Virgo Venus - what are you like?

I have no experience with Virgo venuses at all. I’m dating a guy now that is one, and just curious about you all. How are you when you first start dating? In a relationship?

They are weird. But get extremely clingy when they like you apparently... but not at first.

oh geez.... they are too slow to act to quick to think and knee deep in regret after all is said and done.

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

I have no experience with Virgo venuses at all. I’m dating a guy now that is one, and just curious about you all. How are you when you first start dating? In a relationship?

My boyfriend has Virgo venus. When we first started dating I noticed he listened closely to my likes and dislikes and made sure to accommodate me accordingly. For instance, he's not big on hugging but I told him how I love to be squeezed tight and he does it with me although he's not naturally an outwardly affectionate person usually only in private. He's very helpful when he comes over, takes out the trash without me asking, puts up his dirty dishes, opens doors for me, won't let me carry heavy bags , cautions me about safety etc. Often offers me tips or advice on things that interest me such as working out etc.....

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What’s his sun sign?

Posted by PhoenixStorm

I have Virgo Venus! I overanalyze, I’m cautious and slow moving. I found this (below) on cafeasteology and the description is spot-on for me.

When your Venus is in Virgo, you express love by doing things for, and fussing over, your loved one. You notice little things about your partner, make mental notes of their likes and dislikes (this may sound contrived, but it’s not—it’s simply the way you’re wired!), and genuinely try to help your lover in practical ways. You listen to what your lover has to say, and you have something sensible and intelligent to say in response! In fact, you are great at communicating about your relationship.

One dilemma that can easily happen with this position: Your partner doesn’t always know how to please you. You might have a simple answer, but he/she may still wonder. You see all of the details of your relationship. You worry about its viability, and tend to the practical details of partnership. These are important contributions to the relationship, but because they lack glamor, your partner may not always appreciate you. You are not the most romantic partner, and your tastes are rather simple (although, as mentioned before, it is hard for others to see that simplicity because you may have a habit of fussing). Can’t see the forest for the trees? Your partner might accuse you of this, and it may be true. You will benefit from sitting back and infusing yourself with some faith in the big picture, once in a while. But, you are needed! And there are partners who will see that. You work hard at making yourself indispensable in your partner’s life. Generally, you don’t throw yourself into love affairs too readily. This does not mean you are chaste, like the Virgo of yore. Some Venus in Virgo natives can even be promiscuous. But when it comes to gooey romance, where lovers bare all, you are rather selective and self-contained. You are a very sensual being who wants to feel safe before giving yourself to another. Venus in Virgo has a reputation for being critical. This does happen, but it generally is a symptom of insecurity. You can’t help but see the failings and the holes in any partnership, and you can sometimes be quite reticent about entering a partnership. Generally, though, you will see what’s wrong with a person at the outset of a relationship when it doesn’t feel safe to you as yet. It’s a defense mechanism more than anything! Your own insecurities can propel you to see faults and problems in your partner. Once you feel safe, however, you are not quite the fussbudget Venus in Virgo is made out to be. You value effort put into a relationship (in fact, for many with this position, effort from their partner is at the top of their list).

Ah thanks! It has been slow going. I was a bit confused if he was interested or not at first. I even ended up being the one to reach out. Which normally I never do, but I had a friend insisting she thought he was interested after seeing us talk at an event.. so I messaged him & immediately he asked me out! Lol he seems a lot more comfy now, but has definitely been a gentleman like he’s slowly getting more comfortable. So I guess that fits! Lol

So ya think cap Venus would be a good fit with Virgo Venus? I think our other placements work..

do the very things to see the end result even if it cause negative consequences

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oh geez.... they are too slow to act to quick to think and knee deep in regret after all is said and done.

Lol I’m being patient.. I understand that since I’m an earth Venus too. I’m just used to more aggressive guys.

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Posted by PhoenixStorm

I have Virgo Venus! I overanalyze, I’m cautious and slow moving. I found this (below) on cafeasteology and the description is spot-on for me.

When your Venus is in Virgo, you express love by doing things for, and fussing over, your loved one. You notice little things about your partner, make mental notes of their likes and dislikes (this may sound contrived, but it’s not—it’s simply the way you’re wired!), and genuinely try to help your lover in practical ways. You listen to what your lover has to say, and you have something sensible and intelligent to say in response! In fact, you are great at communicating about your relationship.

One dilemma that can easily happen with this position: Your partner doesn’t always know how to please you. You might have a simple answer, but he/she may still wonder. You see all of the details of your relationship. You worry about its viability, and tend to the practical details of partnership. These are important contributions to the relationship, but because they lack glamor, your partner may not always appreciate you. You are not the most romantic partner, and your tastes are rather simple (although, as mentioned before, it is hard for others to see that simplicity because you may have a habit of fussing). Can’t see the forest for the trees? Your partner might accuse you of this, and it may be true. You will benefit from sitting back and infusing yourself with some faith in the big picture, once in a while. But, you are needed! And there are partners who will see that. You work hard at making yourself indispensable in your partner’s life. Generally, you don’t throw yourself into love affairs too readily. This does not mean you are chaste, like the Virgo of yore. Some Venus in Virgo natives can even be promiscuous. But when it comes to gooey romance, where lovers bare all, you are rather selective and self-contained. You are a very sensual being who wants to feel safe before giving yourself to another. Venus in Virgo has a reputation for being critical. This does happen, but it generally is a symptom of insecurity. You can’t help but see the failings and the holes in any partnership, and you can sometimes be quite reticent about entering a partnership. Generally, though, you will see what’s wrong with a person at the outset of a relationship when it doesn’t feel safe to you as yet. It’s a defense mechanism more than anything! Your own insecurities can propel you to see faults and problems in your partner. Once you feel safe, however, you are not quite the fussbudget Venus in Virgo is made out to be. You value effort put into a relationship (in fact, for many with this position, effort from their partner is at the top of their list).

Ah thanks! It has been slow going. I was a bit confused if he was interested or not at first. I even ended up being the one to reach out. Which normally I never do, but I had a friend insisting she thought he was interested after seeing us talk at an event.. so I messaged him & immediately he asked me out! Lol he seems a lot more comfy now, but has definitely been a gentleman like he’s slowly getting more comfortable. So I guess that fits! Lol

So ya think cap Venus would be a good fit with Virgo Venus? I think our other placements work..

Interesting that you ask that because I’m actually being pursued by a Pisces sun/cap Venus. The long term goals are very compatible as far as what we want in relationship, which is refreshing after 11 years of being with an aqua Venus whose relationship ideals were very different from mine.

I do feel that with two earth signs, it’s very sluggish and slow moving though. Kinda like watching paint dry. Lol but maybe the slow change of pace is where you can build solid foundations. Kinda hoping, anyway.

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Ha we seem very much in sync in so many ways. Yes long term too. He’s a Libra Sag & I’m a Sag Aqua .. and I’m starting to get that same sun & moon thing too lol. I really could tell the difference between 1st and 2nd dates in his comfort level. Now he’s been a lot more consistent keeping in touch too, and starting to open up more. Funny thing is there were 3 weeks between those dates since I went on vacation and then was sick. But there was a definite difference in him after I got back from vacation in his effort. So perhaps time helps? Date 3 is happening this week. I asked this time & he said he’d love to. Less than a week this time.. guess that’s a good sign 🙂

Posted by Arielle83

I’m observant as distant and slow. Maybe this is why all these ppl rushing commitment talks scare the shit out of me.

I take my time because once I’m in, I’m in to serve and make your life easier, or help you in some way.

Why would I do all that for someone I’ve known such a little time?

Makes sense to me 🙂

Posted by ClairDeLune

Posted by PhoenixStorm

I have Virgo Venus! I overanalyze, I’m cautious and slow moving. I found this (below) on cafeasteology and the description is spot-on for me.

When your Venus is in Virgo, you express love by doing things for, and fussing over, your loved one. You notice little things about your partner, make mental notes of their likes and dislikes (this may sound contrived, but it’s not—it’s simply the way you’re wired!), and genuinely try to help your lover in practical ways. You listen to what your lover has to say, and you have something sensible and intelligent to say in response! In fact, you are great at communicating about your relationship.

One dilemma that can easily happen with this position: Your partner doesn’t always know how to please you. You might have a simple answer, but he/she may still wonder. You see all of the details of your relationship. You worry about its viability, and tend to the practical details of partnership. These are important contributions to the relationship, but because they lack glamor, your partner may not always appreciate you. You are not the most romantic partner, and your tastes are rather simple (although, as mentioned before, it is hard for others to see that simplicity because you may have a habit of fussing). Can’t see the forest for the trees? Your partner might accuse you of this, and it may be true. You will benefit from sitting back and infusing yourself with some faith in the big picture, once in a while. But, you are needed! And there are partners who will see that. You work hard at making yourself indispensable in your partner’s life. Generally, you don’t throw yourself into love affairs too readily. This does not mean you are chaste, like the Virgo of yore. Some Venus in Virgo natives can even be promiscuous. But when it comes to gooey romance, where lovers bare all, you are rather selective and self-contained. You are a very sensual being who wants to feel safe before giving yourself to another. Venus in Virgo has a reputation for being critical. This does happen, but it generally is a symptom of insecurity. You can’t help but see the failings and the holes in any partnership, and you can sometimes be quite reticent about entering a partnership. Generally, though, you will see what’s wrong with a person at the outset of a relationship when it doesn’t feel safe to you as yet. It’s a defense mechanism more than anything! Your own insecurities can propel you to see faults and problems in your partner. Once you feel safe, however, you are not quite the fussbudget Venus in Virgo is made out to be. You value effort put into a relationship (in fact, for many with this position, effort from their partner is at the top of their list).

Almost too perfectly described that it made me feel awkward reading lol

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Well we are quite awkward with relationships, no?

As others have said observe and serve. If your ViV stops giving you "critical advice" chances are they no longer into you.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

As others have said observe and serve. If your ViV stops giving you "critical advice" chances are they no longer into you.

So far I’ve gotten no critical advice, but lots of questions and more him telling me he thinks it’s awesome I’m such a devoted parent & seems like I’m doing good how I’m handling things with kids, transition, where I go from here etc stuff.

He did tell me it’s seems like I’m struggling with as kids move out and that’s ok. His kids are much older. He had them young, me in my 30’s. So a little advice. But didn’t seem critical.

Maybe it’s the Libra in him 😉 well he’s coming closer, more consistent, more comfortable anyway. He has been more wanting to make sure I’m happy and good with him. I’m seeing him again tomorrow.

My ex has a venus virgo...

We meshed really quick. Inseparable from day one.

He broke the connection when he went back to his ex. I was never the same after that.

I found he was not empathtic when it came to breaking up with me or when he abused me. Very detached but angry alot. Knew exactly how to hurt me emotional, physically, psychologically.

He was my 1st and only relationship. It was over 15 years ago....

That was enough relationship for me. Enough for a lifetime.

He thought me that no matter how much anyone loves you, they can leave at any moment. Loyalty doesnt matter in love. Only the here and now.

His girlfriends have all reached out to me asking me questions about him. I guess he still talks about me. I did reach out to him a year ago when I heard his father died. That was a bad call. When he asked me for $ $ and I said no, it was really easy for him to go back to his old ways and start with the abuse.

Choose your 1st love wisely.

Posted by DMV

My ex has a venus virgo...

We meshed really quick. Inseparable from day one.

He broke the connection when he went back to his ex. I was never the same after that.

I found he was not empathtic when it came to breaking up with me or when he abused me. Very detached but angry alot. Knew exactly how to hurt me emotional, physically, psychologically.

He was my 1st and only relationship. It was over 15 years ago....

That was enough relationship for me. Enough for a lifetime.

He thought me that no matter how much anyone loves you, they can leave at any moment. Loyalty doesnt matter in love. Only the here and now.

His girlfriends have all reached out to me asking me questions about him. I guess he still talks about me. I did reach out to him a year ago when I heard his father died. That was a bad call. When he asked me for $ $ and I said no, it was really easy for him to go back to his old ways and start with the abuse.

Choose your 1st love wisely.

😢 I’m so sorry. My first love was a Virgo sun, and he did damage in the end too. But he was a good guy. We were young 21 & 22 when the breakup happened. I had a lot of trouble opening up after that. Probably took me down a road that wasn’t so good for me. But I’ve made peace with it, finally after 25 years. And after a lot of personal growth too. There is always hope. I’m open now, and not closed down. I wish I had learned the lessons instead of closing down emotionally. But such is life.

Bigs hugs!! Btw I think this is a good guy too. He was married for over 20 years, and he seems to be approaching life similarly to me. We shall see.

Posted by stope

Detached.

Escort types.

😂😂 I’m an earth Venus too!! It’s about being comfy 🤷‍♀️

Posted by emeraldgem

They shower before they fuck you. Sometimes they ask you to shower too.

See, this is why I like Scorpios - they'll lick the sweat off you.

Why not shower together 😜 lol hmmm a certain Virgo moon did this sometimes but not always.

Posted by Ararule

don't screw up, one little mistake and you are out. Just what happened to me with a lot Virgo Venuses women.

What do you mean by screw up?

I really am looking for someone right for me, so I’m not so concerned about screwing up these days. I’m too old for the bullshit.

Posted by ClairDeLune

I become observant with my SO and get use to their routine then either find things to make their life easier. Example, I would note EVERYTHING they liked and eventually get it for them. Or I would whip up their coffee, their favorite food, or give them a massage when they tell me they had a long day. Anything really to show my affection through act of service to them.

I am pretty sure she meant men...🧐

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don't screw up, one little mistake and you are out. Just what happened to me with a lot Virgo Venuses women.

What do you mean by screw up?

I really am looking for someone right for me, so I’m not so concerned about screwing up these days. I’m too old for the bullshit.

Ima give you an example. A venus in Virgo person likes you. She introduce you to her friend. You make a joke about her friend name. Then she no longer like you because of that one joke. So you are out.

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Doesn’t sound right for you. If one little thing means you’re out, it’s not worth it. You’d be always walking on eggshells. No thanks.

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Posted by ClairDeLune

I become observant with my SO and get use to their routine then either find things to make their life easier. Example, I would note EVERYTHING they liked and eventually get it for them. Or I would whip up their coffee, their favorite food, or give them a massage when they tell me they had a long day. Anything really to show my affection through act of service to them.

I am pretty sure she meant men...🧐

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😂😂 I think mostly answers from women lol

But I did get part of what I was looking for.

Posted by DMV

My ex has a venus virgo...

We meshed really quick. Inseparable from day one.

He broke the connection when he went back to his ex. I was never the same after that.

I found he was not empathtic when it came to breaking up with me or when he abused me. Very detached but angry alot. Knew exactly how to hurt me emotional, physically, psychologically.

He was my 1st and only relationship. It was over 15 years ago....

That was enough relationship for me. Enough for a lifetime.

He thought me that no matter how much anyone loves you, they can leave at any moment. Loyalty doesnt matter in love. Only the here and now.

His girlfriends have all reached out to me asking me questions about him. I guess he still talks about me. I did reach out to him a year ago when I heard his father died. That was a bad call. When he asked me for $ $ and I said no, it was really easy for him to go back to his old ways and start with the abuse.

Choose your 1st love wisely.

He abused you and you gave a damn about his fathers death? That’s sounds fucked up to me...likenif you still care about man who abused you??! 🤔

Posted by PuzzlePieces

I have no experience with Virgo venuses at all. I’m dating a guy now that is one, and just curious about you all. How are you when you first start dating? In a relationship?

Virgo venus..

2% passion

98% BFF

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Posted by PuzzlePieces

I have no experience with Virgo venuses at all. I’m dating a guy now that is one, and just curious about you all. How are you when you first start dating? In a relationship?

Virgo venus..

2% passion

98% BFF

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What is your Venus & would you say that about a cap Venus too?

And what if he had a fire moon and a fire mars?

How do you know when it’s going slow or if it’s going nowhere? I’m starting to think we are destined to be friends. But he hugs me goodbye & kisses me on the lips. But not a real kiss.. or friends first? Idk

I gave no idea how to go slow 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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How do you know when it’s going slow or if it’s going nowhere? I’m starting to think we are destined to be friends. But he hugs me goodbye & kisses me on the lips. But not a real kiss.. or friends first? Idk

I gave no idea how to go slow 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

I don't kiss my friends on the lips lol...Sounds like he's working his way into it. I wouldn't worry. I know for myself I like the idea of easing into a romance. I hate to be rushed. It would overwhelm me. Your situation seems positive to me....

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That seems like him too. He talked more this time telling stories, so seeming more comfy. it’s just highly unusual with 3 dates for a guy to act like this with me. But he’s a nice, sweet respectful guy too. I’m tired of the other way, so I’m going to see how this plays out.

Posted by emeraldgem

They shower before they fuck you. Sometimes they ask you to shower too.

See, this is why I like Scorpios - they'll lick the sweat off you.

HAHA. My Scorpio Mars (pluto chart ruler) boyfriend is nasty AF like that! I have Virgo Mars/Venus....so I do like him clean.... haha he gives ZERO fucks, I mean ZERO! Your comment made me laugh.

Very shy. Some of us have kind of given up on a fairytale love story that we dream of, so we miss queues from people a lot. Got to practically smack a Virgo Venus over the head to get them to realize you like them.

Posted by DarkLyon

Very shy. Some of us have kind of given up on a fairytale love story that we dream of, so we miss queues from people a lot. Got to practically smack a Virgo Venus over the head to get them to realize you like them.

Lol pretty much!