daisy57
@daisy57
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He gets upset if I am upset
He's projecting his feelings onto you because if his own insecurities. It's normal for couples to have disagreements. He needs to get that. He needs to come to learn and appreciate that arguments are a part of all human relationships. The closer we are with people the more likely we'll argue at some point, the more time we spend together, so more opportunities to get upset. How we deal with this is part of having adult relationships. Something bothers you tell the other person. Something bothers them, then they tell you. Now if someone is repeating something that is upsetting the other person then that's an issue. If they are doing something on purpose to hurt/offend, then that is another issue. We need to learn from the events/situations and get better as human beings internally within ourselves and externally towards others.
It seems that he has an issue with regret. Things we regret are things that we need to learn from and move on without dwelling on them. If you don't learn and change based on a regrettable moment then that's on you. I would tell him not judge himself based on one regrettable moment/event. Our lives are made up of many moments and most of them are not regrettable. Some of them are insignificant but many of them are cherished moments and successes, among other things. If he's judging himself based on a particular regrettable moment (which is the situation when we are dwelling on it) then he's doing himself an extreme disservice and is being too hard on himself. Ask him: Would he judge you based on one event where you made him upset? No of course not. He judges you based on all the other moments.
P.S. Now if someone has a surplus of regrettable moments especially in how they are interacting with and/or treating another person, then that should sign for the other person to reevaluate being in the relationship. I'm not insinuating that this is your situation, I'm just stating it for the record. It's a good check for anyone in a relationship to have.
It seems that he has an issue with regret. Things we regret are things that we need to learn from and move on without dwelling on them. If you don't learn and change based on a regrettable moment then that's on you. I would tell him not judge himself based on one regrettable moment/event. Our lives are made up of many moments and most of them are not regrettable. Some of them are insignificant but many of them are cherished moments and successes, among other things. If he's judging himself based on a particular regrettable moment (which is the situation when we are dwelling on it) then he's doing himself an extreme disservice and is being too hard on himself. Ask him: Would he judge you based on one event where you made him upset? No of course not. He judges you based on all the other moments.
P.S. Now if someone has a surplus of regrettable moments especially in how they are interacting with and/or treating another person, then that should sign for the other person to reevaluate being in the relationship. I'm not insinuating that this is your situation, I'm just stating it for the record. It's a good check for anyone in a relationship to have.
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Posted by thatlibralife
I tend to think people are responsible for their own feelings. No one can make you “feel” a certain way. If you go trying to help him not have those sad feelings he gets when you two disagree then it becomes codependent on your part which is not healthy. I learned this through my own past bad relationship with the help of a wise counselor....in essence, let him feel however he wants. Hopefully he’ll get over whatever is bothering him at the moment...
Good words, thank you. He is only bothered about not hurting me. But I know it is bound to happen in any relationship. He is not deliberately doing it ofcourse, but he gets instantly upset with himself if he finds out I am unhappy.
Posted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.click to expand
i only said that i think it, not that i do it
i'm extremely honest about my feelings with him that he can't help but be upset lol
but i think you're doing fine and i 'd have done the same thing you're doing
@ Heart.. no he is a sweetheart cmon! Its difficult to write about problems in detail or write about situations considering im not good in writing...
Posted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.click to expand
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Posted by Timon
It could be worse. He could blame the problems on you. At least he acknowledge if he did something wrong and is sorry for it. But I understand wanting him to toughen up a bit.
If he ever gets to know if anything coming from him made me even slightly upset, he is immediately sorry. He acknowledges it very well and gets aware of what I did not like he did. I just feel he immediately loses confidence and becomes vulnerable as if scared that I will leave him or do something horrible. Few times I was really angry at him and my anger is too much to handle , so I told him that I want to be quiet for 2-3 days as I want to cool off before I am ready to talk about it and what went wrong. And he takes it all on him that he is the foremost victim here even when he made me feel angry at first place.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?click to expand
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
i only said that i think it, not that i do it
i'm extremely honest about my feelings with him that he can't help but be upset lol
but i think you're doing fine and i 'd have done the same thing you're doingclick to expand
Thank you, we do our best to keep up with each other. I really feel I have found lot of things about myself and him all through this relationship.
Posted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
i only said that i think it, not that i do it
i'm extremely honest about my feelings with him that he can't help but be upset lol
but i think you're doing fine and i 'd have done the same thing you're doing
Thank you, we do our best to keep up with each other. I really feel I have found lot of things about myself and him all through this relationship.click to expand
what's your moon btw?
Posted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.click to expand
What degree?
Posted by TimonPosted by daisy57Posted by Timon
It could be worse. He could blame the problems on you. At least he acknowledge if he did something wrong and is sorry for it. But I understand wanting him to toughen up a bit.
If he ever gets to know if anything coming from him made me even slightly upset, he is immediately sorry. He acknowledges it very well and gets aware of what I did not like he did. I just feel he immediately loses confidence and becomes vulnerable as if scared that I will leave him or do something horrible. Few times I was really angry at him and my anger is too much to handle , so I told him that I want to be quiet for 2-3 days as I want to cool off before I am ready to talk about it and what went wrong. And he takes it all on him that he is the foremost victim here even when he made me feel angry at first place.
It seems he has self esteem issues. Do you notice this lack of confidence in other areas too?click to expand
Not at all! He is really confident about his work and life, he is self-made person. Infact, he is fully supportive and makes me gain confidence whenever I feel low/stressed. The only problem I am seeing is, his reaction when he finds I have been upset with him. His confidence tanks down. Imagine how much I feel bad knowing that I made him feel bad for making me feel bad. It becomes complicated.
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.
What degree?click to expand
His Moon in Gemini - 8 Gem 44'28"
Posted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.
What degree?
His Moon in Gemini - 8 Gem 44'28"click to expand
Have you seen his chart.....does he have placements in water houses and is he water dominant?
Posted by Piscis_Hominis
He's projecting his feelings onto you because if his own insecurities. It's normal for couples to have disagreements. He needs to get that. He needs to come to learn and appreciate that arguments are a part of all human relationships. The closer we are with people the more likely we'll argue at some point, the more time we spend together, so more opportunities to get upset. How we deal with this is part of having adult relationships. Something bothers you tell the other person. Something bothers them, then they tell you. Now if someone is repeating something that is upsetting the other person then that's an issue. If they are doing something on purpose to hurt/offend, then that is another issue. We need to learn from the events/situations and get better as human beings internally within ourselves and externally towards others.
It seems that he has an issue with regret. Things we regret are things that we need to learn from and move on without dwelling on them. If you don't learn and change based on a regrettable moment then that's on you. I would tell him not judge himself based on one regrettable moment/event. Our lives are made up of many moments and most of them are not regrettable. Some of them are insignificant but many of them are cherished moments and successes, among other things. If he's judging himself based on a particular regrettable moment (which is the situation when we are dwelling on it) then he's doing himself an extreme disservice and is being too hard on himself. Ask him: Would he judge you based on one event where you made him upset? No of course not. He judges you based on all the other moments.
P.S. Now if someone has a surplus of regrettable moments especially in how they are interacting with and/or treating another person, then that should sign for the other person to reevaluate being in the relationship. I'm not insinuating that this is your situation, I'm just stating it for the record. It's a good check for anyone in a relationship to have.
It's a great advice. I would love to have this conversation with him and let his fears out to work on it and make him feel super confident about his emotions. What would be better than letting his regrets go... It would be a very difficult conversation to have and I would need to prepare for it. I do think he lost someone in his past by hurting them and he might be afraid again hence this is happening. He becomes so vulnerable and I feel like crying(I don't show it to him as it will make him worse)... I feel he wants to feel wanted and loved
Posted by TimonPosted by daisy57Posted by TimonPosted by daisy57Posted by Timon
It could be worse. He could blame the problems on you. At least he acknowledge if he did something wrong and is sorry for it. But I understand wanting him to toughen up a bit.
If he ever gets to know if anything coming from him made me even slightly upset, he is immediately sorry. He acknowledges it very well and gets aware of what I did not like he did. I just feel he immediately loses confidence and becomes vulnerable as if scared that I will leave him or do something horrible. Few times I was really angry at him and my anger is too much to handle , so I told him that I want to be quiet for 2-3 days as I want to cool off before I am ready to talk about it and what went wrong. And he takes it all on him that he is the foremost victim here even when he made me feel angry at first place.
It seems he has self esteem issues. Do you notice this lack of confidence in other areas too?
Not at all! He is really confident about his work and life, he is self-made person. Infact, he is fully supportive and makes me gain confidence whenever I feel low/stressed. The only problem I am seeing is, his reaction when he finds I have been upset with him. His confidence tanks down. Imagine how much I feel bad knowing that I made him feel bad for making me feel bad. It becomes complicated.
Caps are really confident in work but that doesn't always translates to their love life. Maybe let him feel upset. He's upset that you're upset and then you become upset that he is upset that you're upset lol. Bad cycle that needs to break.click to expand
Exactly. I say the same in our conversation. This becomes a back and forth cycle and could do damage so stop feeling bad. What should I do? 😢
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.
What degree?
His Moon in Gemini - 8 Gem 44'28"
Have you seen his chart.....does he have placements in water houses and is he water dominant?click to expand
Nope. He is Capricorn Dominant. Sun, Mercury, Saturn, Neptune, Uranus all in Capricorn.
Pluto in Scorpio just like me.
Moon in Gemini
Venus in Aqua
Mars in Sag
Jupiter, Chiron in Cancer
Posted by daisy57Posted by Piscis_Hominis
He's projecting his feelings onto you because if his own insecurities. It's normal for couples to have disagreements. He needs to get that. He needs to come to learn and appreciate that arguments are a part of all human relationships. The closer we are with people the more likely we'll argue at some point, the more time we spend together, so more opportunities to get upset. How we deal with this is part of having adult relationships. Something bothers you tell the other person. Something bothers them, then they tell you. Now if someone is repeating something that is upsetting the other person then that's an issue. If they are doing something on purpose to hurt/offend, then that is another issue. We need to learn from the events/situations and get better as human beings internally within ourselves and externally towards others.
It seems that he has an issue with regret. Things we regret are things that we need to learn from and move on without dwelling on them. If you don't learn and change based on a regrettable moment then that's on you. I would tell him not judge himself based on one regrettable moment/event. Our lives are made up of many moments and most of them are not regrettable. Some of them are insignificant but many of them are cherished moments and successes, among other things. If he's judging himself based on a particular regrettable moment (which is the situation when we are dwelling on it) then he's doing himself an extreme disservice and is being too hard on himself. Ask him: Would he judge you based on one event where you made him upset? No of course not. He judges you based on all the other moments.
P.S. Now if someone has a surplus of regrettable moments especially in how they are interacting with and/or treating another person, then that should sign for the other person to reevaluate being in the relationship. I'm not insinuating that this is your situation, I'm just stating it for the record. It's a good check for anyone in a relationship to have.
It's a great advice. I would love to have this conversation with him and let his fears out to work on it and make him feel super confident about his emotions. What would be better than letting his regrets go... It would be a very difficult conversation to have and I would need to prepare for it. I do think he lost someone in his past by hurting them and he might be afraid again hence this is happening. He becomes so vulnerable and I feel like crying(I don't show it to him as it will make him worse)... I feel he wants to feel wanted and lovedclick to expand
What are some examples of things he's said/done to upset you? On that note, might you parking lot some things and then when things are calm, you can tell him, "Listen babe, remember earlier when you said this? It made me upset but I decided to talk to you about it now. I'm not angry with you. I just want you to understand."
Posted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by daisy57Posted by virgoOPPP
those are my cap boyfriend's placements.
what's his moon? is he a pisces moon?
anyway yeah caps can be really sensitive and get insecure in relationships sometimes. this why i think being completely honest about my feelings might cause worry for him.
He is unaware of his own time of birth, we can't find out. I understand he is sensitive towards emotions hence I asked the question. But don't you think hiding your real emotion and being dishonest about it to him is doing damage to your self? If he makes you happy you let him know then why would you not let him know if he makes you feel upset? I think in these situations we have opportunities to emerge stronger as a couple.
Put 12pm in Astro.com and see what comes up?
I'd guess he has a water moon or maybe Taurus...?
Moon in Gemini. I am moon in Libra. Venus in Aries. Mars in Pisces. Sun in Taurus.
What degree?
His Moon in Gemini - 8 Gem 44'28"
Have you seen his chart.....does he have placements in water houses and is he water dominant?
Nope. He is Capricorn Dominant. Sun, Mercury, Saturn, Neptune, Uranus all in Capricorn.
Pluto in Scorpio just like me.
Moon in Gemini
Venus in Aqua
Mars in Sag
Jupiter, Chiron in Cancerclick to expand
But if you've no tob you won't know his houses....
Posted by Piscis_HominisPosted by daisy57Posted by Piscis_Hominis
He's projecting his feelings onto you because if his own insecurities. It's normal for couples to have disagreements. He needs to get that. He needs to come to learn and appreciate that arguments are a part of all human relationships. The closer we are with people the more likely we'll argue at some point, the more time we spend together, so more opportunities to get upset. How we deal with this is part of having adult relationships. Something bothers you tell the other person. Something bothers them, then they tell you. Now if someone is repeating something that is upsetting the other person then that's an issue. If they are doing something on purpose to hurt/offend, then that is another issue. We need to learn from the events/situations and get better as human beings internally within ourselves and externally towards others.
It seems that he has an issue with regret. Things we regret are things that we need to learn from and move on without dwelling on them. If you don't learn and change based on a regrettable moment then that's on you. I would tell him not judge himself based on one regrettable moment/event. Our lives are made up of many moments and most of them are not regrettable. Some of them are insignificant but many of them are cherished moments and successes, among other things. If he's judging himself based on a particular regrettable moment (which is the situation when we are dwelling on it) then he's doing himself an extreme disservice and is being too hard on himself. Ask him: Would he judge you based on one event where you made him upset? No of course not. He judges you based on all the other moments.
P.S. Now if someone has a surplus of regrettable moments especially in how they are interacting with and/or treating another person, then that should sign for the other person to reevaluate being in the relationship. I'm not insinuating that this is your situation, I'm just stating it for the record. It's a good check for anyone in a relationship to have.
It's a great advice. I would love to have this conversation with him and let his fears out to work on it and make him feel super confident about his emotions. What would be better than letting his regrets go... It would be a very difficult conversation to have and I would need to prepare for it. I do think he lost someone in his past by hurting them and he might be afraid again hence this is happening. He becomes so vulnerable and I feel like crying(I don't show it to him as it will make him worse)... I feel he wants to feel wanted and loved
What are some examples of things he's said/done to upset you? On that note, might you parking lot some things and then when things are calm, you can tell him, "Listen babe, remember earlier when you said this? It made me upset but I decided to talk to you about it now. I'm not angry with you. I just want you to understand."click to expand
I would rather speak about it to you on DM. Stay tuned. Thank you! 🙂
Sounds like manipulation, personally.
Weird. If someone did this to me constantly I'd start to wonder if they wanted out of the relationship but were too chicken shit to do it themselves and were acting this way so I'd get fed up and end it for them.
Posted by GODZPosted by bkbella86
Sounds like manipulation, personally.
bumpclick to expand
Lol am I wrong?
Him: I am sorry I made you feel upset.
You: Apology accepted.
Him: bla bla bla
You: change the subject.
End of.
You: Apology accepted.
Him: bla bla bla
You: change the subject.
End of.
Its also a long distance relationship...
Lol good to know how you all are thinking here 🙂
Posted by daisy57
Lol good to know how you all are thinking here 🙂
I bet the majority of his insecurities are stemming from him not being able to connect with you in person, physically. Do you both have a plan in place to get out of the long distance thing?
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by daisy57
Lol good to know how you all are thinking here 🙂
I bet the majority of his insecurities are stemming from him not being able to connect with you in person, physically. Do you both have a plan in place to get out of the long distance thing?click to expand
Of course we do! We want to be at the same city. We both are in the US but different states. He moved out few years ago for his job. I am currently going through visa transition and meanwhile cannot change job. Once that is in place, I would go where he is... 🙂 but we do meet randomly time to time... we both visit each other whenever possible..
Posted by daisy57Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by daisy57
Lol good to know how you all are thinking here 🙂
I bet the majority of his insecurities are stemming from him not being able to connect with you in person, physically. Do you both have a plan in place to get out of the long distance thing?
Of course we do! We want to be at the same city. We both are in the US but different states. He moved out few years ago for his job. I am currently going through visa transition and meanwhile cannot change job. Once that is in place, I would go where he is... 🙂 but we do meet randomly time to time... we both visit each other whenever possible..click to expand
So just remind him of that when he has these mini-meltdowns.
Like, babe if I was there in person I'd hug you and convince you that this doesn't matter and I'm not mad. But I'm not there rn so just trust me, ok?
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Like ... This doesn't beat the controversy when fucking "Blake Shelton" was the sexiest man alive back in 2017... But it's almost just as bad of a train wreck.
I honestly think People's Magazine set
Following on from my earlier post, Capricorn man got in touch with me yesterday to basically say that he’s not looking for anything serious and not ready for a relationship and he feels like we are heading that way. He’s not long come out of a 4 year rela
Hey, first time post here.
I'm a Virgo Sun, Scorpio Moon and Venus, Cap Mars and Cap Asc girl. Was not looking for a relationship at all, I'm very settled finacially and career wise - and I stumbled upon what might be the biggest crush of my life, sort of
Okay so I like a Cap guy at my workplace(he has switched jobs now) & he sort of knows i like him. Instead of hanging there like a pendulum, i took the initiative & added each other on social media a month back, i even started conversation there, h
So I met my cap 4 months ago. Everything was going so well. We connected immediately. We have the same values, interests, and way of thinking (kind of). I’m an aqua (Pisces riding and Gemini moon). He’s a workaholic (has 2 jobs), so I don’t see him much,
Long story short, I have been dating a cap man for 1 year a few days ago. (However we have years of history since elementary school if that matters/ We are 31 and 32). He has taken me out on dates once every like 2-3 months even though I have express that
I’ve known this Capricorn guy for a little over year now. I’m not really sure his chart but from my guess calculating lol he’d be a Scorpio moon and an Aries rising.
We met a year ago on my study abroad trip and he was really nice and cute so we spent a
This is basically just a writing to show my love for him
It has always been calm since day one
Never have you made me wonder of your feelings
You are a bit rigid but always assuring
I swear I wanna come up with more.. but I'm stuck 😂
-from your other
Are they too picky while dating/ relationships?
Is it very difficult to impress them?
I am dating this cap for 4 months, last 2 months he was too distant, not talking or chatting, does not share important milestones in his life or share anything really...like he used to. And even leaving my message on read for days... calls 10 days later l
If he is upset/mad at me, it's me who tries to resolve issue and say sorry and mend things and we get back to normal. It's obvious if I did something wrong which made him upset I would be the one to initiate the process to resolve the situation and get back on track, no problem here.
But..
If I am upset/mad at him, initially obviously similarly he initiates the process and talk to resolve the issue, he says sorry and we mend things get back to normal. But then he immediately becomes upset, right after we get back to normal conversation. He says he becomes upset and angry at himself that he made me upset or angry. He becomes really upset at himself feeling extremely low about himself that he is not worth it. And I end up again getting his confidence and mood back and saying things like "it's okay, things happen, we can fight together and emerge stronger blah"
In short, it does not matter who is upset between him and I, I always end up making things better for us. It's like he becomes victim of circumstance where initially I was the one. For example this recently happened:
He is busy, I understand it.To make the best out of his business, we have dedicated hours late night for each other, no one else can interrupt us. Somewhere around 12 midnight to 3 am... Depending on mood, it could consist of anything from being romantic, fights, moody, sharing problems, being naughty anything.. It was one of those nights and his parents face timed him (his parents are in Asia, its day time for them). On that night, I had already knew beforehand that he is working on his parent's property transactions. We were being hot and heavy at the time randomly his parents called and he went away for a minute or two. He came back and said he has to go as there is some wire transfer problem. I let him go, its okay, I was upset at that moment but I understood the emergency and told him to work on it and we will talk in the morning.
Now in this situation I was upset in the night, I woke up alright. I was only upset as he left me hanging in the middle. But then he left to take care of his responsibilities and more than that he did a huge money transfer. In the morning..
Him: How's your mood? I can understand you must be really angry.
Me: I was upset, but not anymore. I was never angry. Is everything alright with the finances?
Him: I had a wrong routing number on the form. It's alright. I don't want you to lie if you are angry.
Me: I am not angry. I was upset as I was looking forward for it since whole day and you had to go in the middle. But it's alright. We will have more opportunities in the future *wink*
Him: I am sorry I made you feel upset.
Me: Babe its fine. Stop feeling bad for it, I am doing well.
(at this point, I am not upset but he starts taking on himself..)
Him: But I make you feel upset so many times
Me: No. I don't even remember any of those times. And you are talking as if I never get on your nerves.
Him: I am sorry. I make you feel bad.
Me: How about all of those times you make me feel awesome? We are talking million vs one digits here. Stop feeling bad now and if you'll feel bad, I will too and this cycle would continue back and forth. I just want to hug you so much ....
At this point, we were fine. But it happens everytime... he becomes upset if I am upset because of him. But we sort it out within next few hours and its alright. I do not know how to handle this. I can understand he becomes upset with himself that he made me feel bad. How to stop it? This whole cycle. If it is useful, he is Venus in Aqua and Mars in Sag along with Sun in Cap. I wish I could handle these situations better and could avoid him feeling awful. Any advice is helpful! Thanks!