Virgo and Cancer relationships

Virgos and my fellow Crabs; do you have a relationship with the other and what kind?
How do you relate with one another and are you happy with this person?

I have a close Virgal friend and her birthday is coming up on the 1st.
We always do something wild and spontaneous just how we like it.
We are both artists working in the health/caregiver field.

However, she does have a slightly defeatist attitude when it comes to her abilities and making choices that lead to a better circumstance.
I have my doubts too sometimes, which is why I understand her. I'm more of a just take it type of person and let's see where it goes while she oftentimes hesitates. But when she see's me asserting myself she becomes more assertive. When she clarify's a thought process I think more instead of reacting emotionally leading me to greater understanding.

I think V & C learn from each other.

The astro books say we should have a mutual affinity with the other and it's true we do have a special connection. I also have a Virgal sister and 2 Virgo brothers. There is a special understanding and closeness between us.

Virgo nephew just called me to see if I could bring him a job application. Sweet kid, a bit arrogant but sweet.

My doctor is a Cancer and so far, we do have some amazing connection. Now I'm not sure if I have to move further than a mere friendship + doctor/client relationship. It's really complicated. At the same time, I think I'm making her feel jaded coz I am keeping her hanging on. But the truth is, I'm just undecided. Heck, she's my doctor!!! @_@

Both Cancers and Virgos are fakers upon meeting and snagging another person.

The Cancer pretends to be aloof and cool, that kind of person where you feel like you can let it all hang out and you can be yourself without any fears. The Cancer, initially, pretends to not be a commitment kind of person, and won't pressure.

that's a farce, of course .... it's leading the person on to make them think that, so that the other person doesn't realize that they're in an emotional trap. And it continues after being entrapped also. The Cancer will continue to lead the other person into thinking that there are many people who want them and love them, and that they could leave you at any time, as if the Cancer isn't dependent upon you. That's a lie, they are extremely co-dependent, and just to leave one and see what happens.

Look at CC for example .... it's all lies, when the Cancer leads you to believe that you aren't responsible for their emotional baggage.

Virgo pretends to be nurturing, and will put forth a lot of effort (initially) to win the person over. They lead the other one to think they are positive and nurturers .. which they are neither. The Virgo driving force is through negative thinking, which of course then, how could they possibly be nurturing.

They will look at the other person with a gaze in which is intended to make the other believe it is all about them, but, it's not .... it's all about the Virgo getting you to play into their wants. Extremely passive aggressive, but, you don't know that ... you think that look at you is in place to make you feel special.

It's not of course - it's a manipulation.

But, nobody knows this about either sign in the beginning .... it seems like a match made in heaven at first, before each others real colors are shown.

But, it's not really just those two signs .... it seems that all people are fake in the beginning, and that really ticks me off to no end.

People put on a false face to make impressions, and I guess they think they have to, or they'll never get a date!! But, it's fake, it's false. If you put on a face for impression purposes, and another person falls for you, then you've deceived them. They think you are someone else.

We see this daily in dxp, where people come in just after a 1-3 months and upset because they think their new boy/girlfriend changed ... when in reality, they haven't changed at all, they merely took off the mask that they tricked you with.

Pisses me off that people do that.

Posted by unlimitedinfiniti
Hey P- Angel can you give me a description on virgo and pisces, cause this seem pretty damn accurate.

Yes, please, can you do this P-Angel?

The dynamics between Virgo and Pisces is complicated, and a paradox. It would be easy for people to understand in reading what is said, but, they'd have to live it to really grasp how profound it is.

I will keep it short and sweet, and since both of you are a Virgo and a Pisces, respectively, you should get it without explaining.

Virgo's need to give, to fix, to cater, to be of service ..... Pisces need to be obscure, to blend in, to be taken care of, to deceive to keep hidden

Pisces will mold to their environment to suit the other person .... and though, it may appear as a deception, the Virgo is given the person they need to serve, since the Pisces molded themselves to fit the Virgo. So, though the Virgo may not like to be lied to, they actually find satisfaction in being given the life that provides them with these avenues.

Though a Pisces cannot stand to be controlled, and will bulk at anything that even resembles control, even if it's for it's own good ... because they changed theirselves to be what the Virgo needs, it now doesn't appear as being controlled, rather, providing for the Virgo.

Ok that wasn't short.

There is a description I always say about Pisces ..... we wrap our worlds around you, and this isn't needed by any sign more than Virgo. The Virgo is crochety, by nature, fussy, and irritating ... but, once the Pisces has given themselves to you, our world revolves around you and we have designed our likes and wants FOR you to be of service to us ... so, the Virgo being naggy is what a Pisces revers because we know you need it, so we create the environment for you to be irritated at something, so you can let it out.

Virgo's NEED, more than anything else, to feel as if they are needed, and Pisces designed their life around this, to give you a place to be needed by them.

It's complicated.

That is perfect. And so true. And I did literally laugh out loud at this:

"so, the Virgo being naggy is what a Pisces revers because we know you need it, so we create the environment for you to be irritated at something, so you can let it out.
"

Now I wonder what P-Angel has to say about me...

Your Virgo friends must have some placements that drag their IQs down. Everywhere I go, Virgos have the reputation of being smart/brilliant.

Your Virgo friends must have some placements that drag their IQs down. Everywhere I go, Virgos have the reputation of being smart/brilliant.

I was in a long-term relationship with a Cancer for a few years. I would say that the good parts far outweighed the bad ones. It was an emotional rollercoaster for sure, and sometimes we had to put some extra effort into communication. We had to adjust and learn how to deal with one another's habits, like my needs for personal space and order and her needs for attention and affection. Even though things between us eventually turned sour I still think that the relationship was a positive experience.

I also have a sister who's a Cancer. For the most part we get along alright but like typical siblings, we're given to fighting at times.

And a big +1 for P's description of the Virgo/Pisces dynamic.

always felt very comfortable when in Cancer company

nice,caring people from what I've seen

yep,probably up there with Taurus as my favourite sign

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sure, but i am witness to alot of sourpuss lately, i wonder if something is in the waters, or if people are really attempting to spread their misery around, but interacting with certain Virogs on DXP isn't as fun anymore or maybe i just don't have the fight anymore, cause i don't care.

At least you used to have fun. Fun wanes, CC. Heheh... #whyamifeedingmyegoonceagain? #loyalvirgolol

I like this thread.....🙂

Virg's and Cancers can be oil and water.

We can actually have a strong and fun bond.
A lot of understanding between the two.
I just wish I had more time to hang out with them. 😢

Posted by miamivirgo
Virg's and Cancers can be oil and water.

Only when we disagree. Then it's fireworks.
I find that my friend and I disagree about romantic relationships.
I.E. she thinks it's okay to date married men and I think NOT!!

Virgo's can be just as secretive as Cancers too.
I could be going through my opinionated mode only to find out they are the people I am talking about.

Virgo's are more open minded than people may realize.

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Posted by LunarMaiden
We always do something wild and spontaneous just how we like it.

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We don't really know what we are going to do until we do it like, skinny dipping,
head stands on the street wearing skirts, or just driving off somewhere, etc.

We are usually slightly tipsy when we do those head stands. :/

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Posted by miamivirgo
Virg's and Cancers can be oil and water.

Only when we disagree. Then it's fireworks.
I find that my friend and I disagree about romantic relationships.
I.E. she thinks it's okay to date married men and I think NOT!!

There lies the issues, the lack of moral codes, meaning the lack of empathy, how can one adjust to that mentally?

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I also have this issue with my Virgo sister.
It's almost like walking on eggshells because I have strong opinions on human behavior/choices.
One thing water signs have to remember is that Virgo's are earth signs.
Very earthy people even if they are mutable it makes them no less Virgo but I think that mutability makes them have less inhibitions when it comes to issues of the flesh.
Just like Crabs may cater to our emotions, if we feel something we go with it, it's natural and many of us have a need to help others.

Virgo would cater to physical prowess. i.e. work long exhausting hours, sexual exploits, mental pursuits, etc.

I think if both can be more accepting of the others nature and perhaps join them in these pursuits perhaps the relationship should go more smoothly.

For example, my Virgal pal has been talking about going to the Korean spa for years. She would go with a Taurus friend of ours. Well we have since severed all ties with this person so we went together. Of course its kinda a nudist colony. We meet both of our needs, massages, cold and hot pools, hot herbal steam rooms, full body scrubs, various dry heated rooms with men and women. It brought us closer together.

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Posted by LunarMaiden
We always do something wild and spontaneous just how we like it.

😏

We don't really know what we are going to do until we do it like, skinny dipping,
head stands on the street wearing skirts, or just driving off somewhere, etc.

We are usually slightly tipsy when we do those head stands. :/

Very true.

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I was actually hoping to have this bond with a male Virgo but I think my brothers ruined it for them. :/

I've been with a young (21-25) virgo woman ( I'm a cancer man a little bit older ) for one year now. I've been in a few relationships and even though this is the least passionate and least "exciting" shall we say, relationship I've ever been in, it's a calming and relaxed one for the most part. It feels like we have all the time in the world and I like it alot. It can be frustrating at times because she is very shy and doesn't open up easily but that's OK, I like it in drops and drips as apposed to all in one big gulp.

Posted by CluelessCancer
The cancer board is saying some really nice thing about Virgos...much to my dismay of course🙂

Hahaha why to your dismay ? are we that bad 🙂

I don't think virgos and cancers have the best communication skills when it comes to interacting with one another and me personally ... cancers confuse and sometimes frustrate the life out of me but im still drawn to them .

My best friend is a cancer and there's not a day that goes by that I don't talk to her but we couldn't be more different if we tried . Love her but she's a little weak , she never stands up for herself and that always falls on me . I like to be out and having fun and she's very withdrawn and doesn't ever let loose and have a drink or anything like that . I think every action of my life through before I do things yet she will do it and regret it . very very different people yet the very best of friends .

Men wise ..... well what a story that is . I have had one in my life for 14 years , we are friendly with a massive attraction to one another but it goes like this all the time , we message , we see one another , we spend the night together ( no sex ) , we spend a bit more time together , he withdraws and usually starts dating someone else . I don't get it at all but its something I just go with the flow with and my life isn't placed on any hold waiting to figure it out < and there is it .... neither one of us want to communicate to what the situation actually is .

Posted by DolphinSaver
I've been with a young (21-25) virgo woman ( I'm a cancer man a little bit older ) for one year now. I've been in a few relationships and even though this is the least passionate and least "exciting" shall we say, relationship I've ever been in, it's a calming and relaxed one for the most part. It feels like we have all the time in the world and I like it alot. It can be frustrating at times because she is very shy and doesn't open up easily but that's OK, I like it in drops and drips as apposed to all in one big gulp.

Why is it the least passionate and least "exciting?"

Posted by P-Angel

But, it's not really just those two signs .... it seems that all people are fake in the beginning, and that really ticks me off to no end.

People put on a false face to make impressions, and I guess they think they have to, or they'll never get a date!! But, it's fake, it's false. If you put on a face for impression purposes, and another person falls for you, then you've deceived them. They think you are someone else.

We see this daily in dxp, where people come in just after a 1-3 months and upset because they think their new boy/girlfriend changed ... when in reality, they haven't changed at all, they merely took off the mask that they tricked you with.

Pisses me off that people do that.

Very good analysis; wow. Everything I thought but couldn't properly articulate...

Virgos and my fellow Crabs; do you have a relationship with the other and what kind?

Best Friends for 45+ years now.

How do you relate with one another and are you happy with this person?

Typical Earth & Water blend: I'm the Carpenter, and he's The Artist. I observe life, and he participates in it. It's cliche, but we do balance each other out -- and quite successfully.

Virgos not nurturing?

What a load of bollocks! I once drove 15 hours to be with my Cancer Pal when his Mom was in the hospital, so that he wouldn't have to go through that ordeal alone. Our style is different, but our motivations are as human as anyone else's.

Here's a Big Clue Bird for all y'all:

There are 4 distinct Elements, which means there are 4 big divisions, and 4 very different ways of seeing, feeling, thinking, and experiencing the universe. I've yet to meet any individual from any of these that had 'the lock' on interpersonal wisdom or harmony. We are all flawed, and in unique ways.

As for this old Virgo: I've always been more drawn to Water Signs than to either Fire or Air, and I am married to a Scorpio Woman.

Despite my Cancer Pal, would I ever get romantically involved with a Cancer Woman? Hell-to-the-fucking-NO! Even though I know several very happy VM + CW married couples, I would not go that way. My WHINE-O-METER gets pegged way to quickly for it to ever work out.

As for Pisces & Virgo: What the bloody hell is P-Angel smoking these days??

Both are MUTABLE SIGNS, and yet the Pisces is the only one who'll mold her world around her Virgo man? Bullshit. The Truth is what I posted here years ago: The first time Virgo Man thinks, "She's a spaced-out ex-hippie airhead!" it's over. Doesn't matter how kinky the sex is (and it would be, with two imaginative PLEASERS going at it), a real VM is not going to stay with a woman he can't respect and/or relate to intellectually -- we're mental, remember?

IME: VM & CW or SW can work when either woman allows VM to be both The Provider and The Protector. It works with CW because she is openly fragile and secretly amorous. It works with SW because she is openly amorous and secretly fragile. Two sides of the same coin that apparently is attractive to a large percentage of my Virgo peers.

Posted by P-Angel

But, it's not really just those two signs .... it seems that all people are fake in the beginning, and that really ticks me off to no end.

People put on a false face to make impressions, and I guess they think they have to, or they'll never get a date!! But, it's fake, it's false. If you put on a face for impression purposes, and another person falls for you, then you've deceived them. They think you are someone else.

We see this daily in dxp, where people come in just after a 1-3 months and upset because they think their new boy/girlfriend changed ... when in reality, they haven't changed at all, they merely took off the mask that they tricked you with.

Pisses me off that people do that.

Fake people? On here? Like a lot of lying pisces I've met? Like you, b.i.t.c.h?

Posted by P-Angel

But, it's not really just those two signs .... it seems that all people are fake in the beginning, and that really ticks me off to no end.

People put on a false face to make impressions, and I guess they think they have to, or they'll never get a date!! But, it's fake, it's false. If you put on a face for impression purposes, and another person falls for you, then you've deceived them. They think you are someone else.

We see this daily in dxp, where people come in just after a 1-3 months and upset because they think their new boy/girlfriend changed ... when in reality, they haven't changed at all, they merely took off the mask that they tricked you with.

Pisses me off that people do that.

Fake people? On here? Like a lot of lying pisces I've met? Like you, b.i.t.c.h?

its communication and patience.

If the love is there it will flow as long that there's communication. The cancer i have a relationship with is hard working and goal oriented but at the same time he cares. He doesn't talk much and virgo requires talking for it to work. We agreed he would communicate better and I'll be patience. It took a long time before we got to this point.

When we actually talk, we're understanding and on the same page. When we do talk I get a better understanding of his worries and point of view.

It's hard enough that men and women think differently but throw in a cancer who doesn't really know how to express how he feel into words and it gets really harder.

It takes 2 special kind of person who can adjust and accept each other to make it work.

He listen to my emotional outburst and I'm understanding to his stress which require him to seek out space.

just make sure to never reenforce each other insecurities. Be there for each other and be patience

Posted by P-Angel

The dynamics between Virgo and Pisces is complicated, and a paradox. It would be easy for people to understand in reading what is said, but, they'd have to live it to really grasp how profound it is.

I will keep it short and sweet, and since both of you are a Virgo and a Pisces, respectively, you should get it without explaining.

Virgo's need to give, to fix, to cater, to be of service ..... Pisces need to be obscure, to blend in, to be taken care of, to deceive to keep hidden

Pisces will mold to their environment to suit the other person .... and though, it may appear as a deception, the Virgo is given the person they need to serve, since the Pisces molded themselves to fit the Virgo. So, though the Virgo may not like to be lied to, they actually find satisfaction in being given the life that provides them with these avenues.

Though a Pisces cannot stand to be controlled, and will bulk at anything that even resembles control, even if it's for it's own good ... because they changed theirselves to be what the Virgo needs, it now doesn't appear as being controlled, rather, providing for the Virgo.

Ok that wasn't short.

There is a description I always say about Pisces ..... we wrap our worlds around you, and this isn't needed by any sign more than Virgo. The Virgo is crochety, by nature, fussy, and irritating ... but, once the Pisces has given themselves to you, our world revolves around you and we have designed our likes and wants FOR you to be of service to us ... so, the Virgo being naggy is what a Pisces revers because we know you need it, so we create the environment for you to be irritated at something, so you can let it out.

Virgo's NEED, more than anything else, to feel as if they are needed, and Pisces designed their life around this, to give you a place to be needed by them.

It's complicated.

Indeed it is profound...but not as complicated as it seems. You may disagree, but often what realistically happens...from what I've seen...is the two often times end up destroying each other. What you described is essentially a codependent relationship. Mainly because both are a negative polarity sign. Often, they end up chasing what is essentially an illusion based off of "familiarity." Instead, of it growing in a positive direction(which is essentially what relationships are about) they bring out the worst in each other. There is a lot of abuse, manipulation(which in itself is a form of abuse), and addiction. While some love and care does exist, a lot of times I see an unhealthy situation that's never stable. But because both cannot see past what they want(and not what serves a higher purpose for both), they stay locked in the pattern listed above.

Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by P-Angel

The dynamics between Virgo and Pisces is complicated, and a paradox. It would be easy for people to understand in reading what is said, but, they'd have to live it to really grasp how profound it is.

I will keep it short and sweet, and since both of you are a Virgo and a Pisces, respectively, you should get it without explaining.

Virgo's need to give, to fix, to cater, to be of service ..... Pisces need to be obscure, to blend in, to be taken care of, to deceive to keep hidden

Pisces will mold to their environment to suit the other person .... and though, it may appear as a deception, the Virgo is given the person they need to serve, since the Pisces molded themselves to fit the Virgo. So, though the Virgo may not like to be lied to, they actually find satisfaction in being given the life that provides them with these avenues.

Though a Pisces cannot stand to be controlled, and will bulk at anything that even resembles control, even if it's for it's own good ... because they changed theirselves to be what the Virgo needs, it now doesn't appear as being controlled, rather, providing for the Virgo.

Ok that wasn't short.

There is a description I always say about Pisces ..... we wrap our worlds around you, and this isn't needed by any sign more than Virgo. The Virgo is crochety, by nature, fussy, and irritating ... but, once the Pisces has given themselves to you, our world revolves around you and we have designed our likes and wants FOR you to be of service to us ... so, the Virgo being naggy is what a Pisces revers because we know you need it, so we create the environment for you to be irritated at something, so you can let it out.

Virgo's NEED, more than anything else, to feel as if they are needed, and Pisces designed their life around this, to give you a place to be needed by them.

It's complicated.

Indeed it is profound...but not as complicated as it seems. You may disagree, but often what realistically happens...from what I've seen...is the two often times end up destroying each other. What you described is essentially a codependent relationship. Mainly because both are a negative polarity sign. Often, they end up chasing what is essentially an illusion based off of "familiarity." Instead, of it growing in a positive direction(which is essentially what relationships are about) they bring out the worst in each other. There is a lot of abuse, manipulation(which in itself is a form of abuse), and addiction. While some love and care does exist, a lot of times I see an unhealthy situation that's never stable. But because both cannot see past what they want(and not what serves a higher purpose for both), they stay locked in the pattern listed above.

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Perhaps, but, not always.

I speak from a 35 year old relationship, in where we grew together respectively, rather than destroy each other and become selfishly unhealthy.

But, fully realize that most people are incapable of letting go of control because of fear of being vulnerable.

Posted by SomeSortOfMermaid

Is it a codependent relationship? To a certain extent, but not in the attached-to-the-hip kind of way. Every LTR will have some form of codependency in it, if you don't need your significant other how will it last?

Agreed ..... maybe people fearing being dependent upon their SO is one of the main reasons why they don't last very long.

Every person needs to be needed by the other .... otherwise, you feel special to them.

I think all this chasing people do is in search of finding someone who needs them.

One of my best friends is Virgo, and he just married a Pisces woman.

Before the marriage, he complained about her constantly. I'm surprised that the relationship didn't fall apart completely. But they seem to be making it work now and have a kid on the way together.

As far as my perception of Cancer and Virgo, I haven't met a virgo gal that I didn't like. Except for a few on this site, but they are cunts on here and would probably like me in real life.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74

Posted by P-Angel

The dynamics between Virgo and Pisces is complicated, and a paradox. It would be easy for people to understand in reading what is said, but, they'd have to live it to really grasp how profound it is.

I will keep it short and sweet, and since both of you are a Virgo and a Pisces, respectively, you should get it without explaining.

Virgo's need to give, to fix, to cater, to be of service ..... Pisces need to be obscure, to blend in, to be taken care of, to deceive to keep hidden

Pisces will mold to their environment to suit the other person .... and though, it may appear as a deception, the Virgo is given the person they need to serve, since the Pisces molded themselves to fit the Virgo. So, though the Virgo may not like to be lied to, they actually find satisfaction in being given the life that provides them with these avenues.

Though a Pisces cannot stand to be controlled, and will bulk at anything that even resembles control, even if it's for it's own good ... because they changed theirselves to be what the Virgo needs, it now doesn't appear as being controlled, rather, providing for the Virgo.

Ok that wasn't short.

There is a description I always say about Pisces ..... we wrap our worlds around you, and this isn't needed by any sign more than Virgo. The Virgo is crochety, by nature, fussy, and irritating ... but, once the Pisces has given themselves to you, our world revolves around you and we have designed our likes and wants FOR you to be of service to us ... so, the Virgo being naggy is what a Pisces revers because we know you need it, so we create the environment for you to be irritated at something, so you can let it out.

Virgo's NEED, more than anything else, to feel as if they are needed, and Pisces designed their life around this, to give you a place to be needed by them.

It's complicated.

Indeed it is profound...but not as complicated as it seems. You may disagree, but often what realistically happens...from what I've seen...is the two often times end up destroying each other. What you described is essentially a codependent relationship. Mainly because both are a negative polarity sign. Often, they end up chasing what is essentially an illusion based off of "familiarity." Instead, of it growing in a positive direction(which is essentially what relationships are about) they bring out the worst in each other. There is a lot of abuse, manipulation(which in itself is a form of abuse), and addiction. While some love and care does exist, a lot of times I see an unhealthy situation that's never stable. But because both cannot see past what they want(and not what serves a higher purpose for both), they stay locked in the pattern listed above.

Perhaps, but, not always.

I speak from a 35 year old relationship, in where we grew together respectively, rather than destroy each other and become selfishly unhealthy.

But, fully realize that most people are incapable of letting go of control because of fear of being vulnerable.

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That's true. Think for a second where the fear of being vulnerable comes from. It's a defense mechanism and most likely stems from emotional trauma experienced early on in life or at some point. Fear is a tree that has many branches but it mainly expresses itself through a "need" to control. While it's understandable that no one wants to get hurt, what's most important is why did it happen and what lesson should be learned. A lot of life's experiences are about teaching us self awareness and more so, about loving ourselves and loving others. While this may sound naive and cliché, the reason it sounds that way is that we have been conditioned to rely upon others for self validation

Posted by LunarMaiden
Virgos and my fellow Crabs; do you have a relationship with the other and what kind?
How do you relate with one another and are you happy with this person?

I have a close Virgal friend and her birthday is coming up on the 1st.
We always do something wild and spontaneous just how we like it.
We are both artists working in the health/caregiver field.

However, she does have a slightly defeatist attitude when it comes to her abilities and making choices that lead to a better circumstance.
I have my doubts too sometimes, which is why I understand her. I'm more of a just take it type of person and let's see where it goes while she oftentimes hesitates. But when she see's me asserting myself she becomes more assertive. When she clarify's a thought process I think more instead of reacting emotionally leading me to greater understanding.

I think V & C learn from each other.

The astro books say we should have a mutual affinity with the other and it's true we do have a special connection. I also have a Virgal sister and 2 Virgo brothers. There is a special understanding and closeness between us.

Yes they do learn from each other! My ex was a virgo and we taught each other a lot we just got back on good terms but he's someone I'll never forget