind and heart.Posted by AquariusBeautyas interested as i would be, i'd still want to know if my partner was capable of at least showing half of what i showed them. if i pull back, will you even care to know why or just assume i was gaming? would you even care enough to come to me? that's the test that i give. if you fade away, i know it wasn't meant.Posted by MagicMonaI suppose this is why Aqua + Scorp relationships don't work out. #4 I would take that as you not being interested in me and in a bid to protect my sensitive heart, I'd let you walk and assume you played me.
1. mirroring my partner's actions.
2. the love is still strong, but i still need self time. i personally don't believe in having to "check in" all the time. esp. when our relationship is supposed to be built from trust and honesty. i will disappear, but i need you to know i will come back. i have a lot of "me" things to handle.
3. i know i am intense, but i don't want to lay it all on at once. so i pull back. due to experience, i know not all people respond well to my passionate nature. i am simply "too much" for some; if i really like you and things are fresh, i reign it in a bit because i don't want to scare you off.
4. testing. after i chase and shower you with love, i want to know if you are capable of doing the same. if i disappear, will you bother to chase? i want to know where i am on your list of priorities.
5. it was just a fling. i had fun but the excitement and mystery is over. it was nothing serious.click to expand
Posted by Zodiac1810Adjusting the temperature.
Why do Scorpio's blow hot and cold??
Posted by AquariusBeautyWhy is everyone so emotionally broken that they have such defenses? The world is mean to kind people.Posted by MagicMonaYes precisely. As a female, his actions would tell me he was just toying with me. Till this day I don't know if he was serious or using me. According to him on some occasions, he wasn't and when he was mad, he was. Speaking in outside terms when I'd tell friends, who aren't familiar with astrology, they'd tell me all the same. He was playing me and used me as a side piece or 'in between' to when he actually found his true love.Posted by AquariusBeautyso it's our testing, fears, and negative thinking that ultimately end our pairing, although we could very much be in love. it's sad when you think about it.Posted by MagicMonaIt's different perceptions, hence why it's difficult to make these pairings work. Need a lot of time and patience because I would assume that you didn't want me, and were using me. I would presume it would be the same with Aquarius playing the hot/cold vibe. We're not trying to be that way, we just are, and some are worse than others. A Scorpio would become frustrated with this since they need consistency. An Aqua would view it as another day at the park.Posted by AquariusBeautyas interested as i would be, i'd still want to know if my partner was capable of at least showing half of what i showed them. if i pull back, will you even care to know why or just assume i was gaming? would you even care enough to come to me? that's the test that i give. if you fade away, i know it wasn't meant.Posted by MagicMonaI suppose this is why Aqua + Scorp relationships don't work out. #4 I would take that as you not being interested in me and in a bid to protect my sensitive heart, I'd let you walk and assume you played me.
1. mirroring my partner's actions.
2. the love is still strong, but i still need self time. i personally don't believe in having to "check in" all the time. esp. when our relationship is supposed to be built from trust and honesty. i will disappear, but i need you to know i will come back. i have a lot of "me" things to handle.
3. i know i am intense, but i don't want to lay it all on at once. so i pull back. due to experience, i know not all people respond well to my passionate nature. i am simply "too much" for some; if i really like you and things are fresh, i reign it in a bit because i don't want to scare you off.
4. testing. after i chase and shower you with love, i want to know if you are capable of doing the same. if i disappear, will you bother to chase? i want to know where i am on your list of priorities.
5. it was just a fling. i had fun but the excitement and mystery is over. it was nothing serious.
I personally dealt with a Scorpio dominant male (26% ) of his chart, and I felt like he was toying with me. Because at the moment where I would begin to open up and give myself, he'd pull away. When I'd pull away and walk away, he'd come back. So to me it seemed like he was toying with my emotions.
Also my version of chasing or going after someone is reaching out once maybe a couple times after that, sporadically. The reason being is that I don't want tempers to flare and I know now that Scorpios take that as toying or 'aloofness'. When the reality is, that we're testing the waters to see if it's safe. I'm extremely sensitive to my SOs rejection. Call it exaggeration but if he rebuffs my affections, I assume the worst possible scenario. (Cheating, playing, lying, conniving, etc) when the reality could be very different
My logic agrees with this since I'm all about action and words of affirmation. If he tells me he loves me but plays the hot and cold game, my paranoia and insecurity of being played a fool, would tell me to pull back because he's not taking me seriously. My emotional defenses and walls go up and I shut down and become distant. So it's this cycle of hot and cold, push and pull. Simply because Aquarius and Scorpios are two different elements that correspond differently.
The beauty in this though, is the storm and rain of emotional limits that is reached with this pairing. It's quite phenomenal to be honest. It's almost too freaky, even for me, to be able to connect on a different plane with a Scorpio.click to expand
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