@Stargurl
8 Years
Men, Why don’t you guys listen?
Understanding Why Men Often Don’t Listen in Relationships
Men may seem to not listen due to differences in communication styles, attention focus, or emotional processing. Sometimes, they might miss details or forget conversations, especially if distracted or not fully engaged. Recognizing these patterns can help improve understanding and communication between partners.
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Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
lol girl good luck with that one !
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
lol girl good luck with that one !
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Lmao it is so annoying to repeat myself. It is, not gone crazy yet but i might soon go crazy.
Idk what to do or how to communicate this
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
This is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
This is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
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don't you mean before sex lol
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.
I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
This is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
don't you mean before sex lol
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No.
Posted by TheRabbit
Yes, dear.
Don’t do this 😩😩
Posted by Fantum
I hate to say this, but I say a lot of shit my husband doesn't care about, so he tunes out until he thinks it's important.Jagazzz
So what do you do and how do you handle it ?
Posted by TheSag
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
You can date an aquarius tho.
He will tell you to stop nagging and just go away if you don't. That way you will know precisely what he has memorized. 😄
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns
Too busy looking at boobies.Seriously though my memory is rubbish so I might have been listening at the time but forgot. Some people drone on for ages and you tune out what they’re saying.
Well for those who talk a lot yeah true. But then how do you please your partners if you’re not listening ?
Isn’t that the entire point , you guys are difficult lol
Posted by TheSag
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
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Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
Posted by Mr_Pinchy
You can date an aquarius tho.He will tell you to stop nagging and just go away if you don't. That way you will know precisely what he has memorized. 😄
I cannot with air signs , i think they talk a whole lot, this blokes got a lot of gemini in his chart and he can talk. Heck, he talks for the both of us lol
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Posted by TheSag
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
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But then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
This is why gold-digging hoez learned to ask for things after sex.
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Thanks for the tip. 🙂
Posted by AerialView
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.
Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
Posted by AerialView
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
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I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
Posted by TheSag
Men are just not born to listen to anybody, doesn't matter whether it's your wife, dad, best friend or your dog.I barely listen to anybody. It's not in our DNA to be attentive at all.
At least men are known to be honest, that's a good thing, isn't it? 🙂
But yall listen to football or the porn, yeah right! Lol
Yes, but that's because the message is just too strong, that's why. It sparks our intellectual senses, you know? 😢
But then the message your s/o is passing across may be detrimental to your relationship, yet you guys seem to not care until the relationship isn’t redeemable and you’re feeling bad like “.what went wrong, oh my!
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I know. That's why we end up here on dxp - for only $ 12.. 😢
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
Sooo, how do we get you men to talk?
Also, is it safe to say that there’s an initial power struggle in relationships that may make you guys pretend deaf just to dominate? or why?
What is it really?
Posted by AerialView
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.
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Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
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Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else
That’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .
Just concerned it may affect us down the line when it’s not all fairytales anymore and reality sets in
Posted by AerialView
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.
Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
Keep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑
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You sounds frustrated smidgy 😂
Posted by Stargurl
Sooo, how do we get you men to talk?Also, is it safe to say that there’s an initial power struggle in relationships that may make you guys pretend deaf just to dominate? or why?
What is it really?
Oops, just realized I'm typing in the "man cave".
Does your guy talk a lot or not? If he talks a lot, he might not be hearing you because he's planning what he's going to say next. If he's the more typical type of man he's just flat not used to so much chatter, and it's hard to take in.
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That might be it. He talks a lot and for the both of us, he’s going to keep talking and not hear me and i keep quiet and he’ll say I didn’t say it lmao 😂
He talks more than i do, I don’t like to talk a lot. How do we fix his issue lol 😂
Posted by Seleukos
Active listening is hard.The reality is that I see more women failing at it than men.
Add to that that most women don't want you to listen but merely want to hear certain things.
+ Plus us men often troll you when it comes to that.
I listen attentively, hence the reason I don’t speak over people. So when people can’t do the same it really surprises me . I really need a solution
Posted by AerialView
IME women talk too much is almost nonsense lol.Not every woman, then again even if we do. When we are talking about something that’s important for both our sakes and the health of the relationship , still not interested. why?
I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we listen carefully.
They just pretend not to listen.
Again I don't relate. I'm Aquarius and we don't pretend.
Keep pretending you don't pretend. 😑😑
You sounds frustrated smidgy 😂
Actually, I'm sick so I've been in the house all day
Maybe you're right 😬😬
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Get well soon 😷
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
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When it’s your turn put your one finger on his lips while saying shhhhh!
Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
It's "selective hearing" . Women are chatterboxes. It is biologically impossible for a man to absorb information at the rate women spit it out.So, we tune you out until it's important. We just nod and say "uh huh" to everything else
That’s what’s funny, I don’t talk a lot. Lol he does the talking I always listen .
Just concerned it may affect us down the line when it’s not all fairytales anymore and reality sets in
Cry. Most men hate to see their woman cry. We may not take anything seriously, but when a woman cries we typically start to listen. Use that selectively lol
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Lmao i sure will use this from now
Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
What's his sign?
Cancer , Gemini Dominant
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
When it’s your turn put your one finger on his lips while saying shhhhh!
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Lmfaooooo that’s hard
Posted by Arielle83
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.
Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
What things are you trying to convey to him?
Whenever theres a debate, i let him speak however when its my turn to speak he talks over me and i shut up and still let him.
It’s no longer funny however because my point is valid too. I have told him that he keeps talking and won’t let me say anything and he apologises and still does it the next day. 🤷🏽♀️
It is still being presented as an opinion, with free option, without consequence.
In your example It bothers me when you keep talking over me and won't let me say anything. He's not sorry for doing it. He's sorry it bothers you. As crazy as that sounds it's pretty self evident by the fact he continues with the action.
Change the opinion into a statement, remove the options, add (and stand by) consequences.
Using the same example Do not speak over me when I am speaking. I do not do it. I do not like it. If you continue to do so I will consider it an act of disrespect, and will respond accordingly.
I mean... it probably doesn't have to be to that degree, but it may.
Post Edit - I should have said 'apply parameters to the options', and not 'remove the options'.
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Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their earsso if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lmao they’re crazy then
Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their earsso if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
I can listen like half the time, but if I'm exhausted from a long day or just fatigued in any way, I really can't listen for too long to anyone for that matter. Let's not front though, women can ignore and not listen to us guys either. It goes both ways.
Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their earsso if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
Lmfao I'm dead
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Lmaoooo
Posted by sierra_
our voice is music to their earsso if they get lost in the song,
that's really not their fault..
people listen to music and zone out
it happens
probably why a lot of women call those musicians "sensitive, gentle souls" and shit coz they listen..
coz it's much easier for them to hear and interpret female voices
Lol really depends on the lyrics. It's more confusing when there's a bunch of women talking at once. To many men, it sounds like a bunch of crows fighting over a French fry 🦁
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Caw caw caw coo coo!
Like that? I’d rather quack, more annoying 😊
Posted by Stargurl
I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listeni. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?
This would be one of those things...That could be reversed and asked why women dont listen to the simplest most sensible "advice" and input. But its perspective I guess. Many Men think women are hard headed too and dont listen. But whats the point of mentioning it just quietly take it into account..so is there an answer? I dont think so except once your grown try to put yourself in a position where it doesnt matter. A "thats on that person not me" type of thing because I doubt there would be a consensus on this type of thing.
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Definitely.
Then again, if i got into a position where it wouldn’t matter the communication would cease because it won’t matter and I wouldn’t have to bother talking anymore. I’m just interested in how else i can communicate that makes it easier to comprehend , i bet if a male friend said the same thing to him he would listen. I’m not looking for everyone to say “..yes they don’t.” I’m looking for suggestions on communication
Are you kidding me? Women usually talk with emotions and igonore some reason.
The problem is for the two sides, emotion vs rathional
Posted by Arielle83
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
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Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
Posted by Arielle83
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?
You trying to change him, he will leave you.
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Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!
Right, got it.
Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid
Cheers
Lol at he will leave you.
Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake
😩
Posted by Arielle83
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?
You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!
Right, got it.
Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid
Cheers
Then change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.
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Lmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weird
Posted by Stargurl
Lol at he will leave you.Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake
😩
Who the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?
Seems stupid to stay
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You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?
Posted by Arielle83
He's in the cave. You knocking at the door and he's pushing boulders to block u out and suffocate himself.Funny you said this, one time he said he does things on his own when he wants to because when someones saying to him to do certain things he feels caged and im like 😳
I'm the same.
And I have a vagina.
Sometimes ppl like to check out to work on themselves.
Well but he said sometimes i go on and on like nagging? Tf?! I don’t even nag him, I’m just trying to get him to do what I want him to.
I was so upset, never talking again. Ever!
Someone is trying to get you to do things better and they’re nagging? But your shit is ok?!
You have no right to tell someone what to do just because it's what you want. What makes you think you're right?
You trying to change him, he will leave you.
Okk so its ok for him to talk over me, while i stfu!
Right, got it.
Might as well be a mug, since my opinion is less valid
Cheers
Then change for yourself to stepped up in the game by talking over him too while he's talking if you also wanted to say something too.
Lmaooo that would be so nice to do but then weird
Nah thats just standing up for yourself.
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Lol thats true too
Posted by Stargurl
Lol at he will leave you.Like he's Jesus Christ the one and only saviour, i better cling on for graces sake
😩
Who the fuck wants to be with someone that nags. Why don't u leave him if he talks over u?
Seems stupid to stay
You’re the one who sounds stupid tbh! That you cannot analyse the situation without dragging one party?
Whatever, toxic bytch
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Lol probably why your husband left you.
Unfortunate.
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I’m coming to you woman to man lol please elaborate where necessary why you guys don’t listen
i. Lets say we talk about something and i ask you later like “.. hey remember when i said.” and you’re like “nah babe you never mentioned”
ii. You’re doing something that straight up gets on my nerves and I have mentioned it once or twice (without nagging 🙄) but you still won’t stop it.
Honestly, why don’t you guys listen? How else are we meant to make you listen, what sign language do you guys understand?