E. M. Henderson
@Emhendo
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Women Make Shit Friends
Where does that destructive tendency come from?
"All sorts of theories abound: evolutionary, psychological, cultural, patriarchal. Still, most experts agree that our competition, negativity, and other ugliness can be traced back to our insecurities and the perceived superiority of another female in some way — whether it’s physical beauty, intellect, job, trophy husband, happy, cute kids, whatever has the capacity to threaten you or make you feel that you’re falling short or don’t quite measure up. These feelings can start to fester in a girl as young as four or five years old. It’s for this reason that my book discusses the importance of engaged mothering, healthy role modeling, and ways we can grow our girls to be more confident — so they can avoid the self-defeating comparisons and resulting self-flagellation. Confident girls are not only less likely to be aggressive with their own; they’ll be more resilient and able to meaningfully withstand the aggressions that will invariably be hurled at them in life."
Ya, you women are trouble for all the wrong reasons sometimes. Ya'll destroy friendships over shit people can't help.
"All sorts of theories abound: evolutionary, psychological, cultural, patriarchal. Still, most experts agree that our competition, negativity, and other ugliness can be traced back to our insecurities and the perceived superiority of another female in some way — whether it’s physical beauty, intellect, job, trophy husband, happy, cute kids, whatever has the capacity to threaten you or make you feel that you’re falling short or don’t quite measure up. These feelings can start to fester in a girl as young as four or five years old. It’s for this reason that my book discusses the importance of engaged mothering, healthy role modeling, and ways we can grow our girls to be more confident — so they can avoid the self-defeating comparisons and resulting self-flagellation. Confident girls are not only less likely to be aggressive with their own; they’ll be more resilient and able to meaningfully withstand the aggressions that will invariably be hurled at them in life."
Ya, you women are trouble for all the wrong reasons sometimes. Ya'll destroy friendships over shit people can't help.
Oh man, I would love to see Emhendo go head to head with DJ.
Posted by TodaysRap
TOO LONG
DIDN'T READ
What, you want a trophy? What ya'll get out of announcing that... Fuck, I'm supposed to go back and change the length to your liking?
I don't give a fuck about you "didn't read" it.
Yeah but you have issues with the women you date aka don’t date. So how is that women’s fault that you also can’t find decent friends?
Don’t lay that on our door
Don’t lay that on our door
Look inside yourself why you attract cookiemonsters who expect you to buy them phones.
There will never be a shortage of assholes but it is you who pick the people you choose to entertain. So why do you choose to entertain these specific bishes?
Also, true friendship doesn't exist among grownups for most part.
There will never be a shortage of assholes but it is you who pick the people you choose to entertain. So why do you choose to entertain these specific bishes?
Also, true friendship doesn't exist among grownups for most part.
I don’t think I even need to say how unfair and irrational your conclusion is
I don’t think I’ve ever had a friend period, male or female, that hasn’t disappointed me in some way at some point. (And I’m sure I’ve disappointed plenty as well)
People aren’t perfect and will always let you down...it’s not intentional...the problem lies in your expectations
I don’t think I’ve ever had a friend period, male or female, that hasn’t disappointed me in some way at some point. (And I’m sure I’ve disappointed plenty as well)
People aren’t perfect and will always let you down...it’s not intentional...the problem lies in your expectations
Posted by enfant_terrible
Look inside yourself why you attract cookiemonsters who expect you to buy them phones.
There will never be a shortage of assholes but it is you who pick the people you choose to entertain. So why do you choose to entertain these specific bishes?
Also, true friendship doesn't exist among grownups for most part.
Fuck, you can't READ??
She didn't expect me to buy her phone.
She was giving ME a phone and that's all I'ma say about that.
But other than that... I rather be friends with men than women, if true friendship doesn't lie amongst adulthood.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by brzzz
@DonJohnson2
If it ain't a got big breast on it, I don't care to meet.click to expand
Probably this is why you have shitty friendships with women. Because you are sexually attracted to them. I am a good friend regardless of sex. You do it to yourself😁
Posted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by brzzz
@DonJohnson2
If it ain't a got big breast on it, I don't care to meet.
Probably this is why you have shitty friendships with women. Because you are sexually attracted to them. I am a good friend regardless of sex. You do it to yourself😁click to expand
I was friends with a bitch that was fat as fuck and had one eye.
When I needed her to help me, and keep my things in her home until I was able to get them..
She agreed to do it but then blew me off instead of just keeping it the fuck real.
You don't know me.... Stop.
Posted by maiden
should've posted this in the man cave. makes more sense there
The powder room just sounds feminine, and chicks like when you have a feminine side, or can balance it properly.
This was practice.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by brzzz
@DonJohnson2
If it ain't a got big breast on it, I don't care to meet.
Probably this is why you have shitty friendships with women. Because you are sexually attracted to them. I am a good friend regardless of sex. You do it to yourself😁
I was friends with a bitch that was fat as fuck and had one eye.
When I needed her to help me, and keep my things in her home until I was able to get them..
She agreed to do it but then blew me off instead of just keeping it the fuck real.
You don't know me.... Stop.click to expand
Well you def. seem like a lovely person. Can't imagine why anyone wouldn't want to bw your friend🤷🏼♀️
Posted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by brzzz
@DonJohnson2
If it ain't a got big breast on it, I don't care to meet.
Probably this is why you have shitty friendships with women. Because you are sexually attracted to them. I am a good friend regardless of sex. You do it to yourself😁
I was friends with a bitch that was fat as fuck and had one eye.
When I needed her to help me, and keep my things in her home until I was able to get them..
She agreed to do it but then blew me off instead of just keeping it the fuck real.
You don't know me.... Stop.
Well you def. seem like a lovely person. Can't imagine why anyone wouldn't want to bw your friend🤷🏼♀️click to expand
Nah, women just make shitty friends.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by starlordPosted by EmhendoPosted by brzzz
@DonJohnson2
If it ain't a got big breast on it, I don't care to meet.
Probably this is why you have shitty friendships with women. Because you are sexually attracted to them. I am a good friend regardless of sex. You do it to yourself😁
I was friends with a bitch that was fat as fuck and had one eye.
When I needed her to help me, and keep my things in her home until I was able to get them..
She agreed to do it but then blew me off instead of just keeping it the fuck real.
You don't know me.... Stop.
Well you def. seem like a lovely person. Can't imagine why anyone wouldn't want to bw your friend🤷🏼♀️
Nah, women just make shitty friends.click to expand
Insecure women certainly do.
Posted by Neshama
Acknowledge you have been mistreated. They were wrong. Allow yourself to feel hurt. Allow yourself to wonder why you felt not enough for them to respect you and allow yourself to feel how much that hurt you without judging yourself or allowing their image to affect your self esteem.
You are a great friend. You are interesting ..you are kind. Keep saying this. It will help you. Stop saying people are shitty friends...start saying ' I AM A GREAT FRIEND'
1 Stop saying women are shitty friends or bad girlfriends ..
2 start saying 'I AM A GREAT FRIEND I WANT TO BE A GREAT FRIEND I LOVE BEING A GREAT FRIEND I LOVE BEING A GREAT WIFEY OR A GREAT GIRLFRIEND'
Tell me which makes you feel better to say 1 or 2 ?
Were you co-author of the secret? Are you leading the pr campaign?
Especially the ones donning devilish chanclas.
Posted by Neshama
I do want to know for the OP though if providing financial help to people is a kind of wish fulfillment linked to not being able to do that for early girlfriends or friends and wanting to back then. Because it's very common.
What year are you now in with that arm chair psychology degree?
It's the same for women. Plenty of guys I was nice to wouldn't fuck me so hey
Posted by Sag898
It's the same for women. Plenty of guys I was nice to wouldn't fuck me so hey
You can dismiss yourself... Cuz I clearly said these are stories about women I had no sexual interest in, so it's clear that I am not bias.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by Sag898
It's the same for women. Plenty of guys I was nice to wouldn't fuck me so hey
You can dismiss yourself... Cuz I clearly said these are stories about women I had no sexual interest in, so it's clear that I am not bias.click to expand
They don't really work for anyone. Maybe just acquaintances
Posted by maiden
should've posted this in the man cave. makes more sense there
Why? Op is a woman talking about women...
Posted by NemDeux
40 bucks? Lol.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Period.
My vibe attracted a broke bitch that assumed I had money, which I do - but not for you.
You wanna hold onto to these phrases instead of seeing the bigger picture. People see my fortune.
You can fuck off.
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by maiden
should've posted this in the man cave. makes more sense there
Why? Op is a woman talking about women...click to expand
I hope you get paid for every mothafucker you tell that to. Cuz you stay trynna make that clear to others when it really don't even matter.
So I WILL post in the man cave next time.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by maiden
should've posted this in the man cave. makes more sense there
Why? Op is a woman talking about women...
I hope you get paid for every mothafucker you tell that to. Cuz you stay trynna make that clear to others when it really don't even matter.
So I WILL post in the man cave next time.click to expand
It matters in the context of maiden asking the question why powder room. Why are you mad tho?
Man you sound bitter as hell. I know lots of wonderful, honest, loving and giving women. I only make friends with those types. Maybe you need to choose better friends or associate with better women.
Posted by LilithTaurus
Man you sound bitter as hell. I know lots of wonderful, honest, loving and giving women. I only make friends with those types. Maybe you need to choose better friends or associate with better women.
Aight, whatever. My opinion.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by LilithTaurus
Man you sound bitter as hell. I know lots of wonderful, honest, loving and giving women. I only make friends with those types. Maybe you need to choose better friends or associate with better women.
Aight, whatever. My opinion.click to expand
YES HENDO
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by EmhendoPosted by NemDeux
40 bucks? Lol.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Period.
My vibe attracted a broke bitch that assumed I had money, which I do - but not for you.
You wanna hold onto to these phrases instead of seeing the bigger picture. People see my fortune.
You can fuck off.
it´s a conviction, not a phrase.
there is always a choice we make. for better or for worse.
and you - it appears - choose to entertain and embrace the dramatics ....and in able to justify your actions, you are projecting your own short-comings onto other women.
don´t paint yourself a martyr. it´s pathetic.
click to expand
If you don't shut the fuck up. You don't even know what a "Martyr" is.
Goof.
I'm not giving up myself for ANYBODY.
I said women make shitty friends, that is my opinion, and I'm leaving them the fuck alone. I'm not sacrificing myself for any woman in this world.
Get a fuckin dictionary and don't worry about what "it appears".
It appears you are not as interesting as you think you are.
Posted by NemDeuxPosted by EmhendoPosted by NemDeuxPosted by EmhendoPosted by NemDeux
40 bucks? Lol.
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Period.
My vibe attracted a broke bitch that assumed I had money, which I do - but not for you.
You wanna hold onto to these phrases instead of seeing the bigger picture. People see my fortune.
You can fuck off.
it´s a conviction, not a phrase.
there is always a choice we make. for better or for worse.
and you - it appears - choose to entertain and embrace the dramatics ....and in able to justify your actions, you are projecting your own short-comings onto other women.
don´t paint yourself a martyr. it´s pathetic.
If you don't shut the fuck up. You don't even know what a "Martyr" is.
Goof.
I'm not giving up myself for ANYBODY.
I said women make shitty friends, that is my opinion, and I'm leaving them the fuck alone. I'm not sacrificing myself for any woman in this world.
Get a fuckin dictionary and don't worry about what "it appears".
It appears you are not as interesting as you think you are.
In this little equation you are the shitty friend. Because, it appears, you are an enabler.
Instead of looking at what you're contributing you choose to deflect and claim women are shitty friends.
So bartholomew... don't force me to peel you... layer for layer.
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Just shut the fuck up. You don't know shit. Damn. Acting like you know my whole situation based off little information. SHUT UP.
I have "contributed" my time, my loyalty, my ears, and my heart to ALL my friends - and the ones that happen to be women have failed me when I needed them, despite my personal efforts to my female friends. I have been used and not cared for when it counted, so I'm saying "no more".
I don't want to be friends with women... And I'm well within my fuckin right. If I realized that they don't make the best of friends; at least for ME, who are you to tell me I'm wrong and it's something with me - when you don't even know what the fuck I been through with bitches and trynna be friends with them.
Women are fake and that's just my opinion.
Get the fuck out of here. You sound so fuckin stupid. Nobody need you to diagnose shit. Damn. Worry about why you think you too ugly to have a profile picture and leave me the fuck alone.
I have one goood female friend @saggurl88.
All the females I know tend to ebb and flow depending on their personal life. I personally put my good friends above a recently know individual.
All the females I know tend to ebb and flow depending on their personal life. I personally put my good friends above a recently know individual.
What is even the purpose of this thread tho.
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
Posted by LadyNeptune
What is even the purpose of this thread tho.
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
You know you wanna be my friend, so sit down.
This was aimed at guys and why they shouldn't stand for the friendzone, and anybody else who agrees with me about women not being the best of friends to have... But you chicks just have ALL the thoughts to express, ALL the fucking time, whether you understand where I'm coming from or not.
Everything is not all about ya'll directly... Sit down.
Posted by VenusAquarius
@Emhendo,
You need to explore the Cancer/Capricorn axis.
Been there and back. I'm good.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptune
What is even the purpose of this thread tho.
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
You know you wanna be my friend, so sit down.
This was aimed at guys and why they shouldn't stand for the friendzone, and anybody else who agrees with me about women not being the best of friends to have... But you chicks just have ALL the thoughts to express, ALL the fucking time, whether you understand where I'm coming from or not.
Everything is not all about ya'll directly... Sit down.click to expand
We are not worthy. Not worthy of you.
How can we make amends. What can we do?
Is all hope lost?
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptune
What is even the purpose of this thread tho.
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
You know you wanna be my friend, so sit down.
This was aimed at guys and why they shouldn't stand for the friendzone, and anybody else who agrees with me about women not being the best of friends to have... But you chicks just have ALL the thoughts to express, ALL the fucking time, whether you understand where I'm coming from or not.
Everything is not all about ya'll directly... Sit down.
We are not worthy. Not worthy of you.
How can we make amends. What can we do?
Is all hope lost?click to expand
Ya. You think about that.... I'ma go play Call of Duty.
Posted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptunePosted by EmhendoPosted by LadyNeptune
What is even the purpose of this thread tho.
You want all dxp women to know that your irl relationships with women are a failure so its like a psa that you aren't available for bffs.
Wow how will we survive this?
How will we go on?
You know you wanna be my friend, so sit down.
This was aimed at guys and why they shouldn't stand for the friendzone, and anybody else who agrees with me about women not being the best of friends to have... But you chicks just have ALL the thoughts to express, ALL the fucking time, whether you understand where I'm coming from or not.
Everything is not all about ya'll directly... Sit down.
We are not worthy. Not worthy of you.
How can we make amends. What can we do?
Is all hope lost?
Ya. You think about that.... I'ma go play Call of Duty.click to expand
Posted by hellosaggy
I have one goood female friend @saggurl88.
All the females I know tend to ebb and flow depending on their personal life. I personally put my good friends above a recently know individual.
MY BFF!!!! MY BROTHA FROM ANOTHA MUTHA!! 😆
Posted by EmhendoPosted by VenusAquarius
@Emhendo,
You need to explore the Cancer/Capricorn axis.
Been there and back. I'm good.click to expand
Your experience with taking and giving relates.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by VenusAquarius
@Emhendo,
You need to explore the Cancer/Capricorn axis.
My bff is a Capricorn. I attract them. How do u see the cancer/Capricorn axis? I cbf with most female friends, but cap chicks seem straight forward. No backtalk crap.click to expand
It takes forever to fully do an axis justice. It's a long answer.
I was always jealous and a bit insecure when I dated women with lots of male friends. My gf now has nothing but women friends, and I realize most are malicious af.
yeah, I think both men and women can be messed up - but I do see it more so in women - so I choose to have friendly acquaintances but not get too close for a very long time if ever
Posted by tiziani
I gotta say this has only been a true story at times in my life where I'm purely focused on what I can get from relationships.
But when I am fully switched on, enjoying myself each day to the point im not even worried about being productive because i just am, women have made for some damn good friends. Same as men.
but you just want/need to be fed - "Kabobs are Forever"
Posted by tizianiPosted by tctaapPosted by tiziani
I gotta say this has only been a true story at times in my life where I'm purely focused on what I can get from relationships.
But when I am fully switched on, enjoying myself each day to the point im not even worried about being productive because i just am, women have made for some damn good friends. Same as men.
but you just want/need to be fed - "Kabobs are Forever"
I do. I can do that for myself or others give me food.
It just goes back to what enfant said (I think in this thread) about how "true" friendships are rare in adult life.
I dunno if i'd use those words true or false.
What enfant and Emhendo are saying definitely rings true so I thought it about it, it only applies times when I'm adulting.
When we were kids it was purely about learning, and learning doesn't have to stop in adult life either. Unfortunately I listened to a lot of bored people who kept saying relationships have to be about sex, money or using people. THAT is true for adulting and survival, those relationships can be of mutual benefit so it's all good. but I'm not going to learn much from hanging around that side of people day in day out, and it even turns into boredom unless I get back to learning.click to expand
very true - we learned to pick our relationships better - where they turn into more sharing and caring and companionship type deals - simple fun, mature - not the drama and stress - for me, though, the learning is still there. I'm more interested to understand their journey and experiences that differ from my own - I've always had a curiosity and quest for knowledge ... tidbits that fit into the overall puzzle picture
I do not have the same experiences as you. I am surrounded by amazing women. I cherish my female friendships.
Posted by heliumfiasco
I do not have the same experiences as you. I am surrounded by amazing women. I cherish my female friendships.
One of them amazing bitches gonna turn on you, AHAAAA..
Posted by heliumfiasco
I do not have the same experiences as you. I am surrounded by amazing women. I cherish my female friendships.
But you're a Libra. To you shallow acquaintances are "friends" 🙄
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Because you stayed past due. You have done too much for her and have listened to too much of her shit, without any action behind the scenes.
And all I have to say that it is all your fault.
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You do too little (because fuck bitches);
They don't want you in their life, you are useless.
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She hits me back early in the morning before I'm even awake, with a text message that says "I changed my mind". I kid you not... I tried to text back, no response. She wouldn't even answer the phone...
Then it all started to make sense... She's ignoring me because I didn't give her any money. She wanted me to buy the phone.
It's like damn bitch, if you wanted me to buy the phone - you should have told me you were selling it. That was a fucked up way to go about it, because I thought she wanted to help me, when she was really being manipulative... It was very immature. I would have totally bought the phone from her if she said she was selling it, I would have said "yeah, give me a week.. I will buy it".
And I tried to tell her just that, but she blocked me.. Ignored me. Never read my messages... I had just lost my grandma that week and I just didn't need that shit from any bitch.. To give you money just to give you money, is not what we are doing.
I have done so much for her when I was really young and didn't know any better, but now I know better - and she still is trying to play me like I'm that person till this day. When she see's I'm not going, she acts so nasty towards me.
Just lets me know she was never a girl worth dating or worth being friends with.
I saw her on the train on my way to class this past Monday morning... I didn't react AT ALL, she was invisible to me.. But she reacted. She damn near broke her neck just to turn away from me with an attitude before she gets seated, then gets on the phone with her friends like "guess who on the train".
I got other responsibilities and I keep it real these days, I don't explain myself with the truth that I have to pay bills and pay for school. I just tell people straight up "I do not give out money like that". And If they don't wanna be my friend behind that, then I never needed they ass. It's not being stringy, it's what I have to do for myself. It's not about respect either... If they respect me more, that's just a plus. My plus is that I don't got you calling my phone asking for shit, because you already know what the answer gon be. NO.
I find that women have a harder time with this, and will stop being your friend behind you needing to do what you gotta do for yourself. None of my guy friends have asked for shit from me more than any woman I know... A lot of my guy friends are out there gettin it. A woman, not so much... A lot of them expect shit to be handed to them, and they look at friends as charity or donations, funding their bullshit.. And that's not why you maintain friendships.
I'm not saying all women, but shit it's too many of them.. So why be friends with bitches at all.
I also find that chicks act fake as fuck when a friend they admire more than you comes around.. I don't like going to house parties or personal gatherings where my friend's-friends will be.. Especially if it's of my chick friend's invitation... THEY WILL ACT LIKE THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU. Super two-faced. I don't need that shit.
I can count many times when I was hanging with a friend, and her "girlfriend" comes and joins us and my friend just acts so cut and dry the remainder of my time spent with them.
Happened with my roommate when we were teenagers and her old HS "bestfriend" come over.
Happened with a friend I visited a few weeks ago and her friend from Memphis was visiting too.. They really tried me, and I cut her out my life since then.
All my female friends are just so unsupportive... They make everything about them, and their problems, and why you can't do XYZ around them because of their mental illness, patriarchy, social norms, boundaries, etc... They just aren't any fun to be around, unless they somewhere they can shake they ass at. Then it's back to "Women's rights" and "equality" and shit.
Women are so catty and snippy with you out of no where too...
Moods fluctuate like the 7 seas, you would think most chicks are Cancer moon, rising or something... But now I see why the moon represents womanhood, fertility, menstrual cycles, etc.. I believe every woman has the ways of the moon inside of them.
Fuck women come from Venus and men come from Mars. It's women come from the Moon and men come from Mars.
Also lot of them think they are smarter than you and you can't put them up on anything, you can't tell them shit.. Even if they walked out the bathroom with tissue on the heel of their shoe, it's just like "nope, I meant to leave that there".
They don't support your hobbies, ya'll never have the same hobbies and they don't join you unless they like-like you.
Women don't have real hobbies either.
Many women don't indulge in anything full-time, or even part-time. They may skateboard, do art, play music, dance or whatever - but they do it because it makes them look cool and it makes them look like they are more interesting than they actually are... But other than that, they are all about looking cute, attracting attention, gossip, showboating, and getting dick. Nothing is really under the surface..
I can go as far as to say that many women lack their own identity, that's why when women get a new man - they pretty much turn into a female version of him.
Their attitudes just make you wanna knock them out... If another man talked to a guy the way these bitches be talking to each other and grown ass men... That man would get they ass WHOOPED.
And that's why women make shitty friends...
I think women should love other women, everyone should love women - but just keep their damn distance and not get too personal with them as friends, because they will upset you over and over again real soon.
They can't help but fuck up a good thing.. Women just need that drama. With men they are dating, male friends, and other women.
They need it, and I'm good on that shit.