ashley1734
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Awkward Taurus Man
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
Posted by tizianiBIG TIME. I noticed he likes to drink quite a bit. I'm just observing for now.
Self-medicating doctors maybe.
Posted by yupvirgooI did...I asked if he was uncomfortable or nervous and he said "no this is just how I am." Haha.
probaby Gem merc yeah affecting his speeding thoughts lol but it's also probably Libra rising and mars.. we can be very self-conscious sometimes but you should've tried asking him about it..
The day after the date he texted how comfortable he felt with me. I was like WHAT?!
Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
With your beauty it's not hard to understand why. I tend to tell the guy across the table when at a date, "You KNOW I am a very optimistic woman; and I looking for an optimistic man. Please don't be nervous as this isn't a 'job interview'. Just be yourself! We'll go with the flow". This causes the man to relax. I'll even "tease" him a bit by holding his hand(s); as an excuse on my end to help him NOT be so damn nervous. Good God dude, this REALLY isn't a job interview! 100% of the time, my date relaxes. I think you should do the same. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDivaThat's good advice. I make a conscious effort to be very relaxed but engaging when I go on dates because I'm aware that I can be a bit intimidating. I usually just act as if we have been friends for ages in the way I talk to them and I also tend to (like you mentioned) make some sort of gentle/playful physical contact to set the comfort level. If I was on a date with me I feel like I'd be like "ok cool, she's friendly and asking questions and making eye contact and is genuinely engaged" but instead they act like nervous wrecks.
With your beauty it's not hard to understand why. I tend to tell the guy across the table when at a date, "You KNOW I am a very optimistic woman; and I looking for an optimistic man. Please don't be nervous as this isn't a 'job interview'. Just be yourself! We'll go with the flow". This causes the man to relax. I'll even "tease" him a bit by holding his hand(s); as an excuse on my end to help him NOT be so damn nervous. Good God dude, this REALLY isn't a job interview! 100% of the time, my date relaxes. I think you should do the same. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Happened to me a few days prior to my date with another guy. I met him at a gas station and I was just wearing gym clothes with my hair up and he asked me out so then when I get to the date of course I was dressed up and had makeup on and he quickly went from the strong alpha male he was at the gas station (and on phone calls after) to a total mess haha. He's tall, handsome, 40 year old lawyer and halfway through the date he says "I really wasn't expecting you to be this hot." I don't really consider myself to be "hot" I always thought I was just sweet/cute...and the way these men turn into blabbering fools is bizarre.
Posted by ashley1734Its because its such an emotional and deep moon. Afraid to get hurt deeply if we fall or we have fell but too afraid to be vulnerable and tell the other person how we feel. Therefore, we create a wall to not show our emotions to people. Because it can be seen as weakeness to us. Either that or we burst..Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!click to expand
However if we know how to control it, everything will remain fine. People wirh scorpoo moon have to be self concious and aware of the dark side. The moment they are aware and can control it. Then they have evolved and matured their emotions.
Posted by ashley1734Yep! And they tend to run for the hills too!! Grrrrrr 😡 One of these days, we will find a man just as positive, assertive, optimistic, strong, AND not intimidating! As I tend to HATE that word (intimidating). Girl, you seem to attract "professional" men! You and I will find one good MAN with balls!!! 😄 "Hey, it can happen!"Posted by EvatheDivaThat's good advice. I make a conscious effort to be very relaxed but engaging when I go on dates because I'm aware that I can be a bit intimidating. I usually just act as if we have been friends for ages in the way I talk to them and I also tend to (like you mentioned) make some sort of gentle/playful physical contact to set the comfort level. If I was on a date with me I feel like I'd be like "ok cool, she's friendly and asking questions and making eye contact and is genuinely engaged" but instead they act like nervous wrecks.
With your beauty it's not hard to understand why. I tend to tell the guy across the table when at a date, "You KNOW I am a very optimistic woman; and I looking for an optimistic man. Please don't be nervous as this isn't a 'job interview'. Just be yourself! We'll go with the flow". This causes the man to relax. I'll even "tease" him a bit by holding his hand(s); as an excuse on my end to help him NOT be so damn nervous. Good God dude, this REALLY isn't a job interview! 100% of the time, my date relaxes. I think you should do the same. Good luck.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Happened to me a few days prior to my date with another guy. I met him at a gas station and I was just wearing gym clothes with my hair up and he asked me out so then when I get to the date of course I was dressed up and had makeup on and he quickly went from the strong alpha male he was at the gas station (and on phone calls after) to a total mess haha. He's tall, handsome, 40 year old lawyer and halfway through the date he says "I really wasn't expecting you to be this hot." I don't really consider myself to be "hot" I always thought I was just sweet/cute...and the way these men turn into blabbering fools is bizarre.
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Love,
Eva
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Well I didn't know he was a Taurus right away, and he's got some other intriguing placements. Plus he's a doctor so I thought he'd be a bit more of an intellectual, but as it turns out you can be intelligent (and a doctor) and not be an intellectual.Posted by ashley1734You didn't get on with the other Taurus guy, so why go there again....?
So I've been getting to know a Taurus guy and when we first started off it was just texting so the conversation was flowing, intelligent and fun. Once we moved to the phone, I could sense a nervous energy about him (not that he was nervous talking to me, just that he's a nervous person in general, borderline quirky, but more teetering on "odd" than endearing).
Anyway he is a doctor, handsome, successful, intelligent, etc....but he is just SO damn awkward. On our last date, he was super fidgety, kept saying "so what should we do?" and it almost came off like he meant he wanted to hookup/leave where we were, but it would be mid-conversation. And then he seemed uncomfortable with the surroundings a couple times (too bright, too quiet, etc). It didn't come off like he was picky, it just came off like he had a constant restlessness in him.
I'm wondering if anything in his chart could explain him a bit. He has all the ingredients to be a very charming guy, but I would literally never use the word charming to describe him now that I've spent time with him. It's funny for now because I'm still curious, but even his compliments are bizarre.
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Scorpio (damnit another Scorpio Moon guy?! I just noticed this in his chart and am now ready to check out already haha)
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Libra
Venus: Aries
Asc: Libra
Could it just be that Mercury in Gemini that makes him so socially awkward and fidgety?click to expand
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yikes Aqua with a Virgo Moon!?! Noooo.Posted by ashley1734It's more than likely your Virgo moon. It's a horrid critical moon and it analyses everything without you even thinking about it!
So I've been getting to know a Taurus guy and when we first started off it was just texting so the conversation was flowing, intelligent and fun. Once we moved to the phone, I could sense a nervous energy about him (not that he was nervous talking to me, just that he's a nervous person in general, borderline quirky, but more teetering on "odd" than endearing).
Anyway he is a doctor, handsome, successful, intelligent, etc....but he is just SO damn awkward. On our last date, he was super fidgety, kept saying "so what should we do?" and it almost came off like he meant he wanted to hookup/leave where we were, but it would be mid-conversation. And then he seemed uncomfortable with the surroundings a couple times (too bright, too quiet, etc). It didn't come off like he was picky, it just came off like he had a constant restlessness in him.
I'm wondering if anything in his chart could explain him a bit. He has all the ingredients to be a very charming guy, but I would literally never use the word charming to describe him now that I've spent time with him. It's funny for now because I'm still curious, but even his compliments are bizarre.
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Scorpio (damnit another Scorpio Moon guy?! I just noticed this in his chart and am now ready to check out already haha)
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Libra
Venus: Aries
Asc: Libra
Could it just be that Mercury in Gemini that makes him so socially awkward and fidgety?
I am a Taurus and i would never go near a Virgo moon AGAIN..... My ex aqua of many moons ago had this never again.
Even my ex gem had a scorp moon (never again) but it was certainly better than a Virgo moon.
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I think Virgo, Scorpio and Aquarius are definitely the worst Moon placements. Sucks I have it, but I'd rather be critical and grounded like I am than have the Gemini placements take over making me fickle and unreliable. I'll try to just relax and not analyze every little thing (near impossible).
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeHaha weirdos?
its his scorpio moon, but i dont like you with him, he needs a crab or a scorpio or something else
you're not a good match astrologically, gemini's are fuking weirdos
I haven't gotten that, but I'll take it.
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
Posted by ashley1734We are. We constantly have obsessive thoughts and are overthinking everything. Have a lot of emotions to deal with too.Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!click to expand
Honestly even I get scared when I come across another guy with scorpio moon, even though I have one, just because I've had scorpio moons in my life and although our connection is great, it can be bad sometimes
I don't want to scare you though. Scorpio moons have their good qualities too.
Posted by Mimi24Yessss this is so me omg.Posted by ashley1734Its because its such an emotional and deep moon. Afraid to get hurt deeply if we fall or we have fell but too afraid to be vulnerable and tell the other person how we feel. Therefore, we create a wall to not show our emotions to people. Because it can be seen as weakeness to us. Either that or we burst..Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
However if we know how to control it, everything will remain fine. People wirh scorpoo moon have to be self concious and aware of the dark side. The moment they are aware and can control it. Then they have evolved and matured their emotions.click to expand
Posted by themilkyway36I know! I had to research on it to understand myself better. That moon is an emotional wreck i swear lmao! I have to basically fight it, to not let it get into me. Its a curse and at the same time a gift since we can spot fakes and liars really well.Posted by Mimi24Yessss this is so me omg.Posted by ashley1734Its because its such an emotional and deep moon. Afraid to get hurt deeply if we fall or we have fell but too afraid to be vulnerable and tell the other person how we feel. Therefore, we create a wall to not show our emotions to people. Because it can be seen as weakeness to us. Either that or we burst..Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
However if we know how to control it, everything will remain fine. People wirh scorpoo moon have to be self concious and aware of the dark side. The moment they are aware and can control it. Then they have evolved and matured their emotions.
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Posted by ashley1734Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
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This article probably conveys my point. It's the dating coach's answer that I found interesting as it's from a guy's point of view. The question the woman asks isn't that relevant to your dilemma.
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-turn-drinks-into-dinner-without-scaring-guys-off/
Also, I was going to add that you might find it more helpful in the dating world to, and forgive my choice of words here, tone down or put less effort into your appearance. I'm basing this from my own experience but also using your own example about the gas station guy. He was obviously more comfortable with a more toned down, normal everyday, regular look. When you pitched up looking a stunning 10 out of 10 it maybe tipped the balance and suddenly he was feeling 'in awe' of you or not as confident. Remember, guys have feelings and confidence/insecurity issues too. It put a bit of a wall up immediately on the first date and made things harder to click between you. Same as the Doctor guy. My point here is to pitch up as a 7 or 8 on the 'looks and effort dept' and maybe that will help build a connection better. You know, just two normal, everyday people on the same level having a date. Then after a couple of dates start ramping it up!
On the other hand, you might want someone who isn't put off by you or who's dick shrivels just because you've made an effort and are looking and being hot.
I've been in the same kind of situation as you and used to get guys go fucking stupid when all I'm thinking is 'can't we just have a nicedate??' My fella of over a year pursued me because of how I looked and also because we got on via text/calls. When we met and I pitched up as a 10 out of 10 looking fucking hot it just reaffirmed to him why he wanted me and was in no way put off by my more confident air. It actually turned him on more. Needless to say his dick did not shrivel!
I dunno, it's a tough one, I think maybe these guys are just not the right ones for you but hopefully you'll take something useful away from this post. That dating coach guy I put the link up about is actually really good. I'm British and don't go in for all that crap but he's a good one.
Posted by Mimi24The last two guys I loved/dated long term (before this guy) both had Scorpio Moons.Posted by themilkyway36I know! I had to research on it to understand myself better. That moon is an emotional wreck i swear lmao! I have to basically fight it, to not let it get into me. Its a curse and at the same time a gift since we can spot fakes and liars really well.Posted by Mimi24Yessss this is so me omg.Posted by ashley1734Its because its such an emotional and deep moon. Afraid to get hurt deeply if we fall or we have fell but too afraid to be vulnerable and tell the other person how we feel. Therefore, we create a wall to not show our emotions to people. Because it can be seen as weakeness to us. Either that or we burst..Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
However if we know how to control it, everything will remain fine. People wirh scorpoo moon have to be self concious and aware of the dark side. The moment they are aware and can control it. Then they have evolved and matured their emotions.
click to expand
Posted by AgentP911Thanks for the link I will go check it out now.Posted by ashley1734Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
This article probably conveys my point. It's the dating coach's answer that I found interesting as it's from a guy's point of view. The question the woman asks isn't that relevant to your dilemma.
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-turn-drinks-into-dinner-without-scaring-guys-off/
Also, I was going to add that you might find it more helpful in the dating world to, and forgive my choice of words here, tone down or put less effort into your appearance. I'm basing this from my own experience but also using your own example about the gas station guy. He was obviously more comfortable with a more toned down, normal everyday, regular look. When you pitched up looking a stunning 10 out of 10 it maybe tipped the balance and suddenly he was feeling 'in awe' of you or not as confident. Remember, guys have feelings and confidence/insecurity issues too. It put a bit of a wall up immediately on the first date and made things harder to click between you. Same as the Doctor guy. My point here is to pitch up as a 7 or 8 on the 'looks and effort dept' and maybe that will help build a connection better. You know, just two normal, everyday people on the same level having a date. Then after a couple of dates start ramping it up!
On the other hand, you might want someone who isn't put off by you or who's dick shrivels just because you've made an effort and are looking and being hot.
I've been in the same kind of situation as you and used to get guys go fucking stupid when all I'm thinking is 'can't we just have a nicedate??' My fella of over a year pursued me because of how I looked and also because we got on via text/calls. When we met and I pitched up as a 10 out of 10 looking fucking hot it just reaffirmed to him why he wanted me and was in no way put off by my more confident air. It actually turned him on more. Needless to say his dick did not shrivel!
I dunno, it's a tough one, I think maybe these guys are just not the right ones for you but hopefully you'll take something useful away from this post. That dating coach guy I put the link up about is actually really good. I'm British and don't go in for all that crap but he's a good one.
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Yeah I knew from the last guy I dated that I was going for the wrong type of men, so that's why I was soooo excited at how dominant and confident the gas station guy was (he's a Libra with Aries Moon). Mr. Taurus Doctor I could kinda tell didn't have the same air of confidence, but I at least figured he was mature and sophisticated.
I am comfortable dressing down of course, I just feel like I should impress on a first date. I'll test that out with my next date and see if the energy feels calmer. Thank you!
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by ashley1734Yes, aqua with a Virgo moon. He was damn awful. I hate that energy (aqua).Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Yikes Aqua with a Virgo Moon!?! Noooo.Posted by ashley1734It's more than likely your Virgo moon. It's a horrid critical moon and it analyses everything without you even thinking about it!
So I've been getting to know a Taurus guy and when we first started off it was just texting so the conversation was flowing, intelligent and fun. Once we moved to the phone, I could sense a nervous energy about him (not that he was nervous talking to me, just that he's a nervous person in general, borderline quirky, but more teetering on "odd" than endearing).
Anyway he is a doctor, handsome, successful, intelligent, etc....but he is just SO damn awkward. On our last date, he was super fidgety, kept saying "so what should we do?" and it almost came off like he meant he wanted to hookup/leave where we were, but it would be mid-conversation. And then he seemed uncomfortable with the surroundings a couple times (too bright, too quiet, etc). It didn't come off like he was picky, it just came off like he had a constant restlessness in him.
I'm wondering if anything in his chart could explain him a bit. He has all the ingredients to be a very charming guy, but I would literally never use the word charming to describe him now that I've spent time with him. It's funny for now because I'm still curious, but even his compliments are bizarre.
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Scorpio (damnit another Scorpio Moon guy?! I just noticed this in his chart and am now ready to check out already haha)
Mercury: Gemini
Mars: Libra
Venus: Aries
Asc: Libra
Could it just be that Mercury in Gemini that makes him so socially awkward and fidgety?
I am a Taurus and i would never go near a Virgo moon AGAIN..... My ex aqua of many moons ago had this never again.
Even my ex gem had a scorp moon (never again) but it was certainly better than a Virgo moon.
I think Virgo, Scorpio and Aquarius are definitely the worst Moon placements. Sucks I have it, but I'd rather be critical and grounded like I am than have the Gemini placements take over making me fickle and unreliable. I'll try to just relax and not analyze every little thing (near impossible).
My mother is a Virgo sun and I have pluto and Uranus in Virgo so I nitpick about EVERYTHING and everyone, so it's 10x worse in a moon placement.
Try not to be nitpicking.. His scorpio moon will sense it.
But tauruses are nervous if they like someone. My Taurus beau forehead would sweat and so would the palm of his hands and he would be a little "jumpy/on edge"...
Just go with the flow and make him feel relaxed. Good luckclick to expand
I can definitely nurture that part of him and help him relax, guess I just have to remember to look at it that way and see it as something I can help with rather than something that's "wrong."
I don't like Aqua energy either. My ma is a Virgo too so I grew up being nitpicked big time.
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by AgentP911"Tone down" lol lolPosted by ashley1734Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
This article probably conveys my point. It's the dating coach's answer that I found interesting as it's from a guy's point of view. The question the woman asks isn't that relevant to your dilemma.
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-turn-drinks-into-dinner-without-scaring-guys-off/
Also, I was going to add that you might find it more helpful in the dating world to, and forgive my choice of words here, tone down or put less effort into your appearance. I'm basing this from my own experience but also using your own example about the gas station guy. He was obviously more comfortable with a more toned down, normal everyday, regular look. When you pitched up looking a stunning 10 out of 10 it maybe tipped the balance and suddenly he was feeling 'in awe' of you or not as confident. Remember, guys have feelings and confidence/insecurity issues too. It put a bit of a wall up immediately on the first date and made things harder to click between you. Same as the Doctor guy. My point here is to pitch up as a 7 or 8 on the 'looks and effort dept' and maybe that will help build a connection better. You know, just two normal, everyday people on the same level having a date. Then after a couple of dates start ramping it up!
On the other hand, you might want someone who isn't put off by you or who's dick shrivels just because you've made an effort and are looking and being hot.
I've been in the same kind of situation as you and used to get guys go fucking stupid when all I'm thinking is 'can't we just have a nicedate??' My fella of over a year pursued me because of how I looked and also because we got on via text/calls. When we met and I pitched up as a 10 out of 10 looking fucking hot it just reaffirmed to him why he wanted me and was in no way put off by my more confident air. It actually turned him on more. Needless to say his dick did not shrivel!
I dunno, it's a tough one, I think maybe these guys are just not the right ones for you but hopefully you'll take something useful away from this post. That dating coach guy I put the link up about is actually really good. I'm British and don't go in for all that crap but he's a good one.
I don't know about the OP, but I couldn't tone down my look to save my life! Lol lol I'm "dressed up" 24/7! My Leo rising doesn't know how to "switch it off" lol lolclick to expand
Luckily, I'm somewhat of a tomboy and can be perfectly happy/confident in jeans at the bar watching football with the guys as much as I can be in heels and makeup. Worth a shot.
Posted by Mimi24Yeah same, it's helped me to understand myself a lot better. I've read a lot on about how this placement is a hard one. But if we can overcome our obstacles and our own mind/emotions, we can develop into really strong people with the ability to heal others (which idk why would be useful unless that's part of our job or in relationships..)Posted by themilkyway36I know! I had to research on it to understand myself better. That moon is an emotional wreck i swear lmao! I have to basically fight it, to not let it get into me. Its a curse and at the same time a gift since we can spot fakes and liars really well.Posted by Mimi24Yessss this is so me omg.Posted by ashley1734Its because its such an emotional and deep moon. Afraid to get hurt deeply if we fall or we have fell but too afraid to be vulnerable and tell the other person how we feel. Therefore, we create a wall to not show our emotions to people. Because it can be seen as weakeness to us. Either that or we burst..Posted by Mimi24Scorpio Moons seem soooo troubled, and for a romantic partner, pretty difficult to reach.
Its his scorpio moon. Trust me, he is worried to fuck it up l!
However if we know how to control it, everything will remain fine. People wirh scorpoo moon have to be self concious and aware of the dark side. The moment they are aware and can control it. Then they have evolved and matured their emotions.
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As for the spotting fakes part, I feel scorpio moons get taken of advantage a lot despite knowing that the other person doesn't have good intentions
Posted by JohnTheBaptist100Posted by AgentP911"Tone down" lol lolPosted by ashley1734Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
This article probably conveys my point. It's the dating coach's answer that I found interesting as it's from a guy's point of view. The question the woman asks isn't that relevant to your dilemma.
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-turn-drinks-into-dinner-without-scaring-guys-off/
Also, I was going to add that you might find it more helpful in the dating world to, and forgive my choice of words here, tone down or put less effort into your appearance. I'm basing this from my own experience but also using your own example about the gas station guy. He was obviously more comfortable with a more toned down, normal everyday, regular look. When you pitched up looking a stunning 10 out of 10 it maybe tipped the balance and suddenly he was feeling 'in awe' of you or not as confident. Remember, guys have feelings and confidence/insecurity issues too. It put a bit of a wall up immediately on the first date and made things harder to click between you. Same as the Doctor guy. My point here is to pitch up as a 7 or 8 on the 'looks and effort dept' and maybe that will help build a connection better. You know, just two normal, everyday people on the same level having a date. Then after a couple of dates start ramping it up!
On the other hand, you might want someone who isn't put off by you or who's dick shrivels just because you've made an effort and are looking and being hot.
I've been in the same kind of situation as you and used to get guys go fucking stupid when all I'm thinking is 'can't we just have a nicedate??' My fella of over a year pursued me because of how I looked and also because we got on via text/calls. When we met and I pitched up as a 10 out of 10 looking fucking hot it just reaffirmed to him why he wanted me and was in no way put off by my more confident air. It actually turned him on more. Needless to say his dick did not shrivel!
I dunno, it's a tough one, I think maybe these guys are just not the right ones for you but hopefully you'll take something useful away from this post. That dating coach guy I put the link up about is actually really good. I'm British and don't go in for all that crap but he's a good one.
I don't know about the OP, but I couldn't tone down my look to save my life! Lol lol I'm "dressed up" 24/7! My Leo rising doesn't know how to "switch it off" lol lolclick to expand
You know what I meant Busy! I wasn't sure how to put it but I think the points came across as intended. Naturally the toning down wouldn't apply to you!! Wouldn't dream of it!!
Posted by ashley1734Glad my post was received well as it was well intended! Must have been a bit of a let down with gas station fella. I'd also recommend going on two dates with potential candidates.Posted by AgentP911Thanks for the link I will go check it out now.Posted by ashley1734Posted by AgentP911
OP,
Have you ever thought about dating but from the man's view point?
You mean, after a date instead of psychoanalyzing his behavior, try to put myself in his realm of perception of how things might have gone or how I came across?
This article probably conveys my point. It's the dating coach's answer that I found interesting as it's from a guy's point of view. The question the woman asks isn't that relevant to your dilemma.
http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/understanding-men/how-can-i-turn-drinks-into-dinner-without-scaring-guys-off/
Also, I was going to add that you might find it more helpful in the dating world to, and forgive my choice of words here, tone down or put less effort into your appearance. I'm basing this from my own experience but also using your own example about the gas station guy. He was obviously more comfortable with a more toned down, normal everyday, regular look. When you pitched up looking a stunning 10 out of 10 it maybe tipped the balance and suddenly he was feeling 'in awe' of you or not as confident. Remember, guys have feelings and confidence/insecurity issues too. It put a bit of a wall up immediately on the first date and made things harder to click between you. Same as the Doctor guy. My point here is to pitch up as a 7 or 8 on the 'looks and effort dept' and maybe that will help build a connection better. You know, just two normal, everyday people on the same level having a date. Then after a couple of dates start ramping it up!
On the other hand, you might want someone who isn't put off by you or who's dick shrivels just because you've made an effort and are looking and being hot.
I've been in the same kind of situation as you and used to get guys go fucking stupid when all I'm thinking is 'can't we just have a nicedate??' My fella of over a year pursued me because of how I looked and also because we got on via text/calls. When we met and I pitched up as a 10 out of 10 looking fucking hot it just reaffirmed to him why he wanted me and was in no way put off by my more confident air. It actually turned him on more. Needless to say his dick did not shrivel!
I dunno, it's a tough one, I think maybe these guys are just not the right ones for you but hopefully you'll take something useful away from this post. That dating coach guy I put the link up about is actually really good. I'm British and don't go in for all that crap but he's a good one.
Yeah I knew from the last guy I dated that I was going for the wrong type of men, so that's why I was soooo excited at how dominant and confident the gas station guy was (he's a Libra with Aries Moon). Mr. Taurus Doctor I could kinda tell didn't have the same air of confidence, but I at least figured he was mature and sophisticated.
I am comfortable dressing down of course, I just feel like I should impress on a first date. I'll test that out with my next date and see if the energy feels calmer. Thank you!
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If you're selecting well and narrowing the guy's down, ensuring they're matching what you're looking for, stuff in common, the basic boxes ticked then when you have a first date you've already established a good connection to build on. Keep the date simple, try the toning down bit where applicable. Unless the dude is a fucktard I say always accept a second date. Even if you're not sure about him. One first date is not enough to get a good picture to make decisions on. Second dates are much easier and people are often more relaxed.
Wow!! I wish I had all of your problems. It's not so easy for those of us that permanently look like smashed dough.
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Wow!! I wish I had all of your problems. It's not so easy for those of us that permanently look like smashed dough.
Yeah but smashed dough turns into a sweet cookie —
Posted by jeaneWho doesn't love dough?!
Wow!! I wish I had all of your problems. It's not so easy for those of us that permanently look like smashed dough.
Posted by ashley1734Posted by jeaneWho doesn't love dough?!
Wow!! I wish I had all of your problems. It's not so easy for those of us that permanently look like smashed dough.click to expand
it can give you a stomach ache. lol.
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