Single for 5 years.

I've been single for five years. My 5 year old daughter was a result of my last relationship. It was the most controlling and damaging relationship I've experienced. I cannot muster the desire to date again. I don't even feel for people anymore. I feel as though I'm damaged beyond repair.

5 years...that ain't sh.it

Let's see you do 12 without breaking a sweat.

How do you have "damp squib moon" under your name?

As well as "anybody else wanna be a her? etc...."

I was single for 7 yrs but no regrets whatsoever! I accomplished quite a bit on the education and career front, which is something I always wanted.

I believe everything happens for a reason and I think that the universe/higher power knows me better than I know myself. I no longer trust what I want but am very content with trusting the process or how it pans out for me.

@aquarius09 I like your profile pic.

@tiziani What's the point? I am too direct of a person when it comes to relationships. The older and more experienced in life I become, the harder it is for me to justify the point of a relationship. The chance of me finding a soul mate are extremely slim.

This is what I believe. Since I have no desire to live "The American Dream" I am not a desirable man.

Sex is great! But then there's the relationship part. Sex doesn't outweigh the relationship, at least, not in my experience.

Posted by mudra

If you're not feelin' it, then you aren't.

Your mind and the things you say are actually quite powerful. "The chance of me finding a soul mate are extremely slim" That's automatically closing you off to attracting anything of interest. "I'm damaged beyond repair" Lack of belief in yourself closing you off even more.

You're obviously not ready and that's ok. I do believe something will shift you into being ready when the time is right. No matter how many years it takes.

I understand what you are saying and why. I've heard a similar perspective before. The way I see it is, life is too short to care about someone else. Too busy trying to take care of myself how do I have the emotional energy to give to someone else?

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Posted by mudra

If you're not feelin' it, then you aren't.

Your mind and the things you say are actually quite powerful. "The chance of me finding a soul mate are extremely slim" That's automatically closing you off to attracting anything of interest. "I'm damaged beyond repair" Lack of belief in yourself closing you off even more.

You're obviously not ready and that's ok. I do believe something will shift you into being ready when the time is right. No matter how many years it takes.

I understand what you are saying and why. I've heard a similar perspective before. The way I see it is, life is too short to care about someone else. Too busy trying to take care of myself how do I have the emotional energy to give to someone else?

So... you're just not ready. That's all there is to it.

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I don't see the point in relationships. It's not that I'm not ready, lol.

Relationships the way modern society defines them, are not natural. Simple human ideology.

Thank you.

Its probably for the best your not dating with a young child. So many pedos out there who target young single mothers.

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Its probably for the best your not dating with a young child. So many pedos out there who target young single mothers.

he's a dude

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ohhhhh. Idk then.

I've been single for 8yrs. Sometimes you need time to heal especially after a damaging relationship.

I don't follow the comment about the doctor. It seems as though you are implying that "The American Dream" is the right and only way to live.

The point of this thread is irrelevant. It's a forum.

Is there anyone who can relate? Is there anyone who actually uses logic?

I'm just using what I was given. Or what I've developed to help me make decisions that aren't based on what society thinks is best for everyone. Because deep down, I know that people don't believe there is only one way. Nobody is that ignorant or naive.

You also seem to be implying I'm a bum. Very interesting as you don't know anything about me.

You're not damaged beyond repair but if you keep thinking that way, you will never get better. Take the time to heal and focus on yourself and your child. Don't think of being single as a task or goal you need to overcome. Don't think of it as a result of bad relationship. Don't use it as an example of your own faults. Enjoy your journey and the time you have now. If you do this, eventually you will feel like making a connection with someone again imo. Just don't rush it.

Some people are just not meant to be in a relationship and that’s ok. You know deep down what you want vs what society expects. Be you, walk your own path.