Gemini man ''need time''

Im an Aries woman seeing a Gemini man for 5 months. Long-distance, meeting once a month. Overall we are ok, have good and positive communication, good sexual tension etc..

Yet, for past week I have acted out quite bad, threw unreasonable jealousy scene (he posted a pic with cute colleagues) and went crazy when he did not call me, when we were supposed to talk. So, we kinda moved on from it, but then I said a stupid joke, which he completely missunderstood, as if Im watching each of his step. That was not true, but I see how he thought its shitty, as Ive been acting out lately..

Now, he is angry with me for getting on his nerves for my scenes. He asked for some time to calm down. I couldnt wait and next day asked if he is better, to which he said - I asked you for some time, and you could not even wait for 24h.

Question - is that normal for Gems? Should I worry he is pulling himself away? Or does he really just need some time to calm down.. but for how long!? (he said he does not know)

Let him be, yall not even in a relationship

Has he done something else to inspire these feelings in you?

Posted by but_didyoudie

i really think that the fact that gems have like a split personality disorder is messing up my analysis database.... is that how an aries / gem relationship goes?

I don’t know if it’s the same when Aries is a woman...it’s seems to me that LDR is hard to handle.

Once a month meetings isn’t much material to work with. Multiplied by young age...considering air and fire...

The best I’ve read here goes:

Fire heats up the chilly air, and fire signs help air signs warm up and take chances. But another fire-air scenario is blowing out a match—one gust of wind from the wrong direction and the flame goes out.

So beware!🧟‍♀️

Took him whole day, but this morning I woke up with a message from him, that he misses me. Relief.

Like I said, I understand that I messed up and where his annoyance came from. Maybe I'm justifying his ''need for space'', but this is how I used to deal with things before, giving hard silent-treatments to whoever pissed me off. So I kind of understand. Now Ive learned to speak up, but to an extent that might not respect others' need to take some time to calm down.

As to LDR - yes, this is tough and is my first experience. He has a specific shift-based work, when he is all over the world, so we try to plan and work this out as much as we can. Of course I am considerate with where it leads to, just unfortunate we met right at the time, he decided to move away, but we addressed it right away and decided to ''give it a try''.

I am crazy, I know that. Im impatient, demanding and all over the place. But Im also understanding, flexible and can adapt when its reasonable to. Gemini is my first experience, so its important to understand him to make it work,

Posted by Foxy777

You are not ready for a relationship...you are too emotionally fragile.

what makes you think like that? A genuine question?

lol at so much controlling drama. Be that mans peace! Leave him a lone and let him come back if he likes you.

Aries woman, gem man thats a big NOPE. Aries is impulsive, so is Gem. Aries is stubborn, so can Gem be and you better believe it won’t seem “reasonable” do you like kids? Gem is like an overgrown toddler at times so have fun 😂 Gem don’t like drama or demanding woman soooo 😬

Haha I 💕 💎 😎

Posted by Cucuks123

So, we kinda moved on from it, but then I said a stupid joke, which he completely missunderstood, as if Im watching each of his step. That was not true, but I see how he thought its shitty, as Ive been acting out lately..

Those jokes go over better if you can say em face to face. Because you are long distance its a bit trickier. Lots of miscommunication can occur.

If he asks for space, give him space. He will come back 2xs as strong.

Imo 5 months is a long time to be dating without forward momentum. What is next steps? Does he want exclusivity? A relationship? Do you?

And are these topics of conversation between the 2 of you? If not you might want to bring it up. Cause your acting jealous over a photo cause you don't have stability or commitment from him and 1xs per month in person is not enough face time for you to have those things.

Something to consider...

I joked with my dude yesterday. Why you taking a shower? Whose pussy you been in? Whip it out lemme smell it just to make sure.

Context: he just had a haircut and had to jump into the shower. Lol he could tell I was fucking with him. But if I pulled that move over text it might not have been all laughs. He wouldn't have seen my shit eating grin and might've gotten butt hurt, taken it seriously and all that. Gotta be careful when it comes to communication thats not face to face, sometimes wires get crossed and intent/vibes get lost in translation.

Gems can give it but (sometimes) can't take it. Big softies like that.

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Posted by Moonbutter

Aries woman, gem man thats a big NOPE. Aries is impulsive, so is Gem. Aries is stubborn, so can Gem be and you better believe it won’t seem “reasonable” do you like kids? Gem is like an overgrown toddler at times so have fun 😂 Gem don’t like drama or demanding woman soooo 😬

Haha I 💕 💎 😎

Makes no sense that you lecture someone on a connection you know nothing about 🤷‍♀️ Only the signs involved knows what the connection is/can be like, this much I’ve learned.

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I know Aries & I know Gems...nough said 😆

Posted by emeraldgem

Yeah, I get amused AF when I see someone freaking out when it's a couple of days and they haven't gotten the expected number of texts. Wait a week, then post your drama.

If they wait a week though, the said Gem will be long gone eloped with one on the way 🤣

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Posted by Cucuks123

So, we kinda moved on from it, but then I said a stupid joke, which he completely missunderstood, as if Im watching each of his step. That was not true, but I see how he thought its shitty, as Ive been acting out lately..

Those jokes go over better if you can say em face to face. Because you are long distance its a bit trickier. Lots of miscommunication can occur.

If he asks for space, give him space. He will come back 2xs as strong.

Imo 5 months is a long time to be dating without forward momentum. What is next steps? Does he want exclusivity? A relationship? Do you?

And are these topics of conversation between the 2 of you? If not you might want to bring it up. Cause your acting jealous over a photo cause you don't have stability or commitment from him and 1xs per month in person is not enough face time for you to have those things.

Something to consider...

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We are exclusive, we talked about it and agreed to that right before he moved. I dont know what is the ''end-goal'' for us, and honestly - its still too soon to talk about it, yet I completely agree. I would like to hear his perspective, but dont want to scare him off for touching this topic just in such a short time. It is my first LDR (not for him) and yes, it is tough, but im learning on the go.

Due his work-specifics, he cannot pre-plan his days off, and we would always know like 3 weeks in advance max. When flights are more expensive, restricting a bit.

So yeah.. a bit shitty feeling to look at it, once written down..

One more thing - Ive read that Geminis are often referred like child-men, and I must say he does act like hes an overgrown boy. In fact, hes 3 years younger and, as silly as it might sound - I feel the gap and sometimes it annoys me.

In fact - I think I lack his attention sometimes, so maybe my tantrums is just a scream for attention. As an aries - I demand, not ask, you know? So, when he would not respond or be too rational when planning flights (costs vs meeting for 2 days only), drives me nuts but all I want is just to hear something sweet putting ''emotional value'' over financial, you know?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Cucuks123

So, we kinda moved on from it, but then I said a stupid joke, which he completely missunderstood, as if Im watching each of his step. That was not true, but I see how he thought its shitty, as Ive been acting out lately..

Those jokes go over better if you can say em face to face. Because you are long distance its a bit trickier. Lots of miscommunication can occur.

If he asks for space, give him space. He will come back 2xs as strong.

Imo 5 months is a long time to be dating without forward momentum. What is next steps? Does he want exclusivity? A relationship? Do you?

And are these topics of conversation between the 2 of you? If not you might want to bring it up. Cause your acting jealous over a photo cause you don't have stability or commitment from him and 1xs per month in person is not enough face time for you to have those things.

Something to consider...

We are exclusive, we talked about it and agreed to that right before he moved. I dont know what is the ''end-goal'' for us, and honestly - its still too soon to talk about it, yet I completely agree. I would like to hear his perspective, but dont want to scare him off for touching this topic just in such a short time. It is my first LDR (not for him) and yes, it is tough, but im learning on the go.

Due his work-specifics, he cannot pre-plan his days off, and we would always know like 3 weeks in advance max. When flights are more expensive, restricting a bit.

So yeah.. a bit shitty feeling to look at it, once written down..

One more thing - Ive read that Geminis are often referred like child-men, and I must say he does act like hes an overgrown boy. In fact, hes 3 years younger and, as silly as it might sound - I feel the gap and sometimes it annoys me.

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End game should be to live in the same place so it’s no longer long distance I’d imagine. And in the meanwhile it might be helpful to have a scheduled FaceTime/Skype date 1-2xs per week (depending on your schedules) so even if things get busy during the week you have those times to look forward to.

And don’t feel like your gonna ‘scare him off’ by discussing the relationship. If he’s scared then he ain’t the right one 🤷‍♀️