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P-Angel I don't know if you check your personal messages so I'll put it here.
I don't hate you. Never will. You seem to have gained a following of people on here that want to prejudge you and label you but I don't. There was a time I think I saw a happier P-Angel and my offer still stands. If you would keep an open mind and wish to let me in on whatever trials and tribulations you have gone through, I would love to be any sort of aid or even at least a sounding board to what you have to say. I don't know the status of your relationship whether it's over or still has potential but If there is anything I can do to either help with the acceptance of what God has dealt you or to mend and re-light what was once there, please don't forget me. . .
I don't hate you. Never will. You seem to have gained a following of people on here that want to prejudge you and label you but I don't. There was a time I think I saw a happier P-Angel and my offer still stands. If you would keep an open mind and wish to let me in on whatever trials and tribulations you have gone through, I would love to be any sort of aid or even at least a sounding board to what you have to say. I don't know the status of your relationship whether it's over or still has potential but If there is anything I can do to either help with the acceptance of what God has dealt you or to mend and re-light what was once there, please don't forget me. . .
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by LibraLove
May I ask why it ruined the experience? I didn't intend on what I said to be interpreted as critical, but I wonder if that's how he took it. I apologized that what I said upset him and explained that it was just to ease the tension, but still. Hmm.
It isn't so much "critical" it was just interpreted negatively.
What you said was not interpreted as a "easing the tension", it was interpreted negatively.
Libras have a talent with sarcasm and their emotionless tones of voice can sometimes carry over the wrong meaning, this is what I suspect.
We are sensitive, unfortunately... and when in a situation of such intimacy pulling away, rejection or witty quips WILL be interpreted negatively. His reaction you described compounds this.click to expand
That makes a lot of sense, actually. Sometimes I'll say something that I think is an obvious joke but he says because of my tone, he can't tell if I'm being serious or not.
Posted by OP3CRIMSIN
This was originally written for Ellesque so it's got her name in it. replace it with yours 😉 duh
1.) Do you feel like you can be yourself around this person? Can you open up, shut down, laugh, talk, scream, joke, fart, whatever makes you Elle, can you be all that at once?
2.) Do you get the vibe that this person accepts you for being yourself? Are you comfortable being yourself around them and not have to worry about what you say and how you word it? Do you feel genuinely accepted for all your faults, talents and quirks?
3.) Are you attracted to them? And this is FAR from the physical aspect (Though good looks are such an added bonus). But I look at a female as sexy if they have a certain zest for life that I do not possess. Basically if they excel somewhere I cannot, I admire that and am attracted to them more because of it.
4.) Do you feel you can accomplish anything when you're with that person? Can you overcome your fears and shortcomings and let it all out and let it all go. Does this person build you up enough to make you want to be a better person?
You offered a lot of great advice, and I really appreciate you for taking the time to do that!So thank you! Even though I'm not in love yet, I do feel it heading in that direction for me. Everything with us, from the beginning, has developed at a gradual pace. Including sleeping with one another. He was patient enough to wait 9 months and that illustrated to me that he wasn't in it just for the sex. As I mentioned, things have always been slow, so I don't know why I anticipated the love to grow faster than any other element of the relationship.
Anyhow, above, I've put in bold everything that I feel applies to me. Though, I'm iffy about #4. I don't know what you mean by "build you up" but he does make me want to be a better person.
I have P-Angel and domino ignored, but judging by OP3CRIMSIN2's response, I'm guessing she had additional scathing remarks to make.
Posted by LibraLove
That makes a lot of sense, actually. Sometimes I'll say something that I think is an obvious joke but he says because of my tone, he can't tell if I'm being serious or not.
Fundamental problem between the Libras I have met.
Posted by domino_O
Oh sorry, I'd just get a sad ass response that means nothing. Typical cajun.
lolwut?
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by LibraLove
That makes a lot of sense, actually. Sometimes I'll say something that I think is an obvious joke but he says because of my tone, he can't tell if I'm being serious or not.
Fundamental problem between the Libras I have met.click to expand
[sarcasm]Guess I need to pull out my sarcastic brackets in real life.[/sarcasm]
Posted by RueLessPosted by LibraLove
Well, he's taught me to play several instruments, and since I'm Iranian, he wanted to learn more about my culture, so I've taught him some Farsi and taken him out to try Persian food.
Chutor hasti Candolak? ;]click to expand
😱
Shomah Irani astin?
Posted by LibraLovePosted by RueLessPosted by LibraLove
Well, he's taught me to play several instruments, and since I'm Iranian, he wanted to learn more about my culture, so I've taught him some Farsi and taken him out to try Persian food.
Chutor hasti Candolak? ;]
😱
Shomah Irani astin?click to expand
Nahyre. Pahdar ore Nahnem az Kabul astun.
I was born here; America. Can't you tell by my broken Farsi? Lolz
"Neither of us have yet to exchange "I love you"s, which is kind of a relief, because I don't love him yet. We also seem to have become so mundane."
I think this is what might be holding you up. Your Virgo aside from other things, is unfulfilled. While you may not believe it, Spock is highly emotional and sensitive. He's just not good at showing it or inspiring it in non-emotionals,(air signs), because of this, you not loving him makes not really that interested in you. He probably feels he has done anything and everything to inspire this and he may already love you. So I believe he is distant because he is losing faith in the relationship, and just keeping it up for duty's/regularity's sake.
As for his, non-chivalrous actions, part of this is probably that his balls haven't dropped yet. Alot Virgos never have their ball's drop, these are the repugnant chiseled abs accountant types, who often have their emotional side die out entirely, and turn into the sort of repugnant lobbyist looking typea political worms and lackeys American hates.
The other type come to terms with their emotions, and develop deep ideals on integrity, and love among many other things, typically become skilled at the thing they are passionate about, and give Taurus a run for their money in posessiveness and warmth. Doing better with some signs, because they are more intuitive and have excellent precision with their ability to make a woman feel whole.
It sounds like your boyfriend is on the Cusp of these two types as you are young so I imagine he is too.
As for the texting, he might just be very busy and compartementalized, either that, or he thinks you talk too much so stopped valuing your texts and what-not.
I'd say, if you don't love him and your ten months in, you need to terminate this. If you attempt to terminate, he will either be 1) relinquished from his duty (finally) or 2) show you a wealth of emotion that you probably didn't know about that might take your relationship to where it needs to be.
My prognosis however, is that Virgo needs Water, or Fire-Earth, unless some other awesome placements are in the air sign; its not gonna work out. Earth needs to be filled with liquid in order to grow, and and Air cannot do this.
I think this is what might be holding you up. Your Virgo aside from other things, is unfulfilled. While you may not believe it, Spock is highly emotional and sensitive. He's just not good at showing it or inspiring it in non-emotionals,(air signs), because of this, you not loving him makes not really that interested in you. He probably feels he has done anything and everything to inspire this and he may already love you. So I believe he is distant because he is losing faith in the relationship, and just keeping it up for duty's/regularity's sake.
As for his, non-chivalrous actions, part of this is probably that his balls haven't dropped yet. Alot Virgos never have their ball's drop, these are the repugnant chiseled abs accountant types, who often have their emotional side die out entirely, and turn into the sort of repugnant lobbyist looking typea political worms and lackeys American hates.
The other type come to terms with their emotions, and develop deep ideals on integrity, and love among many other things, typically become skilled at the thing they are passionate about, and give Taurus a run for their money in posessiveness and warmth. Doing better with some signs, because they are more intuitive and have excellent precision with their ability to make a woman feel whole.
It sounds like your boyfriend is on the Cusp of these two types as you are young so I imagine he is too.
As for the texting, he might just be very busy and compartementalized, either that, or he thinks you talk too much so stopped valuing your texts and what-not.
I'd say, if you don't love him and your ten months in, you need to terminate this. If you attempt to terminate, he will either be 1) relinquished from his duty (finally) or 2) show you a wealth of emotion that you probably didn't know about that might take your relationship to where it needs to be.
My prognosis however, is that Virgo needs Water, or Fire-Earth, unless some other awesome placements are in the air sign; its not gonna work out. Earth needs to be filled with liquid in order to grow, and and Air cannot do this.
Posted by LibraLove
[sarcasm]Guess I need to pull out my sarcastic brackets in real life.[/sarcasm]
An Aries is very likely to let you know when they are joking.... however, Libra... much like the Sag can put on a farce and keep it going, expecting the Virgo to understand, and they usually don't get it till days or weeks later.
That's why Saggies and Libras make such good actors.
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by LibraLove
[sarcasm]Guess I need to pull out my sarcastic brackets in real life.[/sarcasm]
An Aries is very likely to let you know when they are joking.... however, Libra... much like the Sag can put on a farce and keep it going, expecting the Virgo to understand, and they usually don't get it till days or weeks later.
That's why Saggies and Libras make such good actors.click to expand
The sad part about this farce is that the Virgo has gotten it, while she has no awareness and continues to attempt to prompt him into participating.
Posted by RueLess
Nahyre. Pahdar ore Nahnem az Kabul astun.
I was born here; America. Can't you tell by my broken Farsi? Lolz
Well, it's difficult to type Farsi in English, but you did a pretty good job!
Posted by sikkario
My prognosis however, is that Virgo needs Water, or Fire-Earth, unless some other awesome placements are in the air sign; its not gonna work out. Earth needs to be filled with liquid in order to grow, and and Air cannot do this.
Sorry, I had to reduce your quote to fit everything in. He does seem to waver back and forth between the two types you mentioned, and age/immaturity on both of our parts seems to contribute to our problems.
Lately, though, and I mean very recently, I've noticed quite a drastic change in him. He's been a lot more accommodating and considerate. This illustrates his intuitive nature that I brought up earlier. He's remedied so much of what I was going to bring up in a discussion, that I feel unless he goes back to doing those things, it isn't worth my mentioning at the moment.
After I made this thread, I also came to the realization that people here were right. I needed to look at the faults within myself before concentrating on his. To ask for him to be emotionally open when I wasn't as willing to make myself vulnerable was wholly unfair. Since I've opened myself up emotionally, he's been very receptive. I think maybe he was holding back because *I* was holding back as well. That's the problem when two passive signs coincide. Libras have a tendency to mirror their partner's behaviors and Virgos wait for a cue, rather than initiating something. I've never had to assume this amount of control, in terms of initiation, with the opposite sex before.
I have no idea how compatible our charts are.
But his is:
Sun Virgo
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Libra
Venus Libra
Mars Virgo
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Libra
Asc node Aquarius
And mine is:
Sun Libra
Moon Libra
Mercury Virgo
Venus Scorpio
Mars Libra
Jupiter Cancer
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Libra
Asc node Aquarius
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by LibraLove
[sarcasm]Guess I need to pull out my sarcastic brackets in real life.[/sarcasm]
An Aries is very likely to let you know when they are joking.... however, Libra... much like the Sag can put on a farce and keep it going, expecting the Virgo to understand, and they usually don't get it till days or weeks later.
That's why Saggies and Libras make such good actors.click to expand
So I have astrology to thank for my junior high drama awards.
/holds them up in the air
Who do I thank for my modesty?
Posted by LibraLove
So I have astrology to thank for my junior high drama awards.
/holds them up in the air
Who do I thank for my modesty?
Posting your chart is likely to reveal such.
Posted by CajunspiritPosted by LibraLove
So I have astrology to thank for my junior high drama awards.
/holds them up in the air
Who do I thank for my modesty?
Posting your chart is likely to reveal such.click to expand
I am far too humble to post my chart.
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