Aquas shut down?

Do aquas shut down when they are stressed out? And to what degree? It's not a complete shut down I'm seeing but enough to make me panic and not know what to do. PS I know it's not stress about me...just a few issues he's having and for some reason is trying to just handle it on his own when all I want is for him to talk to me about it

We both have trust issues carried in from previous shit (even tho we both took 3 years of being single to recover and heal before we met). It's not easy for me to just relax when someone shuts down. I was panicking that it had to do with me for the last couple weeks which is why I got out of him last night what's up....but I have been dealing with my own shit too and I haven't been myself either. Just gotta take this all one day at a time I guess

Yes they do when they are very stressed out. Aquarius don’t like to make you worry about their problems. If he needs help he will come to you and make sure you are there for him if it happens. Most common he will be back to normal and share things with you when he is feeling a bit less overwhelmed.

Don’t take it personally 😄

Posted by TauRisser

Do aquas shut down when they are stressed out? And to what degree? It's not a complete shut down I'm seeing but enough to make me panic and not know what to do. PS I know it's not stress about me...just a few issues he's having and for some reason is trying to just handle it on his own when all I want is for him to talk to me about it

I shut down when im stressed, we aquas we tend to overthink when we are overwhelmed or we have a lot of things on our head To the point where I dont call or look for noone. including my own family and close friends. We go back to normal when things start loosen up and we get to relax. He will talk about it when he feels like talking about it. As for now just keep acting normal. if you didnt do anything to him, then it has nothing to do w you.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate the feedback ❤️

Posted by Aquaman2

Aare you Taurus??

Yes I am 😊

Honestly he and I have talked through some things and everything that I thought might be bothering him is what he was stressing about. I have some horrid trust issues and people pleaser issues due to past traumas and we are generally very open with each other. I just told him again that I panic when he goes quiet because I had 2 previous exes who cheated and that was how they acted when they were feeling guilty. It's an internal struggle for me and I am in therapy to work through it and get past it.

My aqua man is very understanding when I explain how I'm feeling and why. We honestly can talk about anything without getting upset with each other. Just wasn't sure how to approach it when I'm freaking out inside ya know?

Posted by TauRisser

Honestly he and I have talked through some things and everything that I thought might be bothering him is what he was stressing about. I have some horrid trust issues and people pleaser issues due to past traumas and we are generally very open with each other. I just told him again that I panic when he goes quiet because I had 2 previous exes who cheated and that was how they acted when they were feeling guilty. It's an internal struggle for me and I am in therapy to work through it and get past it.

My aqua man is very understanding when I explain how I'm feeling and why. We honestly can talk about anything without getting upset with each other. Just wasn't sure how to approach it when I'm freaking out inside ya know?

Can you picture yourself living like that, long term? Distance and detachment, unless talked thoroughly IS a red flag.

Don't let love blind you enough. Use your common sense, only you know your partner, we don't.

Sounds like you are adding to his stress more than helping. I think some people have different perceptions of time, depending on how busy they are.

It sounds a bit like you feel you are acting a certain way towards him, and then feeling the need to justify why you are acting in that way. So it just seems more complicated than it is, why highlight your problems to him, why get him to listen to you.. just suggest something fun and casual. Use your therapist for the talking about your trust issues. How does your guy de-stress?

Aquas and Taurus never been a good match. I had problems with a taurus woman that I never really had romantic feelings for and she had more feelings for me then I can return back.

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Honestly he and I have talked through some things and everything that I thought might be bothering him is what he was stressing about. I have some horrid trust issues and people pleaser issues due to past traumas and we are generally very open with each other. I just told him again that I panic when he goes quiet because I had 2 previous exes who cheated and that was how they acted when they were feeling guilty. It's an internal struggle for me and I am in therapy to work through it and get past it.

My aqua man is very understanding when I explain how I'm feeling and why. We honestly can talk about anything without getting upset with each other. Just wasn't sure how to approach it when I'm freaking out inside ya know?

Geezus. The baggage.

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Yep! But I never hid the baggage. He knew from the start. He has more than his fair share of baggage too don't worry lol

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Posted by TauRisser

Honestly he and I have talked through some things and everything that I thought might be bothering him is what he was stressing about. I have some horrid trust issues and people pleaser issues due to past traumas and we are generally very open with each other. I just told him again that I panic when he goes quiet because I had 2 previous exes who cheated and that was how they acted when they were feeling guilty. It's an internal struggle for me and I am in therapy to work through it and get past it.

My aqua man is very understanding when I explain how I'm feeling and why. We honestly can talk about anything without getting upset with each other. Just wasn't sure how to approach it when I'm freaking out inside ya know?

Can you picture yourself living like that, long term? Distance and detachment, unless talked thoroughly IS a red flag.

Don't let love blind you enough. Use your common sense, only you know your partner, we don't.

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We are still learning about each other in some ways but we are keeping communication open. Just had a moment I guess and seems to be better again. I know he wants forever and I know I need to work through my trust issues and he is being patient with me. When I explained how I feel and what I thought I needed he came through ❤️

Posted by BathHouseCulture

What kind of Aqua is he?

Is he 1st 2nd or 3rd decan?

This is a huge deal as all 3 communicate very differently.

3rd decan. He is Feb 17 on the cusp of Pisces

I don’t have an answer but I am wondering how come everything went from understanding Aquas detachment to the Bull making them jealous?

Was there previous story of this Bull cheating in Aqua?

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Honestly he and I have talked through some things and everything that I thought might be bothering him is what he was stressing about. I have some horrid trust issues and people pleaser issues due to past traumas and we are generally very open with each other. I just told him again that I panic when he goes quiet because I had 2 previous exes who cheated and that was how they acted when they were feeling guilty. It's an internal struggle for me and I am in therapy to work through it and get past it.

My aqua man is very understanding when I explain how I'm feeling and why. We honestly can talk about anything without getting upset with each other. Just wasn't sure how to approach it when I'm freaking out inside ya know?

Can you picture yourself living like that, long term? Distance and detachment, unless talked thoroughly IS a red flag.

Don't let love blind you enough. Use your common sense, only you know your partner, we don't.

We are still learning about each other in some ways but we are keeping communication open. Just had a moment I guess and seems to be better again. I know he wants forever and I know I need to work through my trust issues and he is being patient with me. When I explained how I feel and what I thought I needed he came through ❤️

Try fighting.... Both are so stubborn that no one will compromise, which will make everything worse....try it!

Or better, try making him jealous 😜😂

Good 😂😂

You too are Unexceptional😂

Aquas rarely gets jealous, he trust's you....but he just needs time to figure out his shit....while, if you make him jealous now, he will surely leave you.....making jealous is a cheap act (according to Aquarius).

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So true. Never try to play with an Aquarius

Posted by Gemitati

I don’t have an answer but I am wondering how come everything went from understanding Aquas detachment to the Bull making them jealous?

Was there previous story of this Bull cheating in Aqua?

Lol I was wondering the same! We haven't fought at all ever and we don't play games like trying to make each other jealous.

Posted by TauRisser

Posted by Gemitati

I don’t have an answer but I am wondering how come everything went from understanding Aquas detachment to the Bull making them jealous?

Was there previous story of this Bull cheating in Aqua?

Lol I was wondering the same! We haven't fought at all ever and we don't play games like trying to make each other jealous.

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Never mind those who just playing in a sandbox here out of boredom. We all do it from time to time.

Try to focus on what @ BathHouseCulture is telling you.

From my place where I am sitting watching I don’t see what is bothering you.

He is coming trough to you and you are questioning shit out of him?

I am so there! Except I am doing my investigation secretly. I was down to a moronic behavior like when he said he just written 1000 words of his book I was counting the words! Just in case...to see if he was telling the truth.

Yeah. Not proud of it but it WAS a 1000 words.

Don’t listen to negative shit. Focus on positive. Keep your eyes open.

Aqua are the strong people. However...one life example from my Aqua/Aqua boss who is married to his 5th wife now...he told me in conversation about how come he is keep on marrying...

He said that he loved his every wife and loves being married. Done his job and kept his cool UNTIL bitch bugged shit out of him so he said fuck it! Irreversible.

Being one who doesn’t talk shit over...(apparently he wasn’t ever married to a Gemini...lol) - he kept his shit boiling secretly to the degree when that higher indicator is bursting and non reparable.

I can swear the way we communicating - it would never happen to me and Aqua because being highly intuitive I would just know and feel that Armageddon is coming and shut ta fuck up is in order!

I hope it’ll work for you. TALK! Don’t suffer in silence. Good luck.

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I don’t have an answer but I am wondering how come everything went from understanding Aquas detachment to the Bull making them jealous?

Was there previous story of this Bull cheating in Aqua?

Lol I was wondering the same! We haven't fought at all ever and we don't play games like trying to make each other jealous.

Never mind those who just playing in a sandbox here out of boredom. We all do it from time to time.

Try to focus on what @ BathHouseCulture is telling you.

From my place where I am sitting watching I don’t see what is bothering you.

He is coming trough to you and you are questioning shit out of him?

I am so there! Except I am doing my investigation secretly. I was down to a moronic behavior like when he said he just written 1000 words of his book I was counting the words! Just in case...to see if he was telling the truth.

Yeah. Not proud of it but it WAS a 1000 words.

Don’t listen to negative shit. Focus on positive. Keep your eyes open.

Aqua are the strong people. However...one life example from my Aqua/Aqua boss who is married to his 5th wife now...he told me in conversation about how come he is keep on marrying...

He said that he loved his every wife and loves being married. Done his job and kept his cool UNTIL bitch bugged shit out of him so he said fuck it! Irreversible.

Being one who doesn’t talk shit over...(apparently he wasn’t ever married to a Gemini...lol) - he kept his shit boiling secretly to the degree when that higher indicator is bursting and non reparable.

I can swear the way we communicating - it would never happen to me and Aqua because being highly intuitive I would just know and feel that Armageddon is coming and shut ta fuck up is in order!

I hope it’ll work for you. TALK! Don’t suffer in silence. Good luck.

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Thank you!