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dont do anything until you've calmed down, its bad to say things out of emotions and anger . then just ask him about the meaning of that.
Omg I’m horrible
Or you could bring him the note and tell him someone left it on your car 😂
Let him know you’re going to call them in front of him and let them know you’re taken
Or you could bring him the note and tell him someone left it on your car 😂
Let him know you’re going to call them in front of him and let them know you’re taken
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Jules-llPosted by Arielle83Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_Limbo
Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Is he that attractive?
I’d never.
Unless he’s murdered someone and she saw and is a lawyer.
This made me laugh, thanks @Arielle83. Right? I would never do that but I prefer direct interaction.
When I worked in hotel pubs I’d see the napkins with notes on them. Some were sad.
“Hi, I’m married, but I also love to seize opportunity and you look like fun. I’m in room xxx. I’m here for just tonight. Let’s get lucky hottie”.
That one sticks out for me. So honest and cunning.click to expand
And I've seen a note like that work...people think...
"We're both married, just one night...strangers. why not" and no ever ever finds out.
Hook, line and sinker
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️click to expand
.....but he is a liar
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️click to expand
Agreed, I'm not assuming he has done anything. But prior experiences have made me leery. And prior experience with a good friend going after my husband has left me scarred. I'm aware of that, but would rather have my antenna up than be naive and fooled.
Posted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.click to expand
True but it doesn’t do him any favours does it? I don’t believe it’s either fair or mature to lie to those we love and trust us, it’s cowardly
Posted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.click to expand
He says it's to prevent drama. Like when I found out he went to dinner with his kids and ex wife but he never mentioned she went. Do I care? No, not really. For a man to leave his wife and kids she had to be a pretty rotten wife.
Again, I ABHOR being lied to. So what you might see as damage control I see as stupid things that chip away at my trust in you. And women usually if not always find these things out...
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
What kind of shit do you lie about?
Going fishing when I should be at work. 😁click to expand
We're you going fishing with another woman?
Posted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
True but it doesn’t do him any favours does it? I don’t believe it’s either fair or mature to lie to those we love and trust us, it’s cowardly
Don't help this woman become prematurely single. Uninvited shit happens.click to expand
Jules is strong enough to know the score. Women often talk about stuff to either vent, get support or just have our intuition confirmed.
I lived with one liar and that was one too many.
Posted by Jules-llPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
He says it's to prevent drama. Like when I found out he went to dinner with his kids and ex wife but he never mentioned she went. Do I care? No, not really. For a man to leave his wife and kids she had to be a pretty rotten wife.
Again, I ABHOR being lied to. So what you might see as damage control I see as stupid things that chip away at my trust in you. And women usually if not always find these things out...click to expand
" For a man to leave his wife and kids she had to be a pretty rotten wife. "
—??
I am still not sure its your right to intervene in it
is there any scorp man who would tell what their reaction would be if your other half pressured you about a random note?
Posted by Arielle83Posted by Boots1313Posted by Arielle83Posted by Jules-llPosted by Arielle83Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_Limbo
Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Is he that attractive?
I’d never.
Unless he’s murdered someone and she saw and is a lawyer.
This made me laugh, thanks @Arielle83. Right? I would never do that but I prefer direct interaction.
When I worked in hotel pubs I’d see the napkins with notes on them. Some were sad.
“Hi, I’m married, but I also love to seize opportunity and you look like fun. I’m in room xxx. I’m here for just tonight. Let’s get lucky hottie”.
That one sticks out for me. So honest and cunning.
And I've seen a note like that work...people think...
"We're both married, just one night...strangers. why not" and no ever ever finds out.
Hook, line and sinker
Exactly. Both guilty and same situation so no one sees a risk. No Glenn Close fed up with being used by unavailable men and not dumping wife for skank - kinda drama.
Ashley Madison hookupclick to expand
Never understood why people who are players don't stay single? Then they can do whatever without hurting anyone...
Posted by Pandora101Posted by Jules-llPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
He says it's to prevent drama. Like when I found out he went to dinner with his kids and ex wife but he never mentioned she went. Do I care? No, not really. For a man to leave his wife and kids she had to be a pretty rotten wife.
Again, I ABHOR being lied to. So what you might see as damage control I see as stupid things that chip away at my trust in you. And women usually if not always find these things out...
" For a man to leave his wife and kids she had to be a pretty rotten wife. "
—??
I am still not sure its your right to intervene in it
is there any scorp man who would tell what their reaction would be if your other half pressured you about a random note?click to expand
What do you mean by it's not my right to intervene? I've been dating this man for 19 months exclusively.
It is totally within my right to know if something funky is going down.
Posted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
True but it doesn’t do him any favours does it? I don’t believe it’s either fair or mature to lie to those we love and trust us, it’s cowardly
Don't help this woman become prematurely single. Uninvited shit happens.
Jules is strong enough to know the score. Women often talk about stuff to either vent, get support or just have our intuition confirmed.
I lived with one liar and that was one too many.
You're already assuming that every man is a lying piece of shit. That's your problem, not necessarily hers.
They could easily say the same thing about women, and you can't defend that.click to expand
Where did I call him a piece of shit?
Every man? I said one man and that was one too much, just one, not all, most men I’ve been with never lied to me, they’re decent guys
Posted by Arielle83
Omg wtf in this thread now.
Dramaz
Where? I don’t see drama, just people putting forward different opinions
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
What kind of shit do you lie about?
Most of us have cautioned restraint, by the way, so your "Don't listen to the bitches" thing is kind of gross.
I didn't say the word 'bitches', I said 'crazy women'.
My point still stands.
Actually, it doesn't. We gave the same advice you did, but you're calling us crazy.
Take it as you will. This is a man's perspective here. That's exactly why sometimes it's better to just stay quiet during these situations.
Nah. Don't stop talking just because we challenge you and take you to task for it. Believe me, we need male perspectives.
I already gave you mine. Sometimes the simplest answer is the correct one.click to expand
How do you think Jules should handle this, Silverado?
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
What kind of shit do you lie about?
Most of us have cautioned restraint, by the way, so your "Don't listen to the bitches" thing is kind of gross.
I didn't say the word 'bitches', I said 'crazy women'.
My point still stands.
Actually, it doesn't. We gave the same advice you did, but you're calling us crazy.
Take it as you will. This is a man's perspective here. That's exactly why sometimes it's better to just stay quiet during these situations.click to expand
No, I appreciate a man's perspective. Especially another Scorpio man. And I get it. I'm not assuming he did anything wrong, or his name would have been on the note. And you confirmed that women slip numbers uninvited. Guess I'm not that shifty...
Let me ask, how do you feel about it when your girlfriends leave things unsaid to you that you find out? Things that make your antenna go up about your trust in them. Does it bother you?
Where's @NikkiStar? She would have tracked down this woman, had a background check and 8x10 color photos to me already...
I could never give advice on this kinda thing online.
There's too many nuances to a relationship. I've been with my Virgo too long to expect anyone to understand anything the way I do.
For me, personally, if I don't feel comfortable and you bring too much distress to my life, I 'm out - no conversation, innocent or not of the precipitating deed. It's just enough. I'm ghost.
There's too many nuances to a relationship. I've been with my Virgo too long to expect anyone to understand anything the way I do.
For me, personally, if I don't feel comfortable and you bring too much distress to my life, I 'm out - no conversation, innocent or not of the precipitating deed. It's just enough. I'm ghost.
Posted by leooox
dont do anything until you've calmed down, its bad to say things out of emotions and anger . then just ask him about the meaning of that.
How can you really calm down when this shit is happening— 🤷♀️
Go for a walk later. Have that internal dialogue.
Look for a predominance of Neptune in synastry...
Look for a predominance of Neptune in synastry...
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
What kind of shit do you lie about?
Most of us have cautioned restraint, by the way, so your "Don't listen to the bitches" thing is kind of gross.
I didn't say the word 'bitches', I said 'crazy women'.
My point still stands.
Actually, it doesn't. We gave the same advice you did, but you're calling us crazy.
Take it as you will. This is a man's perspective here. That's exactly why sometimes it's better to just stay quiet during these situations.
No, I appreciate a man's perspective. Especially another Scorpio man. And I get it. I'm not assuming he did anything wrong, or his name would have been on the note. And you confirmed that women slip numbers uninvited. Guess I'm not that shifty...
Let me ask, how do you feel about it when your girlfriends leave things unsaid to you that you find out? Things that make your antenna go up about your trust in them. Does it bother you?
I hate it! But, I choose to pick my battles carefully and understand that it happens. Because it happens to me, why should I get all bent out of shape if it happens to my woman?
Yes, it does bother me but I'd like to think as long as it's not done intentionally, you have to let things slide sometimes.
Just be mindful and vigilant of his actions. You are very protective of him, as you should be because you love the guy. Just make sure that you both show each other the same kind of healthy possessiveness.click to expand
Bam. This last paragraph. Not sure that I feel the same possessiveness/protection from him that he gets from me. And that bothers me. That's what's bothering me so much about the note.
You have warned me about dating a man with Cancer Mars a couple of times. Care to elaborate?
Posted by VenusAquarius
I could never give advice on this kinda thing online.
There's too many nuances to a relationship. I've been with my Virgo too long to expect anyone to understand anything the way I do.
For me, personally, if I don't feel comfortable and you bring too much distress to my life, I 'm out - no conversation, innocent or not of the precipitating deed. It's just enough. I'm ghost.
Wow wow wow!!! Innocent or not you’ll ghost— Even if he is innocent? WTF?
Posted by VenusAquarius
Go for a walk later. Have that internal dialogue.
Look for a predominance of Neptune in synastry...
Good advice @VenusAquarius. Just looked at our synastry. My mars and neptune conjuncts his mercury, and my sun conjuncts his pluto.
Ill tell you a story from the begining of the relationahip with my taurus. I was still in the him" earning "my trust stage.
He was staying at my house, becasue i was home alone and a big baby. At 2am his phone is going off and it was a girl trying to video chat him.
I was livid!! I tried to wake him up but he could sleep through a nuclear missile attack...and trust me, my rage was on that level.
The girl sent a text that said "people are saying we had sex"...I casually responded as him with "what, why?" And she said..."i sont know, i havent seen you in 10 years and i think the most we said to eachother was hi!"
At that moment, i knew i could trust him, and i took a deep breathe, and kissed him.
I told hom the next day what happen. He was so confused, and told me exctally the same thing that the woman confirmed.
But yeah, jumping to conclusions...dont, yadda, yadda.
I dont take my own advice.
He was staying at my house, becasue i was home alone and a big baby. At 2am his phone is going off and it was a girl trying to video chat him.
I was livid!! I tried to wake him up but he could sleep through a nuclear missile attack...and trust me, my rage was on that level.
The girl sent a text that said "people are saying we had sex"...I casually responded as him with "what, why?" And she said..."i sont know, i havent seen you in 10 years and i think the most we said to eachother was hi!"
At that moment, i knew i could trust him, and i took a deep breathe, and kissed him.
I told hom the next day what happen. He was so confused, and told me exctally the same thing that the woman confirmed.
But yeah, jumping to conclusions...dont, yadda, yadda.
I dont take my own advice.
Posted by Piscoxx
Either approach him with the number and figure out what you’re needing to figure out, or rip it up and enjoy your weekend. He didn’t see it, so there isn’t much to go off of here. You can’t control what other people do, so just because you wouldn’t do this to someone else, doesn’t mean others won’t do it. People will do what they do, they don’t care about how it impacts others.
this is golden, thanks @Piscoxx.
Posted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by Phantom_LimboPosted by SilveradoPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by SilveradoPosted by Jules-llPosted by Silverado
What does your BF do for a living?
My advice will depend on your answer.
He's retired from NYPD.
He's innocent until proven otherwise.
Take the note, keep it and watch for other BS. I'll tell you a story: I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and I was approached by a pretty college-aged woman who discreetly handed me her thong underwear and phone number while my buddy was turned around drunk.
I didn't ask for it, it just happened. For reference, I was dating the Cancer woman and never told her.
You know why I didn't tell her? This thread is the reason.
Stop listening to crazy ass women here about artificially injecting drama where none MAY exist.
I get phone numbers all the time, single or not.
Be vigilant, but don't freak out...yet. ❤️
.....but he is a liar
She may have asked for advice but we're all liars at some point or another.
There's a reason he hides some of the stuff he does or happens to him...
I know I do - and we're both Scorpios.
What kind of shit do you lie about?
Most of us have cautioned restraint, by the way, so your "Don't listen to the bitches" thing is kind of gross.
I didn't say the word 'bitches', I said 'crazy women'.
My point still stands.
Actually, it doesn't. We gave the same advice you did, but you're calling us crazy.
Take it as you will. This is a man's perspective here. That's exactly why sometimes it's better to just stay quiet during these situations.
No, I appreciate a man's perspective. Especially another Scorpio man. And I get it. I'm not assuming he did anything wrong, or his name would have been on the note. And you confirmed that women slip numbers uninvited. Guess I'm not that shifty...
Let me ask, how do you feel about it when your girlfriends leave things unsaid to you that you find out? Things that make your antenna go up about your trust in them. Does it bother you?
I hate it! But, I choose to pick my battles carefully and understand that it happens. Because it happens to me, why should I get all bent out of shape if it happens to my woman?
Yes, it does bother me but I'd like to think as long as it's not done intentionally, you have to let things slide sometimes.
Just be mindful and vigilant of his actions. You are very protective of him, as you should be because you love the guy. Just make sure that you both show each other the same kind of healthy possessiveness.
Bam. This last paragraph. Not sure that I feel the same possessiveness/protection from him that he gets from me. And that bothers me. That's what's bothering me so much about the note.
You have warned me about dating a man with Cancer Mars a couple of times. Care to elaborate?
Not everyone operates on the same level as you. As we get older, we have to understand that people show love in different ways. I'm fiercely protective of the women on dating including the ones I've broken up with.
But now you've planted the seed of doubt in your mind, the choice is yours weather to water it. I am by no means perfect, and I'll be the first one to tell you that. But, I'd like to think I've matured over the years and know when to fight and when to watch and wait.
As for the Cancer Mars, I always say that because when they blow their top - I fully expect them to cut your head off with a rusty spoon and mount it on the hood of their car. 😂
One final thing I will say before I exit this thread permanently: if he truly is a lying, dastardly, cheating, piece of shit: make him as hard as a fucking rock, grab his dick with both your hands and snap that thing in half. 😅click to expand
Yeah, I'm looking for something that is rare- someone that makes me feel like I'm #1 to them. And for me to feel the same way. Sigh.
If you hear on the news of craziness going down on LI, you can say you predicted it. Maybe it will be me leaving one of his body parts tucked under a woman's windshield wiper...LOL.
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Posted by Boots1313
Ill tell you a story from the begining of the relationahip with my taurus. I was still in the him" earning "my trust stage.
He was staying at my house, becasue i was home alone and a big baby. At 2am his phone is going off and it was a girl trying to video chat him.
I was livid!! I tried to wake him up but he could sleep through a nuclear missile attack...and trust me, my rage was on that level.
The girl sent a text that said "people are saying we had sex"...I casually responded as him with "what, why?" And she said..."i sont know, i havent seen you in 10 years and i think the most we said to eachother was hi!"
At that moment, i knew i could trust him, and i took a deep breathe, and kissed him.
I told hom the next day what happen. He was so confused, and told me exctally the same thing that the woman confirmed.
But yeah, jumping to conclusions...dont, yadda, yadda.
I dont take my own advice.
We tend to overthink, over-react and over project. Why? Because we've all been lied to and hurt at some point. It's also that motherly instinct kicking in, protecting what's "ours". I'm like a mama bear, don't mess with the people I love.
Quick story. The Scorp and I are at a Yankees game last summer. The couple sitting behind us is arguing, for quite awhile. Which is annoying because I'm distracted from the game so I turn around to give them a dirty look. Next thing I know the woman chucks her full can of beer right past the scorp's head. Throws it hard enough that it flies over the railing about 15 rows below us, getting beer on everyone as it whizzed by. I went after her, asked her what the fuck she was doing & told her husband he better get her out of there. When the security guards showed up assuming it was the man that did it, I threw her right under the bus. People around us were clapping as she was escorted out of Yankee Stadium. And her husband? He left without her, what a wimp.
This is what I want, a man that makes me feel possessed, nurtured and protected...
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_Limbo
Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?click to expand
Literally a LOT of people would do this. If he wanted her number it wouldnt be under his windshield outside. This was just a random person doing this. He did nothing wrong here, someone else found him attractive...you need to calm down before he sees your crazy lol. Toss the number and keep it movin' like nothing happened.
Posted by aquatar1Posted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_Limbo
Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
Literally a LOT of people would do this. If he wanted her number it wouldnt be under his windshield outside. This was just a random person doing this. He did nothing wrong here, someone else found him attractive...you need to calm down before he sees your crazy lol. Toss the number and keep it movin' like nothing happened.click to expand
He doesn't know about the note, he doesn't know I found it, and I'm at work and haven't reacted except the reverse phone look up. As far as him seeing my crazy? It doesn't come out that often, but he's seen it and probably likes it in small doses lol...
Posted by Metatron
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄
Posted by Jules-ll
Where's @NikkiStar? She would have tracked down this woman, had a background check and 8x10 color photos to me already...
And her blood type. Lol
Back to the OP, I wouldn't even worry about it. Probably some random thirst queen, or maybe someone that saw his car get tapped. Or vice versa.
Posted by 7sPosted by Jules-llPosted by Phantom_Limbo
Does he know about it yet or did you see it before he did? Don't assume he encouraged it. I mean, he might have, but he might not have.
The note had a woman's name, phone number and said "I saw you pulling into the complex". Who would randomly put their phone number on a man's windshield without some sort of encouragement? I wouldn't, but maybe I'm guarded?
it happens tho. The world is full of opportunists.click to expand
Unfortunately this is too true. Where the heck did respect go?
Posted by nikkistarPosted by Jules-ll
Where's @NikkiStar? She would have tracked down this woman, had a background check and 8x10 color photos to me already...
And her blood type. Lol
Back to the OP, I wouldn't even worry about it. Probably some random thirst queen, or maybe someone that saw his car get tapped. Or vice versa.click to expand
Knew I could count on you, I forgot about blood type! I'm either doing nothing about it, or later tonight when we're having some adult beverages I'll show it to him and he can get his ego boost, a la @brianafay style .
Posted by Jules-llPosted by Metatron
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄click to expand
honestly am probably more of the jealous/manipulative stereotype than any scorp I've met....after the 1st or 2nd lie, I'd be researching surveillance equipment...and probably be very excited about it...
Playing devils advocate here..
He's retired NYPD.
Does he have any enemies? Like someone he locked up and just got out on parole?
Maybe someone is trying to lure him into a trap. Woman really did put it on his windshield. Tries to lure him back to her ex-con boyfriend.
He's retired NYPD.
Does he have any enemies? Like someone he locked up and just got out on parole?
Maybe someone is trying to lure him into a trap. Woman really did put it on his windshield. Tries to lure him back to her ex-con boyfriend.
Posted by Hatter
Write another note exactly the same just put another number to you that he doesn't know or remember down instead. See if he calls and gauge that reaction. Lol
Ooh, now this is sneaky...I kind of like it.
Posted by Hatter
Write another note exactly the same just put another number to you that he doesn't know or remember down instead. See if he calls and gauge that reaction. Lol
this lol....make your voice sound all sultry and just be really vague..."so how are you? what are you doing right now?"....if its a hookup thing, good chance he'll get right into it...
Posted by Jules-llPosted by VenusAquarius
Go for a walk later. Have that internal dialogue.
Look for a predominance of Neptune in synastry...
Good advice @VenusAquarius. Just looked at our synastry. My mars and neptune conjuncts his mercury, and my sun conjuncts his pluto.click to expand
Look up Mercury Conjunct Neptune.... communication is not easy... deception, exaggeration, hiding info... but? this is usually on the part of the Neptune person...you?
Posted by MetatronPosted by Jules-llPosted by Metatron
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄
honestly am probably more of the jealous/manipulative stereotype than any scorp I've met....after the 1st or 2nd lie, I'd be researching surveillance equipment...and probably very excited about it...click to expand
I'm the same, don't toy with me. I've stalked a guy I was dating. I won't lie. Knew something was up. Saw him getting out of his car at his place with his ex girlfriend at about 11:30. Left, drove home like a bat out of hell. Next thing I know, he shows up at my place. My adrenaline was pumped, that was a fun, sweaty, loving night. He was my closest experience to a twin flame, had really vivid dreams about him.
Posted by HatterPosted by MetatronPosted by Jules-llPosted by Metatron
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄
honestly am probably more of the jealous/manipulative stereotype than any scorp I've met....after the 1st or 2nd lie, I'd be researching surveillance equipment...and probably be very excited about it...
Haha same. If I even get a phone call from a number I don't recognize, in 20 minutes I can have your name, home address, your mortgage company, any business associations you're involved with, and a ton more info.
And I'll never say a word unless I need to.......click to expand
@Jules-II, I think you should dm Hatter the # and let him go to work....
Posted by GemitatiPosted by VenusAquarius
I could never give advice on this kinda thing online.
There's too many nuances to a relationship. I've been with my Virgo too long to expect anyone to understand anything the way I do.
For me, personally, if I don't feel comfortable and you bring too much distress to my life, I 'm out - no conversation, innocent or not of the precipitating deed. It's just enough. I'm ghost.
Wow wow wow!!! Innocent or not you’ll ghost— Even if he is innocent? WTF?click to expand
I wrote:
"...if I don't feel comfortable and you bring too much distress to my life..."
Certainly won't be distressing or making threads about a 2 year age difference. I know that much.
Posted by HatterPosted by MetatronPosted by Hatter
Write another note exactly the same just put another number to you that he doesn't know or remember down instead. See if he calls and gauge that reaction. Lol
this lol....make your voice sound all sultry and just be really vague..."so how are you? what are you doing right now?"....if its a hookup thing, good chance he'll get right into it...
Exactly! If he was in Law, he should be able to figure out who it is pretty easily.. I'd be suspicious if he even called the number at all, honestly, unless something was up.click to expand
...if he checks out, can always say you thought it would be sexy to do a role play like this....scorp should be ok with it lol....
Posted by _Dazed
Playing devils advocate here..
He's retired NYPD.
Does he have any enemies? Like someone he locked up and just got out on parole?
Maybe someone is trying to lure him into a trap. Woman really did put it on his windshield. Tries to lure him back to her ex-con boyfriend.
Hmmm, interesting take @_Dazed. He's been retired for a long time but who knows?
I'm thinking we as a collaborative effort on DXP should write a book. There are certainly a lot of brilliant imaginations and experiences to put to use, might as well capitalize on them!
Posted by MetatronPosted by HatterPosted by MetatronPosted by Jules-llPosted by Metatron
Maybe confront him with it...then be like 'I had a guy friend call the # and pretend to be you. I'm going to give you one chance to tell me everything.'...if he doesn't fess up, laugh and say 'just kidding'?...
Is this advice from a Scorpio man? 😄
honestly am probably more of the jealous/manipulative stereotype than any scorp I've met....after the 1st or 2nd lie, I'd be researching surveillance equipment...and probably be very excited about it...
Haha same. If I even get a phone call from a number I don't recognize, in 20 minutes I can have your name, home address, your mortgage company, any business associations you're involved with, and a ton more info.
And I'll never say a word unless I need to.......
@Jules-II, I think you should dm Hatter the # and let him go to work....click to expand
If he wants, I will. When I did the reverse phone number, her name came up associated with the man that the cell is attributed to, plus his place of employment, email address and current and prior addresses. Couldn't get in her FB though...
Posted by Tommy_boy90
If I saw a note on my girlfriends car with some dudes name and phone number on it and lost my sh1t, after I calmed down and rationalized the situation, I would probably be at the crossroads yet again:
Why did I take it if it wasn't for me - or was it for me, if it was - did I take an L?
Maybe life was testing him but I came around just at the right time so I got tested first.
Most likely these words would follow : "Why does this bother me, what exactly do I fear is going to happen, maybe if a woman can get almost any dude she wants, yet she's with me = doesn't always mean that she's gonna go and cheat on me + big maybe - there's a reason why she's with me".
Actions usually speak louder than words but idk.
Chances are I'd take the L and keep it moving but not forget the lesson which I failed and hopefully not repeat it.
Interesting you brought this up...the thought flashed through my mind when I saw the note to just leave it. But I figured if I took it he would never have the woman's name and phone number. Interception.
Imagine if you called that number and the voice on the other end says: " I noticed you and just wanted to ask........have you accepted Jesus as your personal Lord and Savoir?"
Posted by VenusAquariusPosted by Jules-llPosted by VenusAquarius
Go for a walk later. Have that internal dialogue.
Look for a predominance of Neptune in synastry...
Good advice @VenusAquarius. Just looked at our synastry. My mars and neptune conjuncts his mercury, and my sun conjuncts his pluto.
Look up Mercury Conjunct Neptune.... communication is not easy... deception, exaggeration, hiding info... but? this is usually on the part of the Neptune person...you?click to expand
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Yes I'm Scorpio Neptune in the 11th house, need to do some research on this...
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