Tenpxd
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I am. I’ve had a troubling past sexually and I finally got to a point where I realized and embraced that I don’t owe anyone anything and my body is mine to do what I wish. I had very poor self worth and made a lot of bad decisions out of lack of sexual and relationship education. I’m happy not to have it as a main focus in my life. I can have sex any time but it’s not one of my motivators—I want a lot more out of life. Self respect is priceless and when I’m ready, I will. But I haven’t had anyone show me they are worth giving myself to in a very long time. Tired of regrets. I’m not living like that anymore.
What’s your motivation for celibacy? I think it’s been over two years now but I can’t really remember. I haven’t been focused on it at all really. I’ve been focused on improving my soul, and what I can bring to the table.
What’s your motivation for celibacy? I think it’s been over two years now but I can’t really remember. I haven’t been focused on it at all really. I’ve been focused on improving my soul, and what I can bring to the table.
Does this mean no dating? Or dating while celibate? And for how long? Inquiring minds lol
I don’t think if it as celibate or abstinence.. I’m focused on someone being a relationship possibility, not casual. So of course if I haven’t found someone like that, I’m not having sex.
I don’t think if it as celibate or abstinence.. I’m focused on someone being a relationship possibility, not casual. So of course if I haven’t found someone like that, I’m not having sex.
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Sounds boring though.
Posted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.
I wouldn't call my process celibacy but I tend to take tolerance brakes just to test myself. Usually I set a goal for 3 months periodically and I actually still date casually during that time frame. Some have side dick I'm sure but what do I care it's about me being the boss of my strong urges. Side note does bjs count as still being celibate.
Posted by Aqua-MarinePosted by AbbyNormalPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.
Yeah same here. I feel the same way you do about it.click to expand
I feel the same way too
Feeling sexually dependent on someone made me feel powerless and distracted me too much. I feel freer now.
Posted by Tenpxd
Who in here is sexually abstinent.
You mean incel?
Posted by AbbyNormal
I am. I’ve had a troubling past sexually and I finally got to a point where I realized and embraced that I don’t owe anyone anything and my body is mine to do what I wish. I had very poor self worth and made a lot of bad decisions out of lack of sexual and relationship education. I’m happy not to have it as a main focus in my life. I can have sex any time but it’s not one of my motivators—I want a lot more out of life. Self respect is priceless and when I’m ready, I will. But I haven’t had anyone show me they are worth giving myself to in a very long time. Tired of regrets. I’m not living like that anymore.
What’s your motivation for celibacy? I think it’s been over two years now but I can’t really remember. I haven’t been focused on it at all really. I’ve been focused on improving my soul, and what I can bring to the table.
Yes I was reading earlier a quote that said
You are sacred land, choose your travelers wisely.
Posted by LibraSupreme
I wouldn't call my process celibacy but I tend to take tolerance brakes just to test myself. Usually I set a goal for 3 months periodically and I actually still date casually during that time frame. Some have side dick I'm sure but what do I care it's about me being the boss of my strong urges. Side note does bjs count as still being celibate.
I like that 3 month goal
Bjs is part of the sexual act
Posted by Marai
There was a period in life where I have been for like 2,5 years or so. It's amazing, I was so focused and in the clouds at some point. It was like having superpowers. Good luck, it's great!
Drinks make me horny so I need to know who to be around and where to be when having drinks, it’s not easy to get the urge and pump the breaks
Posted by PuzzlePieces
Does this mean no dating? Or dating while celibate? And for how long? Inquiring minds lol
I don’t think if it as celibate or abstinence.. I’m focused on someone being a relationship possibility, not casual. So of course if I haven’t found someone like that, I’m not having sex.
Dating but no sex. It’s hard imo but I want to try this thing out.
Posted by ClassyAquariusPosted by Tenpxd
Who in here is sexually abstinent.
I want to try this for a while, wish me luck.
More than year for me 🙋🏻♀️click to expand
Wow!!!!!! For me it’s been 2 weeks and I’m just really trying to keep it going, it’s hard for me. Especially when I see the person of my interest.
Posted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Girl it’s a hard challenge for those who enjoy it. I think boring is not my concern. I just want to learn to control my urges
Posted by AbbyNormalPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.click to expand
Being in love and making love is what I want to focus on
Posted by Aqua-Marine
I am. It is wonderful because you focus more on the less superficial parts of life.
I think it runs in my family though cause I can assure all these years Ive been living in the same house hold as my grandparents and single mom. Who rarely even dates these days. Aint nothing going on. I an so surprised by how hard it is for people to be celibate.
I have my own place and those sleep overs are tough... I gotta send to the couch
Posted by Antiphates
I am.
Good luck, but it's not that hard or complicated to pull off.
I truly enjoy it as much as gym rats like working out, it’s hard
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by Aqua-MarinePosted by AbbyNormalPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.
Yeah same here. I feel the same way you do about it.
I feel the same way too
Feeling sexually dependent on someone made me feel powerless and distracted me too much. I feel freer now.click to expand
Sexually dependent how is that
Posted by Enfant-Terrible-IIPosted by Tenpxd
Who in here is sexually abstinent.
You mean incel?click to expand
To make love to someone I love. Yeah
Posted by TenpxdPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Girl it’s a hard challenge for those who enjoy it. I think boring is not my concern. I just want to learn to control my urgesclick to expand
Hopefully it helps then!
I thought the pandemic helped plenty singles with celibacy. You’re late! 😝
i haven't had sex in months
does that count?
now i feel asexual
does that count?
now i feel asexual
Posted by MaraiPosted by TenpxdPosted by Marai
There was a period in life where I have been for like 2,5 years or so. It's amazing, I was so focused and in the clouds at some point. It was like having superpowers. Good luck, it's great!
Drinks make me horny so I need to know who to be around and where to be when having drinks, it’s not easy to get the urge and pump the breaks
Quit drinking too. Maybe start for a month first... You'll feel great 🙂click to expand
I enjoy having drinks at least once a month
Posted by saggurl88Posted by TenpxdPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Girl it’s a hard challenge for those who enjoy it. I think boring is not my concern. I just want to learn to control my urges
Hopefully it helps then!
I thought the pandemic helped plenty singles with celibacy. You’re late! 😝click to expand
Girl I’m sadg nothing stops us
Posted by virgoOPPP
i haven't had sex in months
does that count?
now i feel asexual
Months like 2,3,4 ?
Posted by virgoOPPP
i haven't had sex in months
does that count?
now i feel asexual
Months like 2,3,4 ?
Posted by _mudra_
I have not had sex by choice for about 9ish months now. With the type of toys they make these days, you really don't need to go through all the trouble of dating and situationships HAHA
Toys are not fulfilling to everyone
Posted by LittleStar_II
Minus a COVID mistake it’s been about 9 months?? Can’t remember?
Lol I had a COVID mistake too
Posted by TenpxdPosted by virgoOPPP
i haven't had sex in months
does that count?
now i feel asexual
Months like 2,3,4 ?click to expand
something like 4 yeah
Posted by TenpxdPosted by saggurl88Posted by TenpxdPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Girl it’s a hard challenge for those who enjoy it. I think boring is not my concern. I just want to learn to control my urges
Hopefully it helps then!
I thought the pandemic helped plenty singles with celibacy. You’re late! 😝
Girl I’m sadg nothing stops usclick to expand
Then the break may be helpful. 😊
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
Posted by TenpxdPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Aqua-MarinePosted by AbbyNormalPosted by saggurl88
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.
Yeah same here. I feel the same way you do about it.
I feel the same way too
Feeling sexually dependent on someone made me feel powerless and distracted me too much. I feel freer now.
Sexually dependent how is thatclick to expand
As in with drugs, booze etc.....using it to feel better about myself. I've worked on not having to reach outside of myself to make me feel whole. I changed a pattern which wasn't healthy. I realised after seeing a father that was dependent on medication, that I may have have inherited his addictive personality, so i fixed it 💚
I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
Posted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
Posted by xXxAliiciaXxX
I've spent more time being celibate than sexually active.
It has its benefits but I wouldn't necessarily call it life changing.
Is that due to choice Alicia or circumstances?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴click to expand
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat them
Posted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat themclick to expand
I gave up sugar and after the initial yearning, I’m not dying to eat it....
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat them
I gave up sugar and after the initial yearning, I’m not dying to eat it....click to expand
Me too and you are right your body gets used to it but at times I still crave for sweets. I eat like 2 pieces of dark chocolate with low sugar every day because your body needs some sugar. I haven't eaten pizza for like almost 2 years though.
Posted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat them
I gave up sugar and after the initial yearning, I’m not dying to eat it....
Me too and you are right your body gets used to it but at times I still crave for sweets. I eat like 2 pieces of dark chocolate with low sugar every day because your body needs some sugar. I haven't eaten pizza for like almost 2 years though.click to expand
Well done..did you give up for health reasons?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat them
I gave up sugar and after the initial yearning, I’m not dying to eat it....
Me too and you are right your body gets used to it but at times I still crave for sweets. I eat like 2 pieces of dark chocolate with low sugar every day because your body needs some sugar. I haven't eaten pizza for like almost 2 years though.
Well done..did you give up for health reasons?click to expand
Yes and I am trying to prevent things. I know a few people who suffer from diabetes and it runs through my family as well. I am good but who knows what happens.
Posted by TenpxdPosted by PuzzlePieces
Does this mean no dating? Or dating while celibate? And for how long? Inquiring minds lol
I don’t think if it as celibate or abstinence.. I’m focused on someone being a relationship possibility, not casual. So of course if I haven’t found someone like that, I’m not having sex.
Dating but no sex. It’s hard imo but I want to try this thing out.click to expand
Um ok. Maybe think in terms of relationship focused instead of sex focused. I find sex is way better with someone you care about instead of someone you just met. It’s been 3 1/2 months for me, since the last relationship. It’s not hard. Yes I’ve been dating.
Posted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSagPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheSag I don't really see any long-term benefits in being celibate but maybe it's different for women because most men who walk down the streets in the summer feel like forced monks anyway.
But when you want to lose weight and feel more healthy overall you don't quit eating, you just go on a diet.
If you quit eating, you die
If you quit sex, you don’t
🥴
maybe not physically..
Let's say you like eating chocolate ice cream cake cookies. You know it's bad for you and you quit eating them and even though you don't die you would still DIE to eat them
I gave up sugar and after the initial yearning, I’m not dying to eat it....
Me too and you are right your body gets used to it but at times I still crave for sweets. I eat like 2 pieces of dark chocolate with low sugar every day because your body needs some sugar. I haven't eaten pizza for like almost 2 years though.
Well done..did you give up for health reasons?
Yes and I am trying to prevent things. I know a few people who suffer from diabetes and it runs through my family as well. I am good but who knows what happens.click to expand
Wise man!
Posted by TimonPosted by saggurl88
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.click to expand
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Posted by xXxAliiciaXxXPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by xXxAliiciaXxX
I've spent more time being celibate than sexually active.
It has its benefits but I wouldn't necessarily call it life changing.
Is that due to choice Alicia or circumstances?
Choice.
Although I've had one night stands and I'm not against them, I prefer sex with someone who knows me and cares for me and vice versa.
That's the best kind of sex imo.click to expand
I’m the same
Posted by saggurl88Posted by TimonPosted by saggurl88
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.click to expand
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
I fucked too much and now my cervix feels damaged lol
Posted by LittleStar_IIPosted by TenpxdPosted by LittleStar_II
Minus a COVID mistake it’s been about 9 months?? Can’t remember?
Lol I had a COVID mistake too
And boy did I regret it. 🤦🏻♀️click to expand
Oops!
Posted by Jade_Alexander
I made it roughly five weeks before bedding the Aries
But when done he and I both felt neutral about sex again.
I am at the brink of embracing celibacy because Im needing more emotional intimacy. The fun of casual sex wire off fast.
My Sag was celibate for 2 year prior to me. Amd if I can’t have sex with someone who evokes the kind of emotion he did... Im not feeling interested or fulfilled
Hey 5 weeks it’s a start I’m going on 3 weeks and proud of myself
I've had a few periods where I didn't date.
Covid makes it tougher now, but I have a few FWBs. So no, I'm not celibate.
As things open up there are going to be a lot horny people out there, especially as the bars open up.
Since the border is still closed...for any ladies in Canada...
Still looking for more than just a physical connection...as always. 🙂
Covid makes it tougher now, but I have a few FWBs. So no, I'm not celibate.
As things open up there are going to be a lot horny people out there, especially as the bars open up.
Since the border is still closed...for any ladies in Canada...
Still looking for more than just a physical connection...as always. 🙂
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