should I give up on this cancer man?

Him: cancer sun/moon with a leo rising

me: sag sun, gemini moon, Taurus rising

About two months ago I met this cancer man. we go to the same university so I had seen him around before but we have never exchanged words. I would often catch him staring at me at different events at school and later as I got more interested in getting to know who he was I noticed that we were already following each other on Instagram and twitter. He would be the first one to watch my stories and was quick to start liking all of my pictures. one night he commented on one of my stories and ended up sending me his number so I texted him for a day or two but I wasn't too interested because my ex (Sagittarius) and I were attempting to work on things so I stopped texting cancer guy for about a week. after that I posted one of those little question games on my Instagram stories and he commented asking where I'd been so I decided to just text him again because nothing with my ex was going to change. we texted for a few weeks until one night the conversation got sexual and we ended up hooking up and it was amazing. it seemed like that's all we could talk about until we did it again. we ended up hooking up twice before I went back home for the summer and continued to text/call each other. Most people think that sags and geminis are these non emotional people but I get attached too quickly for my own liking and I love hard and give way too many chances before I consider you non existent. After a while we would get into little arguments about really dumb things that he'd take the wrong way or I didn't like. One day I tweeted that I needed a new roster because when I asked him who is he dating he said that he didn't talk to anyone it really hurt my feelings but he's so nonchalant about everything I felt like he wouldn't care. He ended up seeing my tweet and sent it to me laughing and I asked if he wanted to be on the list and he said no lol (I'm petty ik) so long story short we got into an argument about that he's telling me he doesn't care that I tweeted it and my stance is why send it to me then... I know what I tweeted and he's never interacted with my tweets before so why all of a sudden that's the first thing he notices. after that we got over it and continued texting and calling each other but I started to feel like if we weren't arguing about something we were just sexting and it started getting old fast! well his birthday was in the beginning of july and he went to vegas with his friends. I texted him happy birthday he said thank you and I told him to have fun and didn't text him the rest of his trip so that he can enjoy himself cause according to him he doesn't like texting me cause we're always arguing or I'm always in my feelings so he says (which I have more than normal lately) I think cancer season def affected me a lot considering I have no water in my chart. but anyways after he got back from his trip it had been days and I still didn't hear from him. he commented on one of my stories but that was about it. when I asked him if he had and issue and why he hasn't texted me he said "do you want me to text you every day?" I said no. but the thing was we hadn't text each other for over a week and being the over thinking person that I am I assumed he had met someone else and was more interested in them. He tweeted something about his wife being in LA which he also visited while he was gone. and I was just like damn I know we both said we don't know what we want yet but if you already don't see a possible future with me then just communicate that so I can move on. I was so upset that I didn't bring it up. I ended up blocking his number and taking him off my social media so that we weren't following each other. he ended up messaging me on Instagram and asked me why I blocked him and I told it was because I was upset and he doesn't care so he told me to keep him blocked. I cried for about an hour lol and unblocked his number and apologized and told him how ive just been going through so much and ive been so emotional lately and his response was god bless I hope everything get better so I just left it alone and didn't text back. Our plan was to still see each other once school started I still want that but I don't like chasing at all. ive done it with my ex and it left me heart broken and I try not to be so emotional but I also don't want to turn into this unemotional scorned woman with trust issues. I wanted to give it a chance and not bring my issues with my past relationship into it. should I just give him his space until he reaches out, should I be the one to reach out after a while? or forget about him completely?

You play games. He doesn't like it.

You need to fix your own issues and triggers before dating someone. Or learn how to communicate them.

Cause to be brutally honest, you sound annoying to deal with.

Posted by nikkistar

You play games. He doesn't like it.

You need to fix your own issues and triggers before dating someone. Or learn how to communicate them.

Cause to be brutally honest, you sound annoying to deal with.

Lol thanks. But trust me I’m sure I am

He’s married?

Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

No...

Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

Posted by Brandynicoleee

Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

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Hmmm well you did throw that dig about the roster so he gets to throw his own dig bout future wifee.

Can’t get mad when he mimics the jokes you initiated, right?

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Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

Hmmm well you did throw that dig about the roster so he gets to throw his own dig bout future wifee.

Can’t get mad when he mimics the jokes you initiated, right?

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I guess you’re right. They were weeks apart but I could definitely see that being the case

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Posted by nikkistar

You play games. He doesn't like it.

You need to fix your own issues and triggers before dating someone. Or learn how to communicate them.

Cause to be brutally honest, you sound annoying to deal with.

Lol thanks. But trust me I’m sure I am

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To me it sounds like two ppl with two different love languages. i don't think you're annoying and i can understand some of the things you're saying.

you gotta have some common ground in communication, likes/dislikes, aside from sexual chemistry.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

Hmmm well you did throw that dig about the roster so he gets to throw his own dig bout future wifee.

Can’t get mad when he mimics the jokes you initiated, right?

I guess you’re right. They were weeks apart but I could definitely see that being the case

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Well you set the precedence for that kinda talk/teasing. Maybe he’s just mirroring.

Or maybe he’s looking for a reaction to gauge how much you care. Idk he’s the one with the answers.

Do you guys have plans to kick it when he gets back?

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Posted by nikkistar

You play games. He doesn't like it.

You need to fix your own issues and triggers before dating someone. Or learn how to communicate them.

Cause to be brutally honest, you sound annoying to deal with.

Lol thanks. But trust me I’m sure I am

To me it sounds like two ppl with two different love languages. i don't think you're annoying and i can understand some of the things you're saying.

you gotta have some common ground in communication, likes/dislikes, aside from sexual chemistry.

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Yeah for me I found that in a lot of my past relationships I require a lot of reassurance verbally and physically

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Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

Hmmm well you did throw that dig about the roster so he gets to throw his own dig bout future wifee.

Can’t get mad when he mimics the jokes you initiated, right?

I guess you’re right. They were weeks apart but I could definitely see that being the case

Well you set the precedence for that kinda talk/teasing. Maybe he’s just mirroring.

Or maybe he’s looking for a reaction to gauge how much you care. Idk he’s the one with the answers.

Do you guys have plans to kick it when he gets back?

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We did once I got back to school in Texas. I’m from Michigan and he’s from Texas

Posted by nikkistar

You play games. He doesn't like it.

You need to fix your own issues and triggers before dating someone. Or learn how to communicate them.

Cause to be brutally honest, you sound annoying to deal with.

Dang! I was gonna skip this wall of text but you just got me intrigued and she is a sag. Back to reading this non paragraphed block 😭

Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

One more thing. As far as the sex thing. We Sags are super sexual and so are Cancers.

Why all the sudden are you back tracking and feeling used?

Try not to confuse the sex with wondering how he feels about you. I think both signs get to know each other through sex. So if he's having lots of sex with you and it's good, you should be ok. Cancers go out of their way to have sex with a person they are close to, just like we do.

@brandy dont do the same mistake i did. I keep doing the same thing youre doing now until he gets tired of the cycle and met someone who seem to understand him more. I was like doing the push and pull all the time and now i regret it.

Posted by saggurl88

Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

Thank you! I’ll definitely work on that because I do jump to conclusions and react fast. I think I’ll just give him some space for a little while and then tell him how I feel because we still have over a month before we get back to school so I can see him

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Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

Thank you! I’ll definitely work on that because I do jump to conclusions and react fast. I think I’ll just give him some space for a little while and then tell him how I feel because we still have over a month before we get back to school so I can see him

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I think you should tell him how you feel first and then give him space to come back if he likes you. But if he asks questions, answer honestly how you feel. Don't say what you think he wants to hear or whats an easy way out of your feelings, even if you may be pissed and think you mean it at the time 😛 I am always good with advice but my rational goes out the window when I deal with issues. lol

But I know space is always good once you let someone know how you are feeling. They know where they stand and can make the choice that's right for them. And then you wont be confused either and can either move on or stay.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

He’s married?

The part about his wife being in LA I think he just tweeted it saying he would probably meet his future wife there

Hmmm well you did throw that dig about the roster so he gets to throw his own dig bout future wifee.

Can’t get mad when he mimics the jokes you initiated, right?

I guess you’re right. They were weeks apart but I could definitely see that being the case

Well you set the precedence for that kinda talk/teasing. Maybe he’s just mirroring.

Or maybe he’s looking for a reaction to gauge how much you care. Idk he’s the one with the answers.

Do you guys have plans to kick it when he gets back?

We did once I got back to school in Texas. I’m from Michigan and he’s from Texas

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So keep hanging out and see where it goes. You've only been seeing each other sparsely for 2 months. Its still early days.

from the moment you typed that you where still involved with your ex .....i knew enough

we dont get in involved with people who are still emotionally attached or physical for that matter what another. and if we do....its because we go against our own primal instinct that its a bad idea. and when we have done this before and it blew up in our faces...and we got hurt...we will think twice or sometimes not even at all and just let go.

and my guess is ...but i could be wrong..you we honest (which is good btw) and told him you were till recently trying to figure it out with your ex and that it didnt go anywhere

we love honesty....its greatly respected...

however this does bring the risk we walk away

my guess he could tell you are still on the rebound and.....yea

we are no rebounds

my advice

dont get involved with another person yet.....take the time for now to explore what you want in live

seems to me the last thing you should be doing now is roll into a new relationship/dating thing

Posted by saggurl88

One more thing. As far as the sex thing. We Sags are super sexual and so are Cancers.

Why all the sudden are you back tracking and feeling used?

Try not to confuse the sex with wondering how he feels about you. I think both signs get to know each other through sex. So if he's having lots of sex with you and it's good, you should be ok. Cancers go out of their way to have sex with a person they are close to, just like we do.

cancer men however ....have no problem if they realize you are not their "forever one" to have casual sex

in this case i can read from the whole thing....he is really just having sex.....nothing more

cause there are too many red flags

and those are coming from her.

so its not always a cancer thing to have sex to get close

there is a big difference between cancer men and women

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Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

Thank you! I’ll definitely work on that because I do jump to conclusions and react fast. I think I’ll just give him some space for a little while and then tell him how I feel because we still have over a month before we get back to school so I can see him

I think you should tell him how you feel first and then give him space to come back if he likes you. But if he asks questions, answer honestly how you feel. Don't say what you think he wants to hear or whats an easy way out of your feelings, even if you may be pissed and think you mean it at the time 😛 I am always good with advice but my rational goes out the window when I deal with issues. lol

But I know space is always good once you let someone know how you are feeling. They know where they stand and can make the choice that's right for them. And then you wont be confused either and can either move on or stay.

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Thank you. I really appreciate advice from a fellow sag lol

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Posted by saggurl88

Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

Thank you! I’ll definitely work on that because I do jump to conclusions and react fast. I think I’ll just give him some space for a little while and then tell him how I feel because we still have over a month before we get back to school so I can see him

I think you should tell him how you feel first and then give him space to come back if he likes you. But if he asks questions, answer honestly how you feel. Don't say what you think he wants to hear or whats an easy way out of your feelings, even if you may be pissed and think you mean it at the time 😛 I am always good with advice but my rational goes out the window when I deal with issues. lol

But I know space is always good once you let someone know how you are feeling. They know where they stand and can make the choice that's right for them. And then you wont be confused either and can either move on or stay.

Thank you. I really appreciate advice from a fellow sag lol

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Good luck!

And you are a BEAUTY, so you already know there are plenty others willing to get in line for a chance at greatness! 😆

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Posted by saggurl88

One more thing. As far as the sex thing. We Sags are super sexual and so are Cancers.

Why all the sudden are you back tracking and feeling used?

Try not to confuse the sex with wondering how he feels about you. I think both signs get to know each other through sex. So if he's having lots of sex with you and it's good, you should be ok. Cancers go out of their way to have sex with a person they are close to, just like we do.

cancer men however ....have no problem if they realize you are not their "forever one" to have casual sex

in this case i can read from the whole thing....he is really just having sex.....nothing more

cause there are too many red flags

and those are coming from her.

so its not always a cancer thing to have sex to get close

there is a big difference between cancer men and women

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Yes I'm aware with all the Cancer Man disappeared threads. Men will have sex with anyone who is willing, if they are horny.

My advice was just based on her reactions as a Sagittarius and him being understanding as a Cancer man.

Doesn't seem like he would be this understanding if he didn't actually like her. Cancer men can be stubborn and ignore the hell out of you when they don't like you. It's like a flip of a switch when they are done. I understand Cancer men quite well and I am too similar with my moon in Cancer. I attract them a lot but I can't stand them.

Only she really knows whats best for her relationship, I was just offering an opinion based on what she wrote.

Posted by RedQueen

from the moment you typed that you where still involved with your ex .....i knew enough

we dont get in involved with people who are still emotionally attached or physical for that matter what another. and if we do....its because we go against our own primal instinct that its a bad idea. and when we have done this before and it blew up in our faces...and we got hurt...we will think twice or sometimes not even at all and just let go.

and my guess is ...but i could be wrong..you we honest (which is good btw) and told him you were till recently trying to figure it out with your ex and that it didnt go anywhere

we love honesty....its greatly respected...

however this does bring the risk we walk away

my guess he could tell you are still on the rebound and.....yea

we are no rebounds

my advice

dont get involved with another person yet.....take the time for now to explore what you want in live

seems to me the last thing you should be doing now is roll into a new relationship/dating thing

The thing with my ex wasn’t anything physical we had been broken up for months and he was attempting to try to spend time with me and take me out more which was something he lacked our first time around but I get what you’re saying and yes we both had a talk about our past relationships and where they stood now

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Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

Thank you! I’ll definitely work on that because I do jump to conclusions and react fast. I think I’ll just give him some space for a little while and then tell him how I feel because we still have over a month before we get back to school so I can see him

I think you should tell him how you feel first and then give him space to come back if he likes you. But if he asks questions, answer honestly how you feel. Don't say what you think he wants to hear or whats an easy way out of your feelings, even if you may be pissed and think you mean it at the time 😛 I am always good with advice but my rational goes out the window when I deal with issues. lol

But I know space is always good once you let someone know how you are feeling. They know where they stand and can make the choice that's right for them. And then you wont be confused either and can either move on or stay.

Thank you. I really appreciate advice from a fellow sag lol

Good luck!

And you are a BEAUTY, so you already know there are plenty others willing to get in line for a chance at greatness! 😆

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Lol thank you!! 💗

Posted by saggurl88

Well I just read it, and yes you play a lot of games. He has no clue whats going on and Cancers are pretty clueless with this type of game you're playing. How can he even know whats wrong with you being so petty and not voicing your worries to him BEFORE you do all this damage? Your putting him through a bunch of bull and then coming back and apologizing and expecting him to forgive you just cause you say "Sorry, I was in my feelings"

Cancers are super easy to deal with and you just need to communicate. You see how he asked if you wanted him to text everyday/ more often? Is was an honest, open question and you lied and said no. You should of just said it would be nice to hear from you because I miss you.

Maybe try taking breathers before doing rash stuff on social media to get his attention. Most Sags do this type of stuff without thinking and then realize their mistakes after the fact. He keeps giving you chances but you are probably confusing the hell out of him. Cancers aren't this complex.

Try and be a little nicer to this guy. But they kind of like this behavior too, as long as it' not all the time. It will start getting old.

^^Agree with this in general.

The OP has the potential for "Cancer man left me" status if the current path continues.

All this drama over a f**k buddy you barely even know? 🤦 Unbelievable.

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

You still with your bf or you guys broke up?

My ex. We were never back together when I met cancer guy we were just trying to date again by going out on dates

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from the moment you typed that you where still involved with your ex .....i knew enough

we dont get in involved with people who are still emotionally attached or physical for that matter what another. and if we do....its because we go against our own primal instinct that its a bad idea. and when we have done this before and it blew up in our faces...and we got hurt...we will think twice or sometimes not even at all and just let go.

and my guess is ...but i could be wrong..you we honest (which is good btw) and told him you were till recently trying to figure it out with your ex and that it didnt go anywhere

we love honesty....its greatly respected...

however this does bring the risk we walk away

my guess he could tell you are still on the rebound and.....yea

we are no rebounds

my advice

dont get involved with another person yet.....take the time for now to explore what you want in live

seems to me the last thing you should be doing now is roll into a new relationship/dating thing

The thing with my ex wasn’t anything physical we had been broken up for months and he was attempting to try to spend time with me and take me out more which was something he lacked our first time around but I get what you’re saying and yes we both had a talk about our past relationships and where they stood now

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yes...and that talk....how great and good it is to be able to talk with him about that....if the ex was awhile ago and completely out of your life...it would not be a problem. (althought always remember a cancerian ..we have a so what to the point of childlike not sharing attitude....lol..so even ex from the past? we see our ex's like past...and not present 😉 i think you can imagine how we see the ex of our partners lol...)

but the fact and that your ex was still around...in anyway....is for a cancerian a major red flag to be cautious

we want the "only you happily ever after" thing....

star crossed lovers?? ride or die? thats cancerian all the way.....untill we have children...then there is no one not even our partners that come above our children

and we literally would fight for our loved ones

but with that comes a very large trust that must be earned......

its a bit of a egocentric trait we have....but in all fairness (most of us...not all) we CAN be when it comes to saying we are freaking loyal when we found the one.....and the trust bond is strong

we know what we can bring to the table. loyalty....we are hard workers....people often only read about the softy emotional part of us and clingy

but thats a very one sided look. you see, it also depends on the rest of our planets

and we can also dissapear just as fast as we came. without any remorse.

when for instant there are to many red flags

and we do....exaclty because we dont settle for anything other then the full package

if the other isnt willing to give as much as we do. so 50/50......we are simply not gonna invest to much

because that would mean getting left behind int he end...or being used...or abused even

and when we grow older , and had too much experiences like above....we get very hard to win over. when we do....its fireworks

but trust me....we will settle .....you will know...there is no one but you

we are also hard workers; and we value stability ALOT

i am a single mom

i pay my own bills

im 37.

i hold my own. i have seen alot.

and i am honest...i am not easy for men to approach.

social? hell yeahhhh

but romantic.......i can read people from a mile away and my intuition is uncanny accurate

i have radars......i developed for 37 years

but i am a woman. so thankfully my emotions are actually what withold me from having casual flings

why is that not good for me? because i am a cancerian. sex means bonding...even oen night stands would not be good for me



younger cancerians will make the mistake of having sex and even thought the other party shows thats its just sex....we will always build the hope it could be more

men......are very different from women

cancerian men...are awesomeeee

but

make no mistake

under that rational......stabile appearance is a man that is looking for the perfect bond

about what you said about the physical. not being physical...

actually...the fact that you had a emotional bond with your ex is far more worse problably in his eyes!

we dont look for physical...

well...a good combination because unlike most ideas about cancers...we can be huge nymphos with the right person hahahahahhhaha

but we are very aware of people who just have sex with no feelings

any bond that is still there with an ex is a red flag for us

but to know you still have an emotional relationship with your ex —? oooooffff



the questions you need to ask yourself:

1. am i ready for a real fully commited relationship? no? then my advice is to let him go. you may think he is keeping it casual but he is not. and if already is detaching from you...then its not going anywhere and is only gonna hurt you both. cut the cord and walk away.

2. and whatever the answer is to number 1: what do you want in live? and what do i look for in a partner? and what do i have to offer to another?



you speak of your ex as past relationship....he sees your ex as a person that is still not far away

and is someone that is lurking around and is able to walk back into your life at any moment

he told you also about his past relationships...

if trust was an issue there....

you have your answer 😉

good luck!! wishing you all the best

Posted by Brandynicoleee

Him: cancer sun/moon with a leo rising

me: sag sun, gemini moon, Taurus rising

About two months ago I met this cancer man. we go to the same university so I had seen him around before but we have never exchanged words. I would often catch him staring at me at different events at school and later as I got more interested in getting to know who he was I noticed that we were already following each other on Instagram and twitter. He would be the first one to watch my stories and was quick to start liking all of my pictures. one night he commented on one of my stories and ended up sending me his number so I texted him for a day or two but I wasn't too interested because my ex (Sagittarius) and I were attempting to work on things so I stopped texting cancer guy for about a week. after that I posted one of those little question games on my Instagram stories and he commented asking where I'd been so I decided to just text him again because nothing with my ex was going to change. we texted for a few weeks until one night the conversation got sexual and we ended up hooking up and it was amazing. it seemed like that's all we could talk about until we did it again. we ended up hooking up twice before I went back home for the summer and continued to text/call each other. Most people think that sags and geminis are these non emotional people but I get attached too quickly for my own liking and I love hard and give way too many chances before I consider you non existent. After a while we would get into little arguments about really dumb things that he'd take the wrong way or I didn't like. One day I tweeted that I needed a new roster because when I asked him who is he dating he said that he didn't talk to anyone it really hurt my feelings but he's so nonchalant about everything I felt like he wouldn't care. He ended up seeing my tweet and sent it to me laughing and I asked if he wanted to be on the list and he said no lol (I'm petty ik) so long story short we got into an argument about that he's telling me he doesn't care that I tweeted it and my stance is why send it to me then... I know what I tweeted and he's never interacted with my tweets before so why all of a sudden that's the first thing he notices. after that we got over it and continued texting and calling each other but I started to feel like if we weren't arguing about something we were just sexting and it started getting old fast! well his birthday was in the beginning of july and he went to vegas with his friends. I texted him happy birthday he said thank you and I told him to have fun and didn't text him the rest of his trip so that he can enjoy himself cause according to him he doesn't like texting me cause we're always arguing or I'm always in my feelings so he says (which I have more than normal lately) I think cancer season def affected me a lot considering I have no water in my chart. but anyways after he got back from his trip it had been days and I still didn't hear from him. he commented on one of my stories but that was about it. when I asked him if he had and issue and why he hasn't texted me he said "do you want me to text you every day?" I said no. but the thing was we hadn't text each other for over a week and being the over thinking person that I am I assumed he had met someone else and was more interested in them. He tweeted something about his wife being in LA which he also visited while he was gone. and I was just like damn I know we both said we don't know what we want yet but if you already don't see a possible future with me then just communicate that so I can move on. I was so upset that I didn't bring it up. I ended up blocking his number and taking him off my social media so that we weren't following each other. he ended up messaging me on Instagram and asked me why I blocked him and I told it was because I was upset and he doesn't care so he told me to keep him blocked. I cried for about an hour lol and unblocked his number and apologized and told him how ive just been going through so much and ive been so emotional lately and his response was god bless I hope everything get better so I just left it alone and didn't text back. Our plan was to still see each other once school started I still want that but I don't like chasing at all. ive done it with my ex and it left me heart broken and I try not to be so emotional but I also don't want to turn into this unemotional scorned woman with trust issues. I wanted to give it a chance and not bring my issues with my past relationship into it. should I just give him his space until he reaches out, should I be the one to reach out after a while? or forget about him completely?

Update: I texted him and told him how I would like to talk to him everyday if possible because I enjoy talking to him and he basically told me that he’s not focused on a relationship right now and that he doesn’t want any distractions while he’s working on his career I’m assuming. But he wanted to be cordial and there’s “no bad blood” on his end. I told him I understood and if he wants to get drinks or do stuff like that when I come back to town then I’d be down for that and he agreed. Then a few hours later he texted me and asked was I “out of my feelings yet” and was I happy that I cut him off the other day because of when I blocked him basically teasing my outburst the whole conversation. Wasn’t really sure how to take it cause he was smiling the whole conversation.... which since I met him he always looked so mean (never smiling) and I literally had to ask him to send me a picture of him smiling before. I feel like I’ve sat down and processed everything and I’m in the headspace to just get to know each other the right way and nothing more. At least for now

There is one thing that stands out before the drama was explained. His Moon is in Cancer, yours is in Gemini. I have seen people pursue relationships, even marry people who's Moon is in a sign that is incompatible with their Moon. I've never seen it turn out well unless there is some other mitigating factor. For example, my moon is in Libra and my partner's Moon is in Scorpio. What makes it work (ish) is my Venus in Scorp.

I have always felt comfortable with the classic Vedic, practice of looking at Moon and Mars. Do those two planets in the couples charts work together. Not that I am into Vedic Astrology as a whole. I think it works best for people born in a Vedic culture or those who have many Past Lives in same.