[Serious] Changing your mind about a guy
By Lostthoughts — November 14, 2019 4:27am — 37 replies
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- Situation: Guy likes girl and asks her out or makes a move. Girl turns guy down. Guy gets discouraged and let's it go or supresses it.
Girl changes her mind. Makes a move it drops hint. Guy turns her down because she did Early and doesn't trust it. Or more commonly guy completely miss the signals or dismisses it. Girl gets pissy and dismisses him.
This cycle repeats. Until one of them dates someone else then feelings are hurt. The other ending is later down the road they reconnect and in hindsight they realize thier mistake.
Situational reasons(which I think is just mind trap), are the usual excuses I hear for this. Not interested in that. Nor the excuse "well maybe they just didn't feel strongly enough". That's not always the case.
So my question is how have you personally broken this cycle or seen another person do it? Successful relationships only that last at least 2 years or longer please. 
Search for what you have to lose, not for what you have lost.female from anytown, Anywhere, United StatesIf the mistake is realized and they want to finally be together, one needs to stop being petty and they both need to compromise.- Age of boy and girl like what? 5?
- If I were in a situation like this, I’d stop playing games and be honest with the guy.
Posted by Mactavish_R
Posted by Gemitati
Age of boy and girl like what? 5?
More like 50click to expand
Boy of 50? I want to see THE boy! LmaoThe user who posted this message has hidden it.
Posted by Gemitati
Age of boy and girl like what? 5?
I agree. That is why I basically asked to exclude situational reasons, when you get wiser you realize it's a bullbutter.Maturity.
And filtering "sure why not?"relationships by asking a duration of at least 2 years.Posted by saggurl88
If the mistake is realized and they want to finally be together, one needs to stop being petty and they both need to compromise.
Yes petty. You could say that. Most of the time the root cause is miscommunication snowballing.- "...they reconnect and in hindsight, they realize their mistake."
If it was me, I'd say "I like you, let's try to make this work." If he felt the same he would too. Simple Posted by Mactavish_R
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Mactavish_R
Posted by Gemitati
Age of boy and girl like what? 5?
More like 50
Boy of 50? I want to see THE boy! Lmao
Aren't you already happy with your Aries?click to expand
Yeah...but he ain’t a...boi...
I wouldn’t call him a boy ever.
So I was wondering how old is a boy OP is about?
Btw I am also interested in Girl...🤪Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Mactavish_R
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by Mactavish_R
Posted by Gemitati
Age of boy and girl like what? 5?
More like 50
Boy of 50? I want to see THE boy! Lmao
Aren't you already happy with your Aries?
Yeah...but he ain’t a...boi...
I wouldn’t call him a boy ever.
So I was wondering how old is a boy OP is about?
Btw I am also interested in Girl...🤪click to expand
Not fishing for ideas this is a general question and I'm 35 male.
I have heard a lot of tales of unrequited love, missed opportunities, and just bad ideas in hindsight. No thanks.
I'm looking for realistic successful examples of this situation. From people who have had first or second hand experience. This kind of situation happens often and is a mind trap people have issues overcoming. A successful break throughs is what I'm interested in.Posted by Lostthoughts
Situation: Guy likes girl and asks her out or makes a move. Girl turns guy down. Guy gets discouraged and let's it go or supresses it.
Girl changes her mind. Makes a move it drops hint. Guy turns her down because she did Early and doesn't trust it. Or more commonly guy completely miss the signals or dismisses it. Girl gets pissy and dismisses him.
This cycle repeats. Until one of them dates someone else then feelings are hurt.
Lol how can either "get their feelings hurt" if their social awkwardness prevents them from even going on one butterty date in the first place?
Ah, kids these days.. how will you manage reproduction?Posted by enfant_terrible
Posted by Lostthoughts
Situation: Guy likes girl and asks her out or makes a move. Girl turns guy down. Guy gets discouraged and let's it go or supresses it.
Girl changes her mind. Makes a move it drops hint. Guy turns her down because she did Early and doesn't trust it. Or more commonly guy completely miss the signals or dismisses it. Girl gets pissy and dismisses him.
This cycle repeats. Until one of them dates someone else then feelings are hurt.
Lol how can either "get their feelings hurt" if their social awkwardness prevents them from even going on one butterty date in the first place?
Ah, kids these days.. how will you manage reproduction?click to expand
Thank you for post! A course your right! We are all born with the emotional and mental maturity needed to deal with this situation and every other lesson in life. It is by no means difficult for some people. It just comes naturally 😁
Thank you for your insightful post and please come again!Posted by Lostthoughts
Situation: Guy likes girl and asks her out or makes a move. Girl turns guy down. Guy gets discouraged and let's it go or supresses it.
Girl changes her mind. Makes a move it drops hint. Guy turns her down because she did Early and doesn't trust it. Or more commonly guy completely miss the signals or dismisses it. Girl gets pissy and dismisses him.
This cycle repeats. Until one of them dates someone else then feelings are hurt. The other ending is later down the road they reconnect and in hindsight they realize thier mistake.
Situational reasons(which I think is just mind trap), are the usual excuses I hear for this. Not interested in that. Nor the excuse "well maybe they just didn't feel strongly enough". That's not always the case.
So my question is how have you personally broken this cycle or seen another person do it? Successful relationships only that last at least 2 years or longer please.
personally: if i don´t want to go on a date or am not vibing with someone, nothing will change my mind.
so, what changed the dynamics?Posted by Lostthoughts
Situation: Guy likes girl and asks her out or makes a move. Girl turns guy down. Guy gets discouraged and let's it go or supresses it.
Girl changes her mind. Makes a move it drops hint. Guy turns her down because she did Early and doesn't trust it. Or more commonly guy completely miss the signals or dismisses it. Girl gets pissy and dismisses him.
This cycle repeats. Until one of them dates someone else then feelings are hurt. The other ending is later down the road they reconnect and in hindsight they realize thier mistake.
Situational reasons(which I think is just mind trap), are the usual excuses I hear for this. Not interested in that. Nor the excuse "well maybe they just didn't feel strongly enough". That's not always the case.
So my question is how have you personally broken this cycle or seen another person do it? Successful relationships only that last at least 2 years or longer please.
are you an air sign?
