How do you handle being love bombed?

I’ve only been seeing him for 3 days and he’s asking me to be his girlfriend, I’ve met his whole family over FaceTime, we fall asleep on the phone together. I’m 27 he’s 22… usually I never even give chances to men who are even my age I’ve always dated older. But he’s sweet, and I like the attention because I’m just getting out of a relationship.

So my question is how do I avoid getting played by him🤣🤣 I’m trying nit to sleep with him at least until a month but he’s been trying to hang out every day, like really on a mission to make me feel close to him. & I’ve been in this situation before. They love bomb & then their gone or they just play around with you once you’re hooked. So what’s a good way to keep my emotions to my self without coming off too distant…

& also are Leo men players ? Lol he’s a Leo sun, Aries moon, Scorpio Mars, & Virgo Venus. We’re pretty compatible minus my aqua Venus with his Virgo Venus.

Be nice pls 🖤

"How do you handle being love bombed?"



As for the rest, be up front and tell him you just got out of a relationship and need to slow down. I find Ram Moons will run you over with their wants and desires. Be firm and tell him to ease up.

Haha! You're doomed with that Aries moon and Scorp mars coming your way. Good that you are seeing it for what it is.

Put the brakes on hard. The added bonus for doing that will be to see how well he does when the game doesn't go his way. Will he be respectful in your asking him to slow down or will he be a jackass?

Posted by WarAngel

Simple, keep him physically away from you for now.

As you said before, you're just getting out of a previous relationship, no need to jump into one right away. Unless you just want a fling, then have at it.

Man I wish I could! But his friend is kinda fine & he’s older than me, so I’m trying to wait and see what his true intentions are first then I’m gonna give his a friend a wink if he’s not serious 😉

Posted by ImperfectStorm

I have Virgo Venus and I don’t handle it well at all. Lol it makes me feel… nervous. So it surprises me that he’s the one doing the love bombing but he’s got a lot of fire in his chart so it makes sense.

He’s also a cancer mercury! I’ve dated plenty of Virgo Venus's, no idea why they’re so attracted to my aqua stellium a** lol. But they have a hard time settling, also lots of head games.

That Virgo Venus doesn't stand a chance with everything else he's got going on.

Posted by geminiflyby

That Virgo Venus doesn't stand a chance with everything else he's got going on.

Agreed lmao.

Posted by stardustmop

You couldn’t pay me to date a 22 year old.

They prob wouldn’t be payed to date you either! I don’t look 27 😅

This is where I love the Aqua's. They know what's up and will analyze themselves all the way to and OVER the edge of the cliff. You know you're in a vulnerable place. Don't make a mistake you might regret. Find out more about the friend! 😇😈

Posted by geminiflyby

This is where I love the Aqua's. They know what's up and will analyze themselves all the way to and OVER the edge of the cliff. You know you're in a vulnerable place. Don't make a mistake you might regret. Find out more about the friend! 😇😈

Very very true. I’m definitely being tested right now. Thank you for the positive comment. & you know us aqua’s love the gem’s lol

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Posted by stardustmop

You couldn’t pay me to date a 22 year old.

They prob wouldn’t be payed to date you either! I don’t look 27 😅

Judging by the amount of them in my inbox on dating sites your assumption would be incorrect. They don’t have any dating standards at 22. They just want to get their stick wet. But carry on.

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That’s normal for dating sites. This is a very successful/popular/attractive person for even at 22 makes a lot more $ than I do & has lots of options. & He approached me irl. But you’re right I am being very precautious & keeping my heart to myself because of his age.

I think he’s just 22

I was 26 dating a 22yr old. Its worked out so far 🤞. Don’t count him out just cause of the age thing.

Posted by LadyNeptune

I was 26 dating a 22yr old. Its worked out so far 🤞. Don’t count him out just cause of the age thing.

AGREED. Normally I turn down men who’re even just a year younger than me. But his approach was different, so I don’t see why I can’t see what’s up lol men do it all the time. He’s very mature but in due time we’ll see 🤞🏼

By being real with yourself, are your dating goals to find a life partner to live happily ever after with or to pass some time with (whether it’s a few weeks or a few years)? If it’s the latter, then by all means submit yourself to the love bombing. If it’s the former, you seriously believe a 22 year old is going to settle for you for the rest of his life?

Posted by Purpleaqua01

Posted by LadyNeptune

I was 26 dating a 22yr old. Its worked out so far 🤞. Don’t count him out just cause of the age thing.

AGREED. Normally I turn down men who’re even just a year younger than me. But his approach was different, so I don’t see why I can’t see what’s up lol men do it all the time. He’s very mature but in due time we’ll see 🤞🏼

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Yes time will tell. Until then set your boundaries and pace that you feel comfy with.

Let’s not confuse love bombing with making up your mind after only a few months. Plenty of time to understand the mind of the other, if you really want to, assuming that you are not a self obsessed, me, me, me type of person, who mistakes dating for cheap therapy or an occasion to brag to a stranger.

If you know what you want, and the feeling is mutual, why not? Or is dragging your feet and poisoning the relationship with petty red flags the typical success story?

In contrast, “love bombing” is a manipulative behaviour used by narcissists and other deranged people.

My father settled down with my mother for the rest of his life

He was 22

She was 24

She was his true love ❤️

Who knows?

Not all men are the same ....

Posted by Purpleaqua01

I’ve only been seeing him for 3 days and he’s asking me to be his girlfriend, I’ve met his whole family over FaceTime, we fall asleep on the phone together. I’m 27 he’s 22… usually I never even give chances to men who are even my age I’ve always dated older. But he’s sweet, and I like the attention because I’m just getting out of a relationship.

So my question is how do I avoid getting played by him🤣🤣 I’m trying nit to sleep with him at least until a month but he’s been trying to hang out every day, like really on a mission to make me feel close to him. & I’ve been in this situation before. They love bomb & then their gone or they just play around with you once you’re hooked. So what’s a good way to keep my emotions to my self without coming off too distant…

& also are Leo men players ? Lol he’s a Leo sun, Aries moon, Scorpio Mars, & Virgo Venus. We’re pretty compatible minus my aqua Venus with his Virgo Venus.

Be nice pls 🖤

You run. That's how you handle it.

Love bombing i don’t deal with. There are also ones who know they like you and try to lock you down quickly. They tend to be a bit on the controlling side.

Then there are those that just know it when they see it. I think you just have to observe and see the situation for how it is. There are people ready for relationships early. The guy I met this week & have seen 3 times was married at 19 and was married for 31 years before she died. Said it was a happy 31 years. So age means nothing. Said they just knew it was right immediately.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Love bombing i don’t deal with. There are also ones who know they like you and try to lock you down quickly. They tend to be a bit on the controlling side.

Then there are those that just know it when they see it. I think you just have to observe and see the situation for how it is. There are people ready for relationships early. The guy I met this week & have seen 3 times was married at 19 and was married for 31 years before she died. Said it was a happy 31 years. So age means nothing. Said they just knew it was right immediately.

Like my dad....said he saw my mum from the back and new she was the one .... he was a teen

❤️

Posted by Wizardz2

Posted by Purpleaqua01

I’ve only been seeing him for 3 days and he’s asking me to be his girlfriend, I’ve met his whole family over FaceTime, we fall asleep on the phone together. I’m 27 he’s 22… usually I never even give chances to men who are even my age I’ve always dated older. But he’s sweet, and I like the attention because I’m just getting out of a relationship.

So my question is how do I avoid getting played by him🤣🤣 I’m trying nit to sleep with him at least until a month but he’s been trying to hang out every day, like really on a mission to make me feel close to him. & I’ve been in this situation before. They love bomb & then their gone or they just play around with you once you’re hooked. So what’s a good way to keep my emotions to my self without coming off too distant…

& also are Leo men players ? Lol he’s a Leo sun, Aries moon, Scorpio Mars, & Virgo Venus. We’re pretty compatible minus my aqua Venus with his Virgo Venus.

Be nice pls 🖤

Why don't you just have fun with it? You're 27 and you've known him 3 days. If he wants to act like this then that's his problem but just think of you and what you want out of it. If you want to sleep with him for a bit and then dump his ass, then do that. Not sleeping with him for a month as some kind of tactic is only going to involve your emotions more, not less.

You don't want him to be a player but why not play him instead? Or just be firm to what you want instead of worrying he will get what he wants from you and then bail

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The old me could do this. But idk I’ve been so in touch with my emotions lately smh. No lies here. But my last relationship was extremely karmic & traumatic. A couple months ago the same exact situation happening now is repeating itself, I met this guy except he was my age & we both fell instantly or at least I thought he did. Turned out he was a serial ghoster & did this to sooo many other women & broke each of their hearts as well. So since then I’ve been guarded with that situation & my ex. I know my heart rn & unfortunately I’m pretty vulnerable. It took me months to let go of the last guy who I only dated for 2 weeks. Sad, but true. I hate liars.

Idk it sounds weird but I’m nit looking for a relationship or at least nit anything serious. I want someone to have fun with. But I’m worried that he’s nit on the same page either he’s lying, or he’s actually really serious. But he wants me to pick him up from the airport, meet his family, post each other… picking someone up from the airport takes months of trust for my little aqua heart 😂 that’s a lot for me!! I can handle meeting his family. But the airport ?!? I need a ring.(jk) no but for real I need to figure out how to slow things down without hurting his feelings. Cause once my feelings are involved sh*t will get real.

I don’t see how love bombing can be genuine… it’s one thing to be smitten or lustful. None of the acts or depth is there at the beginning to love bomb someone. Normally the ones I see that do that have some control issue or insecure.

I can romance you easy… I can’t target until I know you

Posted by hellosaggy

I don’t see how love bombing can be genuine… it’s one thing to be smitten or lustful. None of the acts or depth is there at the beginning to love bomb someone. Normally the ones I see that do that have some control issue or insecure.

I can romance you easy… I can’t target until I know you

Exactly.