WTF.... Aquarius toddler...

Why does Aquarius man always break up everytime we have a small disagreement and then runs back WEEKS later stating that he can't live without me and it's so painful? I am a Scorpio woman and quite frankly, I am sick and tired of it. This last argument we had was his doing as he started it and I told him he was "too old" to be behaving the way he does which is why he broke up with me because he claims I'm saying his age is a problem? He's 48 and obviously insecure and I'm 30.

Anyways, I called him yesterday evening and he was just straight mean and cold... Told me he didn't want a f*****g woman who basically stood up to him and he's never having another one of these talks with me again and to find someone my age and he will find someone his age because the chemistry between him and I is BS! He was a straight jerk! Ugh, it's so draining.

Anyways, help me understand and why he always tries to break up?

Behave yourself would be a good start —?

Behave myself? How so?

Posted by 2pinch
Why does Aquarius man always break up everytime we have a small disagreement and then runs back WEEKS later stating that he can't live without me and it's so painful? I am a Scorpio woman and quite frankly, I am sick and tired of it. This last argument we had was his doing as he started it and I told him he was "too old" to be behaving the way he does which is why he broke up with me because he claims I'm saying his age is a problem? He's 48 and obviously insecure and I'm 30.

Anyways, I called him yesterday evening and he was just straight mean and cold... Told me he didn't want a f*****g woman who basically stood up to him and he's never having another one of these talks with me again and to find someone my age and he will find someone his age because the chemistry between him and I is BS! He was a straight jerk! Ugh, it's so draining.

Anyways, help me understand and why he always tries to break up?

You are definitely in two different boats. You seem to constantly criticize him and use the age argument to prove you are right because you have different expectations from a lover. Aquarius have a unique way of behaving that few people truly understand. This is more obvious to older Aquarians. This man truly cares about you, but you keep hurting him. You have not reached a common ground in communication.

What does it mean "his doing as he started it and I told him he was "too old" to be behaving the way he does"?

No way, I do not constantly critize him! Where in that message did you get that notion?

Basically, him and I were having a great conversation on the phone and all of a sudden he's like, let me stop before you get pissed.... I'm like, where did that come from? He just started picking me apart out of no where. No need for me to lie, because I am not perfect...

I was as happy as a pig in turds because I was laughing and talking with him on the phone and I always like to hear his voice. We were talking about his boss anyways. Nothing he said about his boss could upset me. I don't even know his boss on a personal level.

Anyways, I see what you are saying. However, his age was never a problem to begin with. That's obvious to anyone. And maybe I was was wrong for saying that... But, never do I just sit and critize him. And you being an aqua know that you guys can dish out whatever you feel but when someone gets upset, they are in the wrong for speaking their mind or feeling annoyed?

Posted by 2pinch
No way, I do not constantly critize him! Where in that message did you get that notion?

Basically, him and I were having a great conversation on the phone and all of a sudden he's like, let me stop before you get pissed.... I'm like, where did that come from? He just started picking me apart out of no where. No need for me to lie, because I am not perfect...

I was as happy as a pig in turds because I was laughing and talking with him on the phone and I always like to hear his voice. We were talking about his boss anyways. Nothing he said about his boss could upset me. I don't even know his boss on a personal level.

Anyways, I see what you are saying. However, his age was never a problem to begin with. That's obvious to anyone. And maybe I was was wrong for saying that... But, never do I just sit and critize him. And you being an aqua know that you guys can dish out whatever you feel but when someone gets upset, they are in the wrong for speaking their mind or feeling annoyed?

So you got upset when he said 'don't get upset'??

Drama drama drama.

In all honesty, him and I both would sting in the beginning but I admit I said some hurtful things but I changed a lot of things to help our relationship. Scorpios don't even like to apologize lol but with him, I started doing it wanting to be understandable of where he was coming from instead of making him feel stupid. The bad qualities that I had in tfhe past aren't as present as they use to be only because I matured.... Plus, I fell in love with him so I totally softened up towards him. But, in all honest, I have done things to to try and better our relationship... I'm not perfect by no means.... I think that if I was such a terrible person being that he was an Aquarius, he would have never allowed himself to fall in love with me in the first place. Plus, he would always tell me how beautiful my heart was.

I do not believe it's out of nowhere. Your original post suggests something else, so you should be careful how you describe it. Anyway, you have not said anything about the status of your relationship. How long have you been dating, is it a LDR, how often do you see each other?

But if he believes you get easily pissed off, he must be right. Aquas are very good at sensing vibes. Are you interrupting him while he talks? Are you giving him advice on how to behave? The fact that he chose to open up with you with his problems suggests he started to trust you, but somehow you seem to push him back to his shell. Do you know anything about his past?

No, He said he's going to stop talking before I got upset. I got annoyed because we were having a great conversation. No disagreement and nothing negative.

So I was like, what is going on? I told him nothing he said upset me or annoyed me and I was enjoying the conversation and he was like but you get so pissed and you are so sensitive( he has the nerve because every little thing makes him angry or sensitive lol). But, him and I were having a good conversation so I didn't understand it. But, he swore I was mad and I wasn't. I am not someone who hides my feeling when I love someone he knows when I don't like something. But, he just "assumed" I was upset and I just thought that maybe he was feeling scared and wanted a way to back out(commitment issues). We had been getting along so well and getting closer to one another that I had no idea what happened.....

Yes, but, why do you say "always break up everytime we have a small disagreement"? How many times it happened? Did you go anywhere beyond phone calls or social media? Have you met? Did he express any feelings towards you?

You sound like me and a virtual friend of mine that keeps bugging me from time to time, pisses me off and I go MIA for days/weeks, until I get over it without being rude to him. But we are not lovers, even though he likes me and he told me so. Virtual/phone talks don't mean a relationship, so there is nothing to break up.

Haha! Omg, really compy?

I swear it was out of no where which that honestly had never happened before... I have never even seen him do that. And I am sensitive just like him which is where we have issues at times...

We have been dating since October 2016.... We were actually together. I would see him as much as he wanted which was probably 4-6 times a week and I would just spend the night there.

No, I don't cut him off! He's the heavy talker in the relationship which I'm the one who gets cut off a lot and I don't take it personal. Every now and then I tell him to let me finish, but no I don't interrupt him when he's talking. Yes, I know a lot about his past which is why I try to be patient with him and talk things out with him instead of use breaking apart when we have small disagreements.

Probably about 15 times. Lol.

We live about 15-20 minutes away from one another so I would see him and we would talk on the phone.

He's a nice guy in many way... I'm not saying he's horrible but he is complicated at times.

Yes, he has told me how much he loves Me and he tells me he loves me a lot. He has never fallen so hard for someone like he has for me.... He's very affectionate, extremely loving... I mean, some days I am so sleepy from him staying up all night and kissing me... I literally wake up to him kissing me and whispering nice things to me. Lol. He calls me about 10 times a day... I mean, he's great just bad temper and overly sensitive. I am too but he's extremely sensitive and he admits that.

Is your virtual person a Scorpio?

I meant to say that he tells me he has never fallen so hard for anyone like he has with me...

Well, it seems you are taking it personally, even though you are trying not to manifest yourself too much in front of him. If you have seen each other consistently since October, you are only now starting to reveal your true colors. He can already sense yours.

The question is, are you able to deal with his true self? Aquas can be unpredictable and with mood switches, especially if they have a lot of water in the chart. Or maybe he is testing you to see your reactions to various situations that can occur in a possible relationship. Did he commit to you? Did he have any heavy failures in his love live?

He knows exactly how I am and he has seen that from the beginning. And I saw his sides straight on.

We were actually committed and yes, I take it personal because I don't want him to keep leaving for weeks at a time and we not speak. He has done that plenty of times and I addressed to him that we can keep breaking up to make up. He would tell me that no matter what he would work through the issues and not break up with me over petty stuff but I guess when I think we are making progress and he breaks up it hurts me because I keep investing my feelings in hopes we can make it work because I feel the same about him that he does for me. I guess it boils down to how mad he is and his moody. Like you said, aquas moods change.

Yes, to love failures when it came to women starting with his own Mother! His relationship with the first women he loved was abusive verbally and physically on both parts, one woman was cheating on him and he really loved her and was taking care of her... Some just ran away from him and one he was with for a while he said they were there for each other but he wasn't in love with her like she was in love with him. Not to put him out there like that but so you will understand... I do know what he's been through as he stated that he's very comfortable with me but I don't know how to help him not feel scared and run off when we have problems.

I see. He is quite a mess. He may never settle if it is like this. Beware. Be his friend, but keep your feelings in check as you may get hurt in the process. I have been dealing with the same situation for a long time, but at least mine is more consistent and he never went MIA for more than two days in the last year. And take into account that he may never give you what you want - a fully committed and smooth relationship.

Thanks Compy!

Good advice.

Sad part is he's a great guy in my eyes but he can not handle emotions in any way when his anger is involved! See, I am sensitive but I let those things go and want to work things out. Even his sister says he's very touchy and his behavior is very bad at times. I believe he definitely has women problems, obviously...

But, Last nights convo was of him spewing burning hot fire all over me and me just sitting there feeling so crispy lol. I was pretty speechless.

So, I texted him today apologizing for putting expectations on his age and letting him know I am here for him but if he doesn't want to continue on, I would have to respect his decision for real.

This might sound crazy but it may even be best for him to just keep his distance for a while to really think things through even though I love him too much already but I just don't want to keep up with the back and forth situation. We are better off apart if this can't stop....

Whats his chart? He sounds like a water sign ?

Hello, I'm a 55 year old Scorpio dating a 61 year old Aqua and it's best friendship I've every had. Had it not been for our open and honest communication I don't think we would have made it past a month. LOL

our emotions are wild (aqua man) we try play it cool but eventually break down mentally first, then emotionally! Damn, Even I question why the usual aqua man can't communicate properly (and I'm an aqua man -1st feb). I understand it can be very mentally and emotionally tiring, but we genuinely do care about everyone. even when we're all over the place emotionally.

If anyone has any questions, PLEASE ask them, I'd love to help you!

My Aqua shows no emotions unless it's all in the inside like mines, but his actions and what he says speaks volume to me. He doesn't emotionally tire me but I think I may tire him emotionally sometimes and when that happens he just takes a deep breath and exhale and that's when I know I am frustrating him. lol He's a beautiful person.