Is he ignoring me or something happened to him? ...

I texted the aqua guy I'm dating after not talking to him for 6 days. He did go away to another country for work last week but he's supposed to be back now... I texted him a few hours ago and he hasn't responded I have also sent him a snap on Thursday and it wasn't opened, so he hasn't been on snapchat. Guys do you think he's just ignoring me? Or something actually happened because he usually opens my public snaps and private snaps. I'm kinda getting worried.. Do aquas ignore when they are done with someone?

You sound like you're asking a bunch of amateurs to confirm a plane crash...

Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

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Why didn't you guys talk for 6 days? You can't say he went on a trip for work, that's not an excuse.

We did talk a bit when he was away through snapchat cause he was in another country and didn't have service

Posted by sultrykitty
Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

Thank you for your feedback! He usually responds quick so that's why I'm confused... :/

Have you called him?

Posted by DMV
Have you called him?

I have not😢 Too afraid, what if he's actually ignoring me?

Posted by bumboklatt
yeah if its important just call

if not what can you do but wait?

Really afraid to call?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

Thank you for your feedback! He usually responds quick so that's why I'm confused... :/

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Yeah, these guys tend to drop everything, even other important things, if they are stressed or something unpleasant has happened. They'll retreat until they have the situation figured out and then come around like nothing happened.

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Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

Thank you for your feedback! He usually responds quick so that's why I'm confused... :/

Yeah, these guys tend to drop everything, even other important things, if they are stressed or something unpleasant has happened. They'll retreat until they have the situation figured out and then come around like nothing happened.

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Wow I see:/ His venus is in cap btw. Thanks for letting me know! So they may even ignore even if they are interested in the person?

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Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

Thank you for your feedback! He usually responds quick so that's why I'm confused... :/

Yeah, these guys tend to drop everything, even other important things, if they are stressed or something unpleasant has happened. They'll retreat until they have the situation figured out and then come around like nothing happened.

Wow I see:/ His venus is in cap btw. Thanks for letting me know! So they may even ignore even if they are interested in the person?

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Not really ignore. But set aside for a bit. You might be in his thoughts but whatever is going on (he could be tired from the trip, something happened during the trip that is requiring extra attention, just needing some time alone with his thoughts) is more important at the moment.

I wouldn't worry that something bad has happened to him unless he doesn't open your messages for a day or two.

Since you've already messaged him a few times, give it a week from the last message and then *call him* to see how he's doing. Don't ask why he hasn't been in touch; just let him know you were worried and want to make sure he's OK.

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Time to step back. If something is going on, he won't tell you until it's over and resolved. If things were fine betwen you before he left, things are probably still fine between you. If he's still interested he'll contact you.

You could sent a SHORT text saying hello and that you hope everything is OK with him, and that you hope the trip went well, but nothing more (and don't expect a reply).

Thank you for your feedback! He usually responds quick so that's why I'm confused... :/

Yeah, these guys tend to drop everything, even other important things, if they are stressed or something unpleasant has happened. They'll retreat until they have the situation figured out and then come around like nothing happened.

Wow I see:/ His venus is in cap btw. Thanks for letting me know! So they may even ignore even if they are interested in the person?

Not really ignore. But set aside for a bit. You might be in his thoughts but whatever is going on (he could be tired from the trip, something happened during the trip that is requiring extra attention, just needing some time alone with his thoughts) is more important at the moment.

I wouldn't worry that something bad has happened to him unless he doesn't open your messages for a day or two.

Since you've already messaged him a few times, give it a week from the last message and then *call him* to see how he's doing. Don't ask why he hasn't been in touch; just let him know you were worried and want to make sure he's OK.

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Thank you so much for you advice!! I will do all of that! ?

Age plus a significant factor in this kind of situation.

A young Aqua will drop off into oblivion. An older Aqua will offer up an explanation.

A stressed and depressed Aqua will lose use up all his or her time living in their head, living in their pain, suffering in silence.

Give him a few more days but nothing longer than a week. After a week of no contact it's over. Unless someone died or damn near died there really is no excuse for not contacting you.

Worse case scenario he met someone else. Best case scenario he's busy sorting himself out and will contact you when he's ready to resume the relationship with you.

Plays a significant factor

This is what, your 3rd "aqua is ignoring me" thread in 2 days? Wanna ease up a bit? Forget about him for a month or so, hes very clearly busy and doesnt feel like interactimg with you right now. Take a hint.

After the month passes and you're no longer addicted to him and can function independently, contact him one more time if you're bored, but not cos you're addicted.

You're freaking out and dwelling on this way too much. If this is how you handle aloofness, aquas aren't for you. Remember, for humanitarians relationships are not the top priority.

Thanks for all your advice guys! I checked his instagram and he hasn't updated it since last week, so I'm still worried:/ Haven't called yet😢 I feel like if he hasn't responded to a text then he won't answer a phone call. 😢

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"We did talk a bit when he was away through snapchat cause he was in another country and didn't have service"

"I checked his instagram and he hasn't updated it since last week..."

Hasn't responded to your text.

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I don't think he's ignoring you I think he's still there and has no service atm.

Thats a good assumption but he had to get back to town this week so he can't still be there:/ plus his snapchat worked when he was away in the past because there's usually wifi everywhere:/

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"We did talk a bit when he was away through snapchat cause he was in another country and didn't have service"

"I checked his instagram and he hasn't updated it since last week..."

Hasn't responded to your text.

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I don't think he's ignoring you I think he's still there and has no service atm.

Thats a good assumption but he had to get back to town this week so he can't still be there:/ plus his snapchat worked when he was away in the past because there's usually wifi everywhere:/

If he didn't have a roaming plan when he left, his cellular data could be off. He can only connect

when there's wifi around; he could be at a location with no wifi or he could have lost his phone.

What country was he in if you don't mind sharing?

If you're certain he's back from his trip email him and/or check his fb (lol)

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You're right😢 He was in London but he was supposed to be back home beginning of this week. I have also checked his whatsapp and he hasn't been on since last week but he has been liking things on Facebook. So he's probably ignoring me or he did lose his phone and is using fb on his computer. (We're not friends on fb cause I don't use it).

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Did you find out if he's back in town?

I did not😢 but I know that he lost his phone. So he's not ignoring me, I'm just worried that he might change his number now and he doesn't know my number by hard so how will we be in contact again—??

Could be he's jetlagged.

Send him a message on fb (you don't have to be someone's friend to do this). Tell him you looked him up on fb cause your worried about him.

If he doesn't respond and he's currently active on fb then you have your answer...

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Did you find out if he's back in town?

I did not😢 but I know that he lost his phone. So he's not ignoring me, I'm just worried that he might change his number now and he doesn't know my number by hard so how will we be in contact again—??

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At this point, I understand your feelings but you're being a bit silly.

If he wants to see you or talk to you, he will find a way. As Lady Neptune mentioned, you can easily send him a FB message with info on how he can get in touch with you.

My Aqua calls me but once or twice a year (we live together of course) to pick something up at the store on my way home. I gave him my cell # once like 15 years ago when we were dating. And he didn't call me except on my landline for years, literally. I have no idea how he knew my number when he did finally start calling my cell, or if he even knows it by memory now to be honest, because he just doesn't call that often.

I guess I'm trying to say that if he wants to get in touch, he will. Whichever way he has to do it.

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How did you find out he lost his phone?!

Because I went on the dating app where we met and his location was england and he's not in England right now so the phone died there and he lost It there and the location got saved. Also hasn't been on instagram, snapchat and whatsapp since last week.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Could be he's jetlagged.

Send him a message on fb (you don't have to be someone's friend to do this). Tell him you looked him up on fb cause your worried about him.

If he doesn't respond and he's currently active on fb then you have your answer...

I'm afraid to message him on there:/ If he actually wants to reach out he can search for me?

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Did you find out if he's back in town?

I did not😢 but I know that he lost his phone. So he's not ignoring me, I'm just worried that he might change his number now and he doesn't know my number by hard so how will we be in contact again—??

At this point, I understand your feelings but you're being a bit silly.

If he wants to see you or talk to you, he will find a way. As Lady Neptune mentioned, you can easily send him a FB message with info on how he can get in touch with you.

My Aqua calls me but once or twice a year (we live together of course) to pick something up at the store on my way home. I gave him my cell # once like 15 years ago when we were dating. And he didn't call me except on my landline for years, literally. I have no idea how he knew my number when he did finally start calling my cell, or if he even knows it by memory now to be honest, because he just doesn't call that often.

I guess I'm trying to say that if he wants to get in touch, he will. Whichever way he has to do it.

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Thank you so much for your advice! You're right! If he actually wants to get in touch, he will! He can also log into his phone providers website and get a list of texts and calls he made in the past and find my number. So I'll just wait and if he doesn't reach out then he didn't want to...

I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

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I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

I'm an aquarius hahaha

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I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

I'm an aquarius hahaha

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LOL I was going to guess Libra, but Aqua works too. You worry too much! 🙂

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I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

I'm an aquarius hahaha

LOL I was going to guess Libra, but Aqua works too. You worry too much! 🙂

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Hahaha omg yes! Extremely ! Not a day without worrying ?

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I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

I'm an aquarius hahaha

LOL I was going to guess Libra, but Aqua works too. You worry too much! 🙂

Hahaha omg yes! Extremely ! Not a day without worrying ?

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Well try to remember that things usually work out the way they should.

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I MUST know your sun sign, @Lalapefakada

I'm an aquarius hahaha

LOL I was going to guess Libra, but Aqua works too. You worry too much! 🙂

Hahaha omg yes! Extremely ! Not a day without worrying ?

Well try to remember that things usually work out the way they should.

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Thats is very true!! Thank you so much for reminding me?

Um...call him. Why are you afraid to call your man? I don't care where he is at he should try and contact you.

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Could be he's jetlagged.

Send him a message on fb (you don't have to be someone's friend to do this). Tell him you looked him up on fb cause your worried about him.

If he doesn't respond and he's currently active on fb then you have your answer...

I'm afraid to message him on there:/ If he actually wants to reach out he can search for me?

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If your afraid to message him then wash your hands of this.

None of us know what happened to him. The only way to end your torment is to balls up and reach out to him yourself.

Let me ask you, your interested in him romantically right? Like if things progressed and everything was right you'd enter into a relationship in which sex would play a part...?

i think aquarians have a tendency to detach when they have things on their mind (work, friends, family, etc)

my guy does get detached and it hurts me, but has never ever let a day pass without talking to me. until these 2 months we've been dating (i hope t'll never happen :/)

Thank you for all your advice guys! He reached out today through instagram. He actually did lose his phone.

Did you call 911?

I was really wondering what the wonderful people on dxp could help with and I thought call 911 you seemed to scared I was scared for you too.

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I texted him a few hours ago and he hasn't responded