@raad182
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Are you Ok with your lover checking another people?
Is It Normal to Be Okay with Your Partner Checking Others
Feeling comfortable with your partner noticing others can indicate trust and confidence in your relationship. However, if it causes insecurity or jealousy, it may require open communication. Recognizing personal boundaries and understanding each other's feelings helps maintain a healthy balance between admiration and possessiveness.
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Lol!! They'd probably be lying if they say they don't check other girls anyway. It's okay!
It used to bother me, but now not so much. I check out girls with him half the time haha as long as he's not flirting with them or trying to hit on them then it's cool.
Posted by raad182
Looking at other guy/girl as they are beautiful...
I don't mind.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
You can look but you can't touch.
It's beginning of famous Al Paccino monologue in Devils Advocate.
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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
You can look but you can't touch.Especially when it's one of your meals
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lol that's right.
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"Get yer hands off my juicy mangos"
Haha
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
You can look but you can't touch.Especially when it's one of your meals
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lol that's right.
"Get yer hands off my juicy mangos"
Haha
Juicy melons not mangoes. Lol
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Juicy everything lol
Posted by Teena
Lol!! They'd probably be lying if they say they don't check other girls anyway. It's okay!not me. I'm not lying if I say I look at other women when I got one of my own. and that's the truth. but there's a difference. I don't check them out, I LLLLLLUSTTTTT!!!
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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
You can look but you can't touch.It's beginning of famous Al Paccino monologue in Devils Advocate.
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Lol are you calling me the devil.
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You wish...?
I am saying that you posted a quote without probably realizing it! My favorite.
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Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
You can look but you can't touch.It's beginning of famous Al Paccino monologue in Devils Advocate.
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Lol are you calling me the devil.
You wish...?
I am saying that you posted a quote without probably realizing it! My favorite.
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lol I was just messin with you I know that movie. Lol
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Here:
Let me give you a little inside information about God. God likes to watch. He's a prankster. Think about it. He gives man instincts. He gives you this extraordinary gift, and then what does He do, I swear for His own amusement, his own private, cosmic gag reel, He sets the rules in opposition. It's the goof of all time. Look but don't touch. Touch, but don't taste. Taste, don't swallow. Ahaha. And while you're jumpin' from one foot to the next, what is he doing? He's laughin' His sick, fuckin' ass off! He's a tight-ass! He's a SADIST! He's an absentee landlord! Worship that? NEVER!
Gives me chills...
Doesn't bother me.. as long as no touchy touch.
Posted by EvilHare
Also mirrored sunglasses.
Jots down note to buy some.
I would like to don't notice this kind of thing but I feel automatically when this happen (damn you scorpio moon) and this kind of thing bothers me.
Posted by EvilHare
Also mirrored sunglasses.Jots down note to buy some.
I'd post an ands- style sunglasses pic but I haven't shaved or gotten a haircut in like 2 weeks so I look like some kind of Neanderthal.
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Dude, that's even better. Do eet.
😆 we always checked them out together. hehehe
Posted by EvilHare
Also mirrored sunglasses.Jots down note to buy some.
I'd post an ands- style sunglasses pic but I haven't shaved or gotten a haircut in like 2 weeks so I look like some kind of Neanderthal.
Dude, that's even better. Do eet.
No.
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Fine. How about a picture of your nipple again then?
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...
She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Posted by raad182
Looking at other guy/girl as they are beautiful...Or do you find this to be messed or a red flag?
Nope, not a fan
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Simple answer.
You're insecure.
And as long as that insecurity remains, your issues will persist.
Be very careful about what you project onto your partner.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
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Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Simple answer.
You're insecure.
And as long as that insecurity remains, your issues will persist.
Be very careful about what you project onto your partner.
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You mean that I don't see them for who they really are? If yes, would be better to avoid any kind of relationship
You better act blind when you with me
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
That's always going to happen. Use your perception to be open to different outcomes, not just the same outcome over and over again.
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My perception isn't something to use, its natural...So I should be okay if I perceive that a girl Im with is putting herself on a plate for other guys?
Its messed man maybe our cultures are different
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Ouuuuuch! ?
Mean, but so funny too...
Not even trying to be funny though, just wish people could stop setting themselves back with astrology when it isn't needed.
That is exactly why it was funny to me, because you weren't trying. It just came out so blunt, to the point and out of CHARACTER (because you are usually much more diplomatic), that it made me laugh!!
But yes, I understand your point. Must be tiring if he's always making threads about same issue different girl.
Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case. ?
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" Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case "
Sadly, You're making sense here :/
I don't mind it, I look at beautiful women too. Now if you are disrespectful, oogling, its a different story.
I however never look at other men out of respect for who I'm with. I avert eye contact just to show how much I respect my man. But for some reason, it doesn't bother me if they look.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Ouuuuuch! ?
Mean, but so funny too...
Not even trying to be funny though, just wish people could stop setting themselves back with astrology when it isn't needed.
That is exactly why it was funny to me, because you weren't trying. It just came out so blunt, to the point and out of CHARACTER (because you are usually much more diplomatic), that it made me laugh!!
But yes, I understand your point. Must be tiring if he's always making threads about same issue different girl.
Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case. ?
" Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case "
Sadly, You're making sense here :/
Admittance is a huge step away from denial. So, at least now you know where to focus the energy into solving your issue.
Seems like the focus has been off in the past.
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This isn't the first time he's admitted it. I suspect it won't be the last time either.
Posted by raad182
I would like to don't notice this kind of thing but I feel automatically when this happen (damn you scorpio moon) and this kind of thing bothers me.
As a fellow scorp moon, i feel like it breaks the emotional spiritual connection i have with the other person.
I immediately feel like im not good enough and then the bad behavior starts. Its really the start of the decline of the relationship of which there is no recovery.
Sometimes i will review the mental log ive been keeping of their wins and losses and make a decision.
But more times than not, there is no recovery
Posted by raad182
I would like to don't notice this kind of thing but I feel automatically when this happen (damn you scorpio moon) and this kind of thing bothers me.As a fellow scorp moon, i feel like it breaks the emotional spiritual connection i have with the other person.
I immediately feel like im not good enough and then the bad behavior starts. Its really the start of the decline of the relationship of which there is no recovery.
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This is exactly what I feel, its like the connection starts to fade away and I my head the relationship is already over, I just start to think on how could I finish without hurting the person.
What is bothering me, is what the guys said above, this happen everytime, again and again...Like an infinite cycle.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
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Trust that the right person wont make you second guess yourself.
The minute you start feeling ambivalent, cut ties, end it. For you will always be insecure in the relationship.
Do them and yourself a favor.
Scorp moons have a choice. Get on the emotional rollercoaster or don't.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Ouuuuuch! ?
Mean, but so funny too...
Not even trying to be funny though, just wish people could stop setting themselves back with astrology when it isn't needed.
That is exactly why it was funny to me, because you weren't trying. It just came out so blunt, to the point and out of CHARACTER (because you are usually much more diplomatic), that it made me laugh!!
But yes, I understand your point. Must be tiring if he's always making threads about same issue different girl.
Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case. ?
" Makes it so evident what the real problem is when he is the common denominator of every case "
Sadly, You're making sense here :/
Admittance is a huge step away from denial. So, at least now you know where to focus the energy into solving your issue.
Seems like the focus has been off in the past.
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Im thinking about get into a long period of " no love " maybe forever...but only if I conclude that the problem was Always me...otherwise I will use my plutonic side to do some sssht
that scene is. too weird. ive never seen the entire movie though.
they really chose a good role for her, because when she talks about that stuff, it's very dual-natured. at least the dark/shadow side of it.
but, only a woman would say that if she's not afraid of losing the man, like who the hell cares.
not to mention she isn't really deeply in love with the current man. kind of a blase' attitude.
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lol
Posted by raad182
I would like to don't notice this kind of thing but I feel automatically when this happen (damn you scorpio moon) and this kind of thing bothers me.As a fellow scorp moon, i feel like it breaks the emotional spiritual connection i have with the other person.
I immediately feel like im not good enough and then the bad behavior starts. Its really the start of the decline of the relationship of which there is no recovery.
This is exactly what I feel, its like the connection starts to fade away and I my head the relationship is already over, I just start to think on how could I finish without hurting the person.
What is bothering me, is what the guys said above, this happen everytime, again and again...Like an infinite cycle.
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I was on that same cycle..ask Tiz.
It stopped when Saturn entered my 5th house.
I cut those people off immediately now. I listen and feel the energy and trust my intuition.
I either want the drama or i dont.
I dont anymore. Any inkling of drama and im out.
Call me a quitter if u want but dammitt i am doing God's work and saving lives by telling people exactly why i am cutting ties and never looking back.
Wait 4 the one who will never give you room to question.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
Trust that the right person wont make you second guess yourself.
The minute you start feeling ambivalent, cut ties, end it. For you will always be insecure in the relationship.
Do them and yourself a favor.
Scorp moons have a choice. Get on the emotional rollercoaster or don't.
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You really can relate to my feelings...my only fear is that the problem is me and I'm pushing good people away.
How do I know if my Moon (dont rely on astrology bla bla bla) is really trustful and accurate?
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
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When you dont trust your instincts that is YOU who will be bringing the drama, not them.
You knew damn well they wasn't shyt 2 begin with.
that scene is. too weird. ive never seen the entire movie though.
they really chose a good role for her, because when she talks about that stuff, it's very dual-natured. at least the dark/shadow side of it.
but, only a woman would say that if she's not afraid of losing the man, like who the hell cares.
not to mention she isn't really deeply in love with the current man. kind of a blase' attitude.
my aqua didn't like this movie either.
it's one of my favorite late night movies. it just takes me straight into the voyage.
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i'm more like tom cruise, looking utterly SHOCKED..and maybe repulsed. lol
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
That's always going to happen. Use your perception to be open to different outcomes, not just the same outcome over and over again.
My perception isn't something to use, its natural...So I should be okay if I perceive that a girl Im with is putting herself on a plate for other guys?
Its messed man maybe our cultures are different
That is semantics. "use" "not use" "natural"
If you really have good use for your powers of perception, you could use them on yourself to recognise what you're feeling/when you're feeling it and communicating that with people around you.
Much better than looking up charts online. I guess you have to run through all the women with all the different placements in the world before you give up procrastinating and move onto to perceiving yourself better. Sometimes you just have to tire yourself out and beat yourself into the ground before you get bored of it and do what always needed to be done, all along.
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This is so true.
I myself, just got tired.
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
When you dont trust your instincts that is YOU who will be bringing the drama, not them.
You knew damn well they wasn't shyt 2 begin with.
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Why would me bringing the drama?
Maybe my instinct is a little bit unbalanced...could happen or not?!
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
That's always going to happen. Use your perception to be open to different outcomes, not just the same outcome over and over again.
My perception isn't something to use, its natural...So I should be okay if I perceive that a girl Im with is putting herself on a plate for other guys?
Its messed man maybe our cultures are different
That is semantics. "use" "not use" "natural"
If you really have good use for your powers of perception, you could use them on yourself to recognise what you're feeling/when you're feeling it and communicating that with people around you.
Much better than looking up charts online. I guess you have to run through all the women with all the different placements in the world before you give up procrastinating and move onto to perceiving yourself better. Sometimes you just have to tire yourself out and beat yourself into the ground before you get bored of it and do what always needed to be done, all along.
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" Sometimes you just have to tire yourself out and beat yourself into the ground before you get bored of it and do what always needed to be done, all along. "
What is suppose to be done in this case?
that scene is. too weird. ive never seen the entire movie though.
they really chose a good role for her, because when she talks about that stuff, it's very dual-natured. at least the dark/shadow side of it.
but, only a woman would say that if she's not afraid of losing the man, like who the hell cares.
not to mention she isn't really deeply in love with the current man. kind of a blase' attitude.
my aqua didn't like this movie either.
it's one of my favorite late night movies. it just takes me straight into the voyage.
i'm more like tom cruise, looking utterly SHOCKED..and maybe repulsed. lol
lol ya right if my wife was telling me that story, LAWD hahahha... that's how double homicides happen.
tom cruise is a great actor.
anybody that disagrees needs to watch vanilla sky.
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seriously!
the dark thoughts swirling... internal struggle inside whispering: "bitch you're dead....so fucking dead."
the other woman, acting ridiculous: "hahahahaa,"
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omg...
i can see it the other way too.
Guy says it, "did you know, that woman that was at the party, i wanted to...."
Internal dark thoughts of woman "you just wait..... you'll get yours, bastard"
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this is the perfect image for the woman ...
ironically she is always in love with the wishy washy Ashley in the film...
Posted by tiziani
Assuming you haven't already tried that.
I've tried to see those happy endings but at some point I see a situation where the warning light turns on and I start to pay a closer attention and...Here we comes, paranoid, self sabotage, worries of being cheated on
Posted by raad182
Im dating this girl, we work together and I Always get the impression that she is playing it easy with other guys but I don't know if im being paranoid or if this is really what Im seeing...She is a taurus sun, scorpio moon and aries vênus
thoughts?
Didn't this happen in every one of your relationships so far? You already know.
Yes, in the last one most of feelings proved to be right and also 99% of the astrologers say for scorpio mooners " trust your instinct because you easily perceive things that others dont "
I have Venus opp Moon and Pluto but I don't know if Im really right most of the time or the girl turned my worries into reality after I broke up with her.
Trust that the right person wont make you second guess yourself.
The minute you start feeling ambivalent, cut ties, end it. For you will always be insecure in the relationship.
Do them and yourself a favor.
Scorp moons have a choice. Get on the emotional rollercoaster or don't.
You really can relate to my feelings...my only fear is that the problem is me and I'm pushing good people away.
How do I know if my Moon (dont rely on astrology bla bla bla) is really trustful and accurate?
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I used to have that battle.
I really just listen to my feels. If any centimeter of energy feels off. I dont even bother with the battle of proving myself wrong or right.
Before my horse leaves the gate, i will feel if its okay to unleash my feels.
I'm fine with it.
I'm usually the one to notice first and then nudge them and be all "look, she's fine af"
Posted by EvilHare
Also mirrored sunglasses.Jots down note to buy some.
Good luck on using them at night... 😆
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I am totally agree with checking them out together. Cool!
Another point of view. If you feeling that your partner is devoted to you and thinks you are IT - you can share that 'checking them out' together. That's how in with my Cap. We had always been having fun checking people out. Last one was my Scorpio that we both agree on him being hot!
However I don't think I would check anyone out - even women. I am sure he wouldn't either. Only to tease me into silent suffering! ?
Another point. If you walking together and you are at his side and he is checking women out - it's naturally 'comes at him'
BUT if you are standing in front of him and his neck gets longer and he looks like a goose with bulging eyes trying to see around you - punch him in a face or make V sign with your fingers and poke him in the eyes. And laugh like you meant it as a joke.
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Update: yesterday we have a date and I just opened myself to her. Shared my trust issues, my past, my thoughts and...She just have the same background as me.
How beautiful astrology is?! After that I checked our synastry chart and one thing grabbed my attention my Vertex conjunct her Pluto and her Vertex conjunct my Pluto and our chat yesterday was purely plutonic, talking about how we could help ourselves to heal about the trust issues, jealously and etc.
Damn you Astrology, love you!
My life is looking like a movie lately
Posted by raad182
Looking at other guy/girl as they are beautiful...Or do you find this to be messed or a red flag?
Depends on the look given
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Looking at other guy/girl as they are beautiful...Or do you find this to be messed or a red flag?