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Why do women slut shame?
because women see other women as a threat
A threat to what?
Does the slut shamer what to be a "slut"?
I don't understand that line of thinking.
Insecurities/jealousy.
You mean that the slut is getting laid, and the shamer isn't?
She puts down a woman for being something she wants to be, but can't.. for whatever reasons?
People are just judgey little shits in general
slut shaming isnt just for woman anymore its for guys too... I think ppl should raise their standards instead of hoping on whatever dick is hard... my views have changed over the years tho I used to not care at all
This isn't about men.
Insecurities/jealousy.
Yup
Describe slut shaming.
Give me an example
Idk. Stupidity?
I think it's like when dudes talk shit on each other. I hear guys go full locker room talk on each other. My taurus gets shitted on from other's at work for not looking at other women. They call him pussy whipped and "not a real man". I mean it's his dick, his body. Why can't he choose who he wants to give it to? If I'm it, what does it matter to them? 🤔
My own male cousins tried to shame my husband into cheating, LOL.
I'm like y'all damn near came close to wanting to fuck me so you should clearly see he's satisfied, LMAO!
Oh the female slut shamers...
Let's see... where to begin with this deeply bread psychosis....
It usually starts out culturally. They don't even know it themselves half the time.
Female sexuality has been a difficult for thing for society to handle and its typically a ticking bomb in the family. To avoid the responsibility, most families resort to shame. Shame becomes a blanket of security... a care package from the fam... awwww... like a binky.
That's the extremely abbreviated deep answer.
The shallow street answer is self-loathing. Alot of women hate, cry, over aspects of being a woman that they see as a weakness to the point that they become rabid with self-loathing... pick any... and I do mean anything like even proper self-care... everything's yuck to them... and other women are yuck too. So, a woman empowered without shame or embedded insecurities, they do not understand and reject because it makes them come face to face with their demons. Nobody likes an exorcism, LOL!
Don't take away her binky and make her think for herself and navigate the world as an individual.
And, don't ask her to mind her own business or stop comparing herself with what other women are doing... no... she needs other women to help her define who she is cause "mommy and daddy's" definition is starting to fade.
Lets take 2 humans. One is fully capable of many things,worked hard, and went the extra mile. The other isn't and didn't. One dressed normal, and the other dressed like a slut. The slut is likely to get father ahead by using looks and being sleazy to their advantage with most men. Especally those in high positions. So it's totally a threat to other women.
I'm not saying a slut can't be fully capable of many things, and went the extra mile either. Thats an entirely a different woman altogether, and dangerous to the average slut and all normal women. I like to consider these type of women hell on heels, or literally the devil walking among humans.
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Easy. Because women are competitive and insecure. Envy is the name of the game.
It isn't just slut shaming that some will do. It can be pointing out that another woman is "less attractive", is too fat, is too skinny, or something else.
The women who exhibit this trait often envy the attention that the "slut" is getting because they themselves don't get the same amount. So they tear the "slut" down because they think she only gets attention because she is a "slut". So they feel the need to point out being a "slut" is a negative trait to the Male populace because their "logic" tells them if its pointed out, then the "slut" will be less "valuable". Which in turn means less competition for Male attention.
Unbeknownst to the shamer, they haven't figured out that most men give too shits about "women's gossip".
slut shaming isnt just for woman anymore its for guys too... I think ppl should raise their standards instead of hoping on whatever dick is hard... my views have changed over the years tho I used to not care at all
Wat
what wat?
I dint undertood your point
nah but forreal my point is that its not about shaming people for sex anymore its about having higher standards for yourself
like slut shaming is SUCH an old topic... do people even slut shame anymore— people do what they do no matter WHAT people say and will continue to do it... but being a "slut" is just so old news that the word SLUT doesnt have a derogatory meaning to it anymore... call someone a slut and theyre gunna be like "ya i get a lota dick/pusi so what" but IMO I think we need to all realize that stds DO exist and we should stop being so horny... IMAGINE the time and energy we put into being sluts we could be cleaning up trash or impeaching trump or some shit
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You're on dxp right?
Like.. you read some of the shit women post here about other women, right?
Insecurities/jealousy.
You mean that the slut is getting laid, and the shamer isn't?
She puts down a woman for being something she wants to be, but can't.. for whatever reasons?
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I think it's misplaced anger/dissapointment. Like when women get mad at a woman who cheated with their husband, instead of being mad at the husband.
The "slut" outs how easy men are and how little loyalty and feelings mean in comparison to sex and getting female attention. It gets hard to find out and accept how little you actually mean, I think, and then it's just easier to blaim the female. You know we are the spawn of satan. We took a bite of the forbidden fruit, we are the sexual ones so we need to cover up, and all that stuff. I believe it isbsonewhat embedded in our history and culture. Even the rape culture, where it's almost always somehiw the women fault that the men can not control themselves. You know?!
Interesting topic by the way!
slut shaming isnt just for woman anymore its for guys too... I think ppl should raise their standards instead of hoping on whatever dick is hard... my views have changed over the years tho I used to not care at all
Wat
what wat?
I dint undertood your point
nah but forreal my point is that its not about shaming people for sex anymore its about having higher standards for yourself
like slut shaming is SUCH an old topic... do people even slut shame anymore— people do what they do no matter WHAT people say and will continue to do it... but being a "slut" is just so old news that the word SLUT doesnt have a derogatory meaning to it anymore... call someone a slut and theyre gunna be like "ya i get a lota dick/pusi so what" but IMO I think we need to all realize that stds DO exist and we should stop being so horny... IMAGINE the time and energy we put into being sluts we could be cleaning up trash or impeaching trump or some shit
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True, it's very very rare that I hear of experience slut shaming ever anymore. Yaaaaaay 💃💃
Insecurities/jealousy.
You mean that the slut is getting laid, and the shamer isn't?
She puts down a woman for being something she wants to be, but can't.. for whatever reasons?
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Just to be a bitch!
Because she can!
Jealous about slut’s boobs!
Wondering how does it feel to fuck a lot!
Wants ‘slut’s’ man?
What tf are you doing budging into girls business?
Bc they lack the nerve to live out their slutty fantasies cuz fear of judgement so they slut-shame their hoar sisters
In some cases it’s just because it makes them temporarily feel better about themselves... they try to elevate themselves by putting another down.
In other cases I think it’s not that they’re intentionally trying to hurt or put them down, but instead because they really can’t understand the behavior and believe it’s immoral. If you are raised to believe that something is immoral, you’re bound to look down on those who do it and consider them to be immoral as well.
Underlying what she said, slut shamers see a slut’s behavior as a threat to their social norm (familial, personal, religious/moral, etc.)
Human beings are sheep, and part of this is joining the witch hunt whenever it justifies their raison d’etre ... Chalk it up to fear of the unaccepted or of the unknown.
because women see other women as a threat
A threat to what?
Does the slut shamer what to be a "slut"?
I don't understand that line of thinking.
In the land of the lizard brain, men have safety in numbers. More men= higher chance of survival.
And men a heirachal too, so if the strongest dude gets the woman, everyone falls in line, until some challenge is presented, then bam, new hierarchy.
In lizard brain land for women, more women= less chance that she'll be the one picked for reproduction, protected, safe and alive. So safety is in asserting dominance, or taking out the competition.
I believe this is where the undercurrents with women come from.
I also believe this is why women's cycles line up if we all live together.
Biology wants us to take each other out.
Last one standing gets babies.
Great isn't it? 😄
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Jesus loved the hoes....
the society´s way to control women, to control their sexuality (which was a threat for centuries, because no DNA tests to solve who is the father and obviously noone wanted to let their money and titles or whatever to go to the not blood relative - only the mother is certain Mater semper certa est)
girls were taught that sex is discusting but they have to endure it for the "blessings of motherhood"
double standards were in place for soo long that its impossible to leave them in a minute, its just like 50-100 years that women started to be "important", so it will take time to ditch slut-shaming
I think the invention of birth-control was the real thing for women to finally be able to express their sexuality, which is a threat because its still uncontrolled and lots of women want to have sex how they tought in their fantasy men have, but then crying about it in forums 🙂
its only a part of it, but imho
When I think back the girls that were called sluts quite often had only one or two boyfriends during their time in school. They were openly sexually active but not promiscuous. The girl that was the most promiscuous was like undercover sexually active. She always appeared to be the "innocent" type and you never heard anything but she had several different partners. If a guy wasn't to be home until next week she would find another to take care of her urges yet be sure that no one would suspect what they were up to.
Female sexuality is fascinating to me but its shame that labels have to be thrown around.
When I think back the girls that were called sluts quite often had only one or two boyfriends during their time in school. They were openly sexually active but not promiscuous. The girl that was the most promiscuous was like undercover sexually active. She always appeared to be the "innocent" type and you never heard anything but she had several different partners. If a guy wasn't to be home until next week she would find another to take care of her urges yet be sure that no one would suspect what they were up to.
Female sexuality is fascinating to me but its shame that labels have to be thrown around.
I remember seeing a sanctified girl getting dragged and beat out of the school by her mom. She always had the doily on her head and skirts down to her ankles.
She had gotten expelled for having sex under the bleachers with the sleaziest guy in school.
It's no wonder this topic lends itself to high school so much. Slut shaming is juvenile... and, all the thoughts and emotions that go with it... juvenile.
And, on the list of morality.... get real...
Just like I told the kids I taught in middle-school going around calling each other bastards... once, I told them what a bastard was... all of a sudden, you didn't hear "bastard" any more.
Children out of wedlock...immoral?
Gluteny, obesity... immoral?
I mean, we could go on and on with the "immoral" bullshit.
Any sex before marriage? Immoral?
Anal sex, sodomy....? Immoral?
Coveting, jealoust... immoral?
Lying, stealing... blah, blah, blah...
Puh-leeez
Going around hiding "hate" behind "morailty"....
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Isn't it your body, your choice?
Even when you don't call them a slut outright, the condescension is evident.. albeit passive aggressive.
Why do you feel the need to express your opinions on what another woman does with her body?