Can a strictly sexual relationship lead to commitment or deeper feelings in this scenario?

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Sure it’s possible:

The problem is, he’s already compartmentalized you to be an option just for sex. You’ve proven to him—at least, that you’re pretty reliable when it comes to being able to dip in and out of your life, returning for sex, never being turned away, no matter how much time has been spent a part.

In most cases, once a person makes a decision about you, it doesn’t change. First impressions are hard to shake.

Also, I wanted to say:

I’ve noticed that when women express remorse or show second thoughts about where a relationship is headed, AFTER sleeping with them early on—the connection almost always, fizzles out. It seems most men will attribute it to emotional instability or insecurity. Because afterall, they expect in the very least, if you weren’t comfortable with sex so soon, or were concerned about it just being a sexual relationship, why did you present yourself to be a “good time” gal.

Perhaps, my explanation of this is archaic sounding, and I apologize for that. But a lot of men are simple, if you want a relationship, or something built on a stronger foundation than just sex; present yourself as that. To a lot of men, it appears insecure and flakey, because you jumped to sex—whether it was a ploy to get the guy to like you, or an example of you being incapable of sticking to your guns and tempering yourself—and now you’re uneasy about it, because you acted out of character.

It’s mixed signals. Men can go either way, they can just as easily have sexual relationships. I’m not saying women can’t, but in your case, if that was you, you wouldn’t have done all this backtracking and you wouldn’t be so concerned that it’s just sexually motivated now. He senses that and it makes you look like you’re a woman that doesn’t know herself.

Why would I or any sane guy want to change the dynamics of the ship when he’s getting more for less (ROI). Lol 😂 at saying he just got out of a relationship 6 months prior and then he distanced himself from you for 3 months within a year. If you want to get out of the FWB pigeonhole with him you definitely have to increase your value.

Posted by FadedAri

Why would I or any sane guy want to change the dynamics of the ship when he’s getting more for less (ROI). Lol 😂 at saying he just got out of a relationship 6 months prior and then he distanced himself from you for 3 months within a year. If you want to get out of the FWB pigeonhole with him you definitely have to increase your value.

What defines value for you?

i guess the question is given all that has happen and the people you are, are you both capable of building an emotional connection with each other?

Posted by KaryB21

Thanks all for your insight. When we first met I was the one that pushed for us to become intimate so fast. On our first date I initiated the kiss and his response was that he was surprised and was not expecting that. I’ve been told from people around him that he is a relationship and commitment kind of guy. He’s expressed feelings for me before we became intimate. My issue is that he appears to be infatuated physically with me but not emotionally. Is it possible to build an emotional connection with him?

Okay, now I’m going to sound mean. But we LITERALLY just answered your question.

He’s infatuated with you physically because you presented yourself as a fast option for sex. You told on yourself in the first sentence. You have been compartmentalized. He’ll find another woman better suited to his standards.

Yes I’m aware. Which is why I created the thread. My question for the men in the Taurus forum is how they would react in this situation.

Posted by KaryB21

Yes I’m aware. Which is why I created the thread. My question for the men in the Taurus forum is how they would react in this situation.

Lmao. Right. Guess my opinion doesn’t matter because I’m not a man, although the men just reiterated what I said. As my momma would say; go on withcha bad self! 👍🏽

Posted by malloryor

Posted by FadedAri

Why would I or any sane guy want to change the dynamics of the ship when he’s getting more for less (ROI). Lol 😂 at saying he just got out of a relationship 6 months prior and then he distanced himself from you for 3 months within a year. If you want to get out of the FWB pigeonhole with him you definitely have to increase your value.

What defines value for you?

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For me value is a woman that knows what she wants and refuse to settle for less than what she’s contributing.

He sounds like my Taurus Ex......

" He said he hates indecisive women and would rather be with someone who is stable and doesn’t cause chaos."

Plays victim to win your heart? My Ex said something of the same lines... said he has feelings for me right before I felt anything for him, same reaction of getting upset. He has the same placements, but Pisces Venus & Mars.

I have his number saved "Psycho" so you guess..

His ways never changed. Trust me on this, you only really know a man's intentions when you tell him "No".

Say No to any sexual/physical invitation from him, meaning you believe what you have is a more valuable and deeper connection than this and you will get your answer

The fwb thing is tricky with earth signs. They have a black/white mindset to most things in life. In my experience, the earth sign men tend to be old-fashioned. If they compartmentalized you as "fuck buddy", its hard to get them to upgrade you.

Dude is full blown up cancer, you should take this to a cancer forum..

Just tell him no to just being a piece of skirt and see what happens, otherwise you could just carry on being sex buddies forever?

Ofc that it is possible, but most of the time, the feelings will be one-sided, and the person hoping for something more will end up being hurt or disappointed. But that's the risk that the person needs to take. I just think that when the two right people find each other, then things spontaneously lead to something more serious over time, because they realize how much they enjoy being with each other, and caught themselves thinking more often about the other person when they are not close to them, they start missing that person, and so on. I know a lot of success stories out of fwb thing, so anything is possible. 🙂

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Posted by ozzzy

Ofc that it is possible, but most of the time, the feelings will be one-sided, and the person hoping for something more will end up being hurt or disappointed. But that's the risk that the person needs to take. I just think that when the two right people find each other, then things spontaneously lead to something more serious over time, because they realize how much they enjoy being with each other, and caught themselves thinking more often about the other person when they are not close to them, they start missing that person, and so on. I know a lot of success stories out of fwb thing, so anything is possible. 🙂

We do enjoy each other’s company for the most part until an issue arises. Rather than deal with the issue at hand he’ll tell me he’s done. He’s said that about 3 times but we always find our way back to each other

He seems rude and judgmental of you.

Why are u using the sex to think this should be a long term thing?