Princely
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My Aries girlfriend is in an open relationship
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Posted by TaureanAndsWe haven't had sex yet though
Get tested for stds
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
You've already answered this for yourself. You love this girl, you wanna be with her. Set this straight and don't settle for foul compromises.
Sounds like she picked the other guy over you
Posted by KoniuchaaShe actually told me she wasn't dating anyone the first time I met her. That was why I got more close to her. This just came out from no wherePosted by PrincelyMonths have gone by and she never mentioned that? Shady...Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testingclick to expand
Posted by Princelyso, you two are officially dating, and she is officially dating somebody else as well? so now she has two official relationships and the the other guy of hers has as well multiple official relationships?Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testingclick to expand
or is she is not official with the other guy and she is only a side-piece or frined with benefit?
I would be afraid, that she is with you only, because the other guy doesnt want to be official with her....
i would not like an open relationship, i am not sure you will handle it well, if you "love" her....
In my opinion, there are two possible cases:
1. she has a history with open relationships, she is multiamorous (or what they call it), and were doing this all her life, open relationships - it will not change
2. she has no history with open relationships, and this one is the first for her - meaning, she wanted an official relationship with the other guy, who didnt want her excusively...... I think, if you agree with an open relationship with her, you will be the same doormat as she is the other guy.... (if that is the case and not option 1, what I mentioned.)
so, which one is the case, number 1 or 2? you know her better if you are talking to each other months
Damn, dude... Is this like your first real girlfriend or something??
Why are you subjecting yourself to a situation that makes you feel insecure and not enough? You don't have anymore options of women or something?
Why would you ignore the fact that she's fucking another man? Just to keep a lousy woman around? Just to say you have a girlfriend? Man, please....... Fuck that bitch, get you a new one. Period.
Also, it's not an "open relationship" as she's claiming it to be. This is most likely just her ex boyfriend that's been dogging her out for the past year and she's on the quest of monkey branching and you are the safest tree she's found.. Because they are not together, makes it "open".
Get out, forreal.. You might get hurt.. A man that respects and values himself will tell a woman "hey, I hope you find someone that you can be happy with, instead of dating two men at once.. As for me, I'm not interested in a woman who has a boyfriend already. It may be open, but I like my women more monogamous and closed off on giving away affections"..
That's what a guy that's confident and sure of himself would say and do.. That might be manliest thing that girl has ever witnessed in her life too.
Why would you ever ask a woman to be your girlfriend anyway? That's not your job, that's hers. Your job is just to create high vibes, be her friend, give her sparks and be sexy, have sex. Just chill on that "what are we" shit.. Don't worry about that.
She's obviously not sure she wants to be with you, but she hasn't found your replacement yet.. So she's stringing you along and the other man too.. Who she probably wants the most, but can't have him.
They way she abruptly ended the conversation with you just tells it all.. "Bye" ?? What a bitch. A woman that likes you will always want to talk.. But that doesn't mean chat her down all the fuckin time.. Be mysterious and unavailable at times too.
Why are you subjecting yourself to a situation that makes you feel insecure and not enough? You don't have anymore options of women or something?
Why would you ignore the fact that she's fucking another man? Just to keep a lousy woman around? Just to say you have a girlfriend? Man, please....... Fuck that bitch, get you a new one. Period.
Also, it's not an "open relationship" as she's claiming it to be. This is most likely just her ex boyfriend that's been dogging her out for the past year and she's on the quest of monkey branching and you are the safest tree she's found.. Because they are not together, makes it "open".
Get out, forreal.. You might get hurt.. A man that respects and values himself will tell a woman "hey, I hope you find someone that you can be happy with, instead of dating two men at once.. As for me, I'm not interested in a woman who has a boyfriend already. It may be open, but I like my women more monogamous and closed off on giving away affections"..
That's what a guy that's confident and sure of himself would say and do.. That might be manliest thing that girl has ever witnessed in her life too.
Why would you ever ask a woman to be your girlfriend anyway? That's not your job, that's hers. Your job is just to create high vibes, be her friend, give her sparks and be sexy, have sex. Just chill on that "what are we" shit.. Don't worry about that.
She's obviously not sure she wants to be with you, but she hasn't found your replacement yet.. So she's stringing you along and the other man too.. Who she probably wants the most, but can't have him.
They way she abruptly ended the conversation with you just tells it all.. "Bye" ?? What a bitch. A woman that likes you will always want to talk.. But that doesn't mean chat her down all the fuckin time.. Be mysterious and unavailable at times too.
Don't make yourself an option to some girl!
Either you are priority or move on. She agreed on being official with you, she lied in the beginning...
You can do better
Either you are priority or move on. She agreed on being official with you, she lied in the beginning...
You can do better
Posted by PrincelyShe lied to you .... Be carefulPosted by KoniuchaaShe actually told me she wasn't dating anyone the first time I met her. That was why I got more close to her. This just came out from no wherePosted by PrincelyMonths have gone by and she never mentioned that? Shady...Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testingclick to expand
Posted by Pandora101Posted by Princelyso, you two are officially dating, and she is officially dating somebody else as well? so now she has two official relationships and the the other guy of hers has as well multiple official relationships?Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
or is she is not official with the other guy and she is only a side-piece or frined with benefit?
I would be afraid, that she is with you only, because the other guy doesnt want to be official with her....
i would not like an open relationship, i am not sure you will handle it well, if you "love" her....
In my opinion, there are two possible cases:
1. she has a history with open relationships, she is multiamorous (or what they call it), and were doing this all her life, open relationships - it will not change
2. she has no history with open relationships, and this one is the first for her - meaning, she wanted an official relationship with the other guy, who didnt want her excusively...... I think, if you agree with an open relationship with her, you will be the same doormat as she is the other guy.... (if that is the case and not option 1, what I mentioned.)
so, which one is the case, number 1 or 2? you know her better if you are talking to each other months
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When we first talked, I asked her if she was in any relationship, she said she wasn't in any. I asked her what happened to her last relationship, she said she just walked out of it, because she wasn't getting the attention she needed. She never told me she was in any relationship, I won't have considered dating her if that was the case.
But her family is kind of polygamous. The mom and dad is divorced. Her dad remarried, and divorced again. Her aunt is divorced. I don't know, maybe she feels comfortable being in the center of many guys.
Its just painful that I've come to love her deeply.
Posted by KoniuchaaYes, she liedPosted by PrincelySo she lied?Posted by KoniuchaaShe actually told me she wasn't dating anyone the first time I met her. That was why I got more close to her. This just came out from no wherePosted by PrincelyMonths have gone by and she never mentioned that? Shady...Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testingclick to expand
Activate spine. Walk away. Fuck her and her retarded open relationship. Who knows where she was on her knees sucking dick in the months talking to you.
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Posted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊click to expand
Why?
Posted by pisceswoman123Very much disagreeing. Us aquas already have a constant fear of abandonement because of our quirkiness because we push the limits of our partner and then that he has to add on top of that the fact he literally isn't good enough to be the first (only) choice....this is brain damage material that will continue into his next relationship with jealousy, suspicions, no trust etc etc....
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Just a bad situation.
Posted by pisceswoman123
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
By give her a chance, you mean I should ignore the other relationship with the other guy, and just continue with her on my side? Or give her time to make a decision... Please kindly explain, you're a lady
Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123Very much disagreeing. Us aquas already have a constant fear of abandonement because of our quirkiness because we push the limits of our partner and then that he has to add on top of that the fact he literally isn't good enough to be the first (only) choice....this is brain damage material that will continue into his next relationship with jealousy, suspicions, no trust etc etc....
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Just a bad situation.
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exactly my fear. Its painful
Posted by PrincelyYou need to expand on the part where you say her family is polygamous, since you also say her parents are divorced. It doesn't make sense.Posted by Pandora101Posted by Princelyso, you two are officially dating, and she is officially dating somebody else as well? so now she has two official relationships and the the other guy of hers has as well multiple official relationships?Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
or is she is not official with the other guy and she is only a side-piece or frined with benefit?
I would be afraid, that she is with you only, because the other guy doesnt want to be official with her....
i would not like an open relationship, i am not sure you will handle it well, if you "love" her....
In my opinion, there are two possible cases:
1. she has a history with open relationships, she is multiamorous (or what they call it), and were doing this all her life, open relationships - it will not change
2. she has no history with open relationships, and this one is the first for her - meaning, she wanted an official relationship with the other guy, who didnt want her excusively...... I think, if you agree with an open relationship with her, you will be the same doormat as she is the other guy.... (if that is the case and not option 1, what I mentioned.)
so, which one is the case, number 1 or 2? you know her better if you are talking to each other months
When we first talked, I asked her if she was in any relationship, she said she wasn't in any. I asked her what happened to her last relationship, she said she just walked out of it, because she wasn't getting the attention she needed. She never told me she was in any relationship, I won't have considered dating her if that was the case.
But her family is kind of polygamous. The mom and dad is divorced. Her dad remarried, and divorced again. Her aunt is divorced. I don't know, maybe she feels comfortable being in the center of many guys.
Its just painful that I've come to love her deeply.
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Sounds like she's polyamorous and doesn't know how to handle it yet. If that life style is not for you, then leave.
Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123Very much disagreeing. Us aquas already have a constant fear of abandonement because of our quirkiness because we push the limits of our partner and then that he has to add on top of that the fact he literally isn't good enough to be the first (only) choice....this is brain damage material that will continue into his next relationship with jealousy, suspicions, no trust etc etc....
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Just a bad situation.
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He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Posted by Ram416Posted by PrincelyYou need to expand on the part where you say her family is polygamous, since you also say her parents are divorced. It doesn't make sense.Posted by Pandora101Posted by Princelyso, you two are officially dating, and she is officially dating somebody else as well? so now she has two official relationships and the the other guy of hers has as well multiple official relationships?Posted by MyStarsShineWe have been talking for months. She just said yes to us officially dating one week ago.
If you are not happy with that then you don't have to tolerate it.....tell her so.....be direct, she is an Aries
You say you love her.....after one week?
Yes to the testing
or is she is not official with the other guy and she is only a side-piece or frined with benefit?
I would be afraid, that she is with you only, because the other guy doesnt want to be official with her....
i would not like an open relationship, i am not sure you will handle it well, if you "love" her....
In my opinion, there are two possible cases:
1. she has a history with open relationships, she is multiamorous (or what they call it), and were doing this all her life, open relationships - it will not change
2. she has no history with open relationships, and this one is the first for her - meaning, she wanted an official relationship with the other guy, who didnt want her excusively...... I think, if you agree with an open relationship with her, you will be the same doormat as she is the other guy.... (if that is the case and not option 1, what I mentioned.)
so, which one is the case, number 1 or 2? you know her better if you are talking to each other months
When we first talked, I asked her if she was in any relationship, she said she wasn't in any. I asked her what happened to her last relationship, she said she just walked out of it, because she wasn't getting the attention she needed. She never told me she was in any relationship, I won't have considered dating her if that was the case.
But her family is kind of polygamous. The mom and dad is divorced. Her dad remarried, and divorced again. Her aunt is divorced. I don't know, maybe she feels comfortable being in the center of many guys.
Its just painful that I've come to love her deeply.
Sounds like she's polyamorous and doesn't know how to handle it yet. If that life style is not for you, then leave.click to expand
The dad married 2 wives, divorced her mum, remarried again, divorced... I don't know how best to call it
Posted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Posted by PrincelyPosted by pisceswoman123
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
By give her a chance, you mean I should ignore the other relationship with the other guy, and just continue with her on my side? Or give her time to make a decision... Please kindly explain, you're a lady
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No, you have to tell her that if she wants to be with you she has to be only with you.
That is what you want.
You have to make it clear that you won’t tolerate that.
Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
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Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
Posted by PrincelyDude, i get you. New love, walking on air feeling when thinking of her......
exactly my fear. Its painful
Fight for it then, but i wonder how long your morale will last when you'll be putting in 110% and she will go home to sleep with the other guy, like a slap in the face to all your efforts.
Posted by pisceswoman123Lots of assuming going on.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
The whole situation is just "unhygienical". Drop the dude, the come to this guy, not trying to sit on two chairs waiting which turns out better. That just smells of unreliable, opportunistic in an ugly way (toying with emotions).
Posted by pisceswoman123" She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that. "Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
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I am afraid she was with the other guy, so when she left him and went home, she felt guilty to sleep with the other guy, so she came clean to the OP 😢
Posted by Mr_PinchyYes lots of assuming because we don’t know all the details.Posted by pisceswoman123Lots of assuming going on.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
The whole situation is just "unhygienical". Drop the dude, the come to this guy, not trying to sit on two chairs waiting which turns out better. That just smells of unreliable, opportunistic in an ugly way (toying with emotions).
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You just choose to see her as shady and I choose to see her as confused.
Posted by Pandora101Posted by pisceswoman123" She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that. "Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
I am afraid she was with the other guy, so when she left him and went home, she felt guilty to sleep with the other guy, so she came clean to the OP 😢
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If she feels guilty it means that she cares. And coming clean means that she is willing to move forward.
Posted by pisceswoman123Oww c'mon girl....they've been talking for months. Lots of time to clear the air of any confusion. imo...
Yes lots of assuming because we don’t know all the details.
You just choose to see her as shady and I choose to see her as confused.
Posted by pisceswoman123"If she feels guilty it means that she cares. And coming clean means that she is willing to move forward."Posted by Pandora101Posted by pisceswoman123" She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that. "Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
I am afraid she was with the other guy, so when she left him and went home, she felt guilty to sleep with the other guy, so she came clean to the OP 😢
If she feels guilty it means that she cares. And coming clean means that she is willing to move forward.
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hm.... maybe. But unfortunately, I think it was like this: she loves that other guy, who doesnt want her exclusively.... she is talking to the OP, looking for somebody to lift her ego and spirits in times the other guy is not with her or hurt her.... she is telling the OP she is single.... then after a week she tells him she is in an open relationship...... very possibly the other guy called her, they had sex, and she will want to have sex with him again, hence the confession about the open relationship suddenly, at night-time..... if she would not like to sleep with him again, she would not say "open relationship" - she is leaving a space for herself to go and sleep with the other guy, whenever he calls her...
or maybe not, and you are right, we will see...
but, I am really sorry for the OP, it must be very harsh pursuing this girl for months, only one week into "official relationship", no sex yet...... and suddenly this 😢
it will be a very hard few weeks, when the OP will balance between hope, denial, reasong with himself, listening to this girl ´s lies........ and he will end up friend-zoned and the girl will cry on whis shoulders about that other guy, who is a jerk and doesnt want her, and the OP is soo nice, but only as a friend
Posted by PiscesfuckupAgreed. The lying part is already a big red flag and even in a proper open relationship it wouldn't have been tolerated.
There's so much wrong with her behaviour but first and foremost this is NOT how one goes about getting into an open relationship. Yikes.
You can have cake and eat it too. Or be a fool when she greedy .. Yet she ended things by say bye . Love comes , love goes , you r the most important factor... why would you settle for half of anything. When she wasn’t up front the fuckery is real.
Fall back regroup.
Fall back regroup.
Posted by DeadInsidearies and aqua board tbh
someone give a L to arie board
Posted by lesenfantterriblesActually poly is one step further ahead of open and at this point, with a vague description from OP I think it's open until all 3 parties agree to commit. Then it becomes poly.
eveyone in this thread is an asshole. just bc she is in an open relationship (its called POLYamory, you ignorant fucks) doesnt mean she is a ho & you need to get tested. *smh*
hopefully, she is responsibly poly & gets tested after every new partner she is with.
it IS fucked she didnt tell you about her situation BEFORE she agreed to date you. however, that doesnt mean she deserves to be treated like some disease ridden whore.
Posted by Pandora101It’s doesn’t have to be weeks. He can ask her straight away.Posted by pisceswoman123"If she feels guilty it means that she cares. And coming clean means that she is willing to move forward."Posted by Pandora101Posted by pisceswoman123" She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that. "Posted by Mr_PinchyPosted by pisceswoman123She hasn't made any mistakes. She is in an open relationship, he is the side piece.
He said he loves her.
Then I think he should forgive her mistake and make it clear that he wouldn’t tolerate it again and that she has to stop whatever she has with the other guy.
Well, it all depends in how open it is and how much it means for her.
I don’t think he is the side piece. She wouldn’t have woke him up in the middle of the night to tell him that.
I think she wants to know how serious he is.
I am afraid she was with the other guy, so when she left him and went home, she felt guilty to sleep with the other guy, so she came clean to the OP 😢
If she feels guilty it means that she cares. And coming clean means that she is willing to move forward.
hm.... maybe. But unfortunately, I think it was like this: she loves that other guy, who doesnt want her exclusively.... she is talking to the OP, looking for somebody to lift her ego and spirits in times the other guy is not with her or hurt her.... she is telling the OP she is single.... then after a week she tells him she is in an open relationship...... very possibly the other guy called her, they had sex, and she will want to have sex with him again, hence the confession about the open relationship suddenly, at night-time..... if she would not like to sleep with him again, she would not say "open relationship" - she is leaving a space for herself to go and sleep with the other guy, whenever he calls her...
or maybe not, and you are right, we will see...
but, I am really sorry for the OP, it must be very harsh pursuing this girl for months, only one week into "official relationship", no sex yet...... and suddenly this 😢
it will be a very hard few weeks, when the OP will balance between hope, denial, reasong with himself, listening to this girl ´s lies........ and he will end up friend-zoned and the girl will cry on whis shoulders about that other guy, who is a jerk and doesnt want her, and the OP is soo nice, but only as a friend
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But Aries don’t like to be pushed.
We will see.
But if she has agreed to be his girlfriend there’s a big chance that she is serious, I think.
Aries don’t commit that easily
Posted by pisceswoman123Gut feelingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Why?
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Posted by MyStarsShineI see your point but he is already invested.Posted by pisceswoman123Gut feelingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Why?
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Posted by tizianiYes
Absolutely every single detail you've posted about this sounds like bad news just waiting to get worse.
Posted by pisceswoman123Well there is always the option to withdraw investmentsPosted by MyStarsShineI see your point but he is already invested.Posted by pisceswoman123Gut feelingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Why?
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Or maybe he will choose to go there ?
Posted by lesenfantterriblesSo have I (2 poly situations and 1 open).Posted by Ram416Posted by lesenfantterriblesActually poly is one step further ahead of open and at this point, with a vague description from OP I think it's open until all 3 parties agree to commit. Then it becomes poly.
eveyone in this thread is an asshole. just bc she is in an open relationship (its called POLYamory, you ignorant fucks) doesnt mean she is a ho & you need to get tested. *smh*
hopefully, she is responsibly poly & gets tested after every new partner she is with.
it IS fucked she didnt tell you about her situation BEFORE she agreed to date you. however, that doesnt mean she deserves to be treated like some disease ridden whore.
ACTUALLY:
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, "many, several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice of or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy".
committment doesnt necessarily make it poly
i have been in 3 poly situations.click to expand
What I see here is the girl not knowing what she wants and we also don't know the details of her arrangements with the other guy. For all we know the other guy and her have an open arrangement to sleep with others but not necessarily be emotionally involved with others.
What we do know is she lied to the OP, which already makes her irresponsible, and that OP has developed feelings for her. But we don't know exactly how she feels about him ( we only have info based on OP's account of what happened).
I'm sorry but my own personal view of responsible Polyamory involves at the very least some level of commitment from all parties involved. Without commitment, then it's open.
Posted by MyStarsShineOfc This is just our opinions.Posted by pisceswoman123Well there is always the option to withdraw investmentsPosted by MyStarsShineI see your point but he is already invested.Posted by pisceswoman123Gut feelingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Why?
Or maybe he will choose to go there ?click to expand
I will choose to see it through if I am invested. If it doesn’t work at least I tried
You need to get a new girlfriend. You thought she was a good girl by letting you get to know her, taking your time with her and thinking she was really authentic in having a friendship and real relationship with you.
While the whole time she was treating you like a side dude getting fucked by someone else and patiently waiting for you to make a move so she can do the bait and switch and crush you. Who the fuck does this type of shit?
I understand keeping your options open and then deciding once he makes up his mind. But actually getting into a relationship and then having the nerve let you know that shes been playing with you the whole time, and she knew it would hurt and upset you—
Dump her ass and don't look back. There is no fixing this type of situation if she had no intention of ever letting the other guy go and she kept secrets for this long.
While the whole time she was treating you like a side dude getting fucked by someone else and patiently waiting for you to make a move so she can do the bait and switch and crush you. Who the fuck does this type of shit?
I understand keeping your options open and then deciding once he makes up his mind. But actually getting into a relationship and then having the nerve let you know that shes been playing with you the whole time, and she knew it would hurt and upset you—
Dump her ass and don't look back. There is no fixing this type of situation if she had no intention of ever letting the other guy go and she kept secrets for this long.
Posted by CaramelizedCoffeeActually she should have told him during the 1st date.Posted by lesenfantterriblesBy the 3rd date you should tell someone you're in an open relationshipPosted by Ram416Posted by lesenfantterriblesActually poly is one step further ahead of open and at this point, with a vague description from OP I think it's open until all 3 parties agree to commit. Then it becomes poly.
eveyone in this thread is an asshole. just bc she is in an open relationship (its called POLYamory, you ignorant fucks) doesnt mean she is a ho & you need to get tested. *smh*
hopefully, she is responsibly poly & gets tested after every new partner she is with.
it IS fucked she didnt tell you about her situation BEFORE she agreed to date you. however, that doesnt mean she deserves to be treated like some disease ridden whore.
ACTUALLY:
Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, "many, several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice of or desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the knowledge of all partners. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy".
committment doesnt necessarily make it poly
i have been in 3 poly situations.
She's in the wrong
Getting fuked by a guy while she's seriously dating someoneclick to expand
Posted by pisceswoman123God loves a trier 🙂Posted by MyStarsShineOfc This is just our opinions.Posted by pisceswoman123Well there is always the option to withdraw investmentsPosted by MyStarsShineI see your point but he is already invested.Posted by pisceswoman123Gut feelingPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by pisceswoman123I hope he doesn't
Is the other guy a fwb?
If that is the case she didn’t tell you because for her that it is not a relationship and she wanted to keep her options open.
Now that she is closer to you and she want to be your girlfriend she felt like she needed to come clean. She waited a week because she didn’t know how to tell you.
If you love her you should give her a chance. That is my opinion on it 😊
Why?
Or maybe he will choose to go there ?
I will choose to see it through if I am invested. If it doesn’t work at least I triedclick to expand
Hope the OP will be okay ...
I told her to end it, she says, "For now, no".
Seems she's chosen the other guy somehow.
Seems she's chosen the other guy somehow.
Posted by Princely
I just started this relationship with my girlfriend, an Aries, one week ago, so its a new one.
Is it worth fighting for, because I love this girl.
Get out!... get the ass first though. 🙌🏾
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