My Taurus husband cheating on me (Page 2)

Posted by Gem03

What is his moon sign, venus and mars sign?

Also he is with you because of kids. I have a taurus mother. Taureans are nothing if not present and loving as a parent. In your case, the romance has burned out. You need to leave. I am so sorry thats what you are going through. He most likely sees you as the mother of his kids and not his wife. Thats not right

Posted by Hemispheres

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

This x100. He doesn't care for you anymore. Time to leave his ass and find someone who will. I'm a Taurus male btw.

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Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

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Posted by Hemispheres

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

This x100. He doesn't care for you anymore. Time to leave his ass and find someone who will. I'm a Taurus male btw.

Hello Hemispheres. Thank you so much for your response. As a Taurus, do you understand his behavior? If he doesnt care anymore why the family outings & events, social media posts and vacations. If I tell him my brother is having something, he is there with a smile on his face. Valentines day, I get the yearly post, Christmas, holidays I get gifts. How does one not care but able to do the above. This is the confusing part I suppose I am trying to wrap my head around.

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Posted by hydorah

Tauruses are lustful and prone to cheat if they can get away with it.

I also know from experience that they have no problem remaining in a marriage without love as long as it arranges them and gives them more comfort than being single.

You should gather evidence about his affair while you can, and ask for legal advice because he might make a legal move first.

Also: I don't know what kind of "friend" would advise anybody to take advice on here, LMAO

Thank you hydorah. "remaining in a marriage without love as long as it arranges them and gives them comfort than being single"-this is a lot to possibly take in. So I could possibly just be seen just as comfort ..this is alot

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by geminiwithataurusman My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

I don't understand why you put him having kids with u and being a great father in the same sentence as describing your sex lives. Those are two seperate things. So many women do that..

Seems like you checked out on him and not vice versa; you are confusing friendship with romantic/sexual relationships... which is what he's getting from the other woman.

This is why I prefer women who are not generally into children ,they will never forget she's a woman and Im a man

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Hello, A good friend of mine told me to log on here to get some insight on the astrological side. Some facts:

My husband and I met in high school, we were together and then broke up and got back together, I got pregnant at 18 and he decided he wanted to always be around his child everyday and that we were going to be a family. We got married when our child turned 2. We have been married now for over a decade and I thought we were happy. We have had hiccups and honestly while we are great friends, I do feel that we are very different romantically but nothing our marriage can't fix to me. I found out he has been seeing a woman for 3 years so I suppose it is not just an affair. I have read some text messages to her and they are really really involved. He asks her opinion a lot about life matters, work matters, and from the looks of it, they started a secret business together! They even have a realtor to purchase property! I am really into signs and everything I have read, it states Taurus's are loyal and won't cheat but of course here we are. I know we can't lump all Taurus' in one big group but I am very surprised that it seems like he has a real relationship with this woman. It is not just sex from what I see and honestly also from what I have read they have the same love languages. My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

My cousin tells me, he settled for me because of the children and that's what Taurus' do, he's obligated to me and if he has been with this woman for 3 years and counting, its not a fling but I just don't believe that! I guess here I am seeking any Taurus' advice and if you think this 3-year relationship is real or not and how should I proceed. I have not told him I know.

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Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Who tf keeps pushing the Taurus men are loyal agenda. I never understood it. Astrologically they're also known for their harems so ??

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Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by geminiwithataurusman My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

I don't understand why you put him having kids with u and being a great father in the same sentence as describing your sex lives. Those are two seperate things. So many women do that..

Seems like you checked out on him and not vice versa; you are confusing friendship with romantic/sexual relationships... which is what he's getting from the other woman.

This is why I prefer women who are not generally into children ,they will never forget she's a woman and Im a man

Selfish ass Leo lol There are plenty of women who don't want kids in the world for you.

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Posted by Hemispheres

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

This x100. He doesn't care for you anymore. Time to leave his ass and find someone who will. I'm a Taurus male btw.

Hello Hemispheres. Thank you so much for your response. As a Taurus, do you understand his behavior? If he doesnt care anymore why the family outings & events, social media posts and vacations. If I tell him my brother is having something, he is there with a smile on his face. Valentines day, I get the yearly post, Christmas, holidays I get gifts. How does one not care but able to do the above. This is the confusing part I suppose I am trying to wrap my head around.

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Hello, A good friend of mine told me to log on here to get some insight on the astrological side. Some facts:

My husband and I met in high school, we were together and then broke up and got back together, I got pregnant at 18 and he decided he wanted to always be around his child everyday and that we were going to be a family. We got married when our child turned 2. We have been married now for over a decade and I thought we were happy. We have had hiccups and honestly while we are great friends, I do feel that we are very different romantically but nothing our marriage can't fix to me. I found out he has been seeing a woman for 3 years so I suppose it is not just an affair. I have read some text messages to her and they are really really involved. He asks her opinion a lot about life matters, work matters, and from the looks of it, they started a secret business together! They even have a realtor to purchase property! I am really into signs and everything I have read, it states Taurus's are loyal and won't cheat but of course here we are. I know we can't lump all Taurus' in one big group but I am very surprised that it seems like he has a real relationship with this woman. It is not just sex from what I see and honestly also from what I have read they have the same love languages. My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

My cousin tells me, he settled for me because of the children and that's what Taurus' do, he's obligated to me and if he has been with this woman for 3 years and counting, its not a fling but I just don't believe that! I guess here I am seeking any Taurus' advice and if you think this 3-year relationship is real or not and how should I proceed. I have not told him I know.

What are both your birthdates?

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Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Who tf keeps pushing the Taurus men are loyal agenda. I never understood it. Astrologically they're also known for their harems so ??

From what I understand, Taurus is as loyal in love as Scorpio, it’s polar opposite. Same perspective, just the opposite side of the hand to get to that perspective. Taurus, like Scorpio will be faithful if they feel they have found their true love. If, for some reason, like Scorpio, they deter and choose on settling (money, because of kids, image, etc.) they will cheat because their hedonistic side will take over.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by geminiwithataurusman My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

I don't understand why you put him having kids with u and being a great father in the same sentence as describing your sex lives. Those are two seperate things. So many women do that..

Seems like you checked out on him and not vice versa; you are confusing friendship with romantic/sexual relationships... which is what he's getting from the other woman.

This is why I prefer women who are not generally into children ,they will never forget she's a woman and Im a man

Selfish ass Leo lol There are plenty of women who don't want kids in the world for you.

Selfish my ass. You're selfish if u expect me to stick around when u treat me like a platonic friend.

I didn't say Don't want children, I said don't use children as a substitute for lust/romance.

There are men too who act like women around children lactating all over the place.. do most women want a man like that? Nah.

Balance.

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Who tf keeps pushing the Taurus men are loyal agenda. I never understood it. Astrologically they're also known for their harems so ??

From what I understand, Taurus is as loyal in love as Scorpio, it’s polar opposite. Same perspective, just the opposite side of the hand to get to that perspective. Taurus, like Scorpio will be faithful if they feel they have found their true love. If, for some reason, like Scorpio, they deter and choose on settling (money, because of kids, image, etc.) they will cheat because their hedonistic side will take over.

You mentioned Scorpio, and this information you have relayed I never knew but I saw a Happy Birthday message to her around the beginning of November so I take it she is a Scorpio. So him a Taurus and she is a Scorpio.

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by Enfant-Terrible-II

Posted by geminiwithataurusman My husband and I hardly have sex, and awhile ago in an argument he told me had checked out years ago but that to me is anger talking and we do have three beautiful children and he is such a great father, he still attends family gatherings and takes us on family vacations and I feel like our history is so rich since we have been at this since high school, we are now 40!

I don't understand why you put him having kids with u and being a great father in the same sentence as describing your sex lives. Those are two seperate things. So many women do that..

Seems like you checked out on him and not vice versa; you are confusing friendship with romantic/sexual relationships... which is what he's getting from the other woman.

This is why I prefer women who are not generally into children ,they will never forget she's a woman and Im a man

Selfish ass Leo lol There are plenty of women who don't want kids in the world for you.

Selfish my ass. You're selfish if u expect me to stick around when u treat me like a platonic friend.

I didn't say Don't want children, I said don't use children as a substitute for lust/romance.

There are men too who act like women around children lactating all over the place.. do most women want a man like that? Nah.

Balance.

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by Hemispheres

Posted by jeane

it might be glib to respond with this but



you deserve better.

This x100. He doesn't care for you anymore. Time to leave his ass and find someone who will. I'm a Taurus male btw.

Hello Hemispheres. Thank you so much for your response. As a Taurus, do you understand his behavior? If he doesnt care anymore why the family outings & events, social media posts and vacations. If I tell him my brother is having something, he is there with a smile on his face. Valentines day, I get the yearly post, Christmas, holidays I get gifts. How does one not care but able to do the above. This is the confusing part I suppose I am trying to wrap my head around.

Easy u just show up

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by MikeNYNYC

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Who tf keeps pushing the Taurus men are loyal agenda. I never understood it. Astrologically they're also known for their harems so ??

From what I understand, Taurus is as loyal in love as Scorpio, it’s polar opposite. Same perspective, just the opposite side of the hand to get to that perspective. Taurus, like Scorpio will be faithful if they feel they have found their true love. If, for some reason, like Scorpio, they deter and choose on settling (money, because of kids, image, etc.) they will cheat because their hedonistic side will take over.

You mentioned Scorpio, and this information you have relayed I never knew but I saw a Happy Birthday message to her around the beginning of November so I take it she is a Scorpio. So him a Taurus and she is a Scorpio.

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Posted by Lunamara

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by MikeNYNYC

Posted by SassyKiwi

Posted by DMV

Sorry to hear that.

Taurus men are not as loyal as the astrology advertises as them.

They have inner conflict between responsibility and passion.

They always tend to marry for stability, structure, responsibilities and IMAGE.

Taurus is a very materialistic sign.

They’re also hedonistic and lustful.

So they creep and lie and live double lives

But they have the ability to hide behind VENUS the planet of love...yawn

They don’t see a problem with living a double life either

Who tf keeps pushing the Taurus men are loyal agenda. I never understood it. Astrologically they're also known for their harems so ??

From what I understand, Taurus is as loyal in love as Scorpio, it’s polar opposite. Same perspective, just the opposite side of the hand to get to that perspective. Taurus, like Scorpio will be faithful if they feel they have found their true love. If, for some reason, like Scorpio, they deter and choose on settling (money, because of kids, image, etc.) they will cheat because their hedonistic side will take over.

You mentioned Scorpio, and this information you have relayed I never knew but I saw a Happy Birthday message to her around the beginning of November so I take it she is a Scorpio. So him a Taurus and she is a Scorpio.

Wait she’s , the lover, is a Scorpio— Boy sorry your going through this

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Thank you again, everyone. This is really helping me, as I didn't think writing out my thoughts and getting perspectives would make me feel an ounce better but it does so thank you to everyone that has spent their time replying to me.

I think I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the family gatherings, sometimes date nights we used to have, social media recognition (even now), our anniversary was in January and he publicly acknowledged it. Valentine's day he acknowledged online. Family vacations. If he thought we were truly just co-parents and roommates, why the above especially with the public acknowledgments.

Thank you again everyone.

Posted by MikeNYNYC

Also, from what I understand with Taurus, if he says something, he means it. And since he did tell you he checked out years ago, he thought this comment through and meant it.

Posted by Gem03

@OP: When a taurus loves you, you KNOW, you feel it when they gaze at you. You basically have em in the palm of your hands. They won't let you go ever much less compromise what they have with you by saying "I checked out years ago". The men tend to be protective of you if they love you or even date you. So for him to say that....well thats it. Its the beginning of the end.

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Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Thank you again, everyone. This is really helping me, as I didn't think writing out my thoughts and getting perspectives would make me feel an ounce better but it does so thank you to everyone that has spent their time replying to me.

I think I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the family gatherings, sometimes date nights we used to have, social media recognition (even now), our anniversary was in January and he publicly acknowledged it. Valentine's day he acknowledged online. Family vacations. If he thought we were truly just co-parents and roommates, why the above especially with the public acknowledgments.

Thank you again everyone.

Stop right there. Your done with just that statement. The root of the issue. I strongly doubt if you had not gotten pregnant you would have been still together in the first place. To be fair things could have gone much worse for the both of you.

It was wrong for him to cheat yet don't hate him for it. Nor yourself for marrying him. These years where not a waste either. You said you guys are great friends. I suppose you could say you where not compatible for more then that.

Don't give into the anger, resentment, and egos. It will make it all worse and take longer to move on and find happiness somewhere else with this clouding your mind and heart. It's not worth it.

Gather everything you need to for divorce and serve him. Simply tell him you know he is cheating and you know why he did it. BECAUSE YOU DO! but it does change the fact he did you wrong. Then tell him he owes it to both your children and you to make things right.

Discuss and outline the terms of the divorce you both can agree on without opposing counsels. Seriously lawyers are expensive, save money that you will both need by not fighting over this in court that could take at least a year and 20k+. Then hire a single lawyer to write and look the terms over for the both of you. Then both of you get to move on and live your lives.

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

Thank you Misscappy. "So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?" I thought due to always doing all events happily and the combination of his publicly showing me, I thought we were fine. Yes our homelife is not the very best or passionate but it is not bad, we do not argue, we do things with our children, we talk, currently he is an another room with the kids watching tv and doing other things. It is I suppose a word for it, is routine. Never would think to him, our family is broken on the inside or he was in a 3 year almost 4 year relationship with someone else intertwined with an established business and property-seeking.

"I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father." While having an almost 4-year relationship-building things with her. Maintaining his reputation but having a business with his girlfriend. The more I think about it, this is definitely not just someone he is sleeping with. This is very hard to wrap my head around.

Oh wow wasnt expecting him hving a business with her. Does he have any business with you?

The taurus guy i told you earlier, one of the reason why he still stays in that marriage while having 3 kids but cheats everywhere, is because he managed to convinced his parent in law to trust him manage their properties. He lives a good life feeding off of her parents' money. He will never leave her lmao.

Do you have any financial leverage on him? Do you work or have passive income or have a business?

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Posted by Misscappy

Posted by geminiwithataurusman

Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

Thank you Misscappy. "So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?" I thought due to always doing all events happily and the combination of his publicly showing me, I thought we were fine. Yes our homelife is not the very best or passionate but it is not bad, we do not argue, we do things with our children, we talk, currently he is an another room with the kids watching tv and doing other things. It is I suppose a word for it, is routine. Never would think to him, our family is broken on the inside or he was in a 3 year almost 4 year relationship with someone else intertwined with an established business and property-seeking.

"I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father." While having an almost 4-year relationship-building things with her. Maintaining his reputation but having a business with his girlfriend. The more I think about it, this is definitely not just someone he is sleeping with. This is very hard to wrap my head around.

Oh wow wasnt expecting him hving a business with her. Does he have any business with you?

The taurus guy i told you earlier, one of the reason why he still stays in that marriage while having 3 kids but cheats everywhere, is because he managed to convinced his parent in law to trust him manage their properties. He lives a good life feeding off of her parents' money. He will never leave her lmao.

Do you have any financial leverage on him? Do you work or have passive income or have a business?

We do not have any businesses together and I do work. Reading his text messages while hurtful, it was like reading this book. She seems like she motivates him and gets his wheels turning. Well, that actually was his exact words to her. It was a day where she was sending him screenshots pertaining to contracts she drew up and obtained with people. Their conversations have gone from intimate to business to laughing emojis back to business to talking about republicans, it's like they never miss a beat. They are constantly sending each other things about a second business as well. I've read. alot. We talk about the kids, we talk about our past, we laugh and laugh with our children.

No financial leverage at all.

That is horrible that he is doing that just to live a good life on the back of her parents. 😢

So how do you know he's cheating with her? Because to me, those things arent proof of him cheating? He may have been emotionally cheating with her because of their business partnership and loneliness, but is there any proof at all that they had follow it up in real life cheating?

Do they flirt,kissing emojis, making plans arranging a date or anything?

Are you jealous because he's talking to someone more than he talks to you or is he really cheating?

If it is the former, you can talk and sort it out, you know.

Tell him youre uncomfortable with how he talks with her and how he's more open to her than to you. And ask him why he's more open to her than to you. That will be the first step.

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Posted by MikeNYNYC

Also, from what I understand with Taurus, if he says something, he means it. And since he did tell you he checked out years ago, he thought this comment through and meant it.

Thank you MikeNYNYC. That was about 10 years ago so I definitely did not think anything of it as we are still together. Thank you again.

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

Thank you Misscappy. "So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?" I thought due to always doing all events happily and the combination of his publicly showing me, I thought we were fine. Yes our homelife is not the very best or passionate but it is not bad, we do not argue, we do things with our children, we talk, currently he is an another room with the kids watching tv and doing other things. It is I suppose a word for it, is routine. Never would think to him, our family is broken on the inside or he was in a 3 year almost 4 year relationship with someone else intertwined with an established business and property-seeking.

"I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father." While having an almost 4-year relationship-building things with her. Maintaining his reputation but having a business with his girlfriend. The more I think about it, this is definitely not just someone he is sleeping with. This is very hard to wrap my head around.

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Posted by saggurl88

But women with no kids can get uninterested in sex too! 🤣🤣🤣 Kids have nothing to do with it.

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Wow!!! How do you sound and stay so calm about all of this? You don’t sound angry or express how hurt you are. Sounds like you suspected this would happen so you’re taking it in the chin.

How long were you together before you split and then got back together and how long before you got pregnant?

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But women with no kids can get uninterested in sex too! 🤣🤣🤣 Kids have nothing to do with it.

Yes ppl of both genders lose interest in sex or have lower sex drives to begin with. That's one thing.

But what bothers me with this specific type of woman is misplaced sexual energy: they take all their sexual energy and convert it to love of children; platonic love of their partners as fathers.

Like there's no room of romance or lust, these women bring their offspring into every single aspect of their lives. How is he suppose to fuck you when you're talking about Esther age 6 in the bedroom, and how "she seems like an old soul doesn't she"? lol

And plz peeps, don't tell me having kids is draining or there's no time. Where there's a will there's a way. Teach your children there's mommy and daddy time. They'll appreciate further down the line when they see how you interact with eachother as a unity. Not that time & logistics is the problem.. problem being the woman's misplacement of sexual energy. There are sperm banks so you needn't put a flesh and blood partner in that position and then call them selfish for checking out.

Had this discussion with an older colleague of mine, she too was annoyed at women like that & brought up an example of a family member who is simply all about children and not the babymaking process and how her hubby checked out on her with another woman.

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What kind of business do they have together

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Posted by Lunamara

What kind of business do they have together

Hump and Blow

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Thank you again, everyone. This is really helping me, as I didn't think writing out my thoughts and getting perspectives would make me feel an ounce better but it does so thank you to everyone that has spent their time replying to me.

I think I am having a hard time wrapping my head around the family gatherings, sometimes date nights we used to have, social media recognition (even now), our anniversary was in January and he publicly acknowledged it. Valentine's day he acknowledged online. Family vacations. If he thought we were truly just co-parents and roommates, why the above especially with the public acknowledgments.

Thank you again everyone.

Stop right there. Your done with just that statement. The root of the issue. I strongly doubt if you had not gotten pregnant you would have been still together in the first place. To be fair things could have gone much worse for the both of you.

It was wrong for him to cheat yet don't hate him for it. Nor yourself for marrying him. These years where not a waste either. You said you guys are great friends. I suppose you could say you where not compatible for more then that.

Don't give into the anger, resentment, and egos. It will make it all worse and take longer to move on and find happiness somewhere else with this clouding your mind and heart. It's not worth it.

Gather everything you need to for divorce and serve him. Simply tell him you know he is cheating and you know why he did it. BECAUSE YOU DO! but it does change the fact he did you wrong. Then tell him he owes it to both your children and you to make things right.

Discuss and outline the terms of the divorce you both can agree on without opposing counsels. Seriously lawyers are expensive, save money that you will both need by not fighting over this in court that could take at least a year and 20k+. Then hire a single lawyer to write and look the terms over for the both of you. Then both of you get to move on and live your lives.

Thank you Lostthoughts. I really do not hate him, and I am in this mental space of looking throughout the years to see why I didn't see it. He's done all of our family things and has never missed a beat. He also makes sure to publicly acknowledge me so never missing a beat. It is a battle of trying to piece all things together.

Thank you again.

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What kind of business do they have together

Hump and Blow

I’m serious. He was probably banking on her not knowing about but now wife can take half of his potion of the business

Karma bitch lol

Yeah u have to be this harsh

I regret not doing so during my divorce I got blind sided

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

Thank you Misscappy. "So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?" I thought due to always doing all events happily and the combination of his publicly showing me, I thought we were fine. Yes our homelife is not the very best or passionate but it is not bad, we do not argue, we do things with our children, we talk, currently he is an another room with the kids watching tv and doing other things. It is I suppose a word for it, is routine. Never would think to him, our family is broken on the inside or he was in a 3 year almost 4 year relationship with someone else intertwined with an established business and property-seeking.

"I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father." While having an almost 4-year relationship-building things with her. Maintaining his reputation but having a business with his girlfriend. The more I think about it, this is definitely not just someone he is sleeping with. This is very hard to wrap my head around.

I’m sorry. Consider the fact that he’s clearly laying down roots with this woman. Laying down financial foundations. He’s building memories, and personal as well as professional relations with her. He’s deeply intertwining his life with hers. This is more than just even a lengthy affair. Exchanging pics of kids is the icing on the cake. Taurus don’t lay roots like this down without deep thought. Also, once Taurus makes a decision, it’s in motion and set in stone.

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hazel dixon cooper wasn’t lying. Don’t tell me she’s a November 5 Scorpio.

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Posted by Astrobyn

He's invested more with this women than he has with you. what he has with you sounds more like maintaining obligations.

Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain.

You know that saying "they never leave their wives" I don't think that's true here, he's making her his wife.

Your friend sent you here to face the truth.

Thank you Astrobyn. Yes and I can take all of the raw aspects of it. so again thank you!

"maintaining obligations" that is something of kind of what my friend said. I mentioned to her our family vacations, family gatherings, even friends when they hosted couple nights, he attends with no problem. He even posts me on social media outlets. To me, I thought that was letting our friends and family know that what we have is solid. Yes our home life isn't peaches and all cream but to publicly display with outings, outlets, etc showed me something at least. Hope that we were ok. That we are ok.

"Taurus energy likes to build, not maintain" I would think our family is building with our 3 children but maybe my reality is not accurate

"Making her his wife"- That is wow. We have 3 children and history. I thought Taurus' were rooted in being slow and no to change. That is a huge change!

What do you think Astrobyn? Thank you for the truth bombs.

So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?

I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father.

Now the question is, what do you want?

I've known a taurus man with gemini mars since college. His wife's story would be similar to yours.

Thank you Misscappy. "So publicly he is still showing a picture of a happy family, but yet the family is broken on the inside?" I thought due to always doing all events happily and the combination of his publicly showing me, I thought we were fine. Yes our homelife is not the very best or passionate but it is not bad, we do not argue, we do things with our children, we talk, currently he is an another room with the kids watching tv and doing other things. It is I suppose a word for it, is routine. Never would think to him, our family is broken on the inside or he was in a 3 year almost 4 year relationship with someone else intertwined with an established business and property-seeking.

"I dont think it's about maintaining obligations. I think it is more about reputation and how he cares about what other people think of him as a husband and a father." While having an almost 4-year relationship-building things with her. Maintaining his reputation but having a business with his girlfriend. The more I think about it, this is definitely not just someone he is sleeping with. This is very hard to wrap my head around.

Oh wow wasnt expecting him hving a business with her. Does he have any business with you?

The taurus guy i told you earlier, one of the reason why he still stays in that marriage while having 3 kids but cheats everywhere, is because he managed to convinced his parent in law to trust him manage their properties. He lives a good life feeding off of her parents' money. He will never leave her lmao.

Do you have any financial leverage on him? Do you work or have passive income or have a business?

We do not have any businesses together and I do work. Reading his text messages while hurtful, it was like reading this book. She seems like she motivates him and gets his wheels turning. Well, that actually was his exact words to her. It was a day where she was sending him screenshots pertaining to contracts she drew up and obtained with people. Their conversations have gone from intimate to business to laughing emojis back to business to talking about republicans, it's like they never miss a beat. They are constantly sending each other things about a second business as well. I've read. alot. We talk about the kids, we talk about our past, we laugh and laugh with our children.

No financial leverage at all.

That is horrible that he is doing that just to live a good life on the back of her parents. 😢

So how do you know he's cheating with her? Because to me, those things arent proof of him cheating? He may have been emotionally cheating with her because of their business partnership and loneliness, but is there any proof at all that they had follow it up in real life cheating?

Do they flirt,kissing emojis, making plans arranging a date or anything?

Are you jealous because he's talking to someone more than he talks to you or is he really cheating?

If it is the former, you can talk and sort it out, you know.

Tell him youre uncomfortable with how he talks with her and how he's more open to her than to you. And ask him why he's more open to her than to you. That will be the first step.

They are definitely dating. Mostly heart, kissing emojis. Lots of words exchanged. Promises to each other. Pictures individually. Pictures of them kissing. Conversations about their relationships, they have a very active dating life and it's very intimate as well as sexual. They also look like they have a friendship. And they praise each other often. I had gone through months of texts and they are consistently and constantly complimenting each other. You mentioned jealous-it's actually everything I wish we did have. If I was not married to this man, I would think their relationship is a good one off of texts alone.

Oh wow ew 🤮 thats definitely an affair.

Im sorry hun but i think you need to take care of yourself and think and plan ahead for a life without him and how you can manage to do that.

He's planning to leave you. It's obvious isnt it?

I mean why would that woman be OK with the fact that hes married with you if he hasnt promised anything to her? Esp since you mentioned shes a scorpio. There is no way in hell shes OK being a side piece forever. Theyre doing business together because he knows a divorce and child support will take a hefty lot from his pockets. So him and her are preparing for it.

And I suggest you also prepare for a life without him. Plotting a revenge, trying to win him back etc is not worth your time. You'd rather spend that energy being there for your kids and building a happy and fulfilling life for yourself. Because trust me, nothing hurts a scorpio more then a person they try to plot against, live the best of her life unbothered.

You dodged a bullet on this one. You deserve better and so much more 🥰. Trust me universe will give you so much more after what you've been through.

And if you're thinking to stay because of the kids. Trust me, your kids would prefer to not see their mother hurting and resent their father forever.

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Posted by Lunamara

What kind of business do they have together

Hump and Blow

I’m serious. He was probably banking on her not knowing about but now wife can take half of his potion of the business

Karma bitch lol

Yeah u have to be this harsh

I regret not doing so during my divorce I got blind sided

I'm serious too, 😂🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

What, it's a scorp and a Taurus, come on now



Nah seriously, this thread is sad and makes me upset..



Honestly sex is the only thing that keep certain signs together and it's boring as fuck



Greedy and disrespectful

Simplicity at its finest



I'm sorry that anyone would have to go through this.. Honestly Idk what I would've done.. probably snap.. why I'm so cautious to have a family



Because man and woman is not the same........

It's scary....

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