Ginger20
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Stranded in car- Virgo BF NO HELP
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It doesn't actually sound like you needed help...
you sorted the whole situation out just fine. Nice work! 🙌🏼
If only ask Mr Virgo to help me with things I simply CANNOT do without him ie unscrew a jar lid or things out of reach (short lyfe)
you sorted the whole situation out just fine. Nice work! 🙌🏼
If only ask Mr Virgo to help me with things I simply CANNOT do without him ie unscrew a jar lid or things out of reach (short lyfe)
Posted by Ginger20It's good you're so levelheaded here.
he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause it was an over the top reaction and if that's the way she reacts then she is high maintenace and entitled.Posted by DamnataPointing This out in the whole context of the postPosted by Ginger20It's good you're so levelheaded here.
he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
Why are virgos so defensive
Yall don't ever dig deep do you
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Posted by Ginger20Were there other incidents when he could have helped you aka had nothing else to do at that moment...and simply bailed on you?
I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him.
Uh, I'm a little baffled as to why people are excusing this shit. I don't care what his sign is, why couldn't he come help?
Also, invest in AAA. Then you don't have to worry about this shit.
Also, invest in AAA. Then you don't have to worry about this shit.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe're really good at dodging high maintenance people who think relationships are all about perks.Posted by DamnataAre you fuking joking me?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause it was an over the top reaction and if that's the way she reacts then she is high maintenace and entitled.Posted by DamnataPointing This out in the whole context of the postPosted by Ginger20It's good you're so levelheaded here.
he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
Why are virgos so defensive
Yall don't ever dig deep do you
Sad
What are yall good for? Please do tell? I'm curious
Since doing basic human shit is so hard for you?
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Same for volatile people.
It's a hard skill to master but somehow we do it.
I'd be done done done.
He was just 4 miles away and didn't come out to help you out?
What was his reason ?
What was his reason ?
I mean you could look at it reasonably and try to figure out...
a) if you come across really demanding and barking orders
b) if that person had a reason they couldn't help you, a legit reason
c) if this is a pattern of selfishness here or not
d) if maybe, just maybe..the world doesn't spin around you.
e) if there were simpler solutions at hand here
...or you could be a snotty person and jump to "they NEVER help me" and "they are the MOST entitled person in the world"
Look, I'll call Virgos on their faults all day but I have never witnessed one letting a partner stranded or in need of help they could provide and they didn't. We help strangers ffs...let alone partners.
Therefore:
- You have come across as entitled one too many times and he has had it with holding your hand over everything.
- He doesn't love you and you are in a fwb. If this applies, get out.
If you are honestly not a dramatic type and he didn't have anything important to do so he had no excuse for not helping you yet opted not to...then this is the wrong person you are dating. But honestly the whole presentation of events is very telling to me. Anyway, you know yourself best.
a) if you come across really demanding and barking orders
b) if that person had a reason they couldn't help you, a legit reason
c) if this is a pattern of selfishness here or not
d) if maybe, just maybe..the world doesn't spin around you.
e) if there were simpler solutions at hand here
...or you could be a snotty person and jump to "they NEVER help me" and "they are the MOST entitled person in the world"
Look, I'll call Virgos on their faults all day but I have never witnessed one letting a partner stranded or in need of help they could provide and they didn't. We help strangers ffs...let alone partners.
Therefore:
- You have come across as entitled one too many times and he has had it with holding your hand over everything.
- He doesn't love you and you are in a fwb. If this applies, get out.
If you are honestly not a dramatic type and he didn't have anything important to do so he had no excuse for not helping you yet opted not to...then this is the wrong person you are dating. But honestly the whole presentation of events is very telling to me. Anyway, you know yourself best.
Jesus, if he couldn't get out of work for 10 minutes (4 miles isn't very far), he could at least call her a tow truck or cab or something.
I might complain about Mr Aqua at times but I can pretty much always count on him when I'm in a pinch (whether I can handle it myself or not). I would do the same for him, it seems a natural thing to do when you care about someone.
I might complain about Mr Aqua at times but I can pretty much always count on him when I'm in a pinch (whether I can handle it myself or not). I would do the same for him, it seems a natural thing to do when you care about someone.
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry you woke up on the wrong side of the bed and sanity today. Better luck tomorrow.Posted by DamnataIt's not a perk idiot to care about someone else.why bother being in a relationship. If you can't show you care for others by actions not determined by you but by the person in the other side than wtf.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe're really good at dodging high maintenance people who think relationships are all about perks.Posted by DamnataAre you fuking joking me?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause it was an over the top reaction and if that's the way she reacts then she is high maintenace and entitled.Posted by DamnataPointing This out in the whole context of the postPosted by Ginger20It's good you're so levelheaded here.
he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
Why are virgos so defensive
Yall don't ever dig deep do you
Sad
What are yall good for? Please do tell? I'm curious
Since doing basic human shit is so hard for you?
Same for volatile people.
It's a hard skill to master but somehow we do it.
And excuse me yall so good you're probably the#1 sign that gets multiple divorces right after aries ands leos
Ppl need to dodge your negligent selfish asses for sure
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Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeYou’re quick to condemn because of your own agenda tho.Posted by HearttofTopazIdk. Men treat women like shit. What turns me off is how all the virgo women and one nut sag bytch is defending this shady behaviorPosted by CaramelizedCoffee
This guy is a fukboi not a man.
If you want a man OP I would run. Go date some other man
This man shows you who he is. This is the type of person you want to end up with? Continue to Deal with this bs.
If not
RUN
Lol
Swirl love
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I’d like to know how long they’ve been dating. That should be a factor.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeNever saw this from a Virgo who is partnered up with someone and loves them so I am sticking to my guns here.Posted by DamnataI'm sorry that you're so fuLl of shit everydayPosted by CaramelizedCoffeeI'm sorry you woke up on the wrong side of the bed and sanity today. Better luck tomorrow.Posted by DamnataIt's not a perk idiot to care about someone else.why bother being in a relationship. If you can't show you care for others by actions not determined by you but by the person in the other side than wtf.Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeWe're really good at dodging high maintenance people who think relationships are all about perks.Posted by DamnataAre you fuking joking me?Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeBecause it was an over the top reaction and if that's the way she reacts then she is high maintenace and entitled.Posted by DamnataPointing This out in the whole context of the postPosted by Ginger20It's good you're so levelheaded here.
he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
Why are virgos so defensive
Yall don't ever dig deep do you
Sad
What are yall good for? Please do tell? I'm curious
Since doing basic human shit is so hard for you?
Same for volatile people.
It's a hard skill to master but somehow we do it.
And excuse me yall so good you're probably the#1 sign that gets multiple divorces right after aries ands leos
Ppl need to dodge your negligent selfish asses for sure
Even you're long post was bs
Why don't virgos admit that they're not all giving or nice
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Posted by TheRabbitMaybe. How soon did he have to be at work? You know earth signs and their work ethic.
If he wasn't actually able to come out and help himself, he could have at least offered to assist in some other way.
Clown move.
Posted by clownloyalBut that is what friendship is about ..... helping and supporting each otherPosted by IkyflI said if, but the way she worded it sounded like she expects him to do stuff because he's her bfPosted by clownloyalThis is her very first post...how do you know she constantly need rescuing? Lol
honestly if that's what you think the perk of being in a relationship with him is about let alone a virgo who you constantly need rescuing and help from it's no wonder he let you figure it out
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Posted by TheRabbitExactly
If he wasn't actually able to come out and help himself, he could have at least offered to assist in some other way.
Clown move.
Posted by MyStarsShineUnless he was doing all the helping and he decided he was going to stop being used.Posted by clownloyalBut that is what friendship is about ..... helping and supporting each otherPosted by IkyflI said if, but the way she worded it sounded like she expects him to do stuff because he's her bfPosted by clownloyalThis is her very first post...how do you know she constantly need rescuing? Lol
honestly if that's what you think the perk of being in a relationship with him is about let alone a virgo who you constantly need rescuing and help from it's no wonder he let you figure it out
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Posted by TheRabbitSimply saying, I wouldn’t have even asked mine if I knew he had to be at work soon. Not like it was life or death.Posted by hippiecriteLOL ok.Posted by TheRabbitMaybe. How soon did he have to be at work? You know earth signs and their work ethic.
If he wasn't actually able to come out and help himself, he could have at least offered to assist in some other way.
Clown move.
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Sucks she feels let down by her partner tho. Something’s off here.
Posted by shakedownThat moment when a Pisces considers other scenarios than the other 2 water signs and has no strong stance before other things are clarified.
I don't know. We don't have enough details. Girls today title guys "boyfriend" after like a week of dating and having slept with him on the first date. Probably a one night stand that turned into a fatal attraction.
ayyylmao.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeNo, cuz she also asked what was the guy's reason and said that we don't know enough details.Posted by DamnataIsn't claiming that its a one night stand turned fatal attraction a stancePosted by shakedownThat moment when a Pisces considers other scenarios than the other 2 water signs and has no strong stance before other things are clarified.
I don't know. We don't have enough details. Girls today title guys "boyfriend" after like a week of dating and having slept with him on the first date. Probably a one night stand that turned into a fatal attraction.
ayyylmao.
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I have an idea too, so does she but both were like ...details are missing here to have a better opinion.
My idea is either this is an entitled person and he has had enough or this is no serious relationship and he owes her nothing. All that can change if she adds that he was busy kicking puppies in the morning and he cannot be disturbed from his hobby....in which case, fuck him.
The way she went overboard in the OP and felt the need to add "is really knowledgeable about cars" so people get even more biased...topped with that "Oh but I thought Virgos love to help" actually points to a user.
I would put money down that there were no "I love you"s exchanged in this relationship so far. Seen far too many "relationships" brought on dxp that were in reality fwbs scenarios and the women are always outraged at not being romanced and made feel special. Well, you are there to nut and beyond that he really owes you nothing.
Satanist Scorpios back in favour again!!!
Hooooorahh!!
Lol
Hooooorahh!!
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Posted by Ginger20
My car broke down this morning(30 degrees outside), so I call my boyfriend (Virgo) who is very knowledgeable about cars, and I tell him I’m stranded and I ask if he can come give me a jump so I can get to a mechanic (bf was 4 miles away). He tells me there is nothing he can do, and that I need to wave someone down. I said “okay well no one is around and I’m getting really cold. U really won’t help me?”
Long story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.
Any insights from board members??
Fuck him!!! If my partner couldnt be there for me in a time of need theyd be dead to me. Thats the worst feeling and such a slap in the face . Id say fuck you and good riddance . I have virgo moon and would go out of my way for any one in trouble .
Posted by TheRabbitDramatic much?Posted by ellesbellesIt's just as likely a chance that he's just a prick.Posted by TheRabbitUnless she's needed his help everyday for the last month and his employer has told him no more.
"I have to be at work in 20 minutes, so I'm not sure if I can help. Let me see what I can do, though."
It also doesn't take much to call work (if that was an issue) and see if he could come in a bit late.
JFC.
I have a Pisces son with a Leo girlfriend like this.
But it wouldn't be DXP unless we tore down the OP and knighted our favorite signs like we're saving refugees at sea.
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I’d like to know how long they’ve been dating and what his response was when OP asked, “so you really won’t help me?”.
Posted by Ginger20This is some fucking bs.
My car broke down this morning(30 degrees outside), so I call my boyfriend (Virgo) who is very knowledgeable about cars, and I tell him I’m stranded and I ask if he can come give me a jump so I can get to a mechanic (bf was 4 miles away). He tells me there is nothing he can do, and that I need to wave someone down. I said “okay well no one is around and I’m getting really cold. U really won’t help me?”
Long story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
First off he’s 4 miles away. He couldn’t call into work, explain the situation, and be 30mins-hr late??
Secondly 30degrees out means you were at some risk. What if after you got off the phone the signal was shitty and you couldn’t make anymore calls? What if no one came by and you ended up spending hrs in the cold stranded??
This isn’t cool.
He could’ve at least called a tow truck for you and checked that you made it
Personally I wouldn’t want to continue with someone who isn’t there for me in my time of need. I want a ride or die.
Posted by Ginger20
My car broke down this morning(30 degrees outside), so I call my boyfriend (Virgo) who is very knowledgeable about cars, and I tell him I’m stranded and I ask if he can come give me a jump so I can get to a mechanic (bf was 4 miles away). He tells me there is nothing he can do, and that I need to wave someone down. I said “okay well no one is around and I’m getting really cold. U really won’t help me?”
Long story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.
Any insights from board members??
dump him
Posted by TheRabbitSeriously!!
"I have to be at work in 20 minutes, so I'm not sure if I can help. Let me see what I can do, though."
It also doesn't take much to call work (if that was an issue) and see if he could come in a bit late.
JFC.
But apparently if you call your bf when your car breaks down and your stranded in cold weather that’s ‘overreacting’ and ‘princess behavior’. When is the right time to expect support and help from an SO then?
I also don’t see the other arguement of ‘how long have they been dating’ mattering. If I get a call from a bf or friend needing help, I help. Irregardless of how long I’ve known them. It’s called being a decent human bean.
Posted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
Posted by RooSagicornWhen I used to drive I once did it for a woman i didn't even know.
Yikes! Even my ex husband would come help me.. but this is why I have AAA card so I can take care of it myself.
Posted by Ginger20
My car broke down this morning(30 degrees outside), so I call my boyfriend (Virgo) who is very knowledgeable about cars, and I tell him I’m stranded and I ask if he can come give me a jump so I can get to a mechanic (bf was 4 miles away). He tells me there is nothing he can do, and that I need to wave someone down. I said “okay well no one is around and I’m getting really cold. U really won’t help me?”
Long story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.
Any insights from board members??
why are you with this guy for if you can't count on him in your hour of need? Seriously, what kind of man won't go out of his way to help his so when they're stranded in the cold by themselves. There are crazy people that can come and get you being so vulnerable alone on the side of the road. If he's not concerned enough about your safety and well being to come and help you then the guy isn't shit don't settle for that.
Posted by JuliietteThat’s true.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
Maybe he had an important meeting or kids. There are certanly reasons which could be legit. But number of dates etc has nothing to do with it.
But still he could’ve spared 2 mins to call a tow truck. Or give her one of his free tows/jumps if he has triple A.
And at the very least he could’ve have followed up with her after his important meeting or dropping the kids off at school or whatever.
Posted by Ginger20He acts bothered that she wants help. Not cool.
he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.click to expand
Posted by Juliiette1. This was hardly a life or death situation.Posted by hippiecritePosted by TheRabbitDramatic much?Posted by ellesbellesIt's just as likely a chance that he's just a prick.Posted by TheRabbitUnless she's needed his help everyday for the last month and his employer has told him no more.
"I have to be at work in 20 minutes, so I'm not sure if I can help. Let me see what I can do, though."
It also doesn't take much to call work (if that was an issue) and see if he could come in a bit late.
JFC.
I have a Pisces son with a Leo girlfriend like this.
But it wouldn't be DXP unless we tore down the OP and knighted our favorite signs like we're saving refugees at sea.
*shrug*
I’d like to know how long they’ve been dating and what his response was when OP asked, “so you really won’t help me?”.
What kind of diff does it make how long they've been dating? You people are really weird sometimes. If someone needs help and i can make it, it is so normal to help a person even if i don't know you at all. You put that triangle sign and somene will stop to drive you to the nearest mechanics or to try to fix it right there.
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2. If they’ve not been dating long or gotten to a certain milestone in their relationship, but she’s constantly asking him for help, that’s gonna get old quick.
3. If she hasn’t blown this out of proportion and he’s the jerk she’s painted him to be, what is she getting out of this relationship?
Something’s not right, she’s asking for help and I’ve asked for answers to some fairly reasonable questions, in order to give her better advice.
What’s weird about that?
Posted by IxionYeah sorry that doesn’t fly with me. Agree to disagree on this one.Posted by LadyNeptuneCause and Effect and while not everyone has an excuse everyone has a reason for why they do something.Posted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
No interaction happens in a vacuum and to make a call on an interaction between two or more people without knowing the basic history of the relationship and the circumstances framing the OP's ask for help (did he have work?, was he sick?, was he involved in something that may have been even more important than her momentary discomfort?, Is there relationship healthy? By whose standards? His or hers? The list can go on indefinitely...but it doesn't have to, but there are important salient questions that are missing answers here.
Its comforting to assume that he is the bad guy immediately (and he very well might be) it is also equally comforting for some to paint the OP as the bad woman or the aggrieved party (she very well might be either).
But without knowing the context that surrounds this interaction people are not really basing their opinion off of the merits of the relationship and the people involved in the interaction...but more so off of their own preconceived notions of right and wrong and patterns from their own experiences instead of judging the interaction primarily off of the story as presented plus the supporting information that will really give any potential judgment call here actual validity and weight.
What good would a conclusion on a situation be if it fails to take into account all of the likely major things that would filter into someone's decision making process?
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I don’t see how any of those variables make a difference in what boils down to basic human decency.
Whether the relationship is sunshine and rainbows or rocky...
Whether he was sick or not...
Whether he had an important meeting or not...
None of that changes the fact that she was in potential danger and reached out to him for help. And yes I say danger not ‘momentary discomfort’.
It’s dangerous for a female to be vulnerable like that on the side of the road. You don’t know if the person who stops is going to help you or hurt you.
On top of that being exposed to cold weather for prolonged periods of time puts you at some serious health risks.
Posted by LadyNeptuneAnother reason I wanna know how long they’ve dated. She makes it sound like she asks for help a LOT. Is he a dick? Is she a princess? Just an incompatibility issue?Posted by JuliietteThat’s true.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
Maybe he had an important meeting or kids. There are certanly reasons which could be legit. But number of dates etc has nothing to do with it.
But still he could’ve spared 2 mins to call a tow truck. Or give her one of his free tows/jumps if he has triple A.
And at the very least he could’ve have followed up with her after his important meeting or dropping the kids off at school or whatever.Posted by Ginger20He acts bothered that she wants help. Not cool.
he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
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Posted by hippiecriteYeah I didn’t get that from her op...Posted by LadyNeptuneAnother reason I wanna know how long they’ve dated. She makes it sound like she asks for help a LOT. Is he a dick? Is she a princess? Just an incompatibility issue?Posted by JuliietteThat’s true.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
Maybe he had an important meeting or kids. There are certanly reasons which could be legit. But number of dates etc has nothing to do with it.
But still he could’ve spared 2 mins to call a tow truck. Or give her one of his free tows/jumps if he has triple A.
And at the very least he could’ve have followed up with her after his important meeting or dropping the kids off at school or whatever.Posted by Ginger20He acts bothered that she wants help. Not cool.
he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
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Posted by IxionShe said in her op that it was 30 degrees outside...Posted by LadyNeptuneYou see but you just said what you are basing your decision on this off of and it has nothing to do with what actually may be just on what you feel it should be.Posted by IxionYeah sorry that doesn’t fly with me. Agree to disagree on this one.Posted by LadyNeptuneCause and Effect and while not everyone has an excuse everyone has a reason for why they do something.Posted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
No interaction happens in a vacuum and to make a call on an interaction between two or more people without knowing the basic history of the relationship and the circumstances framing the OP's ask for help (did he have work?, was he sick?, was he involved in something that may have been even more important than her momentary discomfort?, Is there relationship healthy? By whose standards? His or hers? The list can go on indefinitely...but it doesn't have to, but there are important salient questions that are missing answers here.
Its comforting to assume that he is the bad guy immediately (and he very well might be) it is also equally comforting for some to paint the OP as the bad woman or the aggrieved party (she very well might be either).
But without knowing the context that surrounds this interaction people are not really basing their opinion off of the merits of the relationship and the people involved in the interaction...but more so off of their own preconceived notions of right and wrong and patterns from their own experiences instead of judging the interaction primarily off of the story as presented plus the supporting information that will really give any potential judgment call here actual validity and weight.
What good would a conclusion on a situation be if it fails to take into account all of the likely major things that would filter into someone's decision making process?
I don’t see how any of those variables make a difference in what boils down to basic human decency.
Whether the relationship is sunshine and rainbows or rocky...
Whether he was sick or not...
Whether he had an important meeting or not...
None of that changes the fact that she was in potential danger and reached out to him for help. And yes I say danger not ‘momentary discomfort’.
It’s dangerous for a female to be vulnerable like that on the side of the road. You don’t know if the person who stops is going to help you or hurt you.
On top of that being exposed to cold weather for prolonged periods of time puts you at some serious health risks.
A standard of human decency, basic advanced or otherwise isn't universal in most cases. Even as an organizer I have to routinely come to grips with differences in perception, upbringing, hangups and traumas, when dealing with individuals. Populations are one thing...but individuals are another...one may build the other but groups may act significantly different from how one person or group of persons may from the larger whole.
Their reasons are not excuses but there are reasons.
As for her car breaking down, there is no indication that she was in a dangerous road, also mitigating factors such as time of day, actual temperature outside (if you really want to bring in the weather. Access to communication networks and other people would all come into play as to whether or not she was in actualized vs. theorized danger.
Its statistically more dangerous for my sisters to walk out of the house as a woman and as being black...but we all try our odds and live our lives as people not statistics alone.click to expand
For all we know she is black...not sure what that has to do with the danger of being stranded on the open road...except make it more real
Seems like a lot of reaching to excuse this abhorrent behavior. Your telling me if your girl was stranded you’d tell her tough luck? I can’t believe that...
Posted by UnicornSagNo. Just because *he* can do it, and maybe even *she* can take care of herself (which she ultimately did), doesn't negate the fact that she asked for help and was denied. Apparently because she could handle it on her own.
My last put to this. My bff Virgo GIRL, her car stopped, she called her mom only to tell her she'll be late, called for agency that does that kind of help in traffic )when your car stops, need to pull it away etc, idk how everyone calls it). She has bf also Virgo, didn't even think about calling him.
Another time she had car accident, called police and same service and waited to resolve everything, she just called us to let us know she won't be meeting us because of this. We offered to come and help she said she's ok, doesn't need anything. Also didn't call her bf. Why? Cause she doesn't need anyone to save her simply!
So this may explain Virgo behavior since Virgo's are pretty self sufficient and may not be as responsive for calls to help. Specially in situations so easy solvable. Why would a guy call her uber and service, doesn't she have a cell phone herself? Why would he need to do that for her really, is she incapable in some way cause I don't get it?
My 2 car accidents were one I had Cap guy, he also did absolutely nothing to help out, I wasn't mad. But I did get mad when he told me later same day that we should break up lol
2nd car accident I was with Libra guy, I didn't call him about it yet he somehow came there and asked me wtf why I didn't call, his friend saw it and called him...so different people react in different ways. It doesn't make them bad people tho, whatever some of us may think!
The guy isn't her life coach, he's her boyfriend.
To not assist simply because you wouldn't ask for help yourself (or someone else wouldn't ask), is being insensitive to the needs of others, regardless of how you personally feel about it.
Posted by LadyNeptuneAnd maybe I’m wrong to. The nature of rants is things being blown out of proportion.Posted by hippiecriteYeah I didn’t get that from her op...Posted by LadyNeptuneAnother reason I wanna know how long they’ve dated. She makes it sound like she asks for help a LOT. Is he a dick? Is she a princess? Just an incompatibility issue?Posted by JuliietteThat’s true.Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by IxionWhat details are we missing?
Exercising some patience here would be prudent.
They put a story out that is missing several important details that will outline the context that this interaction happened in. Until the OP provides those details (which we can only get from the OP at this early juncture) essentially Y'all are all speculating from A-Z.
Maybe he had an important meeting or kids. There are certanly reasons which could be legit. But number of dates etc has nothing to do with it.
But still he could’ve spared 2 mins to call a tow truck. Or give her one of his free tows/jumps if he has triple A.
And at the very least he could’ve have followed up with her after his important meeting or dropping the kids off at school or whatever.Posted by Ginger20He acts bothered that she wants help. Not cool.
he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
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Posted by UnicornSagYou’re my new, best friend. 30 degrees? Bitch, I’m in Wisconsin. That’s gonna be our high for the next 3mths. 😂
My last put to this. My bff Virgo GIRL, her car stopped, she called her mom only to tell her she'll be late, called for agency that does that kind of help in traffic )when your car stops, need to pull it away etc, idk how everyone calls it). She has bf also Virgo, didn't even think about calling him.
Another time she had car accident, called police and same service and waited to resolve everything, she just called us to let us know she won't be meeting us because of this. We offered to come and help she said she's ok, doesn't need anything. Also didn't call her bf. Why? Cause she doesn't need anyone to save her simply!
So this may explain Virgo behavior since Virgo's are pretty self sufficient and may not be as responsive for calls to help. Specially in situations so easy solvable. Why would a guy call her uber and service, doesn't she have a cell phone herself? Why would he need to do that for her really, is she incapable in some way cause I don't get it?
My 2 car accidents were one I had Cap guy, he also did absolutely nothing to help out, I wasn't mad. But I did get mad when he told me later same day that we should break up lol
2nd car accident I was with Libra guy, I didn't call him about it yet he somehow came there and asked me wtf why I didn't call, his friend saw it and called him...so different people react in different ways. It doesn't make them bad people tho, whatever some of us may think!
I'm surprise this thread is 9 pages, the OP dumped and hasn't been back lol
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeI don't understand what women do while they are single... is no one capable of handling car breakdowns as an adult - are we Doomed to await the arrival of Mr Right every time we have a flat tyrePosted by wagtailRidiculous comment. De fuk
It doesn't actually sound like you needed help...
you sorted the whole situation out just fine. Nice work! 🙌🏼
If only ask Mr Virgo to help me with things I simply CANNOT do without him ie unscrew a jar lid or things out of reach (short lyfe)
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Posted by UnicornSagPosted by sultrykittyPosted by UnicornSagNo. Just because *he* can do it, and maybe even *she* can take care of herself (which she ultimately did), doesn't negate the fact that she asked for help and was denied. Apparently because she could handle it on her own.
My last put to this. My bff Virgo GIRL, her car stopped, she called her mom only to tell her she'll be late, called for agency that does that kind of help in traffic )when your car stops, need to pull it away etc, idk how everyone calls it). She has bf also Virgo, didn't even think about calling him.
Another time she had car accident, called police and same service and waited to resolve everything, she just called us to let us know she won't be meeting us because of this. We offered to come and help she said she's ok, doesn't need anything. Also didn't call her bf. Why? Cause she doesn't need anyone to save her simply!
So this may explain Virgo behavior since Virgo's are pretty self sufficient and may not be as responsive for calls to help. Specially in situations so easy solvable. Why would a guy call her uber and service, doesn't she have a cell phone herself? Why would he need to do that for her really, is she incapable in some way cause I don't get it?
My 2 car accidents were one I had Cap guy, he also did absolutely nothing to help out, I wasn't mad. But I did get mad when he told me later same day that we should break up lol
2nd car accident I was with Libra guy, I didn't call him about it yet he somehow came there and asked me wtf why I didn't call, his friend saw it and called him...so different people react in different ways. It doesn't make them bad people tho, whatever some of us may think!
The guy isn't her life coach, he's her boyfriend.
To not assist simply because you wouldn't ask for help yourself (or someone else wouldn't ask), is being insensitive to the needs of others, regardless of how you personally feel about it.
I didn't say it's ok, just pointing out light on Virgo perspective maybe. Besides, I said on first page my ex Virgo didn't also come to help me once when I needed it with car. But he did help me many other times later(I had very troubled car). So it probably had reason behind. Maybe she's too high maintenance, maybe guy simply was occupied with something? We can't know until she tells us.
I'm not either attacking or defending guy, Simply stating some facts that some people seem to neglect and say he should help no matter what and how Virgo's are selfish etc which trust me is a complete lie. They definitely aren't the selfish sign, that much I can say, aloof sometimes yes, but not selfish when you get to them reallyclick to expand
I hear what you're saying. I have a Virgo dad and 2 virgo brothers. While not selfish, they do tend toward insensitivity, especially if they see no "need" to be of service.
These two may be incompatible, she may be high-maintenance, he may have been occupied with something that he couldn't break away from.
Regardless, the bottom line is that when someone needs or wants something from you and you care about them, you do however much you can. Even if she's needy and he's had enough, help the girl out and then have discussion or break up.
Consider also that selfishness shows itself easily with people on smallest gestures. It doesn't take the scenario in the OP to have an epiphany and be like "Oh I am probably with a selfish person".
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
Posted by DamnataWhere did she say it was a pattern?? I didn’t read that.
Consider also that selfishness shows itself easily with people on smallest gestures. It doesn't take the scenario in the OP to have an epiphany and be like "Oh I am probably with a selfish person".
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
She says she’s realized how selfish he is because of this incident.
Posted by Ginger20Girl,
My car broke down this morning(30 degrees outside), so I call my boyfriend (Virgo) who is very knowledgeable about cars, and I tell him I’m stranded and I ask if he can come give me a jump so I can get to a mechanic (bf was 4 miles away). He tells me there is nothing he can do, and that I need to wave someone down. I said “okay well no one is around and I’m getting really cold. U really won’t help me?”
Long story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.
Any insights from board members??
RUN. He doesn’t care about you, stop sleeping with him and find a real guy. He has no character.
Posted by LadyNeptuneLong story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.Posted by DamnataWhere did she say it was a pattern?? I didn’t read that.
Consider also that selfishness shows itself easily with people on smallest gestures. It doesn't take the scenario in the OP to have an epiphany and be like "Oh I am probably with a selfish person".
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
She says she’s realized how selfish he is because of this incident.click to expand
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.
Posted by hippiecrite“I’m convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now”Posted by LadyNeptuneLong story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.Posted by DamnataWhere did she say it was a pattern?? I didn’t read that.
Consider also that selfishness shows itself easily with people on smallest gestures. It doesn't take the scenario in the OP to have an epiphany and be like "Oh I am probably with a selfish person".
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
She says she’s realized how selfish he is because of this incident.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptuneRight. I see where you’re getting this was a turning point for her. The bold is why I (and probably the othes who mentioned it) think it’s not new behavior. That a precedent had been set.Posted by hippiecrite“I’m convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now”Posted by LadyNeptuneLong story short- he doesn’t help me, I call an Uber to get jumped, sit in car for an hour, boyfriend ignores all of my requests for help, he drives to work, and he acts put out that I even asked him for help in the first place.Posted by DamnataWhere did she say it was a pattern?? I didn’t read that.
Consider also that selfishness shows itself easily with people on smallest gestures. It doesn't take the scenario in the OP to have an epiphany and be like "Oh I am probably with a selfish person".
If he is how she thinks aka the most selfish person in the world then this was a pattern in which case why is the OP still in the relationship? To be amazed at the obvious? Please.
Reminds me of people who put up with cheaters, then at the next infidelity they go "Can you believe he did that?". Yes, yes I can.
She says she’s realized how selfish he is because of this incident.
I am convinced he doesn’t care about me and that he is the most selfish person in the entire world now.
I thought virgos liked to help, and be of service to people they care about. I feel like he disappears every time I legit need him. Isn’t one of the perks of being in a relationship to be able to help each other out in times of need— I mean wtf.click to expand
Posted by UnicornSagBundle up! Winter finally decided to show.Posted by hippiecritePosted by UnicornSagYou’re my new, best friend. 30 degrees? Bitch, I’m in Wisconsin. That’s gonna be our high for the next 3mths. 😂
My last put to this. My bff Virgo GIRL, her car stopped, she called her mom only to tell her she'll be late, called for agency that does that kind of help in traffic )when your car stops, need to pull it away etc, idk how everyone calls it). She has bf also Virgo, didn't even think about calling him.
Another time she had car accident, called police and same service and waited to resolve everything, she just called us to let us know she won't be meeting us because of this. We offered to come and help she said she's ok, doesn't need anything. Also didn't call her bf. Why? Cause she doesn't need anyone to save her simply!
So this may explain Virgo behavior since Virgo's are pretty self sufficient and may not be as responsive for calls to help. Specially in situations so easy solvable. Why would a guy call her uber and service, doesn't she have a cell phone herself? Why would he need to do that for her really, is she incapable in some way cause I don't get it?
My 2 car accidents were one I had Cap guy, he also did absolutely nothing to help out, I wasn't mad. But I did get mad when he told me later same day that we should break up lol
2nd car accident I was with Libra guy, I didn't call him about it yet he somehow came there and asked me wtf why I didn't call, his friend saw it and called him...so different people react in different ways. It doesn't make them bad people tho, whatever some of us may think!
Oh great, nice to meet you new bff! I'm on my way there 😅
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And for real, I only *thought* I was self suffient before moving here. Identify very much with what you posted.
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Any insights from board members??