@MyStarsShine
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I just don’t know how people can have sex with randos or people whose hygiene and sexual practice/history you know nothing about.
No thanks to empty sex. Feels like rape...at least for me.
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
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It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
There's SO MUCH more to life than sex though 🤔
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Sex can take as little as 3 minutes. So let’s hope so!
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
I know plenty of essential workers who are still taking precautions
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She was specifically asking about me having sex with my ex.
I’m not talking about everywhere else. My county doesn’t have big numbers and both of us work by ourselves. It’s low risk.
I have more risk going into a grocery store
I have done it for about a year or so b4. It was due to PTSD from a traumatizing relationship tho...wasnt a conscious decision. I didnt want to be touched by anyone. I'm still working thru that tho and have only aloud 2 ppl to touch me since. I can say that it did free me up a bit in my mind and I focused more on myself during that period and I have started to find who I am again.
i haven't had sex in months
does that count?
now i feel asexual
Months like 2,3,4 ?
something like 4 yeah
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That’s pretty good !
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
I think sags like familiarity when it comes to sex.
Who in here is sexually abstinent.
I want to try this for a while, wish me luck.
More than year for me 🙋🏻♀️
Wow!!!!!! For me it’s been 2 weeks and I’m just really trying to keep it going, it’s hard for me. Especially when I see the person of my interest.
sorry I didn't explain myself. The point is I'm not stimulated because I don't meet men recently.
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I think that’s good 🙂
It definitely helps to stay away from attractive men
There was a period in life where I have been for like 2,5 years or so. It's amazing, I was so focused and in the clouds at some point. It was like having superpowers. Good luck, it's great!
Drinks make me horny so I need to know who to be around and where to be when having drinks, it’s not easy to get the urge and pump the breaks
Quit drinking too. Maybe start for a month first... You'll feel great 🙂
I enjoy having drinks at least once a month
Once a month is ok. But when you start vasting you might not even want it anymore😉
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I’m not big on drinks I do enjoy occasionally but when I drink I do get in the mood and I’ve called me ex 😢
You gotta do NoFap to or its cheating
What’s that
I have not had sex by choice for about 9ish months now. With the type of toys they make these days, you really don't need to go through all the trouble of dating and situationships HAHA
Toys are not fulfilling to everyone
Well no sht. But when you're busy and not feeling like putting up with anyone elses BS, they bring some sweet relief in the frustrated moments. Unless you suck at pleasuring yourself.
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I’m good no toys here!
Good luck.
Sounds boring though.
Far from. I find a sexually focused life to be boring, but to each their own. Sex becomes boring to me when it’s lackluster. And that’s what it always seemed to be for me before the actual groundwork was laid. I just crave so much more than just the physical. Best sex I ever had was being in love and making love, everything else just isn’t the same for me like not at all on the same level. I find that physicality is empty for me without more, I’m a spiritual being and I need a deeper connection to truly enjoy it myself. There’s so much more in life and in love to me.
Yeah same here. I feel the same way you do about it.
I feel the same way too
Feeling sexually dependent on someone made me feel powerless and distracted me too much. I feel freer now.
Sexually dependent how is that
As in with drugs, booze etc.....using it to feel better about myself. I've worked on not having to reach outside of myself to make me feel whole. I changed a pattern which wasn't healthy. I realised after seeing a father that was dependent on medication, that I may have have inherited his addictive personality, so i fixed it 💚
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How did you do that
Does this mean no dating? Or dating while celibate? And for how long? Inquiring minds lol
I don’t think if it as celibate or abstinence.. I’m focused on someone being a relationship possibility, not casual. So of course if I haven’t found someone like that, I’m not having sex.
Dating but no sex. It’s hard imo but I want to try this thing out.
Um ok. Maybe think in terms of relationship focused instead of sex focused. I find sex is way better with someone you care about instead of someone you just met. It’s been 3 1/2 months for me, since the last relationship. It’s not hard. Yes I’ve been dating.
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That’s very good i agree sex is better with someone I care about, I want to keep dating but also no sex during the dating process.
It's been about 11 years for me. But then again, being fuglier than a mud fence in a monsoon sure does help ... 🙂
After 2 years, it all starts to blend together and you'll lose track ... 😛
"Incel" is a meaningless fucking term cobbled together by assholes who shouldn't be getting laid to smear anyone that should be getting laid. Nobody's involuntary celibate. Nobody. You either pay the hooker's going rate, or you get a nice little gumjob from the toothless little cupcake on the corner waiting on her pusher, or you fucking don't ... 😄
11years wow do you at least give it to yourself
I just don’t know how people can have sex with randos or people whose hygiene and sexual practice/history you know nothing about.
No thanks to empty sex. Feels like rape...at least for me.
Empty sex sux!
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
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Do you kiss him even if he’s your f buddy
There was a period in life where I have been for like 2,5 years or so. It's amazing, I was so focused and in the clouds at some point. It was like having superpowers. Good luck, it's great!
Drinks make me horny so I need to know who to be around and where to be when having drinks, it’s not easy to get the urge and pump the breaks
Quit drinking too. Maybe start for a month first... You'll feel great 🙂
I enjoy having drinks at least once a month
Once a month is ok. But when you start vasting you might not even want it anymore😉
I’m not big on drinks I do enjoy occasionally but when I drink I do get in the mood and I’ve called me ex 😢
Oh no! Delete your ex's contact. Fresh start 🙂
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I know I did this past week after I decided I need to stop the sex thing
I have done it for about a year or so b4. It was due to PTSD from a traumatizing relationship tho...wasnt a conscious decision. I didnt want to be touched by anyone. I'm still working thru that tho and have only aloud 2 ppl to touch me since. I can say that it did free me up a bit in my mind and I focused more on myself during that period and I have started to find who I am again.
I’m glad you’re better and sorry for your situation
You gotta do NoFap to or its cheating
What’s that
Don't play with your hoohaa
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Unfair
i haven't been celibate for longer than a month in the past 10 years, so i'm giving it a try now lol
You gotta do NoFap to or its cheating
What’s that
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No Wanking, Masturbaring, Jerking off etc
😀
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It will be four years 8/1 for me. It's a journey but to me its worth it all. I feel and think more clearly.
Soul ties are real out here!!!
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
Do you kiss him even if he’s your f buddy
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He's a Scorpio, I don't think I'd be able to get away with not kissing him. 🙂
I did it for several years and had to isolate myself severely during that time to stay away from one ex in particular....I think the sexual aspect was the easiest at first, though there were periods I think I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. The worst part for me was honestly this really strong yearning I felt to have a warm body next to me in bed...so basically cuddling lol....
I think, as much as it can be a healthy thing for some depending on circumstances, it can also push you into some very unhealthy behaviors or states of mind if you isolate yourself socially like I did. I became hypersensitive to anything sexual after a while. At one point, I remember talking to an ex over the phone, which was one of the most terrible relationships I've ever been in, and she tried to spark up some sexy talk with me and I felt like I had almost no self control - like she could literally mind-control me via my genitals if I kept that convo going. It was a really strange experience, felt like pure euphoria actually, and I'm just thankful I was living far away from her at the time bc if not, I would've def made a bad decision. I took a cold shower afterwards and had all sorts of crazy dreams and heavy/intrusive fantasies about our former sex life for months after.
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
cheers to that 🙂
There was a period in life where I have been for like 2,5 years or so. It's amazing, I was so focused and in the clouds at some point. It was like having superpowers. Good luck, it's great!
Drinks make me horny so I need to know who to be around and where to be when having drinks, it’s not easy to get the urge and pump the breaks
Quit drinking too. Maybe start for a month first... You'll feel great 🙂
I enjoy having drinks at least once a month
Once a month is ok. But when you start vasting you might not even want it anymore😉
I’m not big on drinks I do enjoy occasionally but when I drink I do get in the mood and I’ve called me ex 😢
Oh no! Delete your ex's contact. Fresh start 🙂
I know I did this past week after I decided I need to stop the sex thing
You'll be ok! 🍀
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I know, I’m sure there better D in the future
i haven't been celibate for longer than a month in the past 10 years, so i'm giving it a try now lol
Let me know how it goes I’m on 3 weeks now going on 4... I keep avoiding drinks and company from any ex
You gotta do NoFap to or its cheating
What’s that
No Wanking, Masturbaring, Jerking off etc
😀
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I can’t I do that daily
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
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It will be four years 8/1 for me. It's a journey but to me its worth it all. I feel and think more clearly.
Soul ties are real out here!!!
Proud of you!!! That’s great
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
Do you kiss him even if he’s your f buddy
He's a Scorpio, I don't think I'd be able to get away with not kissing him. 🙂
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Oh Fuck but kissing makes it more intimate
Sounds more like you don't make good connections.
Sounds is the key word here
I did it for several years and had to isolate myself severely during that time to stay away from one ex in particular....I think the sexual aspect was the easiest at first, though there were periods I think I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. The worst part for me was honestly this really strong yearning I felt to have a warm body next to me in bed...so basically cuddling lol....
I think, as much as it can be a healthy thing for some depending on circumstances, it can also push you into some very unhealthy behaviors or states of mind if you isolate yourself socially like I did. I became hypersensitive to anything sexual after a while. At one point, I remember talking to an ex over the phone, which was one of the most terrible relationships I've ever been in, and she tried to spark up some sexy talk with me and I felt like I had almost no self control - like she could literally mind-control me via my genitals if I kept that convo going. It was a really strange experience, felt like pure euphoria actually, and I'm just thankful I was living far away from her at the time bc if not, I would've def made a bad decision. I took a cold shower afterwards and had all sorts of crazy dreams and heavy/intrusive fantasies about our former sex life for months after.
I watch porn daily to replace sex with a person it’s definitely unhealthy
It's been about 11 years for me. But then again, being fuglier than a mud fence in a monsoon sure does help ... 🙂
After 2 years, it all starts to blend together and you'll lose track ... 😛
"Incel" is a meaningless fucking term cobbled together by assholes who shouldn't be getting laid to smear anyone that should be getting laid. Nobody's involuntary celibate. Nobody. You either pay the hooker's going rate, or you get a nice little gumjob from the toothless little cupcake on the corner waiting on her pusher, or you fucking don't ... 😄
11years wow do you at least give it to yourself
I'm a walking friction blister over here ... 😛 😄
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Now that’s self control 11yrs blows me away are you moody or bitchy ?
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
Do you kiss him even if he’s your f buddy
He's a Scorpio, I don't think I'd be able to get away with not kissing him. 🙂
Oh Fuck but kissing makes it more intimate
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That’s the idea 🤓
Talking about sex isn’t gonna help you with your celibacy 🤣🤪
This is why I keep an ex for maintenance purposes. It helps with regrets since there is no one new.
🤣🤣🤣
It's not a new mistake. It counts as an old one lol.
I’m comfortable with doing it. We don’t get back together or anything. It’s just him being nice.
It’s like booking an appointment now 😂
I even say “Can I get a maintenance session in”
I have no shame. Lol.
Aren’t you worried about the Covid thing?
It’s not anyone new. It’s the same ex I always go to. We are all working essential jobs here. We are all at risk.
Do you kiss him even if he’s your f buddy
He's a Scorpio, I don't think I'd be able to get away with not kissing him. 🙂
Oh Fuck but kissing makes it more intimate
That’s the idea 🤓
Talking about sex isn’t gonna help you with your celibacy 🤣🤪
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Haha ok let’s stop talking about it
You gotta do NoFap to or its cheating
What’s that
No Wanking, Masturbaring, Jerking off etc
😀
I can’t I do that daily
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It’s normal ...
I did it for several years and had to isolate myself severely during that time to stay away from one ex in particular....I think the sexual aspect was the easiest at first, though there were periods I think I had an unhealthy relationship with porn. The worst part for me was honestly this really strong yearning I felt to have a warm body next to me in bed...so basically cuddling lol....
I think, as much as it can be a healthy thing for some depending on circumstances, it can also push you into some very unhealthy behaviors or states of mind if you isolate yourself socially like I did. I became hypersensitive to anything sexual after a while. At one point, I remember talking to an ex over the phone, which was one of the most terrible relationships I've ever been in, and she tried to spark up some sexy talk with me and I felt like I had almost no self control - like she could literally mind-control me via my genitals if I kept that convo going. It was a really strange experience, felt like pure euphoria actually, and I'm just thankful I was living far away from her at the time bc if not, I would've def made a bad decision. I took a cold shower afterwards and had all sorts of crazy dreams and heavy/intrusive fantasies about our former sex life for months after.
I watch porn daily to replace sex with a person it’s definitely unhealthy
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It can be, but I think a large part of that depends on how you view it in the first place, the extent you use it, whether or not it interferes w/real responsibilities, etc. I think there are some healthy constructive uses though, and ways its added value to my relationships. At times I've even used it as a type of therapy for obsessive thoughts around a person that I know would be disastrous to pursue. I just find an actress that looks like them and fap them out of my head lol....
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
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Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
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waaaat?
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
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Lol speak for yourself.. I love sex when its with the right partner, but I don’t want sex just to get my rocks off.. I want it because I can’t get close enough to you... the intimacy of the connection is what is the important. It annoys me when when guys ask what I like, because it’s not important. It’s what we create together that is important.
Posted by DMVI think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
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What brought you to this conclusion @DMV. It seems like a complete turnaround for you? 😳
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
What brought you to this conclusion @DMV. It seems like a complete turnaround for you? 😳
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I’ll say!
Idk. Sounds graphic but I was having sex and then I had an epiphany...
I don’t even like having sex. I was suddenly bored out of my mind and couldn’t wait to do something else. So I stopped midway and never came back to it
I lost all passion for passion
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
What brought you to this conclusion @DMV. It seems like a complete turnaround for you? 😳
I’ll say!
Idk. Sounds graphic but I was having sex and then I had an epiphany...
I don’t even like having sex. I was suddenly bored out of my mind and couldn’t wait to do something else. So I stopped midway and never came back to it
I lost all passion for passion
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Not graphic at all.
Wow what a story! What have you replaced it with?
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
What brought you to this conclusion @DMV. It seems like a complete turnaround for you? 😳
I’ll say!
Idk. Sounds graphic but I was having sex and then I had an epiphany...
I don’t even like having sex. I was suddenly bored out of my mind and couldn’t wait to do something else. So I stopped midway and never came back to it
I lost all passion for passion
Not graphic at all.
Wow what a story! What have you replaced it with?
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Day dreaming. My head is way up in the clouds
I'm single, so I am celibate. I don't believe in "casual" sex. Pretty sure I am demisexual.
I never thought I would be turned off by penis but here I am...disgusted
The sight or even thought of a penis anywhere near me makes me want to blow chunks
It’s been almost 6 months free from any type of sexual entanglement
Freedom not having to have to care above making an impression on men romantically and sexually
Sex was no longer an enjoyable act
It’s boring really when you think about it
It’s lame with just some random dick
Even with someone who isn’t random.
Sex is pretty boring and uninspiring.
I think it’s the fact that it’s so forbidden for some that makes it appear like the best thing on earth. Scarcity.
Purely a mechanism to bring life into the world.
I think women only like sex because men like sex and even then I don’t think men know exactly why they like having sex. It certainly ain’t for pleasure.
What brought you to this conclusion @DMV. It seems like a complete turnaround for you? 😳
I’ll say!
Idk. Sounds graphic but I was having sex and then I had an epiphany...
I don’t even like having sex. I was suddenly bored out of my mind and couldn’t wait to do something else. So I stopped midway and never came back to it
I lost all passion for passion
Not graphic at all.
Wow what a story! What have you replaced it with?
Day dreaming. My head is way up in the clouds
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... and even sex can be boring and empty if its with the wrong person🥴