Why do some guys tease their girlfriend about other girls

Alright, I have noticed a lot of the guys here are pretty cool and sensitive to others so maybe I am asking the wrong people but I have noticed this in some relationships and I will give the most current example. I had a couple over the other day, the man is a Leo and his wife is a fellow Taurus, and while I was looking up places to order pizza for us online, they were observing the decor in my home. The Leo said something I didn't quite hear and it was the Taurus's tone of voice that grabbed my attention. I have an art piece of a Maya King holding a naked woman, called Eternal Love, and the Taurus recapped their conversation for me.

Leo: "Why is that Mayan King is holding a naked woman?"
Taurus: "Mayan kings always have naked women"
Leo: "Why can't I have naked women?"

Alright, now while I know some couples are into the whole teasing each other thing, I could tell that she was kind of put out by it by her tone of voice. Not in the mood to really expand on that I just made my own comment by covering my face saying "I won't look", in order to lighten the mood again and suggest that Leo already has a "naked woman". They laughed and that was that.

I have seen this sort of banter between couples and I don't know what it is like for them behind closed doors but saying this in front of other friends to me seems disrespectful, especially when the girl is clearly not finding it all that funny. Most girls just clam up and don't say anything, perhaps they never will, or maybe they are planning to get back at him later.

My boyfriend knows better than to do that, and has even said so when we were playing an online game with a group of mutual friends, one happened to be a couple where the guy made a similar kind of comment and my boyfriend just said "If I said something like that to Anu she'd rip my balls off".

I know some chicks don't give a shit but there are a lot who do, and I don't know if their boyfriend or husbands are aware of how much it bothers them if they're the types that avoid conflict, especially in front of other people, which I understand, and then later why would you bring it up unless you want to be asked why you are bringing up old shit.

I don't get why joking about fucking other women aka cheating, is funny, especially when you know your partner is obviously hurt by it. These are guys I normally find pretty cool and nice, too. I wouldn't have someone in my house who wasn't.

Posted by Gobshite
He's a Leo, enough said. You need to read up more on the douces that are Leo men.

nuh uh..

Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Trust Taurus married doesn't care...she wasn't put off N that's how Leo's are...she's used to it

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Yeah maybe... she does have an Aqua moon. Her tone of voice when she told me what he said had a hint of possible disdain in it, though. Maybe she was just being cute.

Although I have been in a relationship or two where my partner said and did stuff that people could determine that I didn't care because I can be good at pretending everything is okay when actually I am dying inside... and I only do that when around people I am not familiar enough with to be my true self. The only people I felt I could really do that around was when I had him surrounded by my immediate family. That's when I felt safe enough to release my venom.

Hm that's some games if you want to play like that. So it is alright to talk and act like that and for the other not to say anything about if you do it, I can do it too.

I would have said something why can't I have male naked guys either and watch the expression since I am able to do it that way. Yup I won't hold back when it comes to games. If I don't like the answer I might have a little doubt. So trust is huge. I also think he was trying to get a reaction because Taurus are stoic. And unless you give me a reason not to trust you till then.

Or there isn't any passion and there relationship isn't spicy enough since it was the guy saying that.

Posted by komorebi
It may not be the case with your friends, but generally I think jealousy is a result of perceived power dynamics.

The person who wants to see their partner feel jealous is partly trying to assert dominance (or wants to see how much power they have) over their partner. Whereas the person who feels jealous feels subordinate to whatever triggers their jealousy.

Yeah that makes me rather sad... I am certain that was the case with at least one of my exes which is why, when I see it happening to someone else I want to say something, but I feel like it is not really my business and I don't want to embarrass anybody by making it more of a case if it really isn't? But if someone does that to me, ho-ho-ho, you better believe I don't put up with that these days.
Nip in the bud. AIn't nobody got time fo' dat.

Posted by Vixen2
I will say that I think a lot of men are genuinely clueless about how annoying it is to women to hear that kind of thing....they just do not think the same way. In their mind, they are thinking :

"I wonder what I said wrong? I wonder if it was what I said about that woman being attractive or that I wish I had a harem of women. Gosh....I'm with her...only her, if I wanted all that then I wouldn't be with her."

But then...there are those men that know exactly what they are doing and they do it on purpose to instill insecurity as a manipulation technique. It's on the premise of that Leykis technique crap.

But let's not be one sided....women do and are capable of doing the same thing....trying to make a guy chase her or want her more by talking about this guy and that guy or delayed return calls or waiting a certain amount of time to answer texts...game playing. I mean...no one is an idiot. We all have smartphones, everyone knows that you are alerted to texts and emails so you just can't miss them and everyone knows that most people are not away from their damn phone...their anchor to the twenty first century for 8 hours....

Wonderfully said. Especially that clueless part. I don't understand how they can be so damn clueless about that though. : It ain't funny, guise. Like the last thing I want is an image planted in my head of my partner fucking other women, as he is implying that now. Come on.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Hm that's some games if you want to play like that. So it is alright to talk and act like that and for the other not to say anything about if you do it, I can do it too.

I would have said something why can't I have male naked guys either and watch the expression since I am able to do it that way. Yup I won't hold back when it comes to games. If I don't like the answer I might have a little doubt. So trust is huge. I also think he was trying to get a reaction because Taurus are stoic. And unless you give me a reason not to trust you till then.

Heh... the stoic Taurus. I am a Taurus and people wouldn't describe me as such, especially once the walls start coming down. Those two are married, I should hope there are no walls.

The only time I appear stoic is when I am in survival mode, whether it be looking like I am not afraid of a thug or someone who is making all my sirens go off inside like "this person does not have good intentions" or I am waiting until later when in a safer environment to let my feelings out about what somebody did. I hate being embarrassed in front of other people.

I'm that girlfriend that whispers to her boyfriend "Dat ass!"
I do enjoy analyzing things, and it's great when he gets in on it, too. It's fun to observe people.

During the International Festival, there was a girl from west Africa who joined my boyfriend and me at the table. My boyfriend leaned in and whispered: "She's beautiful." The best part? I had already told the girl that. So I whispered back: "She really is, and I told her." Then I gave him a look like, "Well?" That's when he looked at me incredulously and says, "Yes, but you can say that. I can't." HA, I was just teasing. He held me tighter.

Later, I was up on stage performing, and we invited the crowd to dance along. My boyfriend and a group of people did.

Later, as we took a walk he said, "You know, I've decided I don't like that girl after all."
Me: "No?"
Him, "No. While everyone was dancing, she had this expression on her face like she was too good to be joining in. She just did this hip movement and had an attitude about her. So I've decided that I don't like her."
Me: "Ah, so you prefer your girlfriend's dorky dancing, instead?"
Him: *big smile and kiss* "DEFINITELY."

If I do feel jealous, I bite him, and then I feel better. 😄

It's important for the man to know his woman and understand her feelings and respect them (vice versa, of course.) It's okay that your Taurus friend did not like it, and perhaps she was in a sensitive or grumpy mood, but if that's a pattern, then maybe the hubby is trying to passively give her hints?

Actually, now that I think about it, passively dropping hits is a good reason why guys tease girls about other women.

I once was playing a card game on campus, and the boyfriend of one of the girls at the table kept commenting on my style. He said how feminine it was, he complimented the colors, the patterns, the different fabrics. Very strange. He was fixated on my painted nails (I did them myself and I keep my nails short so they look like a toddler's hand.) His girlfriend was simply in jeans and a grey t-shirt with her hair down but not styled. So, my theory is, his compliments had nothing to do with me. He was simply passively letting his girlfriend know what he likes and would like to see her do.

Why he doesn't simply tell her and even have Couple Shopping trip or something else that's also direct and fun is beyond me.

I think this example could just as easily be about

the Taurus not serving up the booty herself... in the

kitchen right before they left the house to come to

see you.

Having said that, guys who antagonize their girlfriends

with comments about other women are doing it on

purpose to make them feel insecure because it gives

them a feeling of control.

You can't say you love someone when you say things

that you know will make them feel like shit.

Posted by GuardianAnu
when I see it happening to someone else I want to say something, but I feel like it is not really my business and I don't want to embarrass anybody by making it more of a case if it really isn't?

Yeah, hold onto that mindset and try not to draw conclusions on what is actually happening.

Some of us have different dynamics with partnerships.

Personally, there is no stronger trust than in those moments because I know he knows and he knows I know that we're each other's choice so everything else is just..playfulness between the two of us. We're accomplices to it.

I agree with PotHead... I dont see why there's anything to get upset about.. Hmm.. I'd joke with him, honestly, it's all just silly talk. I dont see what...why even get irritated by it..

Maybe she just didn't react because he said that when people were with them.. She did say "Mayan kings always have naked women" after all ... I think she just stopped herself from reacting further because she might've felt it wasn't private. A person's expression has many reasons behind it.

Posted by whatthecrab
Because they are insecure about themselves. That kind of behavior is a huge red flag that warns you that they want to control you by manipulation and that they would hate to see you succeed in life.

Nah bro. My parents generation did this back n forth teasing type of thing all the time. We need to learn how to be less insecure and more playful.

But then again my parents generation invented swinging lol



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Posted by whatthecrab
Because they are insecure about themselves. That kind of behavior is a huge red flag that warns you that they want to control you by manipulation and that they would hate to see you succeed in life.

Nah bro. My parents generation did this back n forth teasing type of thing all the time. We need to learn how to be less insecure and more playful.

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Why do we need to learn to play the mean game? That's what it is, that doesn't seem playful to me. At least these types are easy to dump.

Posted by Vixen2
I will say that I think a lot of men are genuinely clueless about how annoying it is to women to hear that kind of thing....they just do not think the same way. In their mind, they are thinking :

"I wonder what I said wrong? I wonder if it was what I said about that woman being attractive or that I wish I had a harem of women. Gosh....I'm with her...only her, if I wanted all that then I wouldn't be with her."

But then...there are those men that know exactly what they are doing and they do it on purpose to instill insecurity as a manipulation technique. It's on the premise of that Leykis technique crap.

But let's not be one sided....women do and are capable of doing the same thing....trying to make a guy chase her or want her more by talking about this guy and that guy or delayed return calls or waiting a certain amount of time to answer texts...game playing. I mean...no one is an idiot. We all have smartphones, everyone knows that you are alerted to texts and emails so you just can't miss them and everyone knows that most people are not away from their damn phone...their anchor to the twenty first century for 8 hours....

Its so true about those gaming techniques... The thing if even if a girl is too busy for texting 24/7 its still not actively mean and preying on her insecurities like the techniques most of the males try these days....Luckily females are beginning to smarten up and understanding them more & more, not letting them get away with it and calling out their bullbutter. Most of the females in my family and social circles are aware these days and don't put up with the bs anymore. Great post by the way.





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