Virgo...why everytime theres an argument "its over" —

Posted by LibraLovesHim
U tryin to beat me to it when I eventually decide it is?

Posted by Damnata
It's probably your adversarial mindset:

Posted by LibraLovesHim
U tryin to beat me to it when I eventually decide it is?

We don't play that.

There can be a number of other reasons but if that was your first assumption...that speaks for itself.

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Posted by Ixion120
Not every argument is a threat to the relationship. Personally, I find most disagreements to be resolvable .

With that being said If I do say that the relationship is under threat. I let you know that if the issue can't be worked out it will be terminated ....and then the "wait and see" period begins.

I don't make idle threats when I do say it's over.

Posted by LibraLovesHim
U tryin to beat me to it when I eventually decide it is?

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Posted by kissmygrits
Better off as friends.

i never thought relationships could be that difficult, even when crabs, and virgos are ying and yang

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Posted by kissmygrits
Better off as friends.

i never thought relationships could be that difficult, even when crabs, and virgos are ying and yang

Ya know what I'll say to that. We're too yin/yang. Just like how pisces abd virgo can be total different but also totally similar. Its hard to put to words the pisces/virgo interacion for me. But its pisces men and virgo men

what do you mean, too ying and yang, if we were, why would we always be fighting. do you mean we mirror one another too much, and are too sensitive?

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
He is very authoritative but he shouldnt bring that crap home. Thinks VERY highly of himself and more or less like most other people are below him. It frustrating as hell. He likes to preach about how he is a nice guy-and granted he does occasionally do nice things for others mainly concerning money but it doesnt feel like it comes from a good place, its like hes paying off a debt or something, or from guilt. Maybe its a control thing.

Why are you two fighting tho?

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Posted by LibraLovesHim
He is very authoritative but he shouldnt bring that crap home. Thinks VERY highly of himself and more or less like most other people are below him. It frustrating as hell. He likes to preach about how he is a nice guy-and granted he does occasionally do nice things for others mainly concerning money but it doesnt feel like it comes from a good place, its like hes paying off a debt or something, or from guilt. Maybe its a control thing.

Why are you two fighting tho?

Its actually pathetic. He got a new car, and since its something hes passionate about I shared in his joy and had a go but the entire time he was screaming put ur foot down, faster, faster. I didnt feel confident in it yet. Its a 530hp car 😕 The last straw was when he said why would you want a car like this if youre gonna drive it like a pussy!? (I have been saying for a while id love to sell my current car and maybe get a 2 seater sports car)

Anyway I said to him tell me now where to pull over im gettin out the damn car, u can drive it back home.

Of course the whole thing was twisted around on me! Im the bad one, and "its over, i cant even stand to be around you" Lovely right? Btw I get this kind of talk alot. Its a shame ive gotten so used to it :-/

Does he know that you have an expectation for non-coarse language to be used when referring to you?

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Posted by Ixion120
Also...if he keeps on taking the relationship "hostage" then that is a form of abuse and emotional and mental manipulation. Frankly, the behavior you mention shouldn't be normalized, its in no way healthy.

So unhealthy it's actually funny.

On a serious note though, I agree with ixion.

Sorry, I just find dysfunction to be very funny.

Still dying @ that story

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Posted by P-Angel

I already told you the reason ... you ignored it, to listen to a person who made an excuse for your boyfriend by insinuating that you must have done/said something to warrant it.


suffer then ... because it appears that's what you want to do, rather than hear the truth.


have fun in your pain ...... maybe next time you will get to take a punch in the face ... obviously that will make you feel so special

Posted by thesculptor
"eventually decide"

So do you put that as a threat above his head as well in your arguments? (this is just speculation, of course)


There are Virgos who will decide to end things as if in a one-sided relationship but if he does let you know about it to your face instead of just cutting you off, then that it not a one-sided breakup.

Now, I have known a lot of Libras... I tend to attract them due to my Libra Mars and from what I've experienced with you guys... like brilliant strategists... you will omit certain things from a conversation in order for you to come out the "clean" one. And couple that with the fact that you guys will always bring up an issue that you don't even necessarily believe in for the sake of argument. How you people love to argue!

This situation you have was reversed on me when I had this Libra girlfriend a few years ago who seemed to think that arguing weekly, ending our relationship and then being back together was a normal thing. I think you guys go well with Geminis because this is what you do- well maybe some of you.

And because of her tendency to just do it over and over again (who knows, maybe she thinks it's romantic or fun or whatever) but that shit won't fly with me. I feel that it's immature, impulsive and a waste of time. In my mind it goes: "If this girl keeps doing this shit, then she's not the girl for me. She's the sort to be flighty and impulsive. So dramatic. At this rate, we'd be spending 80% of our relationship arguing. That would be a waste of both our times. Obviously, it's not gonna work out for both of us."

But then I get charmed once more and I let myself be led to the arguing then the eventual meaningless "Let's breakup," which the indecisive Libra KNOWS doesn't mean anything and tomorrow she'd be calling me and apparently, we are together again.

Sometimes, i just think that you guys just want to be WON over and over and over again (due to vanity?). But you shouldn't expect that a lot from Virgo guys coz that shit ain't flying with me.

But the charm... *sighs

Posted by faceroll
it depends on how invested they are in you and how much they value you. a virgo who really cares about you will talk shit out logically and try to make shit work. a virgo that is using you to relieve boredom or fulfill an emptiness in them that has nothing to do with you will constantly remove you from their life and then come back. i've dealt with both out of one person. they're no different than anyone else in that when they're in it they're in it but if they're just fucking around it's easy to just punt you out of their life.

it's up to you how to deal with it. if he's constantly rage quitting it's because you allow it. if you just get done with dealing with his shit and walk away you don't have to deal with it anymore. it's easy to get addicted to drama or to try to force someone into staying when they have no intention of actually trying to go the distance with you. that is your own shit. your own problem.

and honestly it has very little to do with the virgo at all. it's a matter of "i want the idea of this more than you want to be gone" which is ego shit. take your ego out of it. look at it. do you want to deal with someone long term who you can't have an argument with without them leaving or at least threatening to? how much is your own happiness worth?

Posted by P-Angel

I already told you the reason ... you ignored it, to listen to a person who made an excuse for your boyfriend by insinuating that you must have done/said something to warrant it.


suffer then ... because it appears that's what you want to do, rather than hear the truth.


have fun in your pain ...... maybe next time you will get to take a punch in the face ... obviously that will make you feel so special

Posted by thesculptor
"eventually decide"

So do you put that as a threat above his head as well in your arguments? (this is just speculation, of course)


There are Virgos who will decide to end things as if in a one-sided relationship but if he does let you know about it to your face instead of just cutting you off, then that it not a one-sided breakup.

Now, I have known a lot of Libras... I tend to attract them due to my Libra Mars and from what I've experienced with you guys... like brilliant strategists... you will omit certain things from a conversation in order for you to come out the "clean" one. And couple that with the fact that you guys will always bring up an issue that you don't even necessarily believe in for the sake of argument. How you people love to argue!

This situation you have was reversed on me when I had this Libra girlfriend a few years ago who seemed to think that arguing weekly, ending our relationship and then being back together was a normal thing. I think you guys go well with Geminis because this is what you do- well maybe some of you.

And because of her tendency to just do it over and over again (who knows, maybe she thinks it's romantic or fun or whatever) but that shit won't fly with me. I feel that it's immature, impulsive and a waste of time. In my mind it goes: "If this girl keeps doing this shit, then she's not the girl for me. She's the sort to be flighty and impulsive. So dramatic. At this rate, we'd be spending 80% of our relationship arguing. That would be a waste of both our times. Obviously, it's not gonna work out for both of us."

But then I get charmed once more and I let myself be led to the arguing then the eventual meaningless "Let's breakup," which the indecisive Libra KNOWS doesn't mean anything and tomorrow she'd be calling me and apparently, we are together again.

Sometimes, i just think that you guys just want to be WON over and over and over again (due to vanity?). But you shouldn't expect that a lot from Virgo guys coz that shit ain't flying with me.

But the charm... *sighs

Posted by LibraLovesHim
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