I need capricorn insight

Hello Capricorn!

This is not my not first topic here as i have already wrote before about my story with a Capricorn girl that i met on social media application and that i had an instant attraction to her .

We have been talking for a year now she calls me daily until it became a habit,i was always flirting with her..felt that she enjoy it that ,we talk for hours and hours,with time she started to open more and more about her life she told me everything about her past and when she talks about it she sounds sad but she never show it,so i just try to cheer her up everytime she talk and support her and make her laugh..3 months passed and i started to get attach so i asked her to meet up for the first time she refused..cuz she said she dosen't know me so i said ok,also she was telling me everything even about her sex and the guys who were hitting on her which made me jealous and told her that it bothers me when you talk abouth other guys..she answers"They are nice but i don't really care about them".i know it was on the friendzone but i was waiting for us to meet so i can see what happens...6 months later i tried again to meet her but she refused again..so i got hurt and stopped asking her...so instead i keep it talking with her until she gets super comfortable..

so last week i told her i'm coming to visit her so for the first time her answer was positive,she said "Suuuure comme! but i will meet you with a friend" i don't know why she wanted to bring a friend but i said "ok.."



Last Monday i went to meet her i took the train because she lives 4 hours a way because of vaccation..and when i meet her the chemistry was greater than it was on the phone..we were laughing.she was touching and we were playing together....until late at night i told her to come to the hotel because i was sitting alone and she brought her friend guy with her because he had no place to sleep so i said "sure"

she started to joke with her friend and all of sudden i got jealous and told her to stop that and then ignored them she said "awwww he is jealous again"

so her friend said to me "what's wrong with you?"

she said "he loves me ..." and after saying that she started to cry....explaining to me that she is having a problem commiting to guys because of her ex and past event and that i'm a nice guy and she dosen't want to hurt me then after the guy went to sleep she openend more to be ahout her past and she couldn't stop crying for like 4 hours ...so i listenend to her and i tried to cheered her as much as i can...then we went to sleep ....

as soon the guy wake up he decided to leave and she rushed to leave with him ,so i told her "hey stay it's been a year trying to meet you i have only 4 hours left before i leave so stay" but she didn't want to stay i felt that she was hiding her feelings or running from them .so i didn't force....when i left i send her a message telling her that i had a very lovely moment with her and that i want to see her lovely smile again and i don't want her to see her cry again..

I still want to try because the chemistry and connection with her is so deeep that even the blind can see it..but now she loooks so distant and alooof ..it's been 3 days and still no contacts ....

i want to keep trying cuz there is absolutely something there between us..

I'm her best friend for one year now

Any advice capricorns?

Same old excuse of being being hurt and not wanting a relationship. What was she crying about? Her ex leaving her?

You're wasting your time Mr. Nice Guy.

Posted by saggurl88

Same old excuse of being being hurt and not wanting a relationship. What was she crying about? Her ex leaving her?

You're wasting your time Mr. Nice Guy.

Maybe it's an excuse but i see that she really fear of commitment and that all her Relationshipq didn't last..and about her ex she left him because he didn't trust her at all and prevented her from going out with her Friends or to have any social media accounts

Posted by LoveSeeker

Posted by saggurl88

Same old excuse of being being hurt and not wanting a relationship. What was she crying about? Her ex leaving her?

You're wasting your time Mr. Nice Guy.

Maybe it's an excuse but i see that she really fear of commitment and that all her Relationshipq didn't last..and about her ex she left him because he didn't trust her at all and prevented her from going out with her Friends or to have any social media accounts

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I would take what she says at face value. Most people will get into a relationship when they are interested.

Women are the same as men. Prolonged periods of uncertainty is a bad thing when you are just a "nice guy" to her. At least she's telling you the truth and saying she doesn't want to hurt you.

She knows too much about how you feel about her and she doesn't have enough interest in you to care.

Refocus your energy on someone who likes you in that way. Unless you like her hopeful sob stories.

You will be stringing yourself along though.

I'm not a Cap, maybe Cap women will tell you differently.

Posted by saggurl88

Posted by LoveSeeker

Posted by saggurl88

Same old excuse of being being hurt and not wanting a relationship. What was she crying about? Her ex leaving her?

You're wasting your time Mr. Nice Guy.

Maybe it's an excuse but i see that she really fear of commitment and that all her Relationshipq didn't last..and about her ex she left him because he didn't trust her at all and prevented her from going out with her Friends or to have any social media accounts

I would take what she says at face value. Most people will get into a relationship when they are interested.

Women are the same as men. Prolonged periods of uncertainty is a bad thing when you are just a "nice guy" to her. At least she's telling you the truth and saying she doesn't want to hurt you.

She knows too much about how you feel about her and she doesn't have enough interest in you to care.

Refocus your energy on someone who likes you in that way. Unless you like her hopeful sob stories.

You will be stringing yourself along though.

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First thank you for your feedback Saggurl.

I welcome all the opinions and yeah i some realities are harsh but prefer that than sleep in false hopes

Her relationships dosen't last more than 3 weeks-months but like you said at least she jumps in

is this capricorn tears is acting or she is really opening to me i'm kinda confused now,cuz she said i'm the only one with who she shared her life

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Posted by LoveSeeker

is this capricorn tears is acting or she is really opening to me i'm kinda confused now,cuz she said i'm the only one with who she shared her life

I’m sure her tears are probably sincere and I’m sure she’s grateful for your friendship. But just because a woman opens up to a man doesn’t mean she is able to return the love that you’re offering her. You might find yourself in one of those unrequited love type of situations. In fact she doesn’t really sound healthy for you, so just be careful. Don’t lose yourself trying to save somebody else.

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Hey thanks for your feedback! I'm grateful too for her friendships just felt more can happen....which why iwas still trying.yeah i'm mixing trust and love ...just because for me those qualities goes hand by hand...yeah i'm just her best confidante ...

She's just not that into you.

Tbh, I see red flags from both sides. The fact that you suddenly told her to stop joking with her friend would have thrown me off. Not saying you're a bad guy, just telling you what my feeling would probably have been.

Now, from her side, I feel she is playing with you, plain and simple. The "He loves me..." comment and her telling you about all those other guys and then trying to smooth it over when felt she went too far and risked losing you. Ofc, all cap women aren't the same, but I can tell you that there is no chance in h..l that I would have done that if I was genuinely interested in a guy. Although her crying was probably genuine...would be my guess, at least.

Seems to me she has very low self esteem and uses you to up her ego.

So sorry to have to say this, but you asked for advice and I refuse to lie to you, so this is my honest assessement of what you have written.

Super good luck to you!

She's feeding on you, like a vampire.

Posted by Undine

She's feeding on you, like a vampire.

This sounds kind of sexy, I'd be in for some more if a guy had the nerve to say this to me 😆

She is an alpha widow and will properly be until her 40 because of her hypergamy. The best thing for you to do is walk away.

Posted by SureShotCap

She is an alpha widow and will properly be until her 40 because of her hypergamy. The best thing for you to do is walk away.

Thanks My friend for reply and yes it's kinda difficult for her to commit

Posted by Undine

She's feeding on you, like a vampire.

At least the vampire Bite pain dosen't last that much hahaha

Move on heard from I El Penguino an actual Cap that had to move on myself. The on off thing doesn’t work and is a time waster.