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How to tell a kids your not thier father. (Page 2)
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Posted by EmotionalAries
Who has legal and physical custody?
She does. In court it was pretty much negotiation. What i could offered and days i get my kids.
Posted by nikkistar
Only advice I got is to give them 12 inches and not 6. It'll help.
I just got it.
Posted by nikkistar
Only advice I got is to give them 12 inches and not 6. It'll help.I just got it.
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😐
Posted by EmotionalAries
Who has legal and physical custody?She does. In court it was pretty much negotiation. What i could offered and days i get my kids.
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Then that means you have some type of custody what is it and who's name as the father is on the birth certificate? She had to sign off on that to, which is reported to the courts as a legal document she signed stated the person signing the birth certificate is the father.
Posted by FknNerd
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.What was that for—
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Id buy his book if he ever wrote one?
Oh shit, are you ivirgo too?
Does he have a history of story telling?
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apparently, you never read his tome
Firefighter is dxp's very own Hemingway.
i think this story is better than the penis story where his gf left him because of the size.
this is the sequel
he is now married with twins and not the father....
all within two months time.
Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Tell them in a Dark Vader voiceI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
With the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?
You're stupid
You're stupid for not knowing what a joke is. Of course you wouldn't see it as a way cheer up someone.
Dudes being serious. It's a serious matter. You're dumb
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goat aka firefighter's second handle
you have to work on developing your different persona
it was super easy to tell that it's you just simply due to your name
as well as the way you are backing up firefighter because the writing style and word choice is very similar to past firefighter retorts
Posted by FknNerd
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.What was that for—
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Id buy his book if he ever wrote one?
Oh shit, are you ivirgo too?
Does he have a history of story telling?
apparently, you never read his tome
Firefighter is dxp's very own Hemingway.
i think this story is better than the penis story where his gf left him because of the size.
this is the sequel
he is now married with twins and not the father....
all within two months time.
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How come no one else catches that?
It's stories like these that remind me my life is pretty f#cking good
Posted by FknNerd
Ditch the kids and go see your virgo man so he can beat you again ivirgo. Maybe he can beat the mommy issues out of you.What was that for—
Is there something you know and no one else does?
Id buy his book if he ever wrote one?
Oh shit, are you ivirgo too?
Does he have a history of story telling?
apparently, you never read his tome
Firefighter is dxp's very own Hemingway.
i think this story is better than the penis story where his gf left him because of the size.
this is the sequel
he is now married with twins and not the father....
all within two months time.
How come no one else catches that?
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most people have lives
and aren't actively following remembering what certain dxpers are posting on here.lol
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
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She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
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The story evolves...
?
Posted by TaurusinTexas
I was raised in a similar situation and let me just say, the truth always comes out, better to control that and tell them versus someone else doing it for you. You're their dad and they are old enough to understand and then love you even more for sticking with them.
Absolutely
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
The story evolves...
?
Am I missing something? :/
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In the beginning of the story, the biological
father was this '... poor man who had been
searching for his children for 12 years' or
some such.
Now he's a 'dead beat piece of sh# ... ' who has
forfeited his position.
Also from page one:
" This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Soo... which is it?
Push them down the stairs no real father would do that they'll understand
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
The story evolves...
?
Am I missing something? :/
In the beginning of the story, the biological
father was this '... poor man who had been
searching for his children for 12 years' or
some such.
Now he's a 'dead beat piece of sh# ... ' who has
forfeited his position.
Also from page one:
" This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Soo... which is it?
That's true.. I guess I just sort of took it that the father may have had a change of heart and wanted them in his life now.. idk really :/
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Idk... but generally speaking the GRAVITY of a
situation like this would be enormous... beyond
comprehension for many men, and
understandably so.
I have a hard time believing an *adult* who has
been making 13 years of hefty child support
payments, to a woman who subjected him to
one of THE dirtiest double-crosses (involving
his children no less), would seek counsel on an
astro-trash* forum for days-- exclusively.
It just stinks.
If this is legit, he would do well to seek legal
counsel instead... and counseling for both
himself and his girls.
Again, *not* aiming that at you... I'm just saying.
* of which which I am a proud member. ?
is any of this true ? if so it's very sad
Posted by Gemitati
Are you paying child support?Yes $ 1,400 amonth it was less but after time me and my ex agreed on a fair amount together in court.
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Okay, I cannot answer your question, but I am a JUSTICE type of woman. This was wrong! Hire a lawyer ASAP and hand over the DNA test. Ask for a court date. You will be reimbursed (hahahaha! I am laughing at HER not you) for ALL the monies you have paid thus far (assuming over $ 33k). Get her wages to be garnished, get her income tax refund check to be sent directly to you, whatever it takes to get reimbursed (even if it takes years!) Grrr! 😡 😡 I hate it when women do this to men like yourself! (Eva calmed down now). Since you "love the girls" put all the monies into a college fund.
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Tell them in a Dark Vader voiceI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
With the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?
You're stupid
You're stupid for not knowing what a joke is. Of course you wouldn't see it as a way cheer up someone.
Dudes being serious. It's a serious matter. You're dumb
I would suggest you look at FireFighter's previous posts. Considering most people know what he is about.
He's trolling?
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He always is. It's iVirgo.
better watch this troll - he'll take yer cookie when you ain't lookin
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
The story evolves...
?
Am I missing something? :/
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Firefighter is our very own resident writer.
Fiction is his specialty.
He's up for the man booker award
and has been short listed for a pulitzer
@OP sure could be writing a book and making money off his sad sack of a life on paper rather than here on DXP
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
The story evolves...
?
Am I missing something? :/
Firefighter is our very own resident writer.
Fiction is his specialty.
He's up for the man booker award
and has been short listed for a pulitzer
For realz?
This fkn place -_-
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haha
yeah
you've got to give the guy credit
he's super creative
Posted by goat
Is this the virgo that's always coming up with these outrageous stories that always happen in Atlanta? Last one evolved into a gay story
Yes. lol
Posted by tcta
@OP sure could be writing a book and making money off his sad sack of a life on paper rather than here on DXPHe does publish, he just field tests on forums.
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so we're test subjects lol
Posted by Firefighter
15 years ago i was madly in love with this capricorn girl. I thought it was true love! but it turned out to be false. I caught her cheating through text msgs but she always would deny it. So oneday she comes to my door steps and tell me shes pregnant with twins. Twin girls, i felt sooo happy and sooo scared at same time, being so young i was Still in school and had part time job at the WestEnd Mall in Atlanta making $ 7hr. But i was happy because i felt i was in love with her. Until things started go down hill with my girlfriend, she hid numbers, disappeared for hours, kept secrets, lied about everything my gut feelings told me she was cheating and i literally died inside, i had to man up and walk away from the women i loved.13 years later im still in my twin girls lives and proud to be. But on my way to pick them up last year may i see a car parked across from my ex girl drive way, i pull in with-out second thought and i honk the horn 1 time so my girls can come running out.
It takes them a minute too come out. As i sit waiting the guy parked in the car walks and stands by his car door. I honk again nobody comes out. Then i walk up to the door knock on the door nobody answers, im heated now because i drove 45minutes to get here for no reason. I call my ex like what the hell" where are you with my baby girls. She said in her text "is there a guy parked outside her house. I said yes as i starred at his direction. She tried to explain he was craxy ex so she would drop the girls off to my house. Now be it, its none of my business who she F**ks because she means nothing to me anymore. But my kids live here and of hes a threat i got to end this now. So i approach him to let him know to not come around her house with B.S only because of my kids or else it will end bad for him.
I walk up to him and told him "whts the problem why are stalking my kids house" he then says i dnt want any trouble i just want see my kids. He said he has twin girls that he hasn't seen in over 12 years....
With all the b.s in my life i swear i didnt need here that.
Now fast foward present date, had DNA Test that confirms daddy is not daddy and it took me few months to heal my broken heart.
My wife feels its the right thing to tell the girls now then later. Also This man has been searching for his kids and it explains why my ex always bounced around from city to city and leaving good jobs for bad ones. She was just desperate to hide her lie and shame from everybody.
Now im trying to figure out how do i as a daddy do the right thing.
Do i keep the lie like my ex.
Or do i break my babies heart and tell the truth.
P.s they love me to death i been there since day 1. Im not going to stop being there and i won't cut off child support. I lovr them too much to do that.
The one who should bear the burden to tell the truth is not you but your ex.
If you're the one who do that, they might think you wanna get rid of them while in fact you love them.
Let your ex do the talking after all its her fault in the first place.
She won't. She refuses to acknowledge anybody else as the father. She keeps saying just because he was the sperm donor doesn't make him a father...and im like "by law yes it does!! Then she says when she told him, he pretty much didnt want anything to do with her or the babies. So a few months later she knowingly walked to my house knocks on my f**kin door and tells me she's pregnant by me after she told another man just prior he was the father.
So i became a father because the real father forfeited his position. But just because he is a dead beat piece of sh# then, doesn't mean he shouldn't be apart of their lives now.
The story evolves...
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Am I missing something? :/
Firefighter is our very own resident writer.
Fiction is his specialty.
He's up for the man booker award
and has been short listed for a pulitzer
For realz?
This fkn place -_-
haha
yeah
you've got to give the guy credit
he's super creative
I need a way to keep track of these people!! Lol
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lol no you don't
be glad you have a life!
i'm supposed to be working
but i'm freakin addicted to this site
Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Tell them in a Dark Vader voiceI just told them i loved them with all my heart in my daddy voice.
With the deep voice? Loving them in a "deeper" level —?
You're stupid
You're stupid for not knowing what a joke is. Of course you wouldn't see it as a way cheer up someone.
Dudes being serious. It's a serious matter. You're dumb
I would suggest you look at FireFighter's previous posts. Considering most people know what he is about.
He's trolling?
He always is. It's iVirgo.
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The only reason those stories got twisted is because of readers automatically ridiculing, name labeling, throwing jabs and low blows calling me a troll. I' in all honesty never trolled even in my first post. It was real. It was me. I had pain in a heart that wasn't healing and tears in my eyes trying to expressing myself in a note. I didnt know dxpnet would just attack me. I" swear to God i didnt know what the word troll met till i was branded with it day and night while evoking sorrow looking for mental and emotional sanctuary.
Sadly my stories have always come from reality that i composed into literature.
Every letter lives but it dies in the same breathe.
To enlighten you" i have a ex who was pregnant with twins but they are not my twins.
Its life its reality.
Even if you dnt live it,
doesn't mean its not alive in sombodies who is a real person's
life.
I told them. And it went well. I think 1 twin is a bit confused she doesn't understand how im not real dad mostly because she doesn't understand the birds and the bees. And working of how God creates life from the love a man gives a women. Anyway" all in all it went well. My ex was involved and it went better then i could have hoped. Only thing is their biological father never showed up neither did my wife, who pushed for this sit down and talk. I barely noticed she didnt show until the end. I called her and she said she was watching a Black Ink Crew episode and forgot!!
But nothing could upset me my little girls are defiantly maturer then i could have ever imgined. They still called me daddy and they went stright to you tube to remind me that i have braud their hair before school on Monday.
Mood
Feeling Blessed to be a father.
The only problem with this story is 3 adults stuck in denial(acting like the victim) for the past errors in there lives that they had an active role in.
As your story progresses, it seems like everyone involved are taking the proper steps to begin correcting their past decisions(maturity).
You need to continue to mature my brother. You speak as if your still in love with her. You need to forgive her and let it go. So what you was vulnerable because you believe in love. That should not destroy your vision of love. She simply was not the one(except it and stop bashing her for it). If you continue this hatred toward her, eventually your wife will pick up on it(why does he care about her—), and it will eventually destroy your marriage.
As per the courts and YOUR kids:
You legally signed the birth certificate. Whether you took a DNA test or not, you signed a legal document stating that you take responsibility for them until they are adults. Here in NY, the system would consider you an idiot for not taking the proper steps to identify them as your children before signing. Now you must accept your responsibility and HONOR your commitment. They are the only true victims in this situation. Continue to care for them as you would normally have before. All they know is that you have always been there for them, don't change that for personal ideas, feelings or regret.
Now that's out the way... New issue on the table...
Why didn't your wife show up—
And why is a grown married woman watching trash tv? And that show is super bs.
And she missed an important meeting for such a bullshit show?!
Something doesn't sound right here. We live in an age where shows are recordable. On Demand even. Sitting there waiting in a library of shows. Waiting for you to come watch them. And let's not forget to mention how a network such as vh1 will plays shows into the hole.
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