When things go downhill or rough

I couldn't think of a title haha

.. but anyways I was wondering when things don't go your way or get a little negative eg in a relationship, career or work wise do you make effort to make it work or give up?
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Posted by Angeleyes17
I couldn't think of a title haha

.. but anyways I was wondering when things don't go your way or get a little negative eg in a relationship, career or work wise do you make effort to make it work or give up?
Share experiences to discuss 🙂

If it means a lot to me I will make it work, especially in a relationship. As far as work is concerned, if it's not going my way I make a change. I have no problem with using a negative to make a positive. I believe that we have ups and downs for a reason. It's a cycle and I keep it moving.

Does that make any sense?

Well, my Cap has an Aqua Venus...
He is strongly inclined to fight through the tough times Relationships wise - his heart is steady,
but career wise he's is much more fluid, if things are not exactly how he wants them he moves on quickly.
Family resentments are held for years but resolution with some compromise is highly valued.

I will give 150% to make things work. Doesn't matter if its work, career or relationships. I tend to be a pretty positive person overall so even when shit gets crappy I can find the positive.

In the workplace I find it hard to go through a rough patch, when it does happen I generally tough it out! If it's something outside of work that's being dragged into it I'm usually pretty good at dissociating what is personal and what's work. If it's a colleague or a work situation I'd try and fix the problem but most of the time my attitude would be "it's just the way it is" and let things be.

In relationships I'm not too sure. I can't say I always keep the peace but just drawing on past experience I've never been the one to feel negative about it at all. I place a great deal of trust in my other half but then again I spend a while to get to know them before I can truly say I'm theirs. Other than that little naggy bits I'd try and address on the spot and if I feel my other half can't understand or feel where I'm coming from I'd do everything to make sure we're on the same page.

I have a Sagittarius venus & I read that it makes a person want to run when the going gets tough in the love department...that's me to a T. I've said this many times before & I can't stress it enough, I don't put up with anything that kills my happy vibe. I want to be happy, ALL THE TIME, be it in a relationship or outside a relationship. If a relationship proves itself to be more trouble than it's worth, I'm out. That's just me.

At work & in other important areas of my life, I fight to the end. I just don't bother only with relationships. I leave that area of my life to fate because I'm not one of those people who spend a considerable amount of time trying to make a relationship work & only to end up with wasted time on my hands...time I'll never get back. Too hard? I bounce.

I love that. Thinking about a way round it or finding a solution to the problem rather than just giving up easy.

aquapiscescusp, agree with you completely. Evey negative can be changed or comes with the postive also. We dont see it in the moment but eventully it does. x

Of course I make an effort??_.but my first job when I was 16 word got around that I was gay and one of the guys who i used to wrap burgers with was this fat, christian jug-head who brought it to my attention that it was the manager who was talking about me to everyone and laughed at me??_.so I called it a day during rush hour and never when back I didn't say anything and told mum i got fired because I wasn't going to say I quit.

In relationships I hate it when things don't go my way, my exes get the shits with me saying why do i have to be so stubborn? And I say that I'm doing it my way. Thats the only way i do it, there I did it, now its done??_..

^^ I can relate to wanting things to go my way & if I'm met with too much resistance, which in turn gives me a headache/tension, I just throw in the towel. I cannot stand stress. Work related stress is easier for me to endure compared to stress caused by a relationship where the solution is much simpler, imho..you just get rid of the person & you're at peace again.

^^ To properly answer when they get violent thats when I leave them, I have tried to make things work after that but the longer I stay with them afterwards I start hating myself and then I start hating them because they're making me hate me??_..and I just kind do this silent hate implosion thing where I lay in bed for about a week till I can't stand being so pathetic and smash and trash everything around me and leave with clothes that I'm wearing.

LOL, that's exactly what I'm avoiding. I know I can be very resentful after a person have done me wrong. Any person. I was in a situation where I had to endure a lot of emotional abuse & it was very stressful because I couldn't leave. It was not a romantic situation but a family issue & I think going through that made me very intolerant of stressful situations. I leave immediately now because I can. I will not purposefully subject myself to an unhappy situation again, especially when I can just easily walk away.

Posted by Angeleyes17
I love that. Thinking about a way round it or finding a solution to the problem rather than just giving up easy.

aquapiscescusp, agree with you completely. Evey negative can be changed or comes with the postive also. We dont see it in the moment but eventully it does. x

🙂