Online Love

Online Love

Has anyone here seriously fallen in love with someone they have only 'met' online,without having met them in person?
I have a friend thousands of miles away who is adament that she is in love with me,I'm the only one for her,I'm the one she has been looking for all these years etc...etc.
She is planning on visiting me next year & is preparing to stay.
I may very well be in love with her,too,but I'm afraid to admit it.
Does anyone have any experience/stories,tales of woe/advice?

Internet dating, love...etc....is a big joke!

I'm not laughing.

i met one of my longest relationship girl (an Aqua) online. chatted for 3 months, met, met again and again and then after one year she moved in. love/hate relationship, was fun but no future and after 2.5 years we split. still we feel we are very close to each other even though we are not in touch so regularly.

DON"T DO IT!!! j/k...to each his own. just not something that i would prefer doing. i think the meeting of two people should take a more natural course...but i am also a little more old fashioned in my ways of thinking.

Ditto to what Prime and Nessa say...so many people create almost a split personality when they're online...some create this ego that is built so far fetched that they begin to believe it's who they are.

Too many naive people out there running up against the scammers and phoneys.

As far as online dating, sure, it can happen, but you have to invest more than just email, messaging, etc. into it to get a feel for that person.

Internet dating is becoming quite the norm for people; especially shy or busy professionals. I'm not against it; just leery and cautious.

Bran hows it going with the aqua young lady you were seeing a few weeks back? Is it still happening for ya both? Did she give you a pressie for your Birthday?

also you don't have body language online and that's a pretty important factor

Meeting people on the street vs. internet:Alot of people are more open over the internet also so if on the street and you met the same exact person it'll be different interactions.The people over the ineternet,you have to tell them about what your like instead of you figuring out more slowly.The people you have alot of conversations with after you met them,you find out theres nothing left to talk about,etc.

One of my simi-experiments with constant friends vs. old friends have been over on myspace.And was noticing how the up to date friends who do actually know and care about you doesn't feel like they "need" to impress you or anyhting so it may seem like a "whys that person even on thier friends list" to someone who doesn't know about the situation.Whereas an old friend is actually trying to talk to you alot to literally "get to know you again" seemingly as if you just met the person.Also noticed a bunch of complete strangers being more chatty than the family members and actual friends in sending friend requests and trying to get you to accept.So no,I don't think online dating is very good but have heard it sometimes works for people.

Oh yeah,and also noticed how when it comes to certain people on people I may work with or my boyfriends co-workers pages who eccepted strangers as friends.The same strangers are always whining about being on that persons top ten when if you did know them,its thier S/O,family members,actual real life friends,co-workers,etc. on thier top ten.

how funny...i have been on myspace for about 3 years now...and i only have like 30 friends on my "friends list", b/c i only add people that ARE my actual friends in real life. i think it's silly to add people that i don't even know...but that's just me!

People tell lies when their offline. Bottomline, it is hard to get to know who people really are. I don't think online protects peoples personality. If you'll lie online, then you'll lie offline. If you're honest offline, you'll more than likely be honest online.

Yeppers!!!!! 🙂 Actually, it's easy to create an image online but it's hard to keep it going, sooner or later you are going to slip up. However, as far as online dating goes, I think that could work better then "regular" dating, only because it's harder for the people involved to "not" be honest with each other. Especially if the two decide to meet 😉

I only use Yahoo Messenger and I have...let me count...11 people on it, and 3 are family members.

I prefer the face to face method if feasible.

Hey ST,

What's shakin' man? 😉

Same here Peach,

I like to interact with people face to face but Instant messenger is a good alternative if you are busy or if the person is far away. Hahaha, or if you are indecent ... no one can see you or small you online 😉

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

It's kinda hard to have a sordid liason online cos like you can't touch eachothers privates or anyfink....

*smell*

OOOOOOPSIE!!!!!!!

Words have their limitations expecially in the boudoir.

Good point. But what if you both live on opposite points on the globe?

Also online, people have a chance to think about what they're gonna say as opposed to having to be mroe spontaneous in real life/real time enocunters. Also shyness isn't an issue online. There are pros and cons to both media but I think online has more stuff going against it as a sensible way of finding or meeting a partner.

I think even if you met someone online and they weren't that attractive, you could deal with it, because their personality was the first thing you saw.

YES, I agree with Branh 🙂

When you get to know someone's personality ... it can completely deplete all the shallow aspects that plagues potential and ongoing relationships.

I am the same online and offline. No pretenses going on here. So to answer the question posted. If you feel this person is genuine and you have spoken via telephone and sent pictures. Then it may work. I have a girlfriend I met online about...5 years ago. We actually met for the first time this year. I mean we aren't lovers but more along the line of sisters. So it can work depends on the people.