Babying a Man?

Hello ladies 🙂

I saw a woman this morning who is married to a man that is dependent on her for everything....she has no children and i think he may be her substitute child? He is able bodied but expects her to *look after him* as she would a kid. If he has a headache, he waits for her to remind him to take a headache tablet lol

Do any any of you ladies like to be in a relationship like this or would the thought of it turn your stomach?

Personally, i prefer a strong man that can look after himself, even though i enjoy giving, there is something weird about having a man in your life who you feel the need to treat like a baby

I saw my mother do it for my Dad......

Not for me ~ it has to be equal. I love being a mum but not to a grown man

Anyone?

*~x~*

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
He has to have some kind of disorder to be that hopeless surely?

Lazy?

Posted by blackphase
I've done it.. not to the extreme where he relies on me to tell him to get rid of his own headache, lol. But Cancer Mars & Venus here, need I say more.. Lol 😛

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There is nothing attractive about a giant man child.

I don't want to have sex with my child.

Overly controlling men are just as awful. I don't want to have sex with my father either.

So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Posted by Deedee86
There is nothing attractive about a giant man child.

I don't want to have sex with my child.

Overly controlling men are just as awful. I don't want to have sex with my father either.

Agree

Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

In defense of the men, if women do this for them, more fool them.

You mean like howard and bernadette from big bang theory?

Posted by Parkourler

You mean like howard and bernadette from big bang theory?

I don't watch that, so i can't answer

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Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

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I would do that if he's busy doing something else /is in a hurry/ is ill/ just not in a mood for once. But not if he just decided to be lazy forever.

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Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

I would do that if he's busy doing something else /is in a hurry/ is ill/ just not in a mood for once. But not if he just decided to be lazy forever.

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She did it in the breakfast restaurant in view of everyone.....

Posted by ParisianCappy
i like to sleep on the boob of my gf, it's one of the most quiet place i ever been

That is nice......

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Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

I would do that if he's busy doing something else /is in a hurry/ is ill/ just not in a mood for once. But not if he just decided to be lazy forever.

She did it in the breakfast restaurant in view of everyone.....

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Wow!! Lol!! Do you think she thought it's romantic or something?

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Does he have a job, the headache tablet guy?

*Headache tablet guy* ?

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Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

I would do that if he's busy doing something else /is in a hurry/ is ill/ just not in a mood for once. But not if he just decided to be lazy forever.

She did it in the breakfast restaurant in view of everyone.....

Wow!! Lol!! Do you think she thought it's romantic or something?

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No, she was buying into his need for mummy 😐

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Does he have a job, the headache tablet guy?

*Headache tablet guy* ?

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Lol at Headache tablet guy

Yes, he is a very talented artist....not exactly taxing physical work though, is it?

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Posted by Teena
So he's just being lazy then?? No!! Wouldn't be with a man like that.

I may baby someone for whatever reasons..but I wouldn't be in a relationship with such person no! I don't think I can respect slothfulness.

Yes Teena, i think so

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

I would do that if he's busy doing something else /is in a hurry/ is ill/ just not in a mood for once. But not if he just decided to be lazy forever.

She did it in the breakfast restaurant in view of everyone.....

Wow!! Lol!! Do you think she thought it's romantic or something?

No, she was buying into his need for mummy 😐

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?

Posted by halalbabe
He treats her home like a hotel and she's the servant, a maid, a possible broodmare. It reminds me of all the married women who provide structure and live like a single parent where their husband is an infantile dependent.

She is to blame for tolerating that......I wouldn't, in a heartbeat

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Posted by halalbabe
He treats her home like a hotel and she's the servant, a maid, a possible broodmare. It reminds me of all the married women who provide structure and live like a single parent where their husband is an infantile dependent.

She is to blame for tolerating that......I wouldn't, in a heartbeat

Definitely not, it's like expecting a positive return from nurturing a trashcan ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Yes indeed

Are you a Scorp too?

Mothers are often to blame though.....raising their sons to be dependent on them and then as my mother used to say *making a rod for some other women's back*

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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Does he have a job, the headache tablet guy?

*Headache tablet guy* ?

Lol at Headache tablet guy

Yes, he is a very talented artist....not exactly taxing physical work though, is it?

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Mentally and emotionally exhausting.

Hey if it works for them then god bless. I prefer to be with someone a little more independent myself.

I can do this and then I'll get mad at you... what do I look like your mom, next day, pookie, don't get up, let me get that for you... — what can I say, I'm complicated.

Posted by MyStarsShine
Mothers are often to blame though.....raising their sons to be dependent on them and then as my mother used to say *making a rod for some other women's back*

Lol! I was thinking the same. These must be Mama's boys.

Posted by leowww

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was on a trip away with my parents once and i saw my mother pour cereal into a bowl, then the milk for my father...i mean really?

Lol so?

I think that's quite nice and vice versa.

Unless she's bathing him or wiping him... Gross.

I prefer relationships where it's okay to take care of each other.

I'm super protective and nurturing, I'll take care of my parents, my siblings, my nephews and my boyfriend - instinctively.

It's a form of love.

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But it wasn't vice versa, it was a one way street.....

Posted by Teena

Posted by MyStarsShine
Mothers are often to blame though.....raising their sons to be dependent on them and then as my mother used to say *making a rod for some other women's back*

Lol! I was thinking the same. These must be Mama's boys.

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I can see them at our lad's school.....not shown how to do anything

It is kind of cruel in a way.....not preparing a kid for the outside world and it's also a form of control to keep them babied

Ugh

Posted by MagicMona
doing nice things for one another and being just plain creepy are two different things.

Absolutely

Or taking advantage of a partner.....that is just taking the piss

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Must be a Capricorn only sign I know that would do stiuff like that.

Yes! My mother was a Cappy and dad an Aries

Lol

Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

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Glad i wasn't the only one that noticed that Teena lol

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Must be a Capricorn only sign I know that would do stiuff like that.

Yes! My mother was a Cappy and dad an Aries

Lol

The cap female I went out with tried to do that to me quite too often I told her stop acting like a mom she got offended.

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That is very interesting 🙂

My mother tried to smother all of us....dad, sister and me....she had no chance with her daughters, but with her husband she succeeded. He couldn't even cook a meal, or look after himself after she passed....very sad and very selfish of her actually

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

Glad i wasn't the only one that noticed that Teena lol

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Lol!! I did... I didn't know if I was the right person to point that out ?

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
If you choose to go out with a bum then you deserve to do everything for him/her.

Not necessarily a bum....some people are just happy to be babied and rely on the other too much

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

Glad i wasn't the only one that noticed that Teena lol

Lol!! I did... I didn't know if I was the right person to point that out ?

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You are a Scorp....of course you are lol 😉

Posted by sagsagsag
I've seen my mom doing it for my dad and my dad also does this to my mom... it's basically them babysitting each other.. lol

That is two people supporting each other 🙂 not one acting as a mother and the other the child

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
If you choose to go out with a bum then you deserve to do everything for him/her.

Not necessarily a bum....some people are just happy to be babied and rely on the other too much

I'm referring to people who take advantage of other people.

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Oh right, yes i see...that is not good

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

I didn't miss the point... 😕

I just didn't think that was a relevant babying behavior... ( the cereal )

That stood out to me and I expressed my opinion about it. That's all. 🙂

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It's okay love....the cereal was just the tip of the ice-berg lol, believe me, this was a grown man being babied with a capital B

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

In that case I would loose all attraction for him. He needs to be able to stand on him own. I want to be in a team where we would help each other but if it's one sided then you're not a team anymore.

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Well he was an Aries man that never allowed himself to grow up.......he chose the path of the everlasting child and my mother supported him on that

She always used to say to us *it's up to the woman to show men the way*

lol

The good thing is, i didn't take the same path......

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

I didn't miss the point... 😕

I just didn't think that was a relevant babying behavior... ( the cereal )

That stood out to me and I expressed my opinion about it. That's all. 🙂

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I get it 🙂

I didn't think that was much either but I thought I'll base my opinion on the original post. This might have just been one scenario she could think of .Obviously she might have seen more of what happened there or her dad's behavior in general.

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

I didn't miss the point... 😕

I just didn't think that was a relevant babying behavior... ( the cereal )

That stood out to me and I expressed my opinion about it. That's all. 🙂

It's okay love....the cereal was just the tip of the ice-berg lol, believe me, this was a grown man being babied with a capital B

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*Tip of the iceberg*

Yeah this is what I thought @leowww 🙂

Posted by Libramiss

Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

In that case I would loose all attraction for him. He needs to be able to stand on him own. I want to be in a team where we would help each other but if it's one sided then you're not a team anymore.

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Yes, i agree and even more so when there are children

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Smh pouring milk on someone isn't babying doing his/her laundry or cleaning after his/her mess everyday is.

She did all that ^^^ and more....the cereal story was one example....it made him look like he was a child in a public place

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Posted by MyStarsShine
Guys, I am talking about a rship where the woman babies a man.....where he waits for her to do everything for him.....totallŷ different to helping each other

Lol!People took *the pouring milk in the cereal* thing seriously n totally missed the point in the OP

Glad i wasn't the only one that noticed that Teena lol

Lol!! I did... I didn't know if I was the right person to point that out ?

You are a Scorp....of course you are lol 😉

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Lol someone finally said it 😄 🤗

Posted by Evoxxxscorpio

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Smh pouring milk on someone isn't babying doing his/her laundry or cleaning after his/her mess everyday is.

She did all that ^^^ and more....the cereal story was one example....it made him look like he was a child in a public place

In a public setting that's a big NO yea he's a manchild.

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As i said before, Evo, it was in a hotel......manchild for sure

Very silly...

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Smh pouring milk on someone isn't babying doing his/her laundry or cleaning after his/her mess everyday is.

She did all that ^^^ and more....the cereal story was one example....it made him look like he was a child in a public place

I'm guessing she must have liked it somehow and he must have too because why else would you put up with it. I have a cap colleague at work. She is the alpha in the relationship but then she complains about her husband that he is so hopeless but I think she secretly likes to do it. Or maybe it's just a control things. 😛

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Yes indeed.....control is the key word ...and yes in a perverse kind of way pleasurable

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Smh pouring milk on someone isn't babying doing his/her laundry or cleaning after his/her mess everyday is.

She did all that ^^^ and more....the cereal story was one example....it made him look like he was a child in a public place

In a public setting that's a big NO yea he's a manchild.

As i said before, Evo, it was in a hotel......manchild for sure

Very silly...

That's embarrassing

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...and that is what i was trying to say

I also think it is a poor way to raise daughters seeing their mother treating a man this way.....

Half the women here should be responding with a resounding "yes" to this shit. After all, they're drawn to being mommies and "fixers" for douchebags.

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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
Smh pouring milk on someone isn't babying doing his/her laundry or cleaning after his/her mess everyday is.

She did all that ^^^ and more....the cereal story was one example....it made him look like he was a child in a public place

And maybe he knew that your mother wold Love to do that for him and he just let her do it..?

Maybe in some way..he understood her and let her do things in a way that wold please her...instinctively...

Do you even know how much cap women (generaly) Love to have total control?

I wonder if you ever understood your parents and their own chemistry...

Kinda sad to realise that maybe you didnt...and in the end you could only see what in your eyes was the *dark side*...

This is where we both differ Scorpio...we are both from Mars...buth you also got that Pluto right?..

Were you saw *Evil*...i saw Love...

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Evil? Lol

I think anyone who tries to take away anyone's independence is somewhat foolish and cruel in a way. He was rendered completely helpless and unable to look after himself properly when she passed away...she spoiled him......literally

Is that love?

Total control is never good.....not loving or for the good of the other person

My mothers attempted control over my sis and I caused us both to rebel ....

Control freaks are not what love is about

Helping others to become the best of themselves is what love is about

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Babying? I thought you were talking about some fetish or something 😄!

Do you use the term as serving? Didn't that use to be the normal behaviour of a wife? Of our mothers?

I do "baby" my man sometimes with pet names, cute gestures and even feeding him fruit, because I like it. I even serve him cooked food on the table! But...I would never live with a man who does not take his turn in doing these things for me.