Scorpio Sex Coach Drama

Sighh.. I have another story y'all. This one has been in the picture for two years now and likes to just dip a toe in the water and see how it is.

She's a Scorpio Sun, Sag Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Gemini Mars, 33 years old I think.

Anyway, we dated 2 years back and I met her at the gym. She approached me and asked if I wanted to model in some underwear with her. Clever ice breaker.. We banter a bit and exchange numbers. She ends up telling me she's moving in two weeks however but wanted to see where things went with me. Apparently, I never caught her signals (there were none).

Oh, I suppose I should add she is a sexual health educator for women and basically coaches them on learning their bodies amongst other things as her side gig.

Our sexual chemistry was off the charts and she ends up moving to San Diego but wants to continue seeing me. In-between her move she visits some friends in Texas and family in another state. I make plans and fly out her birthday weekend and meet the whole crew. Quite an interesting group of friends she has.. but it was a good time.

Things went a little south as I did not get her a birthday gift in person (she ran to get me a gift prior to me getting there). I had intentions on it, but I understood how she felt. She is an avoidant personality so in conflict she bottles up and goes off the radar. Keep in mind, we were not exclusive and did not discuss gifts.

After her birthday weekend we chat here and there and she falls off the face of the earth after two weeks or so. I reached out and apologized, then she hits me with the friends speech. I decline and she deletes me from social media. Some time passes and she finds out I'm moving about 6 months later. Contact here and there but inconsistent.

Fast-forward to this year.. We're both dating other people but the past 3 months she has messaged me every single day. She constantly sends me sexual memes or tries to re-live our adventures. She's asked me twice now to come see her in Cali and have sex. I decline as I'm not flying across the country for some ass. The Scorpio does 100% of the initiating here..

She constantly inquires about my dating life and wants to know where she stands in sex rankings. Like is there someone doing it better than her.. She called and apologized two weeks ago that she hasn't came to see me yet. She's not in the proper headspace. On top of this, a couple days later she tells me she's going to an Adult Industry convention in Miami and she's going to promote her work. She notices on my page (which she doesn't follow) that I went skydiving and mentions she's doing that in Miami as well.

I think to myself, "oh she can make time for that huh".. So business as usual with ignoring her. Last week, she sends me a podcast where she claims she spilled some of our relationship history on the there but she didn't say too much. I listen to the podcast and she mentions she's going to Miami with her boo. They're meeting along with her friend from San Diego.

So I call her out and she says she has no words to explain. She admits she's caught, but says I need to come have sex with her before the guy arrives as she misses me and they're more friends now. I jokingly tell her she's trying to have us on the news, but I need to think about it.

Today, she messages me that she went to go see a psychic and they relayed her husband is arriving in 3-6 months, but she needs to heal first. She tells me I need to come blow her back out before her man arrives.

What is wrong with this woman—

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I wish my name was still eyeroll because this Scorpio lady needs some heavy eyeroll

This woman has options.. maybe not for a commitment, but she has a man to sleep with. I don't understand her persistence. Sex is 85% of what she talks about with me. With the other 15% being books we read or mental health discussions.

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I wish my name was still eyeroll because this Scorpio lady needs some heavy eyeroll

This woman has options.. maybe not for a commitment, but she has a man to sleep with. I don't understand her persistence. Sex is 85% of what she talks about with me. With the other 15% being books we read or mental health discussions.
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She’s kind of funny. I think she probably just likes that you’ve remained cool and collected when other men are probably chasing her. As an avoidant she wants to know she can come and go as she pleases and you mostly let her.

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She's communicated she feels comfortable and I understand her. I just don't understand her end goal here.. I went outside a few minutes ago to check my phone and she says she was patiently waiting for my response regarding the psychic saying her man is showing up soon. I was eating lunch and went back to work 🤣🤣

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I wish my name was still eyeroll because this Scorpio lady needs some heavy eyeroll

This woman has options.. maybe not for a commitment, but she has a man to sleep with. I don't understand her persistence. Sex is 85% of what she talks about with me. With the other 15% being books we read or mental health discussions.
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She’s kind of funny. I think she probably just likes that you’ve remained cool and collected when other men are probably chasing her. As an avoidant she wants to know she can come and go as she pleases and you mostly let her.
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She's communicated she feels comfortable and I understand her. I just don't understand her end goal here.. I went outside a few minutes ago to check my phone and she says she was patiently waiting for my response regarding the psychic saying her man is showing up soon. I was eating lunch and went back to work 🤣🤣


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I wanna know why you didn’t get her a gift.


You say you weren’t exclusive blah blah but when she gave you the friends speech after you showed up empty handed you said no?

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My birthday is about 3 weeks before hers. Yes we weren't together so I did not consider a gift.. She surprised me with some cologne. We went to the same gym for several months and she waited until she was moving to speak. I honestly thought she just wanted sex, but I think she caught feelings later on.

I suppose her interest fizzled out as she felt I was not interested in her. Just miscommunication I think. The avoidant personality began to show and I backed off. Gave her some space and then eventually told her we needed to discuss.

Boom friend's speech and I decline because that was a cop-out. Not a geniune offer.

Posted by 1917191
2 years of wishy washy miscommunication /reading minds sounds like too much work. What's her moon sign?


Side note, all the women you have issues with have part of my placements 💀.

Ohh we would get along lol. Her Moon is Virgo 😂😂

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2 years of wishy washy miscommunication /reading minds sounds like too much work. What's her moon sign?

Side note, all the women you have issues with have part of my placements 💀.

Ohh we would get along lol. Her Moon is Virgo 😂😂

Darn. I was hoping to check off the moon placement too.

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Dang.. I guess we'll just have to wait until I have drama with someone else. Then we can check her moon!

Posted by StubbornSag
What's wrong with her is a job for a psychiatrist 😂 well, she certainly sounds pretty much insane from all what you wrote at least. Also she can't take rejection and has extremely low selfesteem (since she asks from you to compare her with your other sexual partners) which is why she's not quite suitable to be anyone's coach for that matter

She's not a psychiatrist. She does the coaching on the side and basically you pay her to have a better experience with your man. Amongst other things like women's health and relationship discussions.

No certification required, but she has a decent following of about 10K.

Ah.. without putting all her business out there she does have some severe issues with her father. But she actively seeks therapy and self-improvement. At least she tries and acknowledges.

I'm diplomatic with her, but she's definitely chasing and falls into approval seeking behavior. She sent me a meme earlier saying "me as a wife."

The sex comparison thing is weird.. It's an indirect comparison most of the time, but it's like she wants me to validate I like her and want to sleep with her again.

Like several weeks ago we were talking and she makes a reference about squirting. She's never squirted, but wants to know if I made another woman do it. I answered but did not give a time-frame and there was silence. Hell, I kept the details minimum and she disappeared for the night. Then business as usual with the sexual memes the next day. Her thing is literally sending sexual memes. Every...day.

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What's wrong with her is a job for a psychiatrist 😂 well, she certainly sounds pretty much insane from all what you wrote at least. Also she can't take rejection and has extremely low selfesteem (since she asks from you to compare her with your other sexual partners) which is why she's not quite suitable to be anyone's coach for that matter

She's not a psychiatrist. She does the coaching on the side and basically you pay her to have a better experience with your man. Amongst other things like women's health and relationship discussions.

No certification required, but she has a decent following of about 10K.


Ah.. without putting all her business out there she does have some severe issues with her father. But she actively seeks therapy and self-improvement. At least she tries and acknowledges.


I'm diplomatic with her, but she's definitely chasing and falls into approval seeking behavior. She sent me a meme earlier saying "me as a wife."


The sex comparison thing is weird.. It's an indirect comparison most of the time, but it's like she wants me to validate I like her and want to sleep with her again.


Like several weeks ago we were talking and she makes a reference about squirting. She's never squirted, but wants to know if I made another woman do it. I answered but did not give a time-frame and there was silence. Hell, I kept the details minimum and she disappeared for the night. Then business as usual with the sexual memes the next day. Her thing is literally sending sexual memes. Every...day.

No, I meant to say she needs to see psychiatrist😅 what she's saying is pretty delusional and from what I can tell she is simply trying to get to you in any way possible, even with such ridiculous stuff like marriage is on the way or whatever it was that she said😅 It indicates that she feels rejected and she's simply trying to get you to sleep with her again for her own validation for whatever reason she might have. If you have her birth date, check if her Lilith is in Scorpio too or if it's aspecting Pluto. Might explain some of that attitude...

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Pluto in Scorpio and Lilith in Sag

I don't know why Scorpio women chase Libra men.

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Posted by Eggroll
I wish my name was still eyeroll because this Scorpio lady needs some heavy eyeroll

This woman has options.. maybe not for a commitment, but she has a man to sleep with. I don't understand her persistence. Sex is 85% of what she talks about with me. With the other 15% being books we read or mental health discussions.

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She’s deranged

But the key is your continued rejection of her. She wants to win you over

Good lord this woman is teaching other women about sexual conduct, god save us all.

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Posted by Eggroll
I wish my name was still eyeroll because this Scorpio lady needs some heavy eyeroll

This woman has options.. maybe not for a commitment, but she has a man to sleep with. I don't understand her persistence. Sex is 85% of what she talks about with me. With the other 15% being books we read or mental health discussions.
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She’s deranged

But the key is your continued rejection of her. She wants to win you over

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I knew we had problems when she put me in her close friends on IG and we don’t follow each other.

Speaking of that, sent me her story earlier with the “me as a wife” reference. I looked at it then it flipped to the next story which said she wants to try a polyamorous relationship (close friends). Remember her relationship with the guy is failing and she invited me to Miami before he arrives.

I thought she was just running back, then I realized she’s been messaging me the entire length of their situationship 🤣

I don’t want to see you in The next crime show. Most murders involve live triangles lol.

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I don’t want to see you in The next crime show. Most murders involve live triangles lol.

Hell, at this point she might take the bullet for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣.

Kidding.

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What's wrong with her is a job for a psychiatrist 😂 well, she certainly sounds pretty much insane from all what you wrote at least. Also she can't take rejection and has extremely low selfesteem (since she asks from you to compare her with your other sexual partners) which is why she's not quite suitable to be anyone's coach for that matter

She's not a psychiatrist. She does the coaching on the side and basically you pay her to have a better experience with your man. Amongst other things like women's health and relationship discussions.

No certification required, but she has a decent following of about 10K.


Ah.. without putting all her business out there she does have some severe issues with her father. But she actively seeks therapy and self-improvement. At least she tries and acknowledges.


I'm diplomatic with her, but she's definitely chasing and falls into approval seeking behavior. She sent me a meme earlier saying "me as a wife."


The sex comparison thing is weird.. It's an indirect comparison most of the time, but it's like she wants me to validate I like her and want to sleep with her again.


Like several weeks ago we were talking and she makes a reference about squirting. She's never squirted, but wants to know if I made another woman do it. I answered but did not give a time-frame and there was silence. Hell, I kept the details minimum and she disappeared for the night. Then business as usual with the sexual memes the next day. Her thing is literally sending sexual memes. Every...day.

No, I meant to say she needs to see psychiatrist😅 what she's saying is pretty delusional and from what I can tell she is simply trying to get to you in any way possible, even with such ridiculous stuff like marriage is on the way or whatever it was that she said😅 It indicates that she feels rejected and she's simply trying to get you to sleep with her again for her own validation for whatever reason she might have. If you have her birth date, check if her Lilith is in Scorpio too or if it's aspecting Pluto. Might explain some of that attitude...
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Pluto in Scorpio and Lilith in Sag
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Are they in conjunct maybe? 8th house or something? There's a lot more that could explain her behavior but it would take a deeper analyze of her chart with asteroids and their aspects...

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Nah, her mercury and Lilith are in conjunct. Also, her Mars & Lilith are in opposition. I don't have her birth time to see houses.

The core issue goes back to her father. Abandonment as a toddler and there's no reason why. He just up & left one day and has never contacted her since. She's reached out and again, no return call.

She's searching for acceptance. She thinks hedonism is the way to find love. But it's just an endless journey of self-pleasure. Because she's avoidant she can't communicate her boundaries or needs. She just clams up and expects the guy to just know.

It's a shit-show honestly. She meets men all the time and has tons of connections. I don't know why she lingers. She's the one who broke it off 2 years ago.

But I give her the benefit of the doubt because she at least tries. Just misguided.. She's not a bad person and she's pretty solid in other aspects opposed to romance. Her & her mother are in Bali this week and going to Fiji next month.

That’s soooo boring to me. Wanna bore me?? Talk about nothing but sex lol Anyone can have sex or talk about sex, and yes sometimes it’s fun. But geezus when that’s ALL you have to say, I wonder how much depth you actually have, and self control. Too much of one thing is never good. I think since she has father issues, she learned that sex gets her interest. And without the self worth and esteem from a loving father, she’s learned to seek approval and validation from her sexual interests. The sex sounds like it may have been better on her side than yours. But finding reciprocity is hard, I don’t care who you are.

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That’s soooo boring to me. Wanna bore me?? Talk about nothing but sex lol Anyone can have sex or talk about sex, and yes sometimes it’s fun. But geezus when that’s ALL you have to say, I wonder how much depth you actually have, and self control. Too much of one thing is never good. I think since she has father issues, she learned that sex gets her interest. And without the self worth and esteem from a loving father, she’s learned to seek approval and validation from her sexual interests. The sex sounds like it may have been better on her side than yours. But finding reciprocity is hard, I don’t care who you are.

I just addressed the daddy issues in the post above.

Ahh, the constant sex discussion stems from her work I think. all she talks about is hedonism on podcasts so it translates to her conversations. If it's not that, it's a book on self-improvement. She doesn't have any hobbies other than working out lol. It's like the Virgo Sun/Venus I was dating last month. All she wanted to talk about was men going to therapy and self-improvement. Because those were the topics on her podcast.

Travel, podcasts and sex are the Scorpio's life. She doesn't watch tv, garden or anything remotely worth discussing. I had to teach her how to keep plants alive.

No, the sex was great and she's down to do it where ever. I just don't want to talk about it all the time and it's not mentally stimulating.

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The core issue goes back to her father. Abandonment as a toddler and there's no reason why. He just up & left one day and has never contacted her since. She's reached out and again, no return call.



She's searching for acceptance. She thinks hedonism is the way to find love. But it's just an endless journey of self-pleasure. Because she's avoidant she can't communicate her boundaries or needs. She just clams up and expects the guy to just know.


Yeah it sounds like you have her figured out.



So knowing she has these wounds and issues, have you been direct and called her out on this?

We've chatted about it briefly. Still a sensitive area she's navigating as far as the father thing. I'm thinking it's just a closure thing at this point. The whole "why?" angle.

As far as her work and the hedonism aspect to love issue, I can't change that. That's her passion and she's dumped so much of her time and several years networking to build that platform. I gently nudge her every now & then but she'll push back. Then circle back to what I told her later on. I do notice she puts on a righteous act with me, and isn't fully honest. We've discussed polyamous relationships before because she has done podcasts with multiple people into that. She'll push back and say she's not into it. Then I see the post last night "I think this relationship style is for me."

The Scorpio acknowledges the communication issues on her end, but again she'll revert back. She's in Bali this week so she wanted something to listen to for the flight. I sent her typical style of music and she enjoyed the song, putting it on repeat. I asked what other genre she wants and she says "you know what I like already." That's always her answer.. "you know me", so why ask basically.

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That’s soooo boring to me. Wanna bore me?? Talk about nothing but sex lol Anyone can have sex or talk about sex, and yes sometimes it’s fun. But geezus when that’s ALL you have to say, I wonder how much depth you actually have, and self control. Too much of one thing is never good. I think since she has father issues, she learned that sex gets her interest. And without the self worth and esteem from a loving father, she’s learned to seek approval and validation from her sexual interests. The sex sounds like it may have been better on her side than yours. But finding reciprocity is hard, I don’t care who you are.

I just addressed the daddy issues in the post above.


Ahh, the constant sex discussion stems from her work I think. all she talks about is hedonism on podcasts so it translates to her conversations. If it's not that, it's a book on self-improvement. She doesn't have any hobbies other than working out lol. It's like the Virgo Sun/Venus I was dating last month. All she wanted to talk about was men going to therapy and self-improvement. Because those were the topics on her podcast.


Travel, podcasts and sex are the Scorpio's life. She doesn't watch tv, garden or anything remotely worth discussing. I had to teach her how to keep plants alive.


No, the sex was great and she's down to do it where ever. I just don't want to talk about it all the time and it's not mentally stimulating.

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That’s frustrating. When the sex is great but there’s nothing else really there. Fun for a time but….. are you willing to put in the time to teach her healthy intimacy? And then to what end? Just my thoughts…

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That’s soooo boring to me. Wanna bore me?? Talk about nothing but sex lol Anyone can have sex or talk about sex, and yes sometimes it’s fun. But geezus when that’s ALL you have to say, I wonder how much depth you actually have, and self control. Too much of one thing is never good. I think since she has father issues, she learned that sex gets her interest. And without the self worth and esteem from a loving father, she’s learned to seek approval and validation from her sexual interests. The sex sounds like it may have been better on her side than yours. But finding reciprocity is hard, I don’t care who you are.

I just addressed the daddy issues in the post above.

Ahh, the constant sex discussion stems from her work I think. all she talks about is hedonism on podcasts so it translates to her conversations. If it's not that, it's a book on self-improvement. She doesn't have any hobbies other than working out lol. It's like the Virgo Sun/Venus I was dating last month. All she wanted to talk about was men going to therapy and self-improvement. Because those were the topics on her podcast.

Travel, podcasts and sex are the Scorpio's life. She doesn't watch tv, garden or anything remotely worth discussing. I had to teach her how to keep plants alive.

No, the sex was great and she's down to do it where ever. I just don't want to talk about it all the time and it's not mentally stimulating.
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That’s frustrating. When the sex is great but there’s nothing else really there. Fun for a time but….. are you willing to put in the time to teach her healthy intimacy? And then to what end? Just my thoughts…

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Eh, I think she's too emotionally damaged at this point. She doesn't know what love is.. we were having a convo during lunch and I asked her does she know what love is. She told me she was finishing up a podcast and would answer later, but left this quote "love is messy."

Edit: She just answered and said messy to her means highs and lows. She has always believed in the concept of "The One" and lived in a scarcity mindset. Over time she's learned there are many different forms of love for her to give out, but she's guarded. She has been unable to tell her closest friends and partners she loves them and does not understand why.

She can't express herself verbally and she hates it. Then went on to explain love is commitment to self and partner, fun, acceptance, accountability and honoring self. But the way she expressed it seemed like a hedonistic POV. She didn't mention anything about sacrifice.

I just skimmed through it. It honestly sounded sad.

Posted by IceStorm
Where is chiron in her chart? Which house and which sign?

Looks like it's in Cancer. I'll have to get her birth time tonight.

Don’t white knight

idk but she sounds hilarious 😂😂

and is prob compatible with a mutable sun/fixed moon.

also libra/scorp is a bad match, what with my scorp aunt and libra uncle.

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idk but she sounds hilarious 😂😂


and is prob compatible with a mutable sun/fixed moon.


also libra/scorp is a bad match, what with my scorp aunt and libra uncle.

My moon is Aqua. But it's just a bad match overall. I can only imagine trying to explain to my parents her podcasts are about vulvas and discussing toys 😂😂

Romance aside, she's cool people and very spontaneous.

Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.

I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.

You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

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Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.


I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.


You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

She hasn't been upfront about the whole thing. She lies by omission.

I think I mentioned it before, but she had invited me to Miami and then sent me a podcast she recorded earlier that week as a guest speaker on someone's show. She mentions in it that they are dating and she's meeting up with her man there.

What I'm getting at here is, she can do her own thing, but don't blow smoke up my ass. Be congruent.

She didn't kick me out, but she wanted to spend time alone before they arrived. There's only one bed and I'm sure he's unaware I was there.

The sexual memes are much more consistent than the cooking vids. They come maybe weekly, where as the sexual memes are daily.

I do not have a girlfriend. However, she did book a trip to my city in October for a "woman's retreat" and when I left she said "She you in October." The ticket was purchased before she asked me my plans.

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.


Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.


No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣


We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.


I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.


As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)


Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣


She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."


She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️


Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.

Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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Posted by saggurl88
Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.

I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.

You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

She hasn't been upfront about the whole thing. She lies by omission.


I think I mentioned it before, but she had invited me to Miami and then sent me a podcast she recorded earlier that week as a guest speaker on someone's show. She mentions in it that they are dating and she's meeting up with her man there.


What I'm getting at here is, she can do her own thing, but don't blow smoke up my ass. Be congruent.


She didn't kick me out, but she wanted to spend time alone before they arrived. There's only one bed and I'm sure he's unaware I was there.


The sexual memes are much more consistent than the cooking vids. They come maybe weekly, where as the sexual memes are daily.


I do not have a girlfriend. However, she did book a trip to my city in October for a "woman's retreat" and when I left she said "She you in October." The ticket was purchased before she asked me my plans.

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Well you seem to be going along with her plans, but you should figure out what she is exactly lying about. Seems like she baited you by saying she was dating but then in the end they could really be just friends.

Have an open conversation with her to see which lie is the actual truth.

Maybe she isn't sure where your head is- (I don't know how it ended 2 years ago)

But she clearly is trying to make space in her life for you.

If you don't like it or think she's blowing smoke up your ass, then communicate and ask her what the hell is going on and where is all of this coming from all of the sudden.

Or just go with the fwb theme if that's what you like, but she's not crazy if you keep dipping into her pool when it's available.

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.


Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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What does DA mean?

lol @ sending her a personal development Youtube channel.

If my ex met up with me on vacation, fucked me, and then sent a channel like this, that would definitely be one great way to get rid of me!

He would be blocked and deleted with the quickness.

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.


Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.


No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣


We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.


I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.


As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)


Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣


She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."


She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️


Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.
You call her out without being nasty about it.
You accept her as she is.
You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.
You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.
She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol
You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.

Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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Interesting, it really just boils down to being indifferent towards her. I've analyzed her enough to get a feel for her patterns and decision making.

I suppose it helps that she lives in California also. I don't feel tempted to chase and I understand she's unstable from a family perspective. She's always on the move, seeking another adventure. Might be a mix of laziness too. If you're not located within 60 minutes of me, I can just find someone else. There's too much traffic here and my job is currently too hectic to book flights constantly 😂.

You're right though, some of her behavior is a defense mechanism. She's expressed she can't tell people close to her she loves them. About 3 weeks ago, I got a "I ❤ you". First time she's ever said anything like that. I asked how she felt and she said "it felt crunchy"

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Posted by saggurl88
Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.

I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.

You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

She hasn't been upfront about the whole thing. She lies by omission.

I think I mentioned it before, but she had invited me to Miami and then sent me a podcast she recorded earlier that week as a guest speaker on someone's show. She mentions in it that they are dating and she's meeting up with her man there.

What I'm getting at here is, she can do her own thing, but don't blow smoke up my ass. Be congruent.

She didn't kick me out, but she wanted to spend time alone before they arrived. There's only one bed and I'm sure he's unaware I was there.

The sexual memes are much more consistent than the cooking vids. They come maybe weekly, where as the sexual memes are daily.

I do not have a girlfriend. However, she did book a trip to my city in October for a "woman's retreat" and when I left she said "She you in October." The ticket was purchased before she asked me my plans.
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Is there any chance she might be talking about you in that podcast?

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Zero.

She told me what she discussed about me in the podcast.. it was about sex. Not a Miami trip. I called her out and she then told me about the guy for the first time.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.

Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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What does DA mean?


lol @ sending her a personal development Youtube channel.


If my ex met up with me on vacation, fucked me, and then sent a channel like this, that would definitely be one great way to get rid of me!

He would be blocked and deleted with the quickness.

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Hilarious.

We were never together though. This lasted literally 3 months 2 years ago. Haven't seen each other since as we live pretty far apart.

She's invited me to visit, but if you ended things why on earth would I do all the leg work to come see you?

I stalled her out and she ended up visiting FL two years later.

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Posted by LuckyLibra7

Posted by saggurl88
Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.

I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.

You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

She hasn't been upfront about the whole thing. She lies by omission.

I think I mentioned it before, but she had invited me to Miami and then sent me a podcast she recorded earlier that week as a guest speaker on someone's show. She mentions in it that they are dating and she's meeting up with her man there.

What I'm getting at here is, she can do her own thing, but don't blow smoke up my ass. Be congruent.

She didn't kick me out, but she wanted to spend time alone before they arrived. There's only one bed and I'm sure he's unaware I was there.

The sexual memes are much more consistent than the cooking vids. They come maybe weekly, where as the sexual memes are daily.

I do not have a girlfriend. However, she did book a trip to my city in October for a "woman's retreat" and when I left she said "She you in October." The ticket was purchased before she asked me my plans.
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Is there any chance she might be talking about you in that podcast?
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Zero.


She told me what she discussed about me in the podcast.. it was about sex. Not a Miami trip. I called her out and she then told me about the guy for the first time.

You can't even trust her. Why are you still entertaining this. This doesn't make sense.

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Romance wise she needs some work. But she'd make a fantastic business partner and she would be of good assistance later down the road with her connections and investments she has.

She plans to move out of the country to clear her debt, then buy two vacation rentals and a yacht within the next 5-8 years.

Posted by ATGR
So you dickmatized her? 🤣

I don't even think she knows what's going on 😂😂😂.

Caught in a trance.

Posted by LuckyLibra7

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.

Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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What does DA mean?

lol @ sending her a personal development Youtube channel.

If my ex met up with me on vacation, fucked me, and then sent a channel like this, that would definitely be one great way to get rid of me!

He would be blocked and deleted with the quickness.
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Hilarious.


We were never together though. This lasted literally 3 months 2 years ago. Haven't seen each other since as we live pretty far apart.


She's invited me to visit, but if you ended things why on earth would I do all the leg work to come see you?


I stalled her out and she ended up visiting FL two years later.

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She's visited you and now you have plans to see her in October- seems like your LDR is going well! 😆

She seems to be getting what she wants from you. If you don't want to keep this up, then tell her to kick rocks. Scorpios are wormy little things that will find ways to get what they want, and you are giving her an all access card to you. TELL HER NO.

She will keep trying to press for things to go her way until you tell her no.

Are her actions confusing you or are you fine with this new arrangement? You guys live far away from each other. When she sent the "I heart you" did you say anything that was love related before or after to her?

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Posted by LuckyLibra7

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.

Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

click to expand

What does DA mean?

lol @ sending her a personal development Youtube channel.

If my ex met up with me on vacation, fucked me, and then sent a channel like this, that would definitely be one great way to get rid of me!

He would be blocked and deleted with the quickness.
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Hilarious.


We were never together though. This lasted literally 3 months 2 years ago. Haven't seen each other since as we live pretty far apart.


She's invited me to visit, but if you ended things why on earth would I do all the leg work to come see you?


I stalled her out and she ended up visiting FL two years later.

She's visited you and now you have plans to see her in October- seems like your LDR is going well! 😆

She seems to be getting what she wants from you. If you don't want to keep this up, then tell her to kick rocks. Scorpios are wormy little things that will find ways to get what they want, and you are giving her an all access card to you. TELL HER NO.

She will keep trying to press for things to go her way until you tell her no.

Are her actions confusing you or are you fine with this new arrangement? You guys live far away from each other. When she sent the "I heart you" did you say anything that was love related before or after to her?

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Lol I don't even know what to call this.

I wouldn't say she has an all-access card. She asked what my plans were in October and that she's willing to adjust her schedule. But again, this was after she got the ticket.

She'll press as long as the stars align. If we're in a phase where we need to communicate then she'll put up the wall.

I'm fine with the arrangement but I know October is too long for her. I did not say anything before or after other than hearting her message.

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I got bored by just reading this. That's how exciting and entertaining your adventure with her is. Really? You really still think there is another guy and don't get that you were manipulated to get exactly what she wanted? Wow lol she's good. But I'm not surprised, after all masters of manipulation, manipulating someone isn't something new

I’m confused as to how I would be manipulated when she’s doing the investing here. Everything was already paid for and I just showed up.

The other guy is there. They were out all night and she doesn’t know anyone in Miami. She just doesn’t mention him individually.

Two guys showed up but one of them wasn’t staying at the Airbnb. He may have gotten his own spot or is staying with someone else. Her high school friend apparently.

Lol all of this information was on the podcast. She lied by omission in regards to how she knows the guy. But she has said from the beginning friends were accompanying her in Miami.

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.


Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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lol @ sending her a personal development Youtube channel.

If my ex met up with me on vacation, fucked me, and then sent a channel like this, that would definitely be one great way to get rid of me!
He would be blocked and deleted with the quickness.

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Dismissive avoid attachment style .

Like I said if things go south. It's not fun when you hurt yourself and people you love & want in your life, out of a compulsive knee jerk reaction to close relationships...

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Sighh.. I have another story y'all. This one has been in the picture for two years now and likes to just dip a toe in the water and see how it is.


She's a Scorpio Sun, Sag Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Gemini Mars, 33 years old I think.


Anyway, we dated 2 years back and I met her at the gym. She approached me and asked if I wanted to model in some underwear with her. Clever ice breaker.. We banter a bit and exchange numbers. She ends up telling me she's moving in two weeks however but wanted to see where things went with me. Apparently, I never caught her signals (there were none).


Oh, I suppose I should add she is a sexual health educator for women and basically coaches them on learning their bodies amongst other things as her side gig.


Our sexual chemistry was off the charts and she ends up moving to San Diego but wants to continue seeing me. In-between her move she visits some friends in Texas and family in another state. I make plans and fly out her birthday weekend and meet the whole crew. Quite an interesting group of friends she has.. but it was a good time.


Things went a little south as I did not get her a birthday gift in person (she ran to get me a gift prior to me getting there). I had intentions on it, but I understood how she felt. She is an avoidant personality so in conflict she bottles up and goes off the radar. Keep in mind, we were not exclusive and did not discuss gifts.


After her birthday weekend we chat here and there and she falls off the face of the earth after two weeks or so. I reached out and apologized, then she hits me with the friends speech. I decline and she deletes me from social media. Some time passes and she finds out I'm moving about 6 months later. Contact here and there but inconsistent.


Fast-forward to this year.. We're both dating other people but the past 3 months she has messaged me every single day. She constantly sends me sexual memes or tries to re-live our adventures. She's asked me twice now to come see her in Cali and have sex. I decline as I'm not flying across the country for some ass. The Scorpio does 100% of the initiating here..


She constantly inquires about my dating life and wants to know where she stands in sex rankings. Like is there someone doing it better than her.. She called and apologized two weeks ago that she hasn't came to see me yet. She's not in the proper headspace. On top of this, a couple days later she tells me she's going to an Adult Industry convention in Miami and she's going to promote her work. She notices on my page (which she doesn't follow) that I went skydiving and mentions she's doing that in Miami as well.


I think to myself, "oh she can make time for that huh".. So business as usual with ignoring her. Last week, she sends me a podcast where she claims she spilled some of our relationship history on the there but she didn't say too much. I listen to the podcast and she mentions she's going to Miami with her boo. They're meeting along with her friend from San Diego.


So I call her out and she says she has no words to explain. She admits she's caught, but says I need to come have sex with her before the guy arrives as she misses me and they're more friends now. I jokingly tell her she's trying to have us on the news, but I need to think about it.


Today, she messages me that she went to go see a psychic and they relayed her husband is arriving in 3-6 months, but she needs to heal first. She tells me I need to come blow her back out before her man arrives.


What is wrong with this woman—

She feels empty inside and is constantly searching to fill the hole literally and figuratively. Ironically, feeling empty inside makes some people shallow. Nothing quite satiates. Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... which is her perogative.

You waisting mental space with this one. You see some future value or something? You seem silly or equally wanting to be entertained or maybe you just find her interesting. That's cool too.

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Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.

Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.

No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣

We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.

I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.

As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)

Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣

She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."

She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️

Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

You are perfect DA bait.

You call her out without being nasty about it.

You accept her as she is.

You remain consistent and don't get baited & manipulated emotionally by her(game playing). Fyi the "game playing" isn't malicious or immature here, it's a defense mechanism.

You yourself are partially detached, at least from her.

She can safely chase without worried about getting chased back lol

You give her standards without pushing it on her or directly verbalizing them. Making it feel like her choice. Evolution or reality check is very possible for her here.


Let me know how it goes. If things go south a YouTube channel to send her. https://youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

But honestly if she insist on doing things her way, ask what she knows about Eastern tantra, this will put her on the path she needs to heal regardless.

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Interesting, it really just boils down to being indifferent towards her. I've analyzed her enough to get a feel for her patterns and decision making.


I suppose it helps that she lives in California also. I don't feel tempted to chase and I understand she's unstable from a family perspective. She's always on the move, seeking another adventure. Might be a mix of laziness too. If you're not located within 60 minutes of me, I can just find someone else. There's too much traffic here and my job is currently too hectic to book flights constantly 😂.


You're right though, some of her behavior is a defense mechanism. She's expressed she can't tell people close to her she loves them. About 3 weeks ago, I got a "I ❤ you". First time she's ever said anything like that. I asked how she felt and she said "it felt crunchy"

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Kids, family life, and hobbies is a different kind of adventure 🙃

"It felt crunchy" lol that should be a meme.

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Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.

I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.

You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

She hasn't been upfront about the whole thing. She lies by omission.

I think I mentioned it before, but she had invited me to Miami and then sent me a podcast she recorded earlier that week as a guest speaker on someone's show. She mentions in it that they are dating and she's meeting up with her man there.

What I'm getting at here is, she can do her own thing, but don't blow smoke up my ass. Be congruent.

She didn't kick me out, but she wanted to spend time alone before they arrived. There's only one bed and I'm sure he's unaware I was there.

The sexual memes are much more consistent than the cooking vids. They come maybe weekly, where as the sexual memes are daily.

I do not have a girlfriend. However, she did book a trip to my city in October for a "woman's retreat" and when I left she said "She you in October." The ticket was purchased before she asked me my plans.
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Is there any chance she might be talking about you in that podcast?
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Zero.

She told me what she discussed about me in the podcast.. it was about sex. Not a Miami trip. I called her out and she then told me about the guy for the first time.

You can't even trust her. Why are you still entertaining this. This doesn't make sense.
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Romance wise she needs some work. But she'd make a fantastic business partner and she would be of good assistance later down the road with her connections and investments she has.

She plans to move out of the country to clear her debt, then buy two vacation rentals and a yacht within the next 5-8 years.
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Right. It seems you are entertaining this for the wrong reasons.

It’s a stroke to his ego, clearly. Lol she’s “crazy” but if she stopped stroking his ego with all the attention, the sexual advances and memes, there’s no question he would miss that shit. Lmao

Because let’s be honest… women fuck who we want and men fuck who they can. So anytime a woman is making sexual advances on a man it makes him stand a little taller. Lol he’s not really that much different than she is, ironically.

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Nah, she’s not the only game in town. I went two years without bothering to see her. I can find someone else and I have done so in-between. She has not been consistent the entire time either. I’d say since February she’s been chasing.

Lol this reads as if I’m desperate or men in general for sex. I’m not consumed by it and it’s not difficult to find.

I’ll entertain her as long as I don’t have to go out of my way to do so. Most likely the relationship is a dead end given her history.

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Alright y'all, update w/ my batshit crazy Scorpio. I just got back from Miami on Wednesday with her.


Anyway, brief recap she invited me down there even though her man, who isn't her man & his friend were arriving this week. Sneaky link type situation.


No odd behavior and she was very cordial and warm the entire trip. Picked her up from the airport and we got to the airbnb. Walked around, grabbed food and shortly after she was ready to get down to business. 🤣


We went to the beach, rode bikes to South Beach and bar hopped for the most part. While she was working, I ventured off and visited the botanical garden. She actually offered to pay for the majority of the meals which was interesting, however she is the one who broke things off 2 years ago. Our conversations didn't get too deep, but she did question what my next move is and do I want children. I told her my goal is to move overseas by the end of 2024 to which she piggybacks and says she wants to move to Colombia in January which is quite random.


I think she's blowing hot-air here, but she claims to know several people there and believes it will work for her. I don't doubt she knows people who live there, but living overseas wasn't on her radar until I brought it up a couple months ago. Her last mention was looking into moving to Jacksonville, FL. Again, hot-air seeing as I'm located in FL also.


As things come to a close, she says she's not ready for me to leave, but I pack & head out. I leave a couple of hours before the guy shows up and she doesn't even seem to be concerned about washing the sheets or straightening up. There is only 1 bed in the Airbnb and I thought that was pretty interesting. She claims he's a friend now, but that's not how the trip started out in my opinion. I make it home and she keeps in contact. Ends up going out that night and staying out until 4 am. Sends me a voice message that morning claiming how she's so worn out by all the rounds and she's having withdrawls. (Just say you miss me..)


Last night I asked her when she was gonna make some wings and she gives pushback, turning it into a "we can make it" scenario. I told her "We? Oh I didn't know you spoke French?" 🤣


She can't cook. but she's constantly sending me wifey cooking videos so, me being who I am, I'm gonna put you to the test. I don't tease her about the cooking, I just wanted to know her answer. She replies "damnnnnn" and I said "dang, I thought we were cool.."


She went skydiving this morning and takes her time replying. Sends me more sexual memes on IG and then finally replies this afternoon saying "you know I like to do stuff together".. yeah but that's not what those memes say that you send. 🤷‍♂️


Not a word mentioned of the other man either, whole time.

I’m beginning to think that you like this toxic shit more than you’re letting on. Lol it makes you feel alive, don’t it? You call her crazy but yet you’re playing right along. So what does that say about you? Y’all are basically made for each other at this point. Lol neither one of you want stability and it seems both of you like the attention from the other. Even if you clearly don’t trust each other and can’t rely on each other to be predictable.

I bet you guys have some Venus/Uranus aspects in your synastry. Lol 🧐 possibly some Saturn/sun or Saturn/mars too.. with you being Saturn

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She pulls her weight. I’ll give her that.. that’s the only reason this is still a thing. She doesn’t ask for anything and she does well for herself in the tax bracket area.

My Scorpio sun, Taurus moon & Cancer rising friend asks men for food or money all the time with zero intention of going out with them again.

So like I said, she has her issues in the romance department, but she’s not a leech.

If I come across relationship potential or someone I’m really interested in, I have no issue dropping her and letting her know what’s going on.

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Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.


I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.


You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

He mentioned she has a Gemini mars too, so the sex memes make sense since Gemini is mercurial and mars represents a woman’s sexual energy. She probably gets fickle and bored easily with that placement and likes to keep things spicy with mental foreplay. (Hence the memes and constant sex talk)

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Your are correct. There is also synastry with my Saturn in Aqua and her Gem in Mars amongst other things.

I’ll talk to her during sex too. I think it bothers her she can’t quite easily find this synastry elsewhere. I think she trust me, she didn’t pry into my business on the trip or ask who was texting me. She has her moments, but it’s not an everyday thing and it’s not a negative reaction.

She did once again bring up “is this how you fuck other women” shit.

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Sighh.. I have another story y'all. This one has been in the picture for two years now and likes to just dip a toe in the water and see how it is.

She's a Scorpio Sun, Sag Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Gemini Mars, 33 years old I think.

Anyway, we dated 2 years back and I met her at the gym. She approached me and asked if I wanted to model in some underwear with her. Clever ice breaker.. We banter a bit and exchange numbers. She ends up telling me she's moving in two weeks however but wanted to see where things went with me. Apparently, I never caught her signals (there were none).

Oh, I suppose I should add she is a sexual health educator for women and basically coaches them on learning their bodies amongst other things as her side gig.

Our sexual chemistry was off the charts and she ends up moving to San Diego but wants to continue seeing me. In-between her move she visits some friends in Texas and family in another state. I make plans and fly out her birthday weekend and meet the whole crew. Quite an interesting group of friends she has.. but it was a good time.

Things went a little south as I did not get her a birthday gift in person (she ran to get me a gift prior to me getting there). I had intentions on it, but I understood how she felt. She is an avoidant personality so in conflict she bottles up and goes off the radar. Keep in mind, we were not exclusive and did not discuss gifts.

After her birthday weekend we chat here and there and she falls off the face of the earth after two weeks or so. I reached out and apologized, then she hits me with the friends speech. I decline and she deletes me from social media. Some time passes and she finds out I'm moving about 6 months later. Contact here and there but inconsistent.

Fast-forward to this year.. We're both dating other people but the past 3 months she has messaged me every single day. She constantly sends me sexual memes or tries to re-live our adventures. She's asked me twice now to come see her in Cali and have sex. I decline as I'm not flying across the country for some ass. The Scorpio does 100% of the initiating here..

She constantly inquires about my dating life and wants to know where she stands in sex rankings. Like is there someone doing it better than her.. She called and apologized two weeks ago that she hasn't came to see me yet. She's not in the proper headspace. On top of this, a couple days later she tells me she's going to an Adult Industry convention in Miami and she's going to promote her work. She notices on my page (which she doesn't follow) that I went skydiving and mentions she's doing that in Miami as well.

I think to myself, "oh she can make time for that huh".. So business as usual with ignoring her. Last week, she sends me a podcast where she claims she spilled some of our relationship history on the there but she didn't say too much. I listen to the podcast and she mentions she's going to Miami with her boo. They're meeting along with her friend from San Diego.

So I call her out and she says she has no words to explain. She admits she's caught, but says I need to come have sex with her before the guy arrives as she misses me and they're more friends now. I jokingly tell her she's trying to have us on the news, but I need to think about it.

Today, she messages me that she went to go see a psychic and they relayed her husband is arriving in 3-6 months, but she needs to heal first. She tells me I need to come blow her back out before her man arrives.

What is wrong with this woman—

She feels empty inside and is constantly searching to fill the hole literally and figuratively. Ironically, feeling empty inside makes some people shallow. Nothing quite satiates. Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... which is her perogative.

You waisting mental space with this one. You see some future value or something? You seem silly or equally wanting to be entertained or maybe you just find her interesting. That's cool too.

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She’s semi-self aware.

I don’t know if I’d say it’s a game to her. But she does flow with what interest her at the moment and prioritizes happiness. Which is subject to fluctuate.

She’s consistent with what her end goal is.. a life partner but flip-flops on how to achieve that.

One day she thinks polyamorous relationships are for her, the next that won’t work, then she’s moving to Colombia and selling everything, couple days later she looking at houses in Jacksonville. Shortly after that she reads a book and thinks she knows the secret to maintaining a relationship. Doing everything under the sun except communicating and laying it out on the table. She holds her cards close.

I’ll take all this in and then reel her back. Grounding her per se.

We are friends at the core. But I think she can be of help in the business department. She has offered to help also and has some good connections. I’m not using her, she’s getting sex and I can get something out of this too.

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Why talk about her friend (the other man)? She told you it wasn't her man.

She seems to be throwing sex memes into regular conversations. She is "constantly sending me wifey cooking videos" as well. So why are you so hyper focused on the sex memes if she's mixing it up. She seems to like you a lot.


I just don't get why she's crazy, if she is telling you the guy is a friend, trying to spend time and get it in with you before the boys come in, and kicking you out when her friends get there. Seems fairly normal for a girl making use of her space with an ex that she liked.


You guys are still in communication. Are you the sneaky link? Do you have a girlfriend?

He mentioned she has a Gemini mars too, so the sex memes make sense since Gemini is mercurial and mars represents a woman’s sexual energy. She probably gets fickle and bored easily with that placement and likes to keep things spicy with mental foreplay. (Hence the memes and constant sex talk)

Your are correct. There is also synastry with my Saturn in Aqua and her Gem in Mars amongst other things.


I’ll talk to her during sex too. I think it bothers her she can’t quite easily find this synastry elsewhere. I think she trust me, she didn’t pry into my business on the trip or ask who was texting me. She has her moments, but it’s not an everyday thing and it’s not a negative reaction.


She did once again bring up “is this how you fuck other women” shit.

I’ve had Saturn trine mars with someone before.. I have a sag mars and the Pisces has a Leo Saturn that trined my mars exactly. It’s a soft aspect but anything with Saturn involves criticism and judgment. The ironic thing is, the truth is, Saturns cold, judgmental exterior is just a defense mechanism because Saturn is afraid of getting hurt by mars. (Don’t believe me, look it up). It’s almost like you want something to be wrong with her to be able to keep her at a safe distance. Would highly recommend looking further into that aspect because your insecurities play a part as much as hers do. She is just being who she is. And if you don’t like her for who she is, then stop wasting your time and hers. Otherwise, be honest with yourself of why you’re so critical of her and it might surprise you.

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I’m critical of a lot of things, it’s nothing personal with her, I do value our relationship and she does bare her soul at times of intimacy.

She’s self aware she’s not stable for a relationship and I don’t necessarily want that with her. We have different values and that’s fine.

The problem with this is she cannot maintain her role. If she’s just going to send memes and arrange a date to fuck when our paths cross, that’s cool. But she blurs lines and starts buying gifts, wanting all of my time and girlfriend treatment.

This is why I said she’s crazy.. the chase excites her. She can’t communicate what she wants and expects things to just fall in place. Especially at her big age, she needs to be more direct. It just works in my favor because I can read her fairly accurately.

I don’t put up a wall with her, I’m just indifferent because I listen and also look at how she conducted herself in her past relationships. She doesn’t know what she wants and that’s fine. I don’t wait on anyone and I enjoy the moment when our paths cross. If they don’t, then I’ll see ya around.

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Sighh.. I have another story y'all. This one has been in the picture for two years now and likes to just dip a toe in the water and see how it is.

She's a Scorpio Sun, Sag Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Gemini Mars, 33 years old I think.

Anyway, we dated 2 years back and I met her at the gym. She approached me and asked if I wanted to model in some underwear with her. Clever ice breaker.. We banter a bit and exchange numbers. She ends up telling me she's moving in two weeks however but wanted to see where things went with me. Apparently, I never caught her signals (there were none).

Oh, I suppose I should add she is a sexual health educator for women and basically coaches them on learning their bodies amongst other things as her side gig.

Our sexual chemistry was off the charts and she ends up moving to San Diego but wants to continue seeing me. In-between her move she visits some friends in Texas and family in another state. I make plans and fly out her birthday weekend and meet the whole crew. Quite an interesting group of friends she has.. but it was a good time.

Things went a little south as I did not get her a birthday gift in person (she ran to get me a gift prior to me getting there). I had intentions on it, but I understood how she felt. She is an avoidant personality so in conflict she bottles up and goes off the radar. Keep in mind, we were not exclusive and did not discuss gifts.

After her birthday weekend we chat here and there and she falls off the face of the earth after two weeks or so. I reached out and apologized, then she hits me with the friends speech. I decline and she deletes me from social media. Some time passes and she finds out I'm moving about 6 months later. Contact here and there but inconsistent.

Fast-forward to this year.. We're both dating other people but the past 3 months she has messaged me every single day. She constantly sends me sexual memes or tries to re-live our adventures. She's asked me twice now to come see her in Cali and have sex. I decline as I'm not flying across the country for some ass. The Scorpio does 100% of the initiating here..

She constantly inquires about my dating life and wants to know where she stands in sex rankings. Like is there someone doing it better than her.. She called and apologized two weeks ago that she hasn't came to see me yet. She's not in the proper headspace. On top of this, a couple days later she tells me she's going to an Adult Industry convention in Miami and she's going to promote her work. She notices on my page (which she doesn't follow) that I went skydiving and mentions she's doing that in Miami as well.

I think to myself, "oh she can make time for that huh".. So business as usual with ignoring her. Last week, she sends me a podcast where she claims she spilled some of our relationship history on the there but she didn't say too much. I listen to the podcast and she mentions she's going to Miami with her boo. They're meeting along with her friend from San Diego.

So I call her out and she says she has no words to explain. She admits she's caught, but says I need to come have sex with her before the guy arrives as she misses me and they're more friends now. I jokingly tell her she's trying to have us on the news, but I need to think about it.

Today, she messages me that she went to go see a psychic and they relayed her husband is arriving in 3-6 months, but she needs to heal first. She tells me I need to come blow her back out before her man arrives.

What is wrong with this woman—

She feels empty inside and is constantly searching to fill the hole literally and figuratively. Ironically, feeling empty inside makes some people shallow. Nothing quite satiates. Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... which is her perogative.

You waisting mental space with this one. You see some future value or something? You seem silly or equally wanting to be entertained or maybe you just find her interesting. That's cool too.

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"Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... "

I disagree. Science she is aware of her shortcomings here she will have a choice in changing it or reducing her exposure to situations that may trigger her. I know someone who intentionally gets involved with only temporary connections, so not to upset anyone. Not everyone goes Dark Vader and abuses their power.

Besides he is fully aware and understands her. He is doing just fine👍

My only question is if she decides she wants to try something real with him (silent commitment) will he try it out and give her room to switch her expression and put that wild energy to things that will work for them and their relationship?

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Sighh.. I have another story y'all. This one has been in the picture for two years now and likes to just dip a toe in the water and see how it is.

She's a Scorpio Sun, Sag Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Gemini Mars, 33 years old I think.

Anyway, we dated 2 years back and I met her at the gym. She approached me and asked if I wanted to model in some underwear with her. Clever ice breaker.. We banter a bit and exchange numbers. She ends up telling me she's moving in two weeks however but wanted to see where things went with me. Apparently, I never caught her signals (there were none).

Oh, I suppose I should add she is a sexual health educator for women and basically coaches them on learning their bodies amongst other things as her side gig.

Our sexual chemistry was off the charts and she ends up moving to San Diego but wants to continue seeing me. In-between her move she visits some friends in Texas and family in another state. I make plans and fly out her birthday weekend and meet the whole crew. Quite an interesting group of friends she has.. but it was a good time.

Things went a little south as I did not get her a birthday gift in person (she ran to get me a gift prior to me getting there). I had intentions on it, but I understood how she felt. She is an avoidant personality so in conflict she bottles up and goes off the radar. Keep in mind, we were not exclusive and did not discuss gifts.

After her birthday weekend we chat here and there and she falls off the face of the earth after two weeks or so. I reached out and apologized, then she hits me with the friends speech. I decline and she deletes me from social media. Some time passes and she finds out I'm moving about 6 months later. Contact here and there but inconsistent.

Fast-forward to this year.. We're both dating other people but the past 3 months she has messaged me every single day. She constantly sends me sexual memes or tries to re-live our adventures. She's asked me twice now to come see her in Cali and have sex. I decline as I'm not flying across the country for some ass. The Scorpio does 100% of the initiating here..

She constantly inquires about my dating life and wants to know where she stands in sex rankings. Like is there someone doing it better than her.. She called and apologized two weeks ago that she hasn't came to see me yet. She's not in the proper headspace. On top of this, a couple days later she tells me she's going to an Adult Industry convention in Miami and she's going to promote her work. She notices on my page (which she doesn't follow) that I went skydiving and mentions she's doing that in Miami as well.

I think to myself, "oh she can make time for that huh".. So business as usual with ignoring her. Last week, she sends me a podcast where she claims she spilled some of our relationship history on the there but she didn't say too much. I listen to the podcast and she mentions she's going to Miami with her boo. They're meeting along with her friend from San Diego.

So I call her out and she says she has no words to explain. She admits she's caught, but says I need to come have sex with her before the guy arrives as she misses me and they're more friends now. I jokingly tell her she's trying to have us on the news, but I need to think about it.

Today, she messages me that she went to go see a psychic and they relayed her husband is arriving in 3-6 months, but she needs to heal first. She tells me I need to come blow her back out before her man arrives.

What is wrong with this woman—

She feels empty inside and is constantly searching to fill the hole literally and figuratively. Ironically, feeling empty inside makes some people shallow. Nothing quite satiates. Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... which is her perogative.

You waisting mental space with this one. You see some future value or something? You seem silly or equally wanting to be entertained or maybe you just find her interesting. That's cool too.

"Most dangerously, if she is self-aware, which I suspect she is, everybody's a toy. She don't give a fuck about shit and does whatever interests her in the minute, the second... "

I disagree. Science she is aware of her shortcomings here she will have a choice in changing it or reducing her exposure to situations that may trigger her. I know someone who intentionally gets involved with only temporary connections, so not to upset anyone. Not everyone goes Dark Vader and abuses their power.
Besides he is fully aware and understands her. He is doing just fine👍

My only question is if she decides she wants to try something real with him (silent commitment) will he try it out and give her room to switch her expression and put that wild energy to things that will work for them and their relationship?

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One a side not. This posted 4 hours ago. Let's call it a coincidence😏

" They don't say I love you"

Whew, okay another update:

Obviously y'all know I went to see her and then her man who isn't her man & his friend showed up in Miami. Well, anyway they left Tuesday night so Scorpio decides to post that she is on an "actual" solo trip now. Not sure what to make of it as she pretty much just had dude as her photographer the entire time (she never uses her phone around me.)

So, Wednesday night I hadn't spoken to her much nor been on her page. She abruptly texts me that she's intoxicated, and she's headed to West Palm to meet a friend she met in Belize two years ago. (I was supposed to attend the Belize trip, but we got into it prior.)

She then goes on a tangent about how she feels unhinged and wild. Impulsively catching a train to go see a friend. I figured it was a man as she unconsciously tells me if she's hanging out with a woman by saying their name. This tangent goes on for 20 minutes or so and she just won't stop about how free she feels and she's living her best life. It's almost manic behavior and I bid her a goodnight as you're with another man so why are you texting me??

She posts way later that night I guess that they went bowling and she came back the next morning. Didn't reach out to her and she messages me again saying she's had such a great time in Miami but back to Cali on Friday. Amongst that some mumble of us getting married.

4:30 am today I receive two memes. One about women orgasming and the other was in regards to a woman crying after her man wants her to leave the streets.

I don't understand why she felt the need to tell me she was going to see another man. She's not the type to make someone jealous as she'll just make plans and do what ever. Rather than show her hand and tell. Strange..

I spy with my little eye 🚩🚩🚩

A cheating, unstable, delusional, transparent train wreck of a woman with low self esteem who is damaged goods and gets off on damaging other people