VIRGO MEN opinion: Virgo asked me to marry him....

So I met this virgo guy 4 months ago at his brother's wedding. I have always known of him growing up coz hes my dad's friend's son but i started talking to him after the wedding. I havent seen him since coz we live in different places. Anyways the conversations started out very normally on via messages. A month later i was travelling so couldnt talk to him for a 3 days. After that he told me that he had feelings for me and he had realized that in the time that he couldnt talk to me. He knew somewhere in his head for it to be true but didnt want to accept it coz we hadnt known each other that long. Since then we have continued talking he told me he loves me and wants to marry me a few weeks after that. He is 35 and has dated people but has never asked anyone to marry him. Women have been crazy over him but he just never felt the need to marry.

Now all of a sudden he says that he imagines a life and a family with me and that is what makes his family complete. I have become a part of him and his world. He is a very private person even with his family members but the man will answer any question i ask and will make sure that i am happy in everyway. he does get mad a lot as well, hes possessive but not jealous but as soon as he sees that im upset he'll apologise and make sure that i am ok. We have had a few fights but we just talk it out and he makes sure that we do talk. He will take a couple of hours but is almost the 1st one to talk and make up.

I love him as well but i just feel 4 months is a little fast and I have told him that, he says he understands but he knows what he feels for me and always wants to be with me and that i can take my time and even leave if i dont want to be with him. But once i say yes to getting married he will not let me go. He ususally says this in a joking way but i know there is some truth in it.

I just want to know do Virgo men really fall that fast? I know he has never been like this in past.he dated but never got into relationships. He is such a stable person and this is soo out of character for him. i just want to know should I trust his behavior. i do trust him but i think maybe he truly feels this way but because this is happeneing in such a short duration of time he's just making an error in judging his feelings. Any input would be appreciated. thanks.

By the way: he is a virgo sun, aquarius moon, aries rising n venus in cancer
im a leo sun, virgo rising, cancer moon n venus in virgo

what do you mean by, " give him a dose of reality"?

Neither of us believes in living together....we both come from conservative backgrounds i guess. But he just asked me to marry him he fine with getting married now or 2 years later. He says that he knows what he wants n i should know that he wants it to be a longterm committed relationship....thats all.

I just want to know what is he thinking from a virgo guy's perspective 🙂

He might be truly genuine but at this point and this is my opinion its too soon to jump into a lifetime commitment with him... You may have known him for many years but its alot of stuff i know for sure he hasn't shown you...its also refreshing that he says he wants it to be a long term relationship but truth to be told only time will tell and you guys still have alot to learn from each other....Take it one day at a time...only you will know when the timing is right to make the big move no one else can tell you ....when or how...

I went on my first date with my Virgo husband on June 1st, moved in together on July 4th, married on September 20th .... that was in 1982, and we are still married and completely devoted to each other.

If you falter in your trust for him, only then will he back off.

So long as he knows that you know he trusts you and you trust him .... he will be yours for life.


However, it has to be real. You can't just say the words.

You HAVE to trust him.

Thanks for all the responses people 🙂 I know a lot of women would "melt" after hearing those words.

Its just that this is soo out of character for him that it worries me. He is someone who doesnot open up, who doesnot talk much, keeps to himself and hardly used to use his phone. And with me he is totally opposite of that, he was kinda shy in the beginning but he's opened up now. He tells me he loves me and misses me....how my day was n what im up to. This is a guy who doesnot have more than a 5 min conversation with most people, even people hes known fro years.

for everyone's information, I am VERY HAPPY with his behavior and i know im lucky. Its just that he is a totally different person than what i have known hum to be for years. Its kinda unsettling. I know i am a leo but i do have some virgo influences....I love attention n he gives it to me, if he doesnt i just ask for it n then he makes sure that i get it 🙂 He says he loves the face that i am very open and sincere and always say whats on my mind even when he's not going to like it. Sometimes i am honest to a fault according to him. I dont know what he's thinking, I am what i am. He says he knows i trust him and he trusts me completely. See this is weird, i dont think he has ever trusted anyone completely excepting his immediate family. N i dont think i have done anything to earn his trust. I have just been myself. Is that what he wants? i dont know.

In all i know he loves me and i love him....him getting into this relationship and the timing is just very out of character for him. The reason i am having a hard time going with the flow is because i really love him n i dont want to get hurt because he made an error in judgement. I have told him this as well he says he understands but hes here and what can he or i do about my fear? I never really have an answer for him. He also says apparently that its worse if i leave him later and this is a very big decision for him and he's not used to taking risks emotionally.

Basically i just want an insight into his mind....a virgo guy's mind.

Thanks again for all your responses....

I think he may have liked you for a long time, well before the wedding. He may have been in a relationship with you, in his mind, for decades

hmmmm....i am way younger than him. i mean by 8 years, so i doubt it but maybe 🙂 it would definitely make more sense. 🙂 thanks....

Does anyone have any comments on his "OUT OD CHARACTER" behavior? Im head's hurting just thinking about it constantly....Thanks.

mine asked me after 4 months but we have known each other as friends for 12years. He knows you r the 'one' and he doesn't have to question it. If u want him, accept the proposal and then wait the 1-2years and see how u progress.

I read this in an astrology book one time, and it is totally true of Virgos. The woman in the book said she once knew this Vir(gal) friend of hers who picked up all her belongings one day, and moved to India...She thought her friend was nuts, but her Virgal just KNEW she needed to do this...pick up and move with this guy. She did it.

We're crazy and when we trust our "Core" whole heartedly about something. We are very rarely wrong. We've got great intuition, and if he's so certain of you both together. I would trust him. You may have just found your four leaf clover! Congrats!

duh! say "yes" and have a long engagement. just because you get engaged doesn't mean you have to rush the marriage.

Posted by capbaby
mine asked me after 4 months but we have known each other as friends for 12years. He knows you r the 'one' and he doesn't have to question it. If u want him, accept the proposal and then wait the 1-2years and see how u progress.

exactly!

he's going to leave her when he realizes she's stupid.

Thanks for all the responses guys. I really appreciate it 🙂 The reassurances help a lot.

25th Decan : Thanks for all the specific suggestions 🙂

Things are going well 🙂 i am finding that beneath that cool exterior that I have known for years....he is soooo damn sensitive n emotional about things. he still tries to cover up but its just easier to look through it now 🙂 also if I am late in getting back to his call or msgs, he tells me he's starting to get angry....lol! The guy needs to be pampered 🙂 i just never expected it. I am going to continue with the relationship and see where it goes, hopefully it will go where we both want it to go. 🙂 He is a whole new person underneath it all.... and im just learning that day by day 🙂

Thanks again guys 🙂

And as for the couple of negative comments here and there...."GET A LIFE" the forum is here to help people not to judge them.

Thanks VirgoR 🙂 i understand....what I meant by judging was that I donot like being called stupid. Someone said that on a previous page, thats all. I am just in very unfamaliar territory n dont want to mess things up with him. I do love him 🙂 Thanks for sharing ur advise though 🙂 tc.

Posted by VJ
Thanks VirgoR 🙂 i understand....what I meant by judging was that I donot like being called stupid. Someone said that on a previous page, thats all. I am just in very unfamaliar territory n dont want to mess things up with him. I do love him 🙂 Thanks for sharing ur advise though 🙂 tc.

but you ARE stupid.

you don't want people to judge and yet, you say you've been with him 4 months and are asking questions based on best "judgments." you want people to "judge" his sincerity, "judge" the validity of your relationship and "judge" whether or not you should spend the rest of your life with dude.

so as i said, stupid, but stupid is as stupid does and he sounds pretty stupid and potentially nutty/aggressive/unstable in my "judgment."

with that said, say "yes" and hopefully you reside in a locale with laws that allow you to keep the ring when this shit goes down in flames.

VirgoR: Lol! u have the same star placements are my virgo guy 🙂 Whats your rising sign? And You sound really nice too 🙂 I dont know if our match is made in heaven or not yet....but thanks for the compliment 🙂 But seriously i just never knew that virgoes were this emotional underneath it all....

Hope you're doing well. tc.