Virgo Mania

I am a Leo woman 34, who found a attraction for a Virgo guy 28. I'm not one to judge age so the difference did not bother me. We both work together. He was very cool and laid back and that made me instantly attracted to him. We shared music favorites, talked about books we read and had butterflies whenever we were around each other.

He told me to be careful wirh him because he is very passionate and intense and his love is dangerous, but that did nothing for my Leo energy but turn me on. He also said he is a very private person who needs his boundaries respected and needed space sometimes. No problem there!!! I asked him about spending time together and he said OK we would definitely spend time that week. The next day We talk on the phone for hours and he told me about everything that he had planned that upcoming week, but never mentioned me. When I mentioned it, he got annoyed saying that I don't need to mention what he already said he would do. Then actually did not see me because he said he refuse to deal with someone who doesn't listen.

After that one incident it was like I couldn't say anything right. We would talk for hours and It could go great, then one thing I say will send him in a uproar and he will be over the conversation. It's like walking on eggshells. Another week goes by and I agree again to let him take lead and come up with plans to see me, but again he talks about everything else he had planned, never once mentioning me. This time instead of saying something I just got off the phone. He texted later and said he thought it was better we stayed friends because he did not think it was enough compatibility and understanding between us.

When I saw him again, he expressed that my lack of patience don't work for him and I'm not a woman who knows how to let a man take lead, even though he made literally no attempt in my opinion to do anything. Because I really like him I asked him to reconsider and just give me a chance. He said okay. The next day he called me while at work at 9:00pm and we atayed on the phone until 3:00am. Then he said he wanted to come give you a hug. It was so late, but I wasn't gonna paaz up the opportunity so I said okay. He cane over around 4:00am and we sat and talked until 9:00am. No touching, no kissing, no sex involved. It actually was pretty good.

The next morning, he texted and said he had a full day planned but he really enjoyed our time together. I said me too and that was that. I didn't hear from him at all that day but I wasn't that upset about it. He said he had a full day planned so I respected it. The next day, however, I called at 10:00am and he did not answer. I'm not worried, but I am frustrated.

What is up with this back and forth, hot and cold in or out behavior?? He is so hard to read. I know he likes me and enjoys me. He always say he thinks of me everyday and misses me everyday. Yet I hear nothing from him. We haven't been intimate yet but I'm actually scared to be. If he does this after I share my body, I might break down. Not sure what to do here.

Signed- One Stressed Leo

You called him at 10am on a weekday? Or was it the weekend

Posted by desilove333
I am a Leo woman 34, who found a attraction for a Virgo guy 28. I'm not one to judge age so the difference did not bother me. We both work together. He was very cool and laid back and that made me instantly attracted to him. We shared music favorites, talked about books we read and had butterflies whenever we were around each other.


He told me to be careful wirh him because he is very passionate and intense and his love is dangerous, but that did nothing for my Leo energy but turn me on. He also said he is a very private person who needs his boundaries respected and needed space sometimes. No problem there!!! I asked him about spending time together and he said OK we would definitely spend time that week. The next day We talk on the phone for hours and he told me about everything that he had planned that upcoming week, but never mentioned me. When I mentioned it, he got annoyed saying that I don't need to mention what he already said he would do. Then actually did not see me because he said he refuse to deal with someone who doesn't listen.


After that one incident it was like I couldn't say anything right. We would talk for hours and It could go great, then one thing I say will send him in a uproar and he will be over the conversation. It's like walking on eggshells. Another week goes by and I agree again to let him take lead and come up with plans to see me, but again he talks about everything else he had planned, never once mentioning me. This time instead of saying something I just got off the phone. He texted later and said he thought it was better we stayed friends because he did not think it was enough compatibility and understanding between us.


When I saw him again, he expressed that my lack of patience don't work for him and I'm not a woman who knows how to let a man take lead, even though he made literally no attempt in my opinion to do anything. Because I really like him I asked him to reconsider and just give me a chance. He said okay. The next day he called me while at work at 9:00pm and we atayed on the phone until 3:00am. Then he said he wanted to come give you a hug. It was so late, but I wasn't gonna paaz up the opportunity so I said okay. He cane over around 4:00am and we sat and talked until 9:00am. No touching, no kissing, no sex involved. It actually was pretty good.


The next morning, he texted and said he had a full day planned but he really enjoyed our time together. I said me too and that was that. I didn't hear from him at all that day but I wasn't that upset about it. He said he had a full day planned so I respected it. The next day, however, I called at 10:00am and he did not answer. I'm not worried, but I am frustrated.


What is up with this back and forth, hot and cold in or out behavior?? He is so hard to read. I know he likes me and enjoys me. He always say he thinks of me everyday and misses me everyday. Yet I hear nothing from him. We haven't been intimate yet but I'm actually scared to be. If he does this after I share my body, I might break down. Not sure what to do here.


Signed- One Stressed Leo

Cute story. He has really got your number.

Do you have his?

Posted by LadyNeptune
You called him at 10am on a weekday? Or was it the weekend

I called him on the weekend.

Posted by Midnite_Riser
You are a Leo woman past her prime, hopefully your ''have fun'' faze has been over right? It's time to settle down.

That's the thing... it's not something I'm doing for fun. I'm dating all age ranges. I have no bias towards age if a person is good. I'm expanding my reach so I can find the right person.

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Posted by desilove333
I am a Leo woman 34, who found a attraction for a Virgo guy 28. I'm not one to judge age so the difference did not bother me. We both work together. He was very cool and laid back and that made me instantly attracted to him. We shared music favorites, talked about books we read and had butterflies whenever we were around each other.

He told me to be careful wirh him because he is very passionate and intense and his love is dangerous, but that did nothing for my Leo energy but turn me on. He also said he is a very private person who needs his boundaries respected and needed space sometimes. No problem there!!! I asked him about spending time together and he said OK we would definitely spend time that week. The next day We talk on the phone for hours and he told me about everything that he had planned that upcoming week, but never mentioned me. When I mentioned it, he got annoyed saying that I don't need to mention what he already said he would do. Then actually did not see me because he said he refuse to deal with someone who doesn't listen.

After that one incident it was like I couldn't say anything right. We would talk for hours and It could go great, then one thing I say will send him in a uproar and he will be over the conversation. It's like walking on eggshells. Another week goes by and I agree again to let him take lead and come up with plans to see me, but again he talks about everything else he had planned, never once mentioning me. This time instead of saying something I just got off the phone. He texted later and said he thought it was better we stayed friends because he did not think it was enough compatibility and understanding between us.

When I saw him again, he expressed that my lack of patience don't work for him and I'm not a woman who knows how to let a man take lead, even though he made literally no attempt in my opinion to do anything. Because I really like him I asked him to reconsider and just give me a chance. He said okay. The next day he called me while at work at 9:00pm and we atayed on the phone until 3:00am. Then he said he wanted to come give you a hug. It was so late, but I wasn't gonna paaz up the opportunity so I said okay. He cane over around 4:00am and we sat and talked until 9:00am. No touching, no kissing, no sex involved. It actually was pretty good.

The next morning, he texted and said he had a full day planned but he really enjoyed our time together. I said me too and that was that. I didn't hear from him at all that day but I wasn't that upset about it. He said he had a full day planned so I respected it. The next day, however, I called at 10:00am and he did not answer. I'm not worried, but I am frustrated.

What is up with this back and forth, hot and cold in or out behavior?? He is so hard to read. I know he likes me and enjoys me. He always say he thinks of me everyday and misses me everyday. Yet I hear nothing from him. We haven't been intimate yet but I'm actually scared to be. If he does this after I share my body, I might break down. Not sure what to do here.

Signed- One Stressed Leo

Cute story. He has really got your number.

Do you have his?

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That's what I'm trying to figure out. Is this normal Virgo behavior or is this guy playing games?? I had a Virgo once before who did similar things. Just trying to gain understanding.

Posted by MonaLisa26
This is so odd! What’s his other placements?

And woman! Embrace yourself!!!

He is already having you for ‘not a good listener’ and ‘misunderstanding’ and you ARE older and IF you have sex - you might going to lose it and he doesn’t seem so into you…


Maybe somewhere somehow somebody is saving your sanity from him. Listen. Step off.

Virgo in love is a blind man who come sees conquer. Be careful. Or whatever. We love ‘he dumped me in I’ll he come back’ stories here. You’ll be the star!!

Lol I am not trying to be the star in that movie drama. I just want to be able to know if this is a Virgo doing Virgo things or is this simply a guy who is playing games.

The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
You called him at 10am on a weekday? Or was it the weekend

I called him on the weekend.

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And your coworkers or are you his superior at work?

I'm a Leo dealing with a Virgo man for the past 8 years. He and I slept together the first night we met. They don't waist time if they like you. They might be slow with other things, but not that. And if they don't like you, they aren't going to fuck with you. If they do fuck with you, they are going to treat you like shit.

You're never going to get your Leo needs met from a Virgo. The 2 signs have different love languages. Unless one of you has similar placements with the other. For me, I have a few Virgo placements, we have the same Mars sign and the same mercury. I think that is why we have lasted as long as we have cause I've tried to leave multiple times and he won't let me. I'm trying to leave now and while he isn't trying as hard as he usually does to get me to stay, he is trying.

He seems to like the attention that you are giving him and you can hold a conversation.

But he isn’t showing enough interest in you and he’s right. You don’t have patience. You seem to be trying to rush him when he doesn’t include you in his plans. Virgo is an earth sign. No point in trying to rush them.

But what most women have said is true. If a Virgo is into you, they show it almost immediately and plan dates. They can’t hide their attraction for a person when they are into you. They need to secure you to see what you’re about.

They don’t push you off until they have nothing else that interests them. That comes later when they’ve lost interest 🤓

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Posted by MonaLisa26
This is so odd! What’s his other placements?

And woman! Embrace yourself!!!

He is already having you for ‘not a good listener’ and ‘misunderstanding’ and you ARE older and IF you have sex - you might going to lose it and he doesn’t seem so into you…

Maybe somewhere somehow somebody is saving your sanity from him. Listen. Step off.

Virgo in love is a blind man who come sees conquer. Be careful. Or whatever. We love ‘he dumped me in I’ll he come back’ stories here. You’ll be the star!!

Lol I am not trying to be the star in that movie drama. I just want to be able to know if this is a Virgo doing Virgo things or is this simply a guy who is playing games.
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Virgo thing is straightforward ‘I want you and I will get you’ IF he want you.

Everything else is ‘I hope she will undertand and fall off the wagon without me pushing her off’ following by ‘how dumb IS she?’

But he can’t tell. He is a gentleman.

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This might be true. Well we talk literally everyday.... for hours at a time. He tells me all about his personal life and past life and trauma. He opens up to me about a lot. So I guess that's where I'm confused. Maybe he just looks at me as someone he can have good dialouge with but then that's about it. I still like him and it started very hot. Doing a little slow down right now. I just want to maintain what started. So I guess I'm asking should I or should I just let it go??

Posted by DonnaLibra
The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

So he said I was impatient and he don't like to be rushed to make a decision about anything. But when he share his experiences about other women, it is almost like he rushed into them. So I'm wondering what's the difference then with me. I don't want to be a placeholder, even though I feel our connection is good. He talks about me to his mom and bestfriend, but it still seems like it's going in slow motion. Is it him being cautious or him literally mot being interested but don't want to really hurt me by saying that.

Posted by MonaLisa26

Posted by desilove333

Posted by Midnite_Riser
You are a Leo woman past her prime, hopefully your ''have fun'' faze has been over right? It's time to settle down.

That's the thing... it's not something I'm doing for fun. I'm dating all age ranges. I have no bias towards age if a person is good. I'm expanding my reach so I can find the right person.
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Would you date 10 years older?

You ‘dating all age ranges’ sound like you are sleeping around and not actually dating.

How long was your longest ‘dating’ experience?

Considering you aren’t taking no for an answer - you might need to slow down and think. And it’s not just about Virgo.

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I haven't had sex in over a year. Dating really means just that, dating. And yes I would date 10 years older. I actually went as old as 51. He was very nice and looked young and was healthy. I date people until it doesn't seem to work out. I don't like wasting too much time if it doesn't seem like it's going anywhere. But with this Virguy since we work together he is right there in my face. The desire is stronger of course and I'm just really interested in him. Before I took a year break, I was in a relationship with a Leo for 3 years.

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Posted by LadyNeptune
You called him at 10am on a weekday? Or was it the weekend

I called him on the weekend.
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And your coworkers or are you his superior at work?

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I'm his superior. He dated someone there before who he became interested in very fast because she was more on his level. With me, it's like the attention that comes along with dating me seems like it's too much for him. He doesn't want to be singled out for favoritism and he said people were already coming up to him asking questions. I would think for a guy, this would be no big deal, but for this Virguy he says its alot to deal with because he is too reserved and private for all the attention associated with me.

Posted by desilove333

Posted by MonaLisa26

Posted by desilove333

Posted by MonaLisa26
This is so odd! What’s his other placements?

And woman! Embrace yourself!!!

He is already having you for ‘not a good listener’ and ‘misunderstanding’ and you ARE older and IF you have sex - you might going to lose it and he doesn’t seem so into you…

Maybe somewhere somehow somebody is saving your sanity from him. Listen. Step off.

Virgo in love is a blind man who come sees conquer. Be careful. Or whatever. We love ‘he dumped me in I’ll he come back’ stories here. You’ll be the star!!

Lol I am not trying to be the star in that movie drama. I just want to be able to know if this is a Virgo doing Virgo things or is this simply a guy who is playing games.
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Virgo thing is straightforward ‘I want you and I will get you’ IF he want you.

Everything else is ‘I hope she will undertand and fall off the wagon without me pushing her off’ following by ‘how dumb IS she?’

But he can’t tell. He is a gentleman.
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This might be true. Well we talk literally everyday.... for hours at a time. He tells me all about his personal life and past life and trauma. He opens up to me about a lot. So I guess that's where I'm confused. Maybe he just looks at me as someone he can have good dialouge with but then that's about it. I still like him and it started very hot. Doing a little slow down right now. I just want to maintain what started. So I guess I'm asking should I or should I just let it go??

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It's Virgo. Talk to him in the same spirit he is to you.

Communicate!

Open up!

Secondly, it sounds like he uses overly passionate emotional language or at least it effects you in this way. That's water and fire archetypes, though that might be because the way you present it.

Part of me says you need to return the favor, flirt, be more light hearted, and be more aggressive with your desire.

The other part says dude needs to chill the Fuck out and learn to enjoy the ride. Because you make it sound like he is afraid to get into a relationship with you.

If he legitimately wants to take it slow there is a reason for that. Talk to him about it.

BE CURIOUS as to why he wants this and try to understand him, then make a decision.

Communicate!

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Posted by LadyNeptune
You called him at 10am on a weekday? Or was it the weekend

I called him on the weekend.
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And your coworkers or are you his superior at work?
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I'm his superior. He dated someone there before who he became interested in very fast because she was more on his level. With me, it's like the attention that comes along with dating me seems like it's too much for him. He doesn't want to be singled out for favoritism and he said people were already coming up to him asking questions. I would think for a guy, this would be no big deal, but for this Virguy he says its alot to deal with because he is too reserved and private for all the attention associated with me.

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Yikes, there it is.

I think he will have a hard time rejecting you outright because you are his superior and he doesn't want his job security to suffer. He is looking for soft excuses to let you down easily, i.e fear of perceived favoritism and wanting to keep job and personal life separate.

Stop pursuing this. He is not interested in you. If he changes his mind you will be the first to know.

if someone spent time with me to get to know me, then vanished/disappeared after the fact i just could never imagine being confused about it. asking people why this or that ghosted blah blah.

i'd just know that whatever they've found, they did not like.

people can act all sorts of wonderful to your face over something even when they absolutely don't care for it.

and oh well that's that and i'll move on.

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Posted by DonnaLibra
The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

So he said I was impatient and he don't like to be rushed to make a decision about anything. But when he share his experiences about other women, it is almost like he rushed into them. So I'm wondering what's the difference then with me. I don't want to be a placeholder, even though I feel our connection is good. He talks about me to his mom and bestfriend, but it still seems like it's going in slow motion. Is it him being cautious or him literally mot being interested but don't want to really hurt me by saying that.

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I'm wondering if the age difference is a problem for him. The Virgo I had had another girl who was 5 years older than him chasing him and he said the age difference was a problem for him. 5 years is nothing in my book but the Virgo didn't like it. I thought Virgo was supposed to be a sign that didn't mind dating older.

Posted by DonnaLibra

Posted by desilove333

Posted by DonnaLibra
The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

So he said I was impatient and he don't like to be rushed to make a decision about anything. But when he share his experiences about other women, it is almost like he rushed into them. So I'm wondering what's the difference then with me. I don't want to be a placeholder, even though I feel our connection is good. He talks about me to his mom and bestfriend, but it still seems like it's going in slow motion. Is it him being cautious or him literally mot being interested but don't want to really hurt me by saying that.


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I'm wondering if the age difference is a problem for him. The Virgo I had had another girl who was 5 years older than him chasing him and he said the age difference was a problem for him. 5 years is nothing in my book but the Virgo didn't like it. I thought Virgo was supposed to be a sign that didn't mind dating older.

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My Virgo was with someone who was like 15 years older than him for a while. He does like older women. I'm not sure how or why that ended though. I think they lived together for a while.

He and I are the same age. I'm older by 20 days 😂

It's best not to fuck subordinates.

Posted by Midnite_Riser
You are a Leo woman past her prime, hopefully your ''have fun'' faze has been over right? It's time to settle down.

calm down don lemon

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Posted by desilove333

Posted by DonnaLibra
The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

So he said I was impatient and he don't like to be rushed to make a decision about anything. But when he share his experiences about other women, it is almost like he rushed into them. So I'm wondering what's the difference then with me. I don't want to be a placeholder, even though I feel our connection is good. He talks about me to his mom and bestfriend, but it still seems like it's going in slow motion. Is it him being cautious or him literally mot being interested but don't want to really hurt me by saying that.

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I'm wondering if the age difference is a problem for him. The Virgo I had had another girl who was 5 years older than him chasing him and he said the age difference was a problem for him. 5 years is nothing in my book but the Virgo didn't like it. I thought Virgo was supposed to be a sign that didn't mind dating older.

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I feel like that’s a Cancer man/boy thing lol

Keanu Reeves is a Virgo but has cancer moon, Venus, and mars. His girlfriend I think is a bit older than him. At least I thought she was way older than him


This Cancer guy I know is always smitten by older woman. So maybe the Virgo guys who are okay with older women have cancer placements. And her Virgo maybe has leo Venus or something

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Keanu Reeves is older than he looks. His gf is 49 and he is 58 years old. Lmao I remember when they came out about dating and ppl thought she was this much older woman and wondered why he was with her.

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Posted by DonnaLibra
The way he's treating you is nothing like the Virgo I was involved with. He was clear with his interest, asking me out on dates, concerts, dinner. He was very romantic and never rude. I don't stick around if I get a whiff of slow interest. This guy seems to be all about himself and could care less about what you want. Why do you put up with it? Tell him what you want and what you're going to do and if he doesn't like it bounce.

So he said I was impatient and he don't like to be rushed to make a decision about anything. But when he share his experiences about other women, it is almost like he rushed into them. So I'm wondering what's the difference then with me. I don't want to be a placeholder, even though I feel our connection is good. He talks about me to his mom and bestfriend, but it still seems like it's going in slow motion. Is it him being cautious or him literally mot being interested but don't want to really hurt me by saying that.

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I'm wondering if the age difference is a problem for him. The Virgo I had had another girl who was 5 years older than him chasing him and he said the age difference was a problem for him. 5 years is nothing in my book but the Virgo didn't like it. I thought Virgo was supposed to be a sign that didn't mind dating older.

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Mine dated older girl for several years then left her when he met me (younger several years). They don't care about age in regards of dating but they do care about it in regards of planing future with someone. I know a few other who also left women of their age when they reached certain years to be with younger ones. So even if he's not at that point right now, he likely would be in some time in the future. And she should not waste her time on someone like there. There are plenty of other guys who don't mind such things. I know Aqua and Gem guys who married women 5 years older than them, my Sag and Gem friends are 2 years older than their hubs (Gem and Cancer), everyone else that I know pretty much married those younger than them.

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"They don't care about age in regards of dating but they do care about it in regards of planing future with someone."

Considering that women live about 5 years longer than men, and that the majority of older men have enlarged prostate, which make peeing and ejaculating difficult...so maybe YOU should ditch your older BF now for an younger one, as part of your "planning for the future", not?