my aqua dropped a bomb on nye.. wtf.. (Page 3)

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by Librajean
You can't go into a new relationship holding onto past pain.

And if you want a man to open up, when they start to you have to be accepting even if it's not what you want to hear or in the way that you want to hear it.. to me it sounded like he was saying he had feelings for you—

If you want respect you have to give respect.

Ive never been anything but respectful of him. He already pulled the rug out from under me a second time. Stating imaginary reasons why it wouldnt work..work schedules? And some other bullocks that had never been an issue and literally makes zero sense. He dumped me via text like a coward after having an amazing night with me the night before! He refused to even discuss it. Ive read about the aquarius disappearing trick, but this is just batshit in my opinion. We were perfectly matched. Never fought had everything in common, made future plans. We so incredibly synched up it was scary and other wordly almost. Thought id finally found my partner. But he dumped me like a ton of bricks and i am MYSTIFIED. He clearly didnt value me like he acted and said he did.

He's an immature cunt. Be glad you found out now and not in 6 months. Like you said, a month is nothing. It's frustrating and annoying that someone is this fucked up in the head, but lesson learned. Work through the emotional shitstorm and move along to someone who doesn't have the emotional maturity of a toddler.

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Totally.

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh honey, your problem here is so obvious.

"He said this. He's said that. He claims this, he claims that."

Libras, also an air sign, do the same stupid shit. They rush in fast and rush out just as fast.

This is what's happening here. You let this dipfuck sweep you away in his sweeping, immature declarations, and now he's going hot/cold.

Any guy who does this is one to be wary of. If you think it's too fast, chances are it is. When I first read this, prior to you hearing from him exactly why he did what he did on NYE, I couldn't help but wonder if his silly ass was all caught up in the idea of spending the holidays with someone new and exciting. Omgherd, new romance/the honeymoon phase! Fuck yeah during the holidays!

Now reality is setting in and he's going uh, what am I doing? All while leaving you wondering wtf is going on.

Regardless of sign, always be wary of individuals making such sweeping declarations, whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. I have yet to meet someone who was like this and was emotionally stable/well adjusted individual. They're usually pretty fucked in the head and will drag you along their personal shit show while they figure life out. Your role is keeping yourself away from fucktards like that, tbh.

Oh i totally agree with you. And was always a bit hesitant..the reason why i kept believing is bc we really do have everything in common, can talk about anything, want all the same things for thr future etc....thats why i thought ok, well...this does feel pretty right..he did not ever say he loved me. Thank god.

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I know, I've been there. It's fucking bullshit though because you've got this dipshit individual who's dragging you through all these motions. You're trying to keep it all in check, and just as you start to get comfortable, they change their damned mind because they're fucked up in the head.

It's annoying because it just feels like a total waste of time. This is why I'm always snarking about people not being allowed to date. People like this are such a waste of space in the dating pool and need some fucking therapy. I never trust someone who moves so stupidly fast in dating. It makes me wonder what the fuck their problem is, tbh.

I mean really, if this is how they behave in the early dating stages, imagine what a relationship with them would be like. Then it really makes you glad things didn't progress further.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh honey, your problem here is so obvious.

"He said this. He's said that. He claims this, he claims that."

Libras, also an air sign, do the same stupid shit. They rush in fast and rush out just as fast.

This is what's happening here. You let this dipfuck sweep you away in his sweeping, immature declarations, and now he's going hot/cold.

Any guy who does this is one to be wary of. If you think it's too fast, chances are it is. When I first read this, prior to you hearing from him exactly why he did what he did on NYE, I couldn't help but wonder if his silly ass was all caught up in the idea of spending the holidays with someone new and exciting. Omgherd, new romance/the honeymoon phase! Fuck yeah during the holidays!

Now reality is setting in and he's going uh, what am I doing? All while leaving you wondering wtf is going on.

Regardless of sign, always be wary of individuals making such sweeping declarations, whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. I have yet to meet someone who was like this and was emotionally stable/well adjusted individual. They're usually pretty fucked in the head and will drag you along their personal shit show while they figure life out. Your role is keeping yourself away from fucktards like that, tbh.

Oh i totally agree with you. And was always a bit hesitant..the reason why i kept believing is bc we really do have everything in common, can talk about anything, want all the same things for thr future etc....thats why i thought ok, well...this does feel pretty right..he did not ever say he loved me. Thank god.

I know, I've been there. It's fucking bullshit though because you've got this dipshit individual who's dragging you through all these motions. You're trying to keep it all in check, and just as you start to get comfortable, they change their damned mind because they're fucked up in the head.

It's annoying because it just feels like a total waste of time. This is why I'm always snarking about people not being allowed to date. People like this are such a waste of space in the dating pool and need some fucking therapy. I never trust someone who moves so stupidly fast in dating. It makes me wonder what the fuck their problem is, tbh.

I mean really, if this is how they behave in the early dating stages, imagine what a relationship with them would be like. Then it really makes you glad things didn't progress further.

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100% agreed. Ive dated so many men like this....and even when you tell em youve been hurt in the past they do the SAME FUCKING THING. no conscience! Yes they def need therapy. I'm so fucking tired of this. Wasted time, effort feelings. Feeling duped and stupid for believing bs lies..ugh. It's so fucked up. I cant IMAGINE doing that to anyone! I only say what i mean and i mean what i say!!

I'm sorry that this happened to you. Cheers to hoping that all of dating cant be this fucked, it's been rough for me too as an aqua girl. Le sigh.

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh honey, your problem here is so obvious.

"He said this. He's said that. He claims this, he claims that."

Libras, also an air sign, do the same stupid shit. They rush in fast and rush out just as fast.

This is what's happening here. You let this dipfuck sweep you away in his sweeping, immature declarations, and now he's going hot/cold.

Any guy who does this is one to be wary of. If you think it's too fast, chances are it is. When I first read this, prior to you hearing from him exactly why he did what he did on NYE, I couldn't help but wonder if his silly ass was all caught up in the idea of spending the holidays with someone new and exciting. Omgherd, new romance/the honeymoon phase! Fuck yeah during the holidays!

Now reality is setting in and he's going uh, what am I doing? All while leaving you wondering wtf is going on.

Regardless of sign, always be wary of individuals making such sweeping declarations, whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. I have yet to meet someone who was like this and was emotionally stable/well adjusted individual. They're usually pretty fucked in the head and will drag you along their personal shit show while they figure life out. Your role is keeping yourself away from fucktards like that, tbh.

Oh i totally agree with you. And was always a bit hesitant..the reason why i kept believing is bc we really do have everything in common, can talk about anything, want all the same things for thr future etc....thats why i thought ok, well...this does feel pretty right..he did not ever say he loved me. Thank god.

I know, I've been there. It's fucking bullshit though because you've got this dipshit individual who's dragging you through all these motions. You're trying to keep it all in check, and just as you start to get comfortable, they change their damned mind because they're fucked up in the head.

It's annoying because it just feels like a total waste of time. This is why I'm always snarking about people not being allowed to date. People like this are such a waste of space in the dating pool and need some fucking therapy. I never trust someone who moves so stupidly fast in dating. It makes me wonder what the fuck their problem is, tbh.

I mean really, if this is how they behave in the early dating stages, imagine what a relationship with them would be like. Then it really makes you glad things didn't progress further.

100% agreed. Ive dated so many men like this....and even when you tell em youve been hurt in the past they do the SAME FUCKING THING. no conscience! Yes they def need therapy. I'm so fucking tired of this. Wasted time, effort feelings. Feeling duped and stupid for believing bs lies..ugh. It's so fucked up. I cant IMAGINE doing that to anyone! I only say what i mean and i mean what i say!!

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It doesn't matter if you tell them or not. They're so immature and stupid they have no idea what they're really doing. If I had a dime anytime I heard ANYONE proclaim that they wouldn't do something like that or equally hated the same, shitty behavior, and then THEY TURN AROUND AND DO THE SAME THING, I'd be fucking rich.

Posted by 4ever_confused
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Cheers to hoping that all of dating cant be this fucked, it's been rough for me too as an aqua girl. Le sigh.

The dating pool needs a new pool guy. The current one sucks at his job because that shit is dirty as fuck.

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh honey, your problem here is so obvious.

"He said this. He's said that. He claims this, he claims that."

Libras, also an air sign, do the same stupid shit. They rush in fast and rush out just as fast.

This is what's happening here. You let this dipfuck sweep you away in his sweeping, immature declarations, and now he's going hot/cold.

Any guy who does this is one to be wary of. If you think it's too fast, chances are it is. When I first read this, prior to you hearing from him exactly why he did what he did on NYE, I couldn't help but wonder if his silly ass was all caught up in the idea of spending the holidays with someone new and exciting. Omgherd, new romance/the honeymoon phase! Fuck yeah during the holidays!

Now reality is setting in and he's going uh, what am I doing? All while leaving you wondering wtf is going on.

Regardless of sign, always be wary of individuals making such sweeping declarations, whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. I have yet to meet someone who was like this and was emotionally stable/well adjusted individual. They're usually pretty fucked in the head and will drag you along their personal shit show while they figure life out. Your role is keeping yourself away from fucktards like that, tbh.

Oh i totally agree with you. And was always a bit hesitant..the reason why i kept believing is bc we really do have everything in common, can talk about anything, want all the same things for thr future etc....thats why i thought ok, well...this does feel pretty right..he did not ever say he loved me. Thank god.

I know, I've been there. It's fucking bullshit though because you've got this dipshit individual who's dragging you through all these motions. You're trying to keep it all in check, and just as you start to get comfortable, they change their damned mind because they're fucked up in the head.

It's annoying because it just feels like a total waste of time. This is why I'm always snarking about people not being allowed to date. People like this are such a waste of space in the dating pool and need some fucking therapy. I never trust someone who moves so stupidly fast in dating. It makes me wonder what the fuck their problem is, tbh.

I mean really, if this is how they behave in the early dating stages, imagine what a relationship with them would be like. Then it really makes you glad things didn't progress further.

100% agreed. Ive dated so many men like this....and even when you tell em youve been hurt in the past they do the SAME FUCKING THING. no conscience! Yes they def need therapy. I'm so fucking tired of this. Wasted time, effort feelings. Feeling duped and stupid for believing bs lies..ugh. It's so fucked up. I cant IMAGINE doing that to anyone! I only say what i mean and i mean what i say!!

It doesn't matter if you tell them or not. They're so immature and stupid they have no idea what they're really doing. If I had a dime anytime I heard ANYONE proclaim that they wouldn't do something like that or equally hated the same, shitty behavior, and then THEY TURN AROUND AND DO THE SAME THING, I'd be fucking rich.

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dude we are like soul sisters!! it's so nice to talk to someone who actually gets it and doesnt make excuses and dismiss the shit i say! ugh.

Posted by 4ever_confused
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Cheers to hoping that all of dating cant be this fucked, it's been rough for me too as an aqua girl. Le sigh.

i'm sorry. it really is horrible out there. 😢

Posted by boxcarmirnta

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Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Posted by boxcarmirnta

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Oh honey, your problem here is so obvious.

"He said this. He's said that. He claims this, he claims that."

Libras, also an air sign, do the same stupid shit. They rush in fast and rush out just as fast.

This is what's happening here. You let this dipfuck sweep you away in his sweeping, immature declarations, and now he's going hot/cold.

Any guy who does this is one to be wary of. If you think it's too fast, chances are it is. When I first read this, prior to you hearing from him exactly why he did what he did on NYE, I couldn't help but wonder if his silly ass was all caught up in the idea of spending the holidays with someone new and exciting. Omgherd, new romance/the honeymoon phase! Fuck yeah during the holidays!

Now reality is setting in and he's going uh, what am I doing? All while leaving you wondering wtf is going on.

Regardless of sign, always be wary of individuals making such sweeping declarations, whether it be a romantic relationship or a friendship. I have yet to meet someone who was like this and was emotionally stable/well adjusted individual. They're usually pretty fucked in the head and will drag you along their personal shit show while they figure life out. Your role is keeping yourself away from fucktards like that, tbh.

Oh i totally agree with you. And was always a bit hesitant..the reason why i kept believing is bc we really do have everything in common, can talk about anything, want all the same things for thr future etc....thats why i thought ok, well...this does feel pretty right..he did not ever say he loved me. Thank god.

I know, I've been there. It's fucking bullshit though because you've got this dipshit individual who's dragging you through all these motions. You're trying to keep it all in check, and just as you start to get comfortable, they change their damned mind because they're fucked up in the head.

It's annoying because it just feels like a total waste of time. This is why I'm always snarking about people not being allowed to date. People like this are such a waste of space in the dating pool and need some fucking therapy. I never trust someone who moves so stupidly fast in dating. It makes me wonder what the fuck their problem is, tbh.

I mean really, if this is how they behave in the early dating stages, imagine what a relationship with them would be like. Then it really makes you glad things didn't progress further.

100% agreed. Ive dated so many men like this....and even when you tell em youve been hurt in the past they do the SAME FUCKING THING. no conscience! Yes they def need therapy. I'm so fucking tired of this. Wasted time, effort feelings. Feeling duped and stupid for believing bs lies..ugh. It's so fucked up. I cant IMAGINE doing that to anyone! I only say what i mean and i mean what i say!!

It doesn't matter if you tell them or not. They're so immature and stupid they have no idea what they're really doing. If I had a dime anytime I heard ANYONE proclaim that they wouldn't do something like that or equally hated the same, shitty behavior, and then THEY TURN AROUND AND DO THE SAME THING, I'd be fucking rich.

dude we are like soul sisters!! it's so nice to talk to someone who actually gets it and doesnt make excuses and dismiss the shit i say! ugh.

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DXP is full of coddling and moronic enablers.

Posted by FutureSeeker
@boxcarmirnta something just popped into my head from reading some of what you recently posted.

I used to always have this overwhelming feeling that in a relationship a person would never be able to "hang". They wouldn't be able to put up with me. Not that I am horrible.. but maybe complicated? So in a relationship when things would get intense i would find myself almost starting a conflict and then saying things weren't going to work out. I rationalized to myself that if the person was "meant to be" then they would stay.

I'm sort of simplifying this for the purpose of this post...

So- I always say in a relationship I'm a "flighter". When there is conflict- I bolt. I say "fine- we're done!" Completely unhealthy- and really not want I want. But like I said- my mindset is that if they really care for me and really know me- they won't disappear.

In my marriage- my Cancer hubby- his pinchers won't let me go. He is the first man who has said "no" when I have pulled all my "well we aren't going to work out" or "fine- leave then" crap. I don't say that stuff anymore either. I've learned to say "I'm not going anywhere but I'm overwhelmed right now".

Anyways- just thought I would share.

Aw. Thank you. I appreciate your input. I have heard aquas sort of sabotage stuff, and maybe like drama a little? To shake things up? The thing is..he did make it seem like he wasnt enough and couldnt be what i wanted. He cried a lot. But i just assumed that was a bs excuse, cuz i thought if he valued me he wouldnt wanna let me go! I did tell him that he was enough and is what i want. I got no response though 😢. I dont wanna beg for someone who won't fight for me...i do know hes scared though.