In love with virgo male - should I break up with h (Page 3)

na, he's too busy to date other people, coz I knew him for a bit before we got together, I have a fair idea what he does with his evenings (dealing, hanging out with his mates basically), but he works most evenings. He doesn't do dates anyway. We never 'dated.' Brits don't date like Americans do...!
Also, when we first started seeing each other there were times when he didn't have condoms, or he would have an out of date one. Not what I would expect of a player.

Just be careful. You deserve way better than having someone in your life when they want it. I would let him know how you feel. Why don't you just show up where ever he hangs out or his place and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't respond the way you want then you should probably move on to someone who would love to have you in their life. I used to feel the same way and now I realize that I want to be with someone who wants me all the time and not when it is convient for him.

And if you only have been seeing him once a month why would you think he is not seeing anyone else? Why hasn't he taken you on a date? Does he cook you dinner or anything like that? Ask yourself those questions.

How did you know him before you dated? Was he not a player then?

It's hard to explain what he is like. He is unlike anybody else I have met. The usual rules don't seem to apply to him. He is one big contradiction. Doesn't seem driven by his dick, quite a low libido... hell he is a stoner! but then so was i when I met him (he's my dealer, then I gave up). He has cooked for me, yes. He really looked after me when I was at his and was feeling ill. Didn't complain about it once. was a sweetie. He is very helpful and thoughtful. basically, when we are together he is an angel, doesn't rush off in the morning, we talk all night, very intimate. He's ncredibly relaxed with me. So much so that I was very surprised my his candour. It's just the period of time apart seems to get longer and longer the closer we get. that's the aspect of it that makes me feel paranoid.
I'm sure if i saw him again he would act like nothing was up. That is why it is hard to talk to him.

BTW, i went out with a Gemini, I was obsessed with him. He screwed me up! he was definately not a good match for me. Good to hear yours is a good un.

You should definately try to confront him and ask him where you stand and not let him act like he doesn't know you. Keep us informed and good luck

I knew him coz I used to hang out at a local workshop/studio of some friends I made, he would come in most evenings I was there and hang out too. so I got good vibes off him. I am a very good judge of character. I spotted the cad in the group straight away and he eventually tried it on with me, so I was right about that one! I'm glad i knew him a bit (not that well mind) before I fell for him, coz I wasn't blinded by love or whatever it is.

thanks for listening. I should be bold, I've read that virgos appreciate honesty and respect you for it. He is a smart guy, so he can probably figure out when he is being manipulated by a woman.

Just think about this one, if he slept with you after being with you at some party and he works nights doing what he does, don't you think there are other women out there that he sells to that he probably is sleeping with occasionally. You should show up at wherever he usually works his deals and try to talk to him and ask him if he is just dating you or are you just a bootie call. If you are just a bootie call and that is what this sounds like than if I was you find someone worthwhile for you that will make you happy. Do you know for sure he is only with you? Does he ever go out of his way for you? Did he spend Holidays with you like Christmas, New Years or for your Birthday or Valentine's Day?

Also, Dyrstr8z and Branh0913 are really good at giving advice on here because they are ones. They can give you different points of view about being a Virgo Male compared to Dating one. I know that I probably will never date one again.

i have to go with my instinct on this one. It has always been right in the past, I suspected my ex was cheating on me and he was, but I lived in denial of it for ages... I just dont think you can assume the only reason a guy doesn't want to see you much is coz he is getting it elsewhere. It's not that easy to get laid. not as if it is on a plate for them. he spends most of his evenings driving about doing 'deliveries' anyway.
He is trying to sort his life out, getting legitimate work and I think he sees women as a distraction from that - hence I am low down on his priorities. He is a man's man really. I think he prefers male company. the whole skateboarding culture etc... he is very much a boy. bear in mind he was very backwards about coming forwards with me. I made the moves on him and even when I went back to his after the party he stayed pretty much fully dressed in bed and raised an eyebrow when I told him not to be so silly and got his kit off for him. Coulda been a double bluff though, you know. lull me into a false sense of security. But I don't think he is that much of a cunning actor. what I am trying to get across is - not all men are players and this one acts like the total opposite of one. so I find his behaviour even more so confusing. If he was a player, at least I could understand that, know he was wrong for me and move on. but I feel lke he is a deeply sensitive guy. just little things he says and does. He's quite spiritual and we have talked about deep subjects. Maybe he is sleeping with someone else, but I don't think he is emotionally involved with anyone else.

You didn't respond to the holidays though, was he there for you did he buy you gifts. What does he do for you that is so special, that makes you not want to stop seeing him?

Are you older or younger than him?

we've never made it to that stage. barely acknowledged we were having a relationship. i have probably seen him about a dozen times in 6 months! but when we are together it is amazing. we are just so similar and we make each other laugh. He feels right, and i don't open up to people very easily. I love his mind. he is very smart but in a very straight forward way. He is the most honest unpretentious person I have ever met. if he doesn't know something he'll just come out and say and ask, he asked so many questions about me... my star sign, am I romantic, what was school like. He's just so sweet. I just get him. It's not about what he can do for me when it comes to guys. It's what they make me feel. idon't care for flowers and tokens. I just connect with him deeply and nothing beats that, not even a reall y nice guy who spoils you rotten. Doesn't interest me. I am probably carrying a lot of baggage though, I don't think I will ever be attracted to a healthy coupling.

at first I thought the infrequency of our meet ups was down to both of us, coz I was playing it just as cool as him and that first night I told him I didn't want a boyfriend (in a flippant way though) and that I was quite fickle. I am worried he took that on board and blew it up out of proportion and now we have both played it so cool we aren't getting anywhere.
I am going away this weekend, so I think I might contact him next week. My pride says not to, but I need to close this chapter. Nothing to lose now, we haven't spoken for 3 weeks on sunday.

4 years younger

Why don't you think you can't be attracted to a healthy coupling? You deserve better. I know a connection is so important but, so are the little things too. Hopefully you have a great weekend and meet someone who will appreciate you. It sounds like he is using you and I just hope you don't get hurt. Keep your options open to another and if he comes around then great for you but in the meantime you have a chance to date others that maybe the one for you.

Yeah, I am keeping my options open. I miss him, but I am certainly not wasting my time mooning about him (except on here). Let's just say I need to figure this puzzle out. if something else comes along then I will certainly consider. But as I say, I like being single, so I'm cool with staying that way until fate decides otherwise. thank god I'm not broody!
must retire to bed, cheers for the friendly chat.

piscesdreamer:

I send you a PM = Private Message

So I know that the virgo man thread is months old, but the concept is still so relevant. I am a virgo woman in love with a virgo man. I literally fell in love with him the very first time he smiled at me. How sappy and crazy does that sound? We have known each other for over six years and have had some sort of relationship or friendship or something since that time. It has been a push/pull from its inception. I can't begin to relate all of the "pull away" stories he has told me. Now, six years later. He tells me he loves me and wants to build a future with me (later - not now, of course). I decided a long time ago, that whatever difficulties he was going through (and I was too), he was worth waiting for. When I am with him, I fell as if I am right where belong. We don't even have to have sex when we are together, but when we do, it is spectacular. He is controlling, elusive, uncommunicative, intelligent, beautiful, frustrating, kind, attentitive (when I have his attention) and he has a body (with tats) that is to die for. He is the only one for me. Period. End of story. It looks like my many years of patience may finally pay off (and then again, maybe they won't), but I am in it to win it. We hadn't seen each other for a year and a half, and when I saw him last month, it was like we had never been apart. He is very concerned about being sure that I have no loose ends hanging before he expresses himself to me. I have been telling him for years how in love with him I am, and while he is not the type who wants to be overwhelmed, I think my constant love for him is reassuring. I texted him the other day to tell him that I love him and that he should not forget that - no matter what. After all this time, he texted me back and said he loves me to. With a virgo man, the wait can be very worth the while. One has to take baby steps and recognize those small steps for what they are in a virgo man's world. Progress. I hope someday to be his wife.

Sweetpea...Good for you for sticking it out! You must have the patience of a saint. I feel the same way about mine... I feel right where I belong when I am with him, that is not something I can forget about and move on with unless he tells me he doesn't feel the same.
we haven't been in contact for a couple of months now and I'm waiting for a reply to a message i sent a few days back.

I think when your soul knows it's found the one, then you can''t be rational. It just ain't possible. I wish you luck and hope your dream comes true.

how old is he btw?

Another one of you hanging there ladies... Same picture with my Virgo man. I have been in love with him for about a year now, during all this period of time the only thing I received was barely enough hope to not let go, but I am still here, and I'll wait for him no matter how long it'll take. He's definitely worth.

I wish I had the patience of a saint! Not so. I think the key is that while I am confused by him, I also understand him, as we are very much alike. And . . . I have done a LOT of reading. Believe me, I get angry, I rant, I rave, etc., but I vent with my girlfriends and not necessarily with him. Being a virgo, he cannot or would not accept harsh criticsm. I find sweet ways of getting my point across to him. He's 34 and I'm 35. He really is the sweetest, most loving and charming person once you get to know him. He is also very loyal, but again he tries to appear very cavalier. He has a tough exterior but he is desperately afraid of getting hurt. Over the years and even more frequently lately, I see him giving me these "tests," I guess to see if I will really stick by him. While men in general do not like to be overwhelmed by us, I can tell by the way that he responds that he appreciates my reassurances. We do not live in the same state, so I write letters to him, which I can tell he loves receiving. I don't expect him to write back - writing isn't his thing, so I don't get upset that I don't receive letters for him. It is interesting because if he does not hear from me for a short while, he starts getting worried and asking why he hasn't heard from me. Mind you, he can not call me for days, but somehow in his mind its switched around. Lol! I guess what I am trying to say is that in dealing with a virgo (myself included) its all about managing your OWN expectations. You really have to go in not expecting anything spectactular and then try to be patient (outwardly). I think if you give it time and keep yourself occupied with other things while he's doing his pulling away thing, you will find that you have much more stamina than you realized. At the same time, he will start to trust you more because you won't quickly leave him like all of the rest of the woman he has probably encountered and who have realized that he is hard to deal with at times. I firmly believe that there is hope for virgo men! They just need savvy women to draw them out and show their true potential. I know that once he is mine, he will be mind forever. That is a comforting thought and enables me to wait (not to mention that I have 3 kids and life of my own that requires a damn lot of time and energy!!)

So, what, you should never give up if your soul tells you not to...?
I feel like i'm letting myself down if I trust my instincts 99% of the time but not on this matter of the heart.... my gut feelings are pretty damn consistent. The trouble is, when it comes to the heart, the head takes over with its cynicism from past experiences and strikes it down, planting seeds of doubt! i.e. paranoia, fear and insecurity, therefore affecting behaviour = a doomed, unhealthy relationship.

I know how you feel. You have to really do a gut check and decide in your heart - not listening to any outside influences - what it is that you really want. I have to give you a quick update. My virgo called me yesterday and gave me some cock and bull story about meeting one of his friends to pick something up for him. He was supposed to come into town on Thanksgiving for the holiday. Anyway . . . he tricked me and showed up early! He came straight from the airport to see me - what a surprise! I could tell immediately that something had changed within him - as if he had decided to stop fighting with himself about loving me. He couldn't stop hugging me, kissing me or looking deeply into my eyes. I had to take care of some stuff for the kids during the afternoon but he said he would call at 7 so that we could hang out for the evening. To my surprise - he called - right at 7. We spent a wonderful evening together just talking. He was finally able to tell me how much and for how long he has been in love with me. Just as I suspected, he is afraid of being hurt. I have never, in all of the years that I have known him, heard him talk so openly about his feelings. He also did a lot of listening to what I had to say. The overarching theme of the evening turned out to be the fact that he loves me deeply, thinks I would be a wonderful influence in his daughter's life and someday would like for us to get married (and he wants me to move to where he is sooner rather than later - we'll have to work on that one). So. . . I am telling you all of this to say that for me, the long wait will pay off. I feel so much more content finally knowing where I stand. Now, I really don't think it will bother me if I don't hear from him for a few days at a time. I trust him. I am very excited to see what the future brings. Hang in there. Really step aside and trust your heart and see where it leads you.

that's such good news. A happy ending/new beginning at last. I am gonna attempt to contact mine now. Makes me feel sick. It's so scary to put yourself and your feelings out there.

there is hope then...

Definitely!

I had sent an email to mine a few days ago, expressing some of my thoughts and feelings about him and I was not sure how he would react. To my surprise, he took it very well, he said he actually liked my openness and understanding of him. It's like another one of his countless security (or insecurity) doors has just wide opened. So, for the last two days he's been ultra nice to me. I now hope this will bring us closer and lead us share more about ourselves.

aaargh! I sent a message to mine hours ago, after weeks of no contact. and nothing. so rude, SO RUDE!!!!

I'm back in the game. uh oh.

I gave in and rang him. He made a reference to my text. I think he likes receiving but just doesn't like sending... to anyone. Doesn't even feel like he is obliged to reply.
Made loose plans to hook up soon, but of course no commitment to a day or anything!
feel better now.
Just a little bit of two-way communication is all I need.

still fucking crumbs though innit. That's what it is with these guys.

I now consider myself to have the patience of a saint.

love/relationship without commitment/compromise is useless. pointless. senseless. for kids only.

let him string you along 'coz that's what he wanted. i hope he won't turn out to be a dog whose chasing his own tail someday.

good for you, your patience has become stronger. i like to congratulate you for being a living saint. 🙂

OMG! I just finished reading the last 10 pages or so of this 'thread' conversation about Virgo males! It's like i wrote it all.... What is up with these men -- why are the alllll alike? Why do they have to be so unbelievably frustrating, confusing, maddening and really mean and hurtful? It's like they pursue, pursue, pursue you, then when you reciprocate, they back off, try to 'cool it down' or end it.... then you try and get them back or keep them in your life (i'm long distance so most of it was by email anyway) by texting or emailing and they either don't respond, ignore you or if they do it's all CRUMBS! It's so amazingly frustrating and heart-wrenching!! Yes, they are funny, smart, sweet and wonderful -- or they can be for very brief moments. But what is it that makes them so scared that they have to turn into a cold, unfeeling butterhead? I don't get it... it's so frustrating. I just told mine fu, because he said it sounded like i was always thinking of ways to see him and he didn't, he could care less! That hurt me so bad... I am a confident, intelligent, attractive scorpio woman and he just treated me like butter! The more i take it the more he gives it to me... so for my own sake i had to say fu! And then he emails me back (yeah, they respond when you tell them off) and says oh perfect, hope this means you won't be bugging me again. Can you believe it? He's supposed to come in to town next week and i thought he was going to see me, now i'm sure he won't call, and what am i doing wanting him to, and wanting him to see me—? That is what they do to you - they turn you into this emotional basketcase who questions their own everything -- when once they thought they were the greatest thing! Give me some words of strength to help forget him.....

gemini, what you said there did give me some comfort. So when he is not calling for a few days i should just take it as he is not in the mood instead of he does not want to contact me any more or we've finished.
How come it is so difficult for a vigo just to pick up the phone and say a few words to you. Are they just testing how much patience you can give him?
I am not the type of person who will just keep chasing him. But I really hope that if he finds me not the right person for him, he should just tell me directly so I can move on. Should I just email him and tell him that?

BTW, I share the same frustration with my virgo same as all of you.

dear sisters in virgo hell: thank you for your words! I am SO HAPPY i found this site last night -- think you might be helping to save my sanity -- i thought i was the only one! Roxi -- you are so right -- that's exactly how i feel there's a line baby, and i'm the best you ever had (and he even sort of admitted it once -- he told me i was too good of a lover!) I think my scorpio emotions/passion scares the h out of him! but what's a scorpio woman to do? When you feel it you express it.... leogirl - yeah, you start to question everything -- did i say too much, too little, is he mad, is he ever gonna call again, is it over? Why should they be allowed to treat us like that and screw with our minds and hearts like that? I think they are kinda whacked becuz what person does that? Pursue, chase, then once you reciprocate, BAM, it's back off, run away, cool down, etc.....

roxi, you are very smart and insightful, as i think most scorpio women are! i know your msg was for leogrl and i'm sure your advice to me would be the same... but i'll ask anyway... so do you think i should email him and let him know i understand he was just striking back at me with words to push me away because i scare him telling him i want to see him when he comes next week and he told me he felt pressured that i was pushing him to take me to game with him.... and tell him but if he really did mean all that then i let my FU stand and tell him i don't expect to see him... a huge part of me says NO, don't txt, email, call nothing... maybe we'll talk again in future, but other part says, hes gonna be here next week maybe he'll call if i email him today... but then i feel like i am being such a pathetic loser to chase him and after i told him you are not worth my time...fu... and then he responded with perfect hope this means you won't bug me anymore... i've known him over a year and been with him several times, but first six months talked on email everyday m-f.... anyway, it's different now we didn't talk all summer and then got together at end of summer and recently in november at concert.... i know it might be better for my sanity, heart, etc. to just do nothing. What's your advice? Thanks!

OMG Roxi thank you!!!! I can't tell you how much reading your words of advice helps! EVERYTHING you said is how i feel! i know i should NOT contact him --he was insulting, mean, rude, hurtful and yet a small part of me feels his inner turmoil pain and wants to soothe him...... GOD, sometimes i make myself sick! HA! Anyway, you are very insightful... see that is what i think, i think half of what he says when he is cruel like this is just his "protection" and the other half is his anger for being pressured and being overwhelmed by my emotions... YES, the crazy thing is, why do scorpios obsess and go after someone like that... telling me three times in his last message (after i sent the your are not worth my time, fu msg) that i shouldn't bug him, best to not contact him again (he's tired of my crap) HA! and i don't 'need' your messages. i mean once would have been enough right? Anyway, i will stick with talking with you on these boards cuz it does help tremendously! Thank you!!!

roxi, don't you wish he had come groveling back so you could have just kicked him to the curb? did he ever contact you again and give you that satisfaction? yeah, i like to be chased, i don't want to be the chaser and that's what he's done to me tho.... but NO MORE.... you are so right, i am going to try and stick to my msg...

roxi, you sound exactly like me.... wish we could meet and go out and have fun!!! anyway, that is exactly what i do, get upset with him and then I I I am the one to come back and apologize with a sappy email telling him how sorry i am and how much i like him... GOD, i hate myself sometimes for being so weak! One friend said to me, i can't believe you are taking this crap from him, you wouldn't take it from anyone else! And i think sometimes about it, and think if i was single would i sit around pining for this guy who treats me this way... of course not... but that's not my situation, but still, i shouldn't.... anwyay, i want to email him and tell him i know he overreacted and i hated the way we talked to each other and to maybe call me.... so please help me to NOT do that! At least not until Monday.....

OMG that's late or early.... it would be so cool to live in a small town in Spain! how exciting... but is it kind of claustrophic too -- only 100 people or so? Anyway, thanks for your advice! Sweet dreams....

Hi! I am a Virgo man myself too. Just sharing some of my thoughts.

Some True Facts:

1) Virgo man indeed do date one woman at a time. They are loyal and devoted to their companions.

2) Some Virgo man (not all; also depending on the dates they are born such as in late august, early sept or middle sept) may not be very good at expressing their emotions, especially when there is a need to express "descriptive" words. Virgo born in late august do not like to stand out from the crowds, hence might like to keep things secretive. Those in early september (prob up to 14th) are the more serious virgos. For those born in mid september onwards to 22nd, they are slightly a bit more outgoing. These are the traits based on my observations but it may not be totally true.

3) While Virgos are not good at saying descriptive words, you might want to stimulate them to talk through intellectual and analytical discussions. They can TALK a lot as long as logics are there and no descriptive words are needed in their conversation. Thus, not many Virgos like to say "I love you" but they will show their care through actions.

4) A Virgo is one of the most caring and responsible lovers. It's quite true generally. As long as you need help or need someone to listen to, a Virgo will always be there for you. For example, if you need help from him, he's prepared to go for a big extra miles, help you do the planning and do even MORE than what you request him to. That's the biggest attractive part about Virgo. And, when it comes to cuddling and hugging their lovers, they are very good at it and that's how he communicates his care to his lover rather than the three letter words...

5) He's critical- yup.. it's true. He looks at every problem from its roots. The comments that the Virgo gives may not be nice to hear but if you stop and think from a while, the comments he gave can be very helpful... The tip is don't let emotion rules you; listen to what a Virgo has to say because he can see things from multi-perspective and the intellectual advice he gives are always very helpful.

Now, most of you complain that to date a Virgo, you need to give him time and he's quite slow in picking up a relationship...

(not really quite true cause when I dated my scorpio gf six years ago, our relationship progresses very fast... but we have broken out a year plus ago due to several reasons...)

I don't think past relationship failure is a reason that makes many Virgos hold back from starting a new relationship although I could be wrong.

But one possible reason I think why a Virgo man will hold back a relationship is his CAREER.

1) A Virgo is a TRUE perfectionists and therefore a true workaholic. To him, he commits equally to his career just as much as he needs to commit to his relationships. Virgo is also a focused person... Sometimes, he can't just focused on his relationship if he also needs to focus on career...

2) A Virgo man views his career path very seriously because he has the mindset that he needs to take up responsibility to earn enough money to support his needs, his family needs etc. As a result, a Virgo man inherits several personalities required by an ENTREPRENEUR because of his perfectionists and "no-die" attitude. If his career requires a lot of commitment from him, he might not want to start a relationship even though he may like the girl. (but hey, i am sure girls want yr guys to be successful in their careers, right...?)

3) When a Virgo man says he's busy, trust him and don't bother to ask him what is he doing. Cause he's probably scratching his head, doing all the thinking and worrying.. Just let him be...

4) A Virgo may take his time to response to you. That is because he's thinking hard on how to do things perfect... Whatever needs you need, just tell him and then give him all the time he needs to plan...Once he does his plans, he responds to yr needs with more than what is required. A Virgo does a lot of planning and implements it quickly... One thing that needs to be warn is: Whatever you need, try tell Virgo in advance and not at the last minute. The reason is he needs time to plan...

Perhaps, for those who find Virgo man slow in response to relationship progresses, you may want to ask him if he has other commitments besides relationship... The cause could be his study or career reasons.

My experience with a Scorpio (from a Virgo man)

The bond between a Virgo man and a Scorpio woman tends to be quite long lasting. I had a scorpio gf for five years before we broke out one year ago. She was my first gf. Not sure when the second relationship will come but currently do not have the intention to go into a relationship.

Generally, Scorpio woman tends to be very good at understanding the emotional needs of a Virgo man. The great thing is Scorpio can be quite good at healing the worrysome Virgos. That is generally what makes scorpio woman compatible with a virgo man. The relationship was near perfect match in the early years but problems surfaced towards the later years until we need to break out...

Several probs i found include: (hopefully i don't get flamed by scorpios for that...)

1) Scorpio tends to be ruled by emotions rather than logic which makes them different from Virgo. And, the worst part is a Scorpio has to win, even though the win is meaningless... That creates a lot of arguments for us... For the Virgo man, it is OK for him to let her win... but when u let a scorpio wins, a lot of things usually doesn't go out well.. That's because scorpio don't plan that much compared to a virgo..

2) Jealousy is a big prob for scorpio. (right from the start all the way to the end..) A scorpio tends to be filled with unnecessary insecureness.

3) A scorpio can be very vengeful... A virgo man gets hurt easily when intense emotions of a scorpio starts to cause her to rake up the past and drift things further apart.

These are probably three big issues that I face... But if a scorpio tries to control her jealousy, vengefulness and insecureness etc, i am sure the relationship will work well between her and virgo man. For my case, our relationship almost worked but just wasn't strong enough to make it to the end...

that's just my humble opinion.. hope it helps..

sorry for my poor english as i am typing in a hurry...

Welcome to dxp, fsylalune911 🙂

Those three are problems every partner of a Scorpio faces .. just as all signs have applicable issues that get visited on the partner.

It's nice to see another Virgo in here who is honestly communicative about Virgo nature and relaying experiences earnestly, instead of just being critical with likes and dislikes; and then deifying for justification.

Sorry that your relationship didn't work out 😢

With all this insight you've gained, I'm sure the next one will be even more endearing 🙂

fsylalune911, I actually agree with you. Jealousy can be controlled with much practice though 🙂 And I do agree that emotions lead us. But I don't necessarily think that is a bad thing.

"And I do agree that emotions lead us. But I don't necessarily think that is a bad thing."

Agree 100% .. it can be bad, if the weeds are encouraged to grow. But, if the flowers get fertilized then this "leader" will be great.

I believe that most people are under the impression "that" something happens, rather than "what" it actually means. Such as this, for example .. It is conclusive "that" emotions rule .. without consideration of exactly "what" those emotions imply.

Perhaps, it's those very emotions that drove this Scorpion woman, which brings the ultimate love to the Virgo man, who would otherwise not be partnered .. are these driven emotions STILL bad for the Virgo?

Actually, i am only in my early 20+ so i won't say I am an expert in any relationship. I am still enjoying my life currently as a single to get back what i missed over the years such as finding back old friendship... haha.

notso07, u rite too... Equally, the Virgo has its faults too. When a relationship goes wrong, it's always both parties at fault rather than one party.

What Virgo wants is very simple. The key word is understanding. When there's jealousy and insecureness, the understanding that the Virgo needs tend to be broken. A Virgo man don't necessary needs his woman to do anything for him because he's kinda independent.

It is OK to have some emotions but not beyond the limits that results in unreasonable demands. A Virgo man is perfectly OK to give in to a scorpio woman as long as it is within his reasonable threshold.

For example, when both of us were studying in uni, we took a night time module. After I drove my ex back to the hostel, it was polite that i drove my friends back. I didn't stayed in school hostel at that time. Everyone was kinda tired and wanted rest after the lesson. But for no apparent valid reason, my ex got jealous of the fact that I drove my friends back and made a fuss out of it for more than half an hour over the phone after i reached home. Furthermore, it was a bunch of guys in my car and no girls at all...

Of course, we did quarrelled on that night... Can you imagine how tired you are after one full day of lesson and has to deal with this unprofound jealousy? The next day, I met her up and explained to her the situation... And, after my explanation, she said, "i also don't know why i got jealous. yup.. u right... there's nothing needed to be jealous about.."

Obviously, there are more of such similar cases I have encountered with my ex. It's difficult to understand a scorpio woman because sometimes the scorpio woman don't even understand why and what she is doing. Thus, it's even difficult for the virgo man to understand her as well...

My advice is whenever a scorpio woman feels that she is in the wrong or throwing unnecessary tantrum, just sincerely apologise to the virgo man. If you are embarrassed about saying sorry directly to the virgo man, just drop a one line sorry sms to the virgo man. High chances are he will forgive you, hug you in his arms and says, "Don't be like that next time." Just don't let emotions rule you and insist you are right and want a win... else it will be a total crush for both of you in terms of physical, mind and spiritual.

Some ppl posted in this forum that virgo man are very possessive. Actually, this is not quite true, at least for my case. In fact, it was my ex who are more possessive. If the virgo man is in the wrong, just calmly explain to him in a nice manner, chances are he will accept. Do NOT think that virgos only knows how to be critical of others. In fact, they are even more critical of themselves and are more than willingly to thank you for pointing out their wrongs owing to their reflective nature, provided the situation is handled in the right time and place in diplomatic manner. Don't come yelling and drive ppl to corner, which is a wrong thing to do... Everyone has his own dignity and ego too...

fsylalune911: What Virgo wants is very simple. The key word is understanding.

Yes. It is that simple. We especially want & need understanding from our lover, our family, and our friends. We often feel misunderstood, and as sensitive people (and we are very sensitive!), we feel hurt and confused - and the closer you are to a Virgo, the more you can hurt him.

My advice is whenever a scorpio woman feels that she is in the wrong or throwing unnecessary tantrum, just sincerely apologise to the virgo man.

Again, a simple apology is all that's needed. A Virgo Man doesn't want you to grovel, or apologize a 1000 times for the same thing, or try to turn the tables on him when you were at fault.

If the virgo man is in the wrong, just calmly explain to him in a nice manner, chances are he will accept.

Odds are, he already knows he did wrong, and has already beaten himself up on the inside about it far worse than you would or could chastise him.

For a woman in her 20's, you are quite wise about us VirGuys!

f_s: What you have done may make you regret your action, but you will forget about it sooner or later. What you have NOT done, you will remember throughout your life.

Yes, indeed! What I've found in the Scorpio & Virgo couple is that those awkward silences can be deadly! We both have trouble putting strong feelings into words -- BUT WE HAVE TO when there's been a big misunderstanding; or else, Scorp will fume about it, and Virg will chalk it up to her being Too Emotional -- and if that happens too much, It Is Doomed to Failure...

I didn't read this, or maybe I did two years ago and responded, idk


But, right now I think the title is funny as hell ..


In love with a Virgo male - should I break up him


Funny shit right there.

"eventhough you may upset some of the guys here"


Somebody has to upset them to keep them in line .... most other women fall at their feet, which only inflates their egos even bigger.

Men don't come good .. they have to be trained. And proper training consists of whipping.