Virgos and friendship

So I have been friends with this man for 5 years now. He had been having troubles with his boyfriend and asked me for advice. I gave him the unfiltered opinion i had of his partner which led to us fighting and now he has blocked me 😐 Its been 2 months btw and idk what to do

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

So he found out your honest opinion and how you really feel about the person he loves? 😄

Virgos are too sensitive to hear the "real" truth. lol

If he values your friendship he will be back.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

What's the password?

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Lol

But on a serious note, not really knowing what she said about his partner, the Virgo probably didn't take it well that she only pointed out shortcomings.

@OP. You either wait it out, but be prepared that he may cut you out of his life, or drive over to try speak to your friend face to face, to sort it out

Sorry but advice does not = unfiltered opinion.

I've been in this position many times over the years and have learned how to navigate these dangerous waters.

I'll offer an example from my own life because you didn't give much information what what you said specifically.

My friend was dating this dude for around 6 years. Super closeted, and not just with his family but also with his friends. I told my friend that as much as he was in love he deserved to have a partner be happy and proud to be with him in public, proud to bring him around his family and friends. Instead of calling out his partner as a coward and a user I focused on building up my friend and letting him know that I believed he deserved the best of the best.

Problem is if you are too critical of someone's partner you are, by default, being critical of them. After all its their judgement and their choices you are calling into question.

Posted by Ixi

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

What's the password?

Lol

But on a serious note, not really knowing what she said about his partner, the Virgo probably didn't take it well that she only pointed out shortcomings.

@OP. You either wait it out, but be prepared that he may cut you out of his life, or drive over to try speak to your friend face to face, to sort it out

Bah humbug you're actually giving wholesome attempts at advice. Fine!

As with anything Virgo, the most likely course of action is determined by the details.

So, elaborate on the details of this situation OP so we can gain some insight and actually have a chance of being useful.

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So you admit there really is a Virgoland...😁

I knew it

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Posted by Ixi

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Posted by Ixi

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

What's the password?

Lol

But on a serious note, not really knowing what she said about his partner, the Virgo probably didn't take it well that she only pointed out shortcomings.

@OP. You either wait it out, but be prepared that he may cut you out of his life, or drive over to try speak to your friend face to face, to sort it out

Bah humbug you're actually giving wholesome attempts at advice. Fine!

As with anything Virgo, the most likely course of action is determined by the details.

So, elaborate on the details of this situation OP so we can gain some insight and actually have a chance of being useful.

So you admit there really is a Virgoland...😁

I knew it

The password is probably Dettol / Lysol.

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Something more ocd like, knock once, hadwash, knock 3 times and then whistle a secret tune....

Posted by LadyNeptune

Sorry but advice does not = unfiltered opinion.

I've been in this position many times over the years and have learned how to navigate these dangerous waters.

I'll offer an example from my own life because you didn't give much information what what you said specifically.

My friend was dating this dude for around 6 years. Super closeted, and not just with his family but also with his friends. I told my friend that as much as he was in love he deserved to have a partner be happy and proud to be with him in public, proud to bring him around his family and friends. Instead of calling out his partner as a coward and a user I focused on building up my friend and letting him know that I believed he deserved the best of the best.

Problem is if you are too critical of someone's partner you are, by default, being critical of them. After all its their judgement and their choices you are calling into question.

Personally I thought my friend had rose-colored glasses on and if I told him the truth he would maybe see some sense but alas, nope.

I guess he's not coming back....I just feel sad bc I value his friendship and miss him. But I have no way of contacting him lol

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Posted by Gem03

I guess he's not coming back....I just feel sad bc I value his friendship and miss him. But I have no way of contacting him lol

Can't you visit him?

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No

Im not showing up at his door when he has me blocked on everything. That ain't me

What do you mean by blocked? Make a new account.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Sorry but advice does not = unfiltered opinion.

I've been in this position many times over the years and have learned how to navigate these dangerous waters.

I'll offer an example from my own life because you didn't give much information what what you said specifically.

My friend was dating this dude for around 6 years. Super closeted, and not just with his family but also with his friends. I told my friend that as much as he was in love he deserved to have a partner be happy and proud to be with him in public, proud to bring him around his family and friends. Instead of calling out his partner as a coward and a user I focused on building up my friend and letting him know that I believed he deserved the best of the best.

Problem is if you are too critical of someone's partner you are, by default, being critical of them. After all its their judgement and their choices you are calling into question.

Personally I thought my friend had rose-colored glasses on and if I told him the truth he would maybe see some sense but alas, nope.

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Your truth is not his truth. And he won't see sense as long as he has on said rose-colored glasses.

The irony is that you most likely have this poor view of his partner in large part to due to him biatching and moaning about all the negative.

Posted by Gem03

I guess he's not coming back....I just feel sad bc I value his friendship and miss him. But I have no way of contacting him lol

I had a similar experience with my, (I thought best mate) just go about your own life. If they ever come back you can address it, if not they weren’t as close as you thought.

Tbh, I’m feeling indifferent about mine… there’s a lot of water passed under that bridge now and he’s secluded himself from a lot of people that really cared for him.

Also I am not creating another account to reach out to him. Thats doing too much and too extra.

I just wanted to know if virgos come back like.... its been 2 months already

Posted by Gem03

Also I am not creating another account to reach out to him. Thats doing too much and too extra.

I just wanted to know if virgos come back like.... its been 2 months already

He will come back if and when the relationship ends.

Posted by dontgiveup

Well, What did you say about his partner?

His partner cheats (from DMs to other men on insta to wandering eye in person) its painfully obvious especially in person. My friend found out about the DMs and told me btw. I told my friend " you can do better than that, he doesn't respect you and has no loyalty to you so why give him the title of your bf? You should have enough self-respect to walk away from this situation."

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Well, What did you say about his partner?

His partner cheats (from DMs to other men on insta to wandering eye in person) its painfully obvious especially in person. My friend found out about the DMs and told me btw. I told my friend " you can do better than that, he doesn't respect you and has no loyalty to you so why give him the title of your bf? You should have enough self-respect to walk away from this situation."

Your being an honest friend, they didnt wanna hear the truth.

If they were true or see your intentions they will be back, if not their loss for having a real friend that wants the best for them.

What is your friends sign?

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ill take a guess and say the friend is ummm. Virgo. LOL, as per the title of this thread.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

Ruminate on who is in the wrong and how perhaps we're better off alone with no support because it's easier to deal with eventually we forget and might hit you back up. If I'm blocking someone that's indicating I'm cutting ties even then I won't block you. I will straight up tell you what you did wrong and if you want to hash it out, cool. If I try to communicate with you about the issue and you're not having it, then I guess we may be better off as acquaintances or strangers.

Posted by Gem03

Posted by dontgiveup

Well, What did you say about his partner?

His partner cheats (from DMs to other men on insta to wandering eye in person) its painfully obvious especially in person. My friend found out about the DMs and told me btw. I told my friend " you can do better than that, he doesn't respect you and has no loyalty to you so why give him the title of your bf? You should have enough self-respect to walk away from this situation."

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He's probably not reaching out because he doesn't have enough self-respect and he doesn't want you judging him for it. He'll come crawling back apologizing when he's realized you were only looking out for him.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

What do Virgos do when the dissappear to Virgoland.

Ruminate on who is in the wrong and how perhaps we're better off alone with no support because it's easier to deal with eventually we forget and might hit you back up. If I'm blocking someone that's indicating I'm cutting ties even then I won't block you. I will straight up tell you what you did wrong and if you want to hash it out, cool. If I try to communicate with you about the issue and you're not having it, then I guess we may be better off as acquaintances or strangers.

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Thank you for sharing

Update yall: My virgo friend broke things off with him like 5 days ago, and is now back with him (We have mutual friends so I know).

Aren't virgos logical? Good at letting go? what the heLLLL is this then?

When you invest alot of time with some its illogical to just through that away. Things should be analyzed and a solution must be found. Time is a precious thing and I must have a reasonable return on my time.

Posted by Gem03

Update yall: My virgo friend broke things off with him like 5 days ago, and is now back with him (We have mutual friends so I know).

Aren't virgos logical? Good at letting go? what the heLLLL is this then?

Virgos are not know to be good at letting go. The opposite really.