Are Aries a little confuse sometimes?

For those of you that knows my soap opera, here is were I left the last episode, My boyfriend of 4 years and I are finally progressing with the selling of our house with the clear understanding of moving on with our lives separate ways, now we still live together sleeping in the same room same bed since my mother is visiting for 2 month, two weeks ago I came back from vacation and mom came along, never had problems sleeping in the same place and been civil to one another until we can settle our problems, he knows that this relationship is over so no reason to fight or anything like that, he still does argue for whatever reason. A week ago we had our latest argument and we mention one more time that we are just waiting to solve the house situation, so why is it so difficult for him to understand that civil does not mean having sex in the meantime, He gets mad bc I don't want or think that we should have sex while we are in this process, or is sex just a necessity here and hey nothing better that the one next in bed. How would you handle this situation from an Aries point of view without create more hostility. He ask me so what are we going to do until we sell the house be roommates? Not possible so he want to do the couples thing kiss in the morning when he goes to work, when he comes back goodnight kiss, dinners etc and of course sex. If you want to know the beginning of this soap opera check bad temper here in Aries forum.

"Not possible so he want to do the couples thing kiss in the morning when he goes to work, when he comes back goodnight kiss, dinners etc and of course sex. If you want to know the beginning of this soap opera check bad temper here in Aries forum."

I say let him go on and have his bad tempers! So, you are saying if I understood this correctly, you two are going your separtate ways - you are finito and moving on and he still feels that having sex with you is okay?

Most likely to him it is but, we are not concerned about him right now. What haubli, is going to make YOU happy? Do you want to be intimate with him? will this work for you? Do you want to right now cut off all intimate relations so that you can emotionally move on?

You need to decide what is BEST for you and your emotional well-being and stick to it.

Mr. Aries may get mad....most men do get mad when they don't get what they want = bruised EGO. Does it really matter how he responds to your wishes? If you care more about how he responds to what you feel than actually honouring yourself and not worrying about how you feel...then, well - ya really ain't gonna be feeling to good about yourself.

Do what you need to do for you - do not do it for him.

Best wishes...I see brighter days ahead for YOU 😉

*separate* spell check ON!

this should read....If you care more about how he responds to you than actually honouring yourself and caring more about what YOU feel.

*sometimes my brain cells move too fast for my fingers✨ my apologies

Hmmmm...not sure solitas777 - is their relationship over? are they both in agreement of this?

I was thinking yes to the above and that he just wanted to continue receiving the "fun" for the heck of it.

AND...yes an Aries man will do this. I know an Aries man who is divorced from his Gemini wife. He feels that she "owes" it to him to have sex with him and sleep with him when he visits the house.

AHHHHHHH- know what I said to him? "Mr., NO ONE owes you anything!"

So, some men have lost their *thinking caps* on the side of the road to only have been run over and grounded into the cement. so very, very sad 😢

Yeah, duh. What solitas said exactly. And honestly if I were still sleeping in the same bed with someone that I still cared about and was attracted to, I would definitely be trying to get some.

Thank you freebird for your advise, I do feel bad getting close to him, I can not get out of my head all the bad things he had said to me about how he feels for me and that he has no respect for me or this relationship, and he is not in love with me. So now after 2 years listening to the same I am ready to do whatever it takes to go separate ways, I don't think he is aware of his words and the damage he has caused. I do feel bad getting close to him not just bc is wrong or humiliating but bc he tells me over and over that he is with me bc of the house, so that's why it is so important to move fast with the selling. Excuse my spelling.

I should mention that those words come very clear and loud every time he gets his tantrums at least once a week, the man is so hard to please, never happy, I bring dessert to the table and he ask where is the coffee? always something, anyways thanks all.

"Yeah, duh. What solitas said exactly. And honestly if I were still sleeping in the same bed with someone that I still cared about and was attracted to, I would definitely be trying to get some."

Sure, no doubt but, he does NOT care about her or her feelings.

FYI* just because a man is in the same bed as a woman and wants to have sex with her does not mean that he loves her. He can just be wanting some "booty" There is so much more to caring about someone than sleeping with them and wanting to have sex.

I agree with you solitas, he does exhibit the signs of an abusive person.

Next!

The thread asks if Aries are confused sometimes .. seriously, I should think that any person would be confused if thier partner broke up with them, but, still slept next to them in bed .. mixed signals.

Sounds to me as though you may a tad confused about this too. You know that it's probably wrong to do this, yet .. continue. The whole situation is confusing. Sleeping on the floor would be better than comprimising a belief or principal. It sounds to me as though, you know it's over and time to move on, as he probably does too, it's just so hard after committing and sharing so much time together. Plus, the whole asset thing.

However, it works out for you .. I hope it goes easier and less stressful. From what I understand the market is suppose to pick back up soon, so hopefully, this will end soon for you.

🙂

Seems with humans, male and female, when there's a fight, or problems in the relationship .. everything is made better in bed. Once the two sleep together again, that is, more or less, the forgiveness and acceptance.

I'm not doubting that he makes you feel as bad as you say, and treats you in a way you think is inappropriate .. but, in his mind, he may be justifying everything by thinking that if you still put-out .. you are forgiving him for whatever distress he is causing you.

Just food for thought.

May I just say you seem to be handling this situation quite well. I can't say that I would be so confident if I were in your situation. It really is like divorcing, isn't it? Less complicated without all the legalities, but in many ways it's more difficult.

I say it's not okay for him to be asking these things of you. Seems like he wants to try and charm you back into the lies, right?

But you're not blind anymore. And he's trying to remain oblivious to this fact.

I say rock on, girl. If possible, move out now. Go stay with friends or family and keep your stuff in storage. This way he certainly won't be confused about how you feel.

Good luck to you.

Thank you all, you all have responded very respectfully, mysticfire it is very difficult it is the same as a divorce with minimal legal hassles, emotionally the same, I don't know what he's trying one thing for sure he has no consciousness of his words and the meaning of them and if I try to remind him of it he just say ?whatever?. So I just keep civil and no more comments at this point their is no need for talks I did all the talking for nothing, I think he is surprised that Iam not saying anything about us fixing things, now all he sees is a friend who wants peace and wish him well. No question I am very sad about this but I know how unhealthy this is.

Freebird, I doubt after so many years that it is just about getting booty. But you are right he does sound abusive. It would probably be best to tell him to go get his own fucking coffee. But I also agree with P-angel, still sharing a bed definitely sends mixed signals.

Roxi, how are you doing sorry about your diagnosis, hope you have enough support around you, we are here, yes, and it is legless here too. What happened to the good thoughts about Aries, for a moment I thought you and ?X? were back together.