My aquarius guy broke my trust and we are no longer together

So i thought I met someone who I truly felt was my soulmate. We had a connection like no other... This morning was perfect when I woke up in his arms and he kissed me. When I got to work, I received a text from him saying that he was spending the day with his ex.

Him and his ex have broken up several times. He mentioned she is pregnant. I told him, that a baby doesn't bring two people back together...

I was completely blindsided by this and don't see myself ever getting back with him. He broke my trust and heart.

He said that he'll call me tonight, but I don't think I even want to talk to him. Should I answer his call? or ignore him and move on?

Posted by MilaniKisses
So i thought I met someone who I truly felt was my soulmate. We had a connection like no other... This morning was perfect when I woke up in his arms and he kissed me. When I got to work, I received a text from him saying that he was spending the day with his ex.

Him and his ex have broken up several times. He mentioned she is pregnant. I told him, that a baby doesn't bring two people back together...

I was completely blindsided by this and don't see myself ever getting back with him. He broke my trust and heart.

He said that he'll call me tonight, but I don't think I even want to talk to him. Should I answer his call? or ignore him and move on?

Wait he just told you that his ex is pregnant? Who is she pregnant by, him? How long were ya'll together?

Posted by MilaniKisses
and don't see myself ever getting back with him. He broke my trust and heart.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Should I answer his call? or ignore him and move on?

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/facepalm

Posted by MilaniKisses
So i thought I met someone who I truly felt was my soulmate. We had a connection like no other... This morning was perfect when I woke up in his arms and he kissed me. When I got to work, I received a text from him saying that he was spending the day with his ex.

Him and his ex have broken up several times. He mentioned she is pregnant. I told him, that a baby doesn't bring two people back together...

I was completely blindsided by this and don't see myself ever getting back with him. He broke my trust and heart.

He said that he'll call me tonight, but I don't think I even want to talk to him. Should I answer his call? or ignore him and move on?

If your dating just stay guarded, if he is telling you these things its clear he is still dealing with things from his past, the older we get the more we have to deal with while starting new relationships, stay friends , or FWB , until you know him well enough that you don't have to ask this question.

Well, he didn't lie to you. He told you the truth.

The choice is really yours to make.

Posted by ra3ch80
From one Virgo to another, I would calm down and talk to him. Refrain from making a decision until you hear the whole story. Hugs to you.

Thank you sweetie. The ex keeps texting me to leave him alone. I am just going to move on...

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Posted by ra3ch80
From one Virgo to another, I would calm down and talk to him. Refrain from making a decision until you hear the whole story. Hugs to you.

Thank you sweetie. The ex keeps texting me to leave him alone. I am just going to move on...

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get ghetto on her, its the only way 🙂 jk, move on

Oh definitely listen to what he has to say. Just know that this may be an ex he's yet to fully let go. Definitely be cautious as he may not be over this ex. You are also correct in your logic. Another man's baby shouldn't bring the two of them together. He could just be supportive, but it definitely looks strange.

If you haven't been together with this guy long, just plan on running. The real question is, who's that baby's father? If it's him then definitely leave.

Posted by Distilled
Is the ex pregnant by him?

I know how, but the when is the question- did this happen while y'all were around eachother too?

No they have been broken up. She is 4 months pregnant

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Is the ex pregnant by him?

I know how, but the when is the question- did this happen while y'all were around eachother too?

No they have been broken up. She is 4 months pregnant

So he is not the father?

200% not the father?

Regardless he seems like he needs time.

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Not sure if he is or not. I told him that too.

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Posted by ra3ch80
From one Virgo to another, I would calm down and talk to him. Refrain from making a decision until you hear the whole story. Hugs to you.

Thank you sweetie. The ex keeps texting me to leave him alone. I am just going to move on...

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Ok so many questions. Lets start with why the ex has your phone number and vice versa.

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Posted by Distilled
Is the ex pregnant by him?

I know how, but the when is the question- did this happen while y'all were around eachother too?

No they have been broken up. She is 4 months pregnant

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How long have you been dating him? 4 months could really mean 3 months or 5 months....

Posted by MilaniKisses
So i thought I met someone who I truly felt was my soulmate. We had a connection like no other... This morning was perfect when I woke up in his arms and he kissed me. When I got to work, I received a text from him saying that he was spending the day with his ex.

Him and his ex have broken up several times. He mentioned she is pregnant. I told him, that a baby doesn't bring two people back together...

I was completely blindsided by this and don't see myself ever getting back with him. He broke my trust and heart.

He said that he'll call me tonight, but I don't think I even want to talk to him. Should I answer his call? or ignore him and move on?

You should at least appreciate his honesty.

If I were you, I'd like to think that I would answer his call but let him know you're not at a good current emotional state or objective mentally and you cannot trust him at least for a while.

But then again, have specifically demand him not to have certain type of interaction with his ex?

I like his honesty buttttt not a good situation for u to be in whether the kid is his or not- this guy still has a thing for his ex , nothing U can do or say .. I wouldn't ghost , u can speak like adults .. then , move on ?

When we are young, we are definitely quick in jumping to conclusions. As far as I know, you are dating him for around 10 days and you actually met each other maybe 3-4 times. You were very fast swept off your feet and fell hard for him because he is very cute and treats you nicely. In all your posts I can see that you really like him.

Mind that in such a short time you cannot possibly know everything about him. You just scratched the surface and concentrated on having fun with him and feeling good. You start to clear your mind about someone only after 30-40 dates, which is a lot of time spent together. I do not know if you ever talked about your pasts in this time, not to mention if this dating is intended to have a final purpose or not from his part.

This guy may want to be with you after all, but until you hear all sides of the story you shouldn't judge. What is the relation between him and his ex it's only him that he knows. Probably the ex is still hooked on him, she found out somehow that he is dating you and took some action.

Stay guarded and cool and listen to what he has to say.

I answered his call...

We spoke for 40 minutes. He apologized about everything and sincerely felt horrible about what he did to me. I asked if they had sex yesterday, and he said yes. He mentioned he regrets it and even meeting up with her... But it brought back feelings for her. I knew at that point its all a lost cause. However I had to remind him that a baby does not solve relationship issues, considering this is their 3rd time getting back together. I told him I felt sorry for the baby, because they are just going to fight in front of it.... I wished the baby and his ex the best of health, but then I followed up with I don't wish the best for him and his ex.

He spoke highly of me saying that I am an amazing woman and deserve someone who is better.

I;m still torn about the situation and shed some tears this morning - like I said before, I had NEVER connected with someone like I did with him before.

We weren't together for long, but I knew he was my soulmate... He was walking home on the phone with me last night. There is a bridge he has to pass in which there is a dirt parking lot to the side of it. That dirt parking lot is where we had our first kiss and the spot he told me he loved me. I told him "I hope everytime you pass that bridge, you think of me".... He said "I'm actually crossing the bridge now.." I told him that this intuitive and mental connection we share and is why I felt like he is my soulmate.

I ended the call with telling him to keep in touch. He ended it with "I love you"... I busted out in a cry and then hung up.

Oh dear... everything happened so quicky I'm very sorry for you... firstival I am so sorry though if he loved you like he said(which is very rare for an Aqua say that in such a short moment of meeting someone), he shouldn't have done what he did.. had sex with her when she's 4 months pregnant— ... I think there is something between them that he can not let go of. It's not completely over.. it never was, hence him jumping straight to a new relationship with you.. he doesn't sound mature enough for a decent people relationship... you were blew away by the crazy chemistry, connection ,(soulmate) experience and bonding, though that doesn't mean that connection is meant to be a life partner bonding. We meet people for a reason. My ex sag of mine I believed was the most karmic experience ever, I was like the ex you mentioned.. pregnant and going back and fourth with him and couldn't let go.. though it was not love .. a lot of it was list.... love is a very big word and a big thing, and if it was truly love, he would have told u before he met her to see how your reaction would be let along have sex... so she's pregnant by him? I'm so sorry .. the only choice you have now is to walk away... I know Aqua r pretty traditional and there's a high chance he will be there as the father and repair his past with her.. though she sounds crazy... lol. That doesn't matter the point is I don't think he will be one to walk away and ditch a kid like a sag( my baby's father) lol.. I think they r traditional like that... my Aqua even asked a lot of why the sag didn't take up responsibility... anyway, I wish you all the best, if he's truly ur soulmate, there is a lesson here, what is it?

A lot is it was lust **

Thank you all for your response.

Posted by MilaniKisses
I answered his call...

We spoke for 40 minutes. He apologized about everything and sincerely felt horrible about what he did to me. I asked if they had sex yesterday, and he said yes. He mentioned he regrets it and even meeting up with her... But it brought back feelings for her. I knew at that point its all a lost cause. However I had to remind him that a baby does not solve relationship issues, considering this is their 3rd time getting back together. I told him I felt sorry for the baby, because they are just going to fight in front of it.... I wished the baby and his ex the best of health, but then I followed up with I don't wish the best for him and his ex.

He spoke highly of me saying that I am an amazing woman and deserve someone who is better.

I;m still torn about the situation and shed some tears this morning - like I said before, I had NEVER connected with someone like I did with him before.

We weren't together for long, but I knew he was my soulmate... He was walking home on the phone with me last night. There is a bridge he has to pass in which there is a dirt parking lot to the side of it. That dirt parking lot is where we had our first kiss and the spot he told me he loved me. I told him "I hope everytime you pass that bridge, you think of me".... He said "I'm actually crossing the bridge now.." I told him that this intuitive and mental connection we share and is why I felt like he is my soulmate.

I ended the call with telling him to keep in touch. He ended it with "I love you"... I busted out in a cry and then hung up.

Understand that he's not over his ex and that he may never be over his ex. Also know that the kid is probably his. Yes they've been broken up for a while, but that changes nothing. Not a lot of guys would jump on the opportunity of getting back with an ex who is pregnant with someone else's kid.

Don't beat yourself up though. This guy was not your soulmate, far from it actually. Know that Aquas can be VERY diligent when they are getting to know someone. When they like you, they'll observe you and do research on you. It's almost as if you're being dissected. As a result they will seem to be very compatible with you.

I stopped seeing an Aqua who said she hated her ex, but was hooking up with him the entire time. Before the truth leaked, she seemed so similar to me that we'd joke we were the same person. Some of our similarities were terrifying. From what I can deduce, she may have researched me quite a bit via social media...I'm not sure. Regardless when I found out the truth I ran as far as I could. I suggest you do the same.

This Aqua guy was right though, you do deserve better than a guy who can't sort out his feelings enough to not go behind your back.

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Posted by ra3ch80
From one Virgo to another, I would calm down and talk to him. Refrain from making a decision until you hear the whole story. Hugs to you.

Thank you sweetie. The ex keeps texting me to leave him alone. I am just going to move on...

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....and she is pregnant

I would disappear out of their lives.....in a heartbeat

This sounds like a horrible mess

Sorry 😢

x

Posted by ra3ch80
I feel for you. I am so sorry.

Me too



😢

Thank you all.

*UPDATE* Spoke with him this morning... I apologized for anything negative I said about his current situation and told him that I've found peace (thanks to all of your advice) ....He stopped me and said I didn't need to say anymore and that I've done nothing wrong. He said he is at the store and would call me back. He also followed up with "Did you receive my text?"... I didn't receive anything yet and dying to know what his text says.

Anyways, I ended the convo by saying "Ok, we'll talk later." He ended it with "K, talk to you then baby..."

Baby... He didn't call me that at all yesterday, and now he's resumed with the petname...—

I'll post what the text message says later...

*UPDATE*

So finally received his text... It basically stated that he wanted to talk later about why he chose or went the direction that he did. I told him to call me now instead of later... Well I ended up calling him. He yelled at me for not waiting til the time he said he was going to call me at. I didn't see a big deal about calling him because I knew he wasn't at work or anything.... Well he proceeded to tell me why he wanted to talk, and I ended up dismissing him and told him that I don't care and that he chose her and I'm ready to move forward.

All in all, it ugly. Blah, but I still care for him. FML

*UPDATE*

He called and apologized for his behavior and mentioned that he and the ex were fighting. He also said that because of their fighting, he got kicked out of his place. Like I said, I feel sorry for the unborn child. He mentioned he wants to see me! Bahaha! Imagine that!

I guess it's a curse to mention your not yet man here on this site. you weren't even official.

don't count your blessings yet, or else it's gonna be bad.

or don't count your eggs in a basket?

I forget what saying is that.

Posted by lisabethur8
I guess it's a curse to mention your not yet man here on this site. you weren't even official.

don't count your blessings yet, or else it's gonna be bad.

or don't count your eggs in a basket?

I forget what saying is that.

LOL The saying goes, "don't count your eggs before they hatch"

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*UPDATE*

He called and apologized for his behavior and mentioned that he and the ex were fighting. He also said that because of their fighting, he got kicked out of his place. Like I said, I feel sorry for the unborn child. He mentioned he wants to see me! Bahaha! Imagine that!

Don't let him crash at your place.

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Seconded.

Posted by MilaniKisses
*UPDATE*

So finally received his text... It basically stated that he wanted to talk later about why he chose or went the direction that he did. I told him to call me now instead of later... Well I ended up calling him. He yelled at me for not waiting til the time he said he was going to call me at. I didn't see a big deal about calling him because I knew he wasn't at work or anything.... Well he proceeded to tell me why he wanted to talk, and I ended up dismissing him and told him that I don't care and that he chose her and I'm ready to move forward.

All in all, it ugly. Blah, but I still care for him. FML

Also know that he only wants to "talk" because he'll be able to unload all of his emotions so that he can move on with his life. Right now he needs to clear his mind of everything he's done, so he NEEDS to talk to you. It's actually more torturous for him if you never give him the opportunity.

Well his ex sounds like a 'bundle of fun' ?

I feel sorry for the baby, if they cant be in each others company for more than 5 minutes without hating each other, its just gonna be an awful mess and the child will miss out on a father who hates to be around their mother and she will do nothing but moan about the father in front of the child too !

I'm secretly hoping she isn't pregnant, just was jelouse he'd met someone else and is making it up out of desperation, could that be why the argument broke out and he wants to talk to you, ashamed he slept with her after falling for a lie, also embarrassed??

Well my Pisces heart is ever optimistic I suppose x

If I were u I wudnt even pick up his damn phone or reply to his stupid text... sorry... go cold turkey, he doesn't deserve anything more than that.. (for now) ( angry face) sorry I just feel sorry for u .

*UPDATE*

So I talked for an hour with his ex GF... Ended up finding out he lied to her about me and visa versa. The whole time I spent with him was all a lie... He manipulated and was dishonest about a lot of stuff. I had no clue... She said that she doesn't want to be with him anymore and that I could have him. I told her no, I lost trust with him and I don't see him changing.

Not sure if I will date an Aqua guy again...

*UPDATE*

Things unfolded in the past two days...

His ex took over his phone and deleted my number and even went on his Facebook page and blocked me. She checks his phone regularly to make sure he isn't contacting me.

Anyways, he and I met Friday night and had the longest talk. He confessed his love with being with me and that he is at peace when he is with me. He was really depressed that night and torn about the whole situation.

He mentioned he has his doubts about being with her. And never wanted to let me go...

My time with him was deep Friday night as he confessed and opened up to me. We kissed and held hands the whole time.

But don't get me confused, I am NOT getting back with him... yet. Plus we never were in a committed relationship... He needs to figure himself out first before we even move on.

Yesterday, Saturday, I ended up going to his mother's wedding as previously planned. He had to come up with this whole story to his ex so she wouldn't suspect anything. He told her that his brother was picking him up. She made him call the brother to verify and hear his voice. He ended up having a friend cover for him and make up the story.

Anyways, I spent the whole day with him yesterday and even was with him after the wedding. At the wedding, we played off to his family that we were friends (which we basically are). He every once in a while touched my leg under the table to let me know he is still there. It was very sweet...

after the wedding he had an appointment to look at a room he is going to rent since the ex gf caused him to get evicted from his current place. We saw the room and met his future roommate. It was highly successful and the roommate absolutely adored me.

On the way back to his current place, he asked me if I would move in with him one day since the roommate takes renter couples. It was nice to hear as he sees himself with me... I told him that we need to get pass this situation with his ex and that we would have to be committed before even considering that.

Another thing he said to me was "everything with you works out great and goals are met... I'm really doubting the success of getting back with me ex."

he asked me to spend the day with him and his brother/ brother's wife this upcoming Wednesday to explore the city and do tourist stuff... so I will see him then.

*** Ok, my feelings about him after leaving me for his ex and then spending the past two days with him. Though things are back to how we were before, I am still on guard and much more aware of everything. I also told him, that I will not cut off other guys I'm talking to until we are in a committed relationship. Though we fled hands and kissed often this weekend... I'm really looking at it as a friendship now. I think that's what we need to do first...